Woman needin advice on men! Serious Answers Please!?

Hi


I REALLY NEED SOME ADVICE PLEASE, SO SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY THX!!





Hi, im 19 n was with my ex for about just over 2 n 1/2 yrs, and we have a young baby, who is now 9months old, we split up quite recently about end of october last year, a month later i met someone else who was good to the baby and that, and i do like him alot, but just before christmas all i could think of was my ex after i was looking back at pictures of the baby n saw loads of us really happy.(the father of my child) and i dont know whether to carry on seein this boy n see if i get over my exe, or do i follow my heart and get bak with my exe?!


My family dont really get on with my exe, he took drugs ( he has stopped taking them now) and couple months before the baby was born he was always gettin stressy n losing his temper with me he wasnt like it much to start with, but it got more n more, but most of the time we were really happy, he never hit me but he hit my brother once, (the reason we split up) but everyone is saying how he has really changed, n he has said he hass changed, n he rote a really long letter to my family appologising for what he did, n i think he realised what he lost, but we've been txtin everyday for a while now (bout xmas time).


The boy im wit now doesnt know that i am tlkin to my exe still, n my exe has no idea about this new man.





if i was to get back with my exe, do i tell him i was seein someone when we split up? because i kno it may upset him, but i dont really think he has to know does he? as we wernt together at the time?





anyway should i stay with tht bloke atm or get bak with my exe/father of child, and what would i tell my family if i got bak with my exe because they probably hate him now.





THX. Hope u understand what im goin on bout lolWoman needin advice on men! Serious Answers Please!?
hello , you really need to listen to your heart , it will speak volumes for you , good luck to you and your babyWoman needin advice on men! Serious Answers Please!?
stay with new one - you started having feelings for your ex because you were looking at photos and it brought those memories/feelings back
You don't trust the ex, and you don't love the new one! Maybe NEITHER fit the bill!
stay with the new one!!!
if i were you i would go and have a serious talk with your ex.. talk about your options and how you feel about each other


from my point of view.. it seems like you dont like your new partener enough to have a full relationship. and i wouldnt worry about what your family thinks, i would just concentrate on your babys new family.. and making it as strong as possible :)


its a hard situation to be in.. and some things are easier said then done.. but to be honest i would follow heart over head
I think if you want to be with the father of your baby and he is willing to work things out u should. A young baby needs both of his or her parents. He may have been acting crazy due to the drugs that he was taking and then he stopped cold turkey. That has a lot to do with how someones attitude is. I think you need to have a long talk with both of the mean and let them know how you are feeling if neither understand than that is not who you should be with. Yeah he is going to be mad that you are with someone else but he messed up. U guys talking is a good sign that things can get back to the way they were. Be true to your feelings and yourself.
just close ur eyes and do what ur heart tells u to do..
What i say is stop seeing the boy and go bk to your ex because he is the father of your baby. Your family doesn't trust him right, but you do.


Just FOLLOW your HEART. Trust it never fails.
ok there are so many answers for you but the best one is do what makes you happy! not what makes your family happy... you are always no matter what going to have feelings for your ex because he is the father of your child. i would say to take your time, think things through, and be careful what you choose to do. you and your ex are separated so what you do and who you talk to is your business. if he asks you then say yes i made a new friend and that is all we were. JUST FRIENDS. if you do plan on getting back with your ex, you, him and your family should all sit down and talk and let him and your family know what is going on and how it is going to be! good luck!
i feel so sorry for you it must be hard to decide..


in a way i think if your ex has really genuinely changed then maybe it would be good for your baby to have the real dad around since it would make things easier in the future, but i think from the way ur ex treated you was not acceptable and you don't know for sure if he will ever go back to being the way he was or go on drugs again.. if he does do this the baby will need stability in his life and if you and ur ex break up again your baby might be confused who his/her father figure may be in the future ! if your family dont like him maybe they think you deserve better ! but maybe its a risk you might want to take and things might work out good this time..

bright makeup

I need advice from men......i found a clip of my boyfriend on the internet....masturbating?

i walked in on my boyfriend surfing porn


thats cool with me even masterbating to it is cool with me *sereously*





BUT, then i looked at the site later and found a posting of him masterbating via web cam!!!





around ME, he has always been very shy and dosnt like to talk about fantasies etc but on this web site he is looking for people to roll play with him!!!





im totaly at a loss weve been together for 5 years, during that time we never had the internet so this is a new issue not an old one im just finding out about ... should i be completely freaked out?





