Well here we go. I use to always shave my chest and what not b/c my ex thought it was sexy blah blah blah so a did how that we have been broken up I have let it grow but since i use to shave it I really got use to it being like that and miss the hairlessness haha I was just wondering about the waxing aspect of hair removal. What are you views on it is it worth the pain every 3 to 4 weeks or however often you have to get it done.
Thanks in advance.Need womens advice. or Men if you have done this.?
My boyfriend has a hairy chest... We have tried a few things...
1. Shaving- Ok thats such a wives tail about the hair growing back thicker and darker... it doesnt when u let it grow out after shaving it is the EXACT same as before... but it jjst takes forever to do and then he gets itchy when the stubble returns and it sometimes causes razor burn or breakouts... which isnt pretty.
2. Nair- You people who said this have you ever actually Naired a guys chest??? It seems to come off real good like halfway through the removing swipe and then... it seems it's only burned off half of the remaining hair... and when u put nair over what it didnt remove the 1st time it burns him really bad and layers of skin can burn off... not to mention the smell it leaves... shew.
3. Wax- Sugar Wax: Doesnt work it doesnt hold well enough to get the hair off and leaves a sticky residue that seems to take forever to get off.
Professional Waxing or Hot Wax: My boyfriend went to this Spa Type place and had this done and when they were pulling off the strips they said his pores were getting turned inside out (so its not for really sensitive areas.. such as the chest)
My recommendation is that stuff you see on TV it's called Nads... It's not a Hot wax because it doesnt need to be heated and it isnt a Sugaring Wax so it grabs the hair tightly.
Just one more little ounce of advice... if you do choose Nads don't try to cut the hair at all before you use it... it works best on longer hair....
You can get it Walgreens %26amp;%26amp; WalmartNeed womens advice. or Men if you have done this.?
I personally prefer a hairy chest so I say let it grow..
If you want to wax...I suggest every 4 weeks..
Well, it lasts longer than shaving. In your case, I wouldn't say that it's worth it. Just because chest hair isn't something that ';needs'; to be shaved, you know what I mean? I mean women are obviously going to shave their legs, and I could see waxing being easier there than it would be for a guy. I think that if you want to get rid of it, you should just shave. Or, you could always use Nair, or something else like that. It's going to hurt a lot. You'll find yourself getting sick of having to do it all the time. Especially if you do it yourself. It's harder to do something when you KNOW it's going to hurt. It can also irritate your skin. I'm not talking about the redness, but sometimes it will stay red and blotchy for a while,all depending on how white you are, haha. :)
Oh, and if you do use Nair, be careful. A lot of people are allergic to it, including me.
I use the Norelco Phillips Bodygroom shaver to shave my chest hair and ****. I hate having chest hair...a smooth chest is sexier.
the pain is worth it but it hurts a lot,first try with a painless zone like your forearm
My boyfriend shaved his chest before he met me. I put a stop to that nonsense. The most I would recommend is trimming it, if you're really self-conscious or the hair is truly bothering you. Remmington sells some good trimmers. Shaved chests are pretty gay and make guys look like little boys. Who wants to date a pre-pubescent hairless 12 year old? Men are supposed to be burly and hairy. Not to mention the painful (to both of us) stubble that inevitably appears when you shave/wax completely. If you are actually gay, there's nothing wrong with that, and you should continue to shave/wax. If not, trimming or leaving it as-is are your two best options.
no ryan.
chest hair is sexy.
leave it.
Waxing usually stays longer than shaving. You can also try hair removal cream which also works well in removing body.
aah a guy waxing is really hot....hurts like f*ck though!!
i said something along those lines to an (ex)boyfriend once...but eh....i think he got confused over what ';parts'; lol
he comes into school the next day - ONE of his LEGS waxed.....it hurt him....so he wouldnt do the second one lol, he just had this random smooth leg for like 3 weeks
it was hilarious though
xxxx
As a stylist I wax men and women on a reg basis, its one of those things that gets better as time goes on but it is very painful. I would have a spot that is in a hidden area done first to see if you can handle it (remember steve carell in 40 year old virgin) but yes it is totally worth it, it is so much smoother than shaving and lasts so much longer in some cases it can even start growing less over time... I see more and more men getting waxed and none complain (much) but please make sure the person you go to knows exactly what they are doing if done wrong it can be more painful and less effective..
Hmmm...do what you like, but I think hair is SEXXY.
i think that hair is fine, but i do prefer men without hairy chests
waxing would be best if you can handle the pain...nair, or other hair removal products like that can leave a burning feeling on more sensitive areas of skin, or if you just generally have sensitive skin...
shaving would also work, but it gets stubbly faster than waxing
why dont you just use nair?
if you get your hair waxed, from personal experience, it says off a little longer and doesn't grow back as thick/dark as it does after shaving a lot.
but is it worth it? it depends how much you despise shaving.
I wax everything. I think shaving is nasty because it grows back thicker. The first time you do it will suck, like in 40 Year Old Virgin. But after a few times the hair gets really thin and eventually the follicles will become so weak they cannot even hold/support the hair. I think guys should waxno 5 o'clock shadow all the time.
use nair for men.
wow. what kind of homo shaves his chest.. be a man, dude.
waxing is best
Hmm.
It's really up to you.
But personally, chest hair to me is the worst.
It's can get pretty gross, so you could get it waxed twice a month if you wanted. But you'd have to remember that it gets expensive after a while.
And also, there's a product called Nair. It's a hair removal kit. You do it yourself and it's pain-free.
My brother does it with his arms on a weekly basis.
it doesnt make you gay to shave your chest. dont chave your legs tho, that is a bit borderline. use nair. if you do wax, please scream kelly clarkson, just for the humor of it.
well yeah do it . in my case i think its kinda sexxy butt unless u look good with a little hair just leave it but its ur chose....and if it hurts..well i have never waxed my chest but I'm sure it would just hurt for a couple a seconds.. : ]
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Need some advice from men!!?
OK, Gonna try to make this as short as possible...
I'm only 24. I've been married 6 years. Just got divorced not too long ago. Was married to the only guy I've ever had sex with. Naturally, when I first had sex, I had a great body. Since then, I've had 2 kids. So, I'm not as comfortable with my body now. I try to pretend I have high self esteem. But, really, I don't. I have stretch marks on my tummy %26amp; thighs, cellulite on my thighs %26amp; hips and don't even get me started on my boobs!!