but for real i f'ing love him, we were about to get married...





i ended up talking to him about it calmly and he tryed to lie out of it (im sure he was just embarassed, but its worth mentioning) then he said he was just looking for something exciting (ive only been home on the weekends for the last 3 months)





is this something any guy might do or is this a precurser to weirdo fettish/molestationI need advice from men......i found a clip of my boyfriend on the internet....masturbating?
Everyone does it.I need advice from men......i found a clip of my boyfriend on the internet....masturbating?
OK porn and masterbating is normal for a guy, but if he doesn't actually talk to you about sexual fantasies, you should sit with him and just try to make him talk about them, he will probably get proper embarrassed and try to get away but keep trying. oh and p.s if he really wants to look at himself masterbating..well.. ummm dont worry
I know this doesn't directly answer your question, but if you are looking for a serious relationship that results in marriage, five years is way too long for you two to figure this out (unless you started dating when you were 15). You need to finish that sentence ';we were about to get married....'; and I think you'll find your answer with regards to masturbating with strangers online.
honestly I would be bothered since he didn't tell me. I can tell you this isn't something just any guy would do especially since he is looking for someone to interact with (even if it is just internet based). I would work out your feelings about it and then talk to him. You guys need to set some boundries based on your comfort levels.
Well, if hes got like a million vids and hes secretly a porn star or something you should worry, if he did it once then uhh, well i guess thats his deal im not one to judge but in my opinion thats a little weird, if he doesnt do it anymore i wouldnt worry, but I know i wouldnt do something like that lol
its not something any guy would do..... however he must just really be into it. Did you see his face?





like you said you have only been home on the weekends. if the guy gets off on wanking, let it be!





what would you rather have him do....? hookers.





just be firm and honest and say you know its him, tell him its not serious, but your just curious why he did it. i dont think its much to worry about. he could do a lot worse!
its not normal





fantasy cheating on the web is still cheating





specially in this situation because hes posting vids of himself





which other people can watch....





if hes posting them hes also downloading them of other people





the difference between this and porn is there is usually contact via messenging/chat..





id dump his ***, hes not faithfull
I would be concerned that he's hiding it and then trying to lie about it. I think you need to talk to him more and figure out what is going on and if this is something you're comfortable with.
I think its funnier than hell, masterbation is as normal to me as working nine to five. Everyone does it, and those who say they don;t are liars, but to be on the internet doing it, is hilarious.
This is not something all guys do. I will never dream of puting my intimate moments on the net. He will have to explain himsielf to you.
im a girl and it sounds to me like u might have some trust issues with him....(like u might not be able to trust him completely) and if hes asking for people to come and role play with him then yeah u should be pissed....ummm thats cheating
Kinda weird, maybe hes into voyeoursim or something. Lol sugeest having sex in a car in the parking lot of yuor local mall and see what heppens.
watching it= normal


staring in your own home video and posting it on the web = not normal





if he is seeking out others to role play with I would be VERY upset, its like finding his ad on Match.com
Masterbating to porn is normal.





Video camming it and posting it online is not normal.
no he is slowly getting sicker...stop him asap...soon he'll be pulled out of your house for having naked kids on your computers or something sick like that
Its better than finding him on the net with another girl.
In my head...it would be a red flag


because





';around ME, he has always been very shy and dosnt like to talk about fantasies etc ';





he is concealing this from you....then he LIED.....
sometimes men do things just to be doing them..this sounds like one of those times.as long as he treats you with respect and loves and adore you don't worry about it.
Girl lemme tell you something, dont let no man play with your emotions like that, you are better than that
its normal
THE LINK!!!!!
This is sort of odd, no man of mine has done this.
dump the wierdo
BEAT HIS *** OR TREAT HIM LIKE **** !#$$#$%#
post a link so we can see lol.
hahahahhaa that is sooo funny! I dunno I guess he just has fetishes that you aren't getting done for him babe
o dear
his a guy. give him a break
lol thats funny! maybe their is somethin missing from u guy's sex life
I am a proffesor of the neurological and developmental tissue in the ohysiological branch of Harvard Med. School. We have don emany studied on the effect of pornographic images on men and women. It seems to have a far higher affect on men than it does on woman because the woman are usually the ones making the images with either themselves, other women or other men. Men however, only make porn by themselves in extremely rare cases, known as Polynices. This is usually when you are uncomfortable about your sexuall relationships and are about to have a change in your sex your life. I'd be on the look out because there is an 82% chance that he will dump you and an 8% chance of abuse according to our experimental studies. Good luck!
All people masturbate and most find it embarrassing for others to know. The internet is so anonymous and therefore, offers a chance to jump outside ourselves and do things we would never do ';in real life.'; Showing, exposing himself to others is a concern though.


I find that porn, in general, leads to expectations that no one can fulfill and ultimately, hurts a personal relationship. If you realize that sex is showing your most personal and vulnerable side to someone you respect and cherish and that you feel the same about them, your sex life will always enhance your core relationship, not rule it.


He needs to realize that you are willing and ready to explore and try new things that excite yourselves without having to fantasize about what other people come up with. Ask him to stop and tell him your worries. Keep it simple, no nagging or lecturing. Listen to his responses and ask questions.


Take more time to decide if you want to marry. What is the rush? You have your whole life for time for that.


I plan to live to 100 so I figure that I have at least 52 years for anything I want for the future!


Luck to ya!

I need advice about men and getting married later in life ...?

I am 43 and about a month ago I met a man (44). We have been dating ever since that first meeting and we are both in love. Both of us have been married before, but that is long in the past. We have a tremendous amount in common - love spending time together - have the same goals in life - have grown children - and have the same values and morals. He tells me I'm the marrying kind and we have already talked about where and when we want to get married.





My problem is this: It all just seems too good to be true. I haven't had ';bad'; relationships in the past, but nothing even remotely compares to this one. I love him more than I ever though possible - and I feel more love from him than I have ever experienced. He treats me like a lady, is respectful, and is very good father. Why is this scaring me? Please give me any advice or help as I just want to enjoy this, not be scared by it!





Thank you!I need advice about men and getting married later in life ...?
I think you should just ENJOY! Don't think about getting married or breaking up - why should you? Continue enjoying your relationship, your love for each other, your respect for one another, your friendship, and your connection! Let these things control your future!I need advice about men and getting married later in life ...?
I think you should just go with wanting to enjoy it. I know that saying, 'if it's too good to be true it probably is', well that may very well be true 99% of the time, as long as you are suspicious or scared it's not going to be good. You'll never find out what it could be until you let it be, y'know what I mean? You should see where it all leads to and enjoy it while it lasts if you find out 2 years later he's a axe murderer or something, then hey you had a good run, but you'll never know for sure till you find out where it leads, have fun and see where it goes.
It's natural to be a little scared of something you've never experienced. Just take your time and enjoy it. It's not too good to be true, you've earned it!
most women arent used to a man being perfect..now days..with the 50% divorce rate..its hard to find a man that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated..but there is also a 50% chance that he could possibly be a wonderful husband to you..sounds to me like your just trying to find something wrong with him..and you cant..so stop looking..im sure thousands of women would love to be in the position you are in right now..take advantage of the fact that you have a man that will love you unconditionally and run with it..dont push away!
maybe you should slow down...you have only known him for a month! Isn't a little soon to be in love and thinking about marriage? Relationships are complicated, maybe you should take a step back and then you won't be so scared
Sounds fine to me but if you are worried then talk to your partner about it. It may seem silly or too embarassing but if he loves you he won't mock or anything, so just find a good time and tell him.





*Angel*
hi my name is dave well gal what dose your heart tell you what does your mind tell you about him and most of all what are your beliefs about god were do you come too get thier on that you both must click and be true and up frot with each other dave w
You've just met a month ago, don't you think its too early to get married??? Don't think about how old you are now but think what future you will have on this man after you get married. Just see how long can he endure the waiting period. Marrying type like he says do not say I do after 1 month. Since you are old enough to listen what the other people might say, if you really want to be with him. try to live-in with him to get to know him. You will only know a real him when you started to leave on the same roof. Just like you said, if he's too good to be true then he might be toooo goood to really be true. Trust your instinct.
Its Too difficult for anyone to answer you coz u have already made a selection... See ur last line... u only want people to Console u by telling reasons what so ever coz u only waana get rid of the fear.





do u ever asked urself as to why u fear... ??





as u said u fear coz of past.. its true and so is ur fear





coz dating and marrying are two different things.





i dont know how long u were alone but that lonelyness itself added to ur passion





there is no one here or anywhere who can give u the solution





its u who has to decide what needs to done





coz its u who knows herself better and its u who has the experience and heart to make a practical decision depending on future.
Marriage is always a bliss .. and when you know you have found that person worth marrying, grab it. You only live once and life is too short for anything to wait. Yes you can wait .. but how long is it good enough to wait ... 1 month? 1 year? 3 years? You have that much time to wait? Does he?





My advice is .. if you both love each other, go for it. My best wishes to you both ! :)
You need to run a background check. It is very much worth the money. It may be too good to be true. A little checking won't hurt, you don't need to tell him, be prudent. Before you spend money on any of them read the article at www.consumeradvice.org
when we want the best...we dont know until it arrives in our life....n when we realise it has hapend to us...doubts take over us...that whether this happiness is for life or for a short time....


get over ur doubts....enjoy ur life as it brings a new day 2 u....nuthn wud go wrong until ne 1 of u wants it to go wrong
Only a month? Girl, you need to wait this one out, yes its exciting to feel that you're in love, but you have to be patient! Who knows where your relationship could go and you should wait to find out, enjoy all the aspects of a relationship!





Just tell him you like him soo much but you dont want to rush anything like marriage because you've been there done that and it didnt work out. If he doesnt understand, you shouldnt want to marry him!
Please don't fight this, it's what most people spend their lives searching for. If this guy is so good, he's a keeper, don't let him go. Whats the absolute worst thing that could happen? It doesn't work out, so what. Whats the best thing that could happen? It works out and everyone lives happily ever after. This guy sounds like me, and I would be very hurt to know you were asking this question. Just go do it and be well.

I need advice on men pleas every one help?

i really like this guy. but the thing is i think hes a little shy around people he dose not know well. we really dont talk but iv been trying to get to know him and been trying to talk to him and we sit at the same table at lunch because its all of us guys and girls mixed together. and i try to sit by him so we can talk. but i have no idea what to talk about. and then a couple of times he was going to sit by me and then my other friends came and took his spot. hes really shy and i just want to talk to him and i want to know how you can tell if shy guys like you and also what are some topics can talk about? and what are some signs that he might like me. i really like this guy and hes so sweat. pleas help meI need advice on men pleas every one help?
Well i'm a shy guy myself. Constantly talk about the day, classes, homework, home things, any thing coomon. don't worry if he doesn't talk much. Just don't annoy him. dont let on that you like him. don't stare at him. act as a freind. he will feel confertable with you. good luck! :)I need advice on men pleas every one help?
offer him a snack
offer him sex
I love shy guys! They are just so cute.


What do you want to talk to him a bout? You obviously have something to tell him.





Tell me a little about him and I'll give you some ideas.


Are you at school?





Start by telling him a short story. Something irrelevant to anything. Tell him about your cat/dog.. pet, your neighbor's pet. Such as: ';I spent 15 minutes listening to my cat purring this morning';. And smile at him.





Then the next day you can say a little more. like: ';I like having lunch with everyone around, it means I can just stay quite if I don't fancy talking to anyone and therefore really enjoy my juice.';





So he may start talking back. But, don't expect him to.


Third day you can ask him a question. such as: ';do you ever watch American football? I wonder why they didn't call it a different name instead of stealing name of our football.. or just called it soccer.';


Something simple, just so you guys can get comfortable.


Don't walk away after you start talking to him. don't stare at him. Give him a smile.





And, be nice..





Have lots of fun!


I wish I meet someone I really want to talk to soon.


Love
osme signs r : when he stares at u and then quickly turns around, if he starts talking to u but his voice start getting lower that u can bearly hear him. Because u get assigned seat ..does that mean ur in middle or elmentary school? because some shy guys act lyk that at that age.


He's probably a really cool person thats not shy in the inside and people that he knows. Thinks that u could talk about: What classes does he take and does he lyk the teachers if he wants to hang out with u one day...and stuff lyk that.

Need womens advice. or Men if you have done this.?

Well here we go. I use to always shave my chest and what not b/c my ex thought it was sexy blah blah blah so a did how that we have been broken up I have let it grow but since i use to shave it I really got use to it being like that and miss the hairlessness haha I was just wondering about the waxing aspect of hair removal. What are you views on it is it worth the pain every 3 to 4 weeks or however often you have to get it done.





Thanks in advance.Need womens advice. or Men if you have done this.?
My boyfriend has a hairy chest... We have tried a few things...


1. Shaving- Ok thats such a wives tail about the hair growing back thicker and darker... it doesnt when u let it grow out after shaving it is the EXACT same as before... but it jjst takes forever to do and then he gets itchy when the stubble returns and it sometimes causes razor burn or breakouts... which isnt pretty.


2. Nair- You people who said this have you ever actually Naired a guys chest??? It seems to come off real good like halfway through the removing swipe and then... it seems it's only burned off half of the remaining hair... and when u put nair over what it didnt remove the 1st time it burns him really bad and layers of skin can burn off... not to mention the smell it leaves... shew.


3. Wax- Sugar Wax: Doesnt work it doesnt hold well enough to get the hair off and leaves a sticky residue that seems to take forever to get off.


Professional Waxing or Hot Wax: My boyfriend went to this Spa Type place and had this done and when they were pulling off the strips they said his pores were getting turned inside out (so its not for really sensitive areas.. such as the chest)





My recommendation is that stuff you see on TV it's called Nads... It's not a Hot wax because it doesnt need to be heated and it isnt a Sugaring Wax so it grabs the hair tightly.


Just one more little ounce of advice... if you do choose Nads don't try to cut the hair at all before you use it... it works best on longer hair....





You can get it Walgreens %26amp;%26amp; WalmartNeed womens advice. or Men if you have done this.?
I personally prefer a hairy chest so I say let it grow..





If you want to wax...I suggest every 4 weeks..
Well, it lasts longer than shaving. In your case, I wouldn't say that it's worth it. Just because chest hair isn't something that ';needs'; to be shaved, you know what I mean? I mean women are obviously going to shave their legs, and I could see waxing being easier there than it would be for a guy. I think that if you want to get rid of it, you should just shave. Or, you could always use Nair, or something else like that. It's going to hurt a lot. You'll find yourself getting sick of having to do it all the time. Especially if you do it yourself. It's harder to do something when you KNOW it's going to hurt. It can also irritate your skin. I'm not talking about the redness, but sometimes it will stay red and blotchy for a while,all depending on how white you are, haha. :)





Oh, and if you do use Nair, be careful. A lot of people are allergic to it, including me.
I use the Norelco Phillips Bodygroom shaver to shave my chest hair and ****. I hate having chest hair...a smooth chest is sexier.
the pain is worth it but it hurts a lot,first try with a painless zone like your forearm
My boyfriend shaved his chest before he met me. I put a stop to that nonsense. The most I would recommend is trimming it, if you're really self-conscious or the hair is truly bothering you. Remmington sells some good trimmers. Shaved chests are pretty gay and make guys look like little boys. Who wants to date a pre-pubescent hairless 12 year old? Men are supposed to be burly and hairy. Not to mention the painful (to both of us) stubble that inevitably appears when you shave/wax completely. If you are actually gay, there's nothing wrong with that, and you should continue to shave/wax. If not, trimming or leaving it as-is are your two best options.
no ryan.





chest hair is sexy.


leave it.
Waxing usually stays longer than shaving. You can also try hair removal cream which also works well in removing body.
aah a guy waxing is really hot....hurts like f*ck though!!





i said something along those lines to an (ex)boyfriend once...but eh....i think he got confused over what ';parts'; lol





he comes into school the next day - ONE of his LEGS waxed.....it hurt him....so he wouldnt do the second one lol, he just had this random smooth leg for like 3 weeks


it was hilarious though





xxxx
As a stylist I wax men and women on a reg basis, its one of those things that gets better as time goes on but it is very painful. I would have a spot that is in a hidden area done first to see if you can handle it (remember steve carell in 40 year old virgin) but yes it is totally worth it, it is so much smoother than shaving and lasts so much longer in some cases it can even start growing less over time... I see more and more men getting waxed and none complain (much) but please make sure the person you go to knows exactly what they are doing if done wrong it can be more painful and less effective..
Hmmm...do what you like, but I think hair is SEXXY.
i think that hair is fine, but i do prefer men without hairy chests


waxing would be best if you can handle the pain...nair, or other hair removal products like that can leave a burning feeling on more sensitive areas of skin, or if you just generally have sensitive skin...


shaving would also work, but it gets stubbly faster than waxing
why dont you just use nair?
if you get your hair waxed, from personal experience, it says off a little longer and doesn't grow back as thick/dark as it does after shaving a lot.


but is it worth it? it depends how much you despise shaving.
I wax everything. I think shaving is nasty because it grows back thicker. The first time you do it will suck, like in 40 Year Old Virgin. But after a few times the hair gets really thin and eventually the follicles will become so weak they cannot even hold/support the hair. I think guys should waxno 5 o'clock shadow all the time.
use nair for men.
wow. what kind of homo shaves his chest.. be a man, dude.
waxing is best
Hmm.


It's really up to you.





But personally, chest hair to me is the worst.


It's can get pretty gross, so you could get it waxed twice a month if you wanted. But you'd have to remember that it gets expensive after a while.





And also, there's a product called Nair. It's a hair removal kit. You do it yourself and it's pain-free.


My brother does it with his arms on a weekly basis.
it doesnt make you gay to shave your chest. dont chave your legs tho, that is a bit borderline. use nair. if you do wax, please scream kelly clarkson, just for the humor of it.
well yeah do it . in my case i think its kinda sexxy butt unless u look good with a little hair just leave it but its ur chose....and if it hurts..well i have never waxed my chest but I'm sure it would just hurt for a couple a seconds.. : ]

Need some advice from men!!?

OK, Gonna try to make this as short as possible...





I'm only 24. I've been married 6 years. Just got divorced not too long ago. Was married to the only guy I've ever had sex with. Naturally, when I first had sex, I had a great body. Since then, I've had 2 kids. So, I'm not as comfortable with my body now. I try to pretend I have high self esteem. But, really, I don't. I have stretch marks on my tummy %26amp; thighs, cellulite on my thighs %26amp; hips and don't even get me started on my boobs!!! I am still skinny and my greatest asset and pretty much the only thing I like about my body is my long legs. I also have good hair and a pretty face....Not to sound conceited...I do get told I'm hot, a lot...But, of course these guys haven't seen me naked....OK, so, my question is this....WHen I do have sex again...Do I just act like I have all the confidence in the world and my body is flawless?? Would it be a turn off if I actually pointed out my flaws to a guy?? One thing I do know...I'll definitely be doing it with the lights out. HAHA...OK, Thanks and PLEASE, serious answers only...this really is a sensitive subject for me.Need some advice from men!!?
OK, first and foremost all be it short and sweet, you've not specified what kind of sex you are actually wanting?





If the partner you want is literally going to be for that, a single encounter, then i can't imagine going into detail about your insecurities is going to be the biggest turn on (IF that's the kind of guy you WANT to attract) - as sad and as cruel as that sounds.





HOWEVER





If you're looking for a new permanent partner, then slowly try going out with friends more reguarlly, have the dating process, and IF you get comfortable with a guy and the subject comes up to do with insecurities or body anything, then be honest about it then. He'll appreciate it, and 9 times out of 10, won't care at all IF he's the guy thats taken the time to get to know you.





In the mean time, a bit of tough love. If you are so insecure, i appreciate having children for a woman really does effect the body, but there must be some types of exercise/traioning you can do to at least improve whatcha got.





I hope this really does help, and that you feel happy again soon.Need some advice from men!!?
I'm a guy and confidence is a must. When a girl says something about her flaws, not only is it mildly annoying (because all girls talk about how they are all flawed in so many ways), but its a killer turn off. They are there for a reason. The reason is not because you have stretch marks and cellulite.





Be confident my friend and it will be all set.
yes it will be a turn off if you started to point out your flaw, us men look at what we like first, and flaws second. what you think is a flaw to you, may just be the sexiest part of your body to him. be confident and let him judge you. you will be okay, if you get compliments now, you will continue to get them.
Hmm, most ladies your age wont have had 2 kids so your up against that. Your best looking for a guy whos already a dad i think. I wouldnt mention stretch marks during sexy time. Maybe you could joke about it sometime before when your just hanging out and guage his response.
I definitely wouldn't point out your flaws, that would be a turn off, you sound like a pretty girl, forget about what little flaws your body has, If a guy has a problem with stretch marks you have or whatever, then that is his problem and not yours.
When a guy will love you as you are because he's more worth it than any guy after your looks
Well there are two ways of looking at this question. 1 Are you talking about when you go out and have sex just because you're horny? Or 2 Do you mean sex in the course of a relationship? If you're talking about when you're horny, then don't pay much mind to what the guy is thinking. Just make sure you find a guy that knows how to please a woman and not one that wants to jump in and it's over.





If you're talking about a relationship, then you should be able to talk to the guy about your insecurities before having sex with him. If you're looking for someone who'll care about you then it shouldn't matter what little imperfections your body now has. A lot of men have seen stretch marks and cellulite before (by the way, I bet when you're lying on your back, your boobs look just fine). I know I'd take a sweet, kind, loving woman with your body any day of the week over a bitchy, self-indulgent Playboy Bunny type. I know because my first wife was the bunny type and I couldn't wait to divorce her. My second wife was 35 when I married her; so she was no stranger to cellulite and the effects of gravity on her boobs. But, she is a wonderful human being and I find her incredibly sexy.





Whatever the situation is with you, you're probably still a very beautiful woman and shouldn't worry so much about what others think of you. It's what you think of yourself that counts anyway.
ok good Q. First, just do it. Dont worry about anything, dont act like your all that, but also dont point out your flaws to him either. That will be a Major turn off, because he may not think there is anything wrong with you, and if you point out to him that there are stretch marks etc...he may start looking for them.. just be yourself, and be comfortable. Remember dont warn him about anything, and dont act like you are a model either without any flaws, he should realize that you a mother, and want to have sex with you for who you are and not what is underneath those clothes.
First give yourself time to heal from the divorce. If you go out and have sex right away it will feel like rebound sex and you will feel awkward about it. Don't do anything you may regret later. There is no need to point out your flaws(physically). Talk to the guy. If you tell him that you have 2 children most guys know what to expect and if they are anyone decent they will have no problem with your ';flaws';. I hope that helps.

I need advice, gay men please help a confused young one please?

So I need some advice


There is this gay student union in my school and I came to them but to my detriment they just fired back at me and said that I was ugly, fat and that no one wanted me. Ever since then they just attacked me and called me a disgrace to the gay community and told me that I should die now cuz no gay man would ever think of loving me...all of this has made me real sad and has really crushed me, I just need some advice on how I can get through this...


All of this is making me want to be cynical, angry and I really am starting to think gay man will ever love me.


I am 16 by the way, this hurts though and to have them remind me everyday is just cruel and unjust..


Am I really that ugly anyways?


http://s232.photobucket.com/albums/ee196/Admiralmac/?action=view%26amp;current=derek9.jpg


One of them even had the nerve to tell me that I am one of the few ugly gay men in the world that is not even worth saving..what do I need saving from anyways?


Maybe from them but...


HELP!I need advice, gay men please help a confused young one please?
There is nothing ugly about you! Very few of us hit a peak at sixteen. And those who do look like crap by the time they are thirty. You've just run afoul of some really superficial Twinks. Most gay men are not like that.I need advice, gay men please help a confused young one please?
You are NOT ugly. Anyone who tells you different is just trying to hurt you. I would suggest that if this harassment continues that you report it to your counselor or your schools administration. The stuff that they are doing gives the gay community a bad name.





Find a group of friends that makes you happy.
If they said this contact the principal immediately and tell them what happened to however (and IM not saying u r fat) if YOU think you are fat then exercise i was over weight then i began to run all SUMMER long when i got back to school the guys couldn't resist ( just kidding) but seriously i felt a lot better
I can understand how you would be confused. I look at your picture and see someone beautiful. It's hard to believe that fellow gay students could be so cruel. Find other support.
do you love either one of them?
Sure your overweight but you have great bone structure, broad shoulders, a nice smile and nice hair. (thats all superfical stuff but seeing as how I don't know you personaly thats all I can work with)





I get excluded to when I hang out with some gay guys not because am overweight but because I have long hair. I know I can just cut my hair but I am not going to cut it because they think it is to girly if I decide to cut it I will only because I want to change. I pretty much just told them ';why do you call me to girly for having long hair when you paint your nails pink and wear girl shirts';





You just have to shrug it off and in some cases even stand up for yourself. I know it can be hard (I cried at first because being excluded sucks) and say I am not like you I am myself.





also since I think it is a school club those often times have rules against that sort of discriminatory behavior try speaking with the priniciple or a teacher about what can be done.





The GLBT comunity needs to learn to get along with each other we all are considered outcasts amongst many groups world wide still so we need to take care of one another not hurt them.
You don't want to hear this, but don't take what they said so seriously. It might be that your ';attackers'; were just trying to get your goat because of some past grudge or because they don't like how you dress or something idiotic like that. Or if they are a little older than you, maybe they are just on a little power trip and think they can make you sweat by hazing you. So ignore their comments, which were certainly made carelessly and callously. My guess is there is some strange reason they were mean to you, a reason that has nothing to do with your particular physical appearance.

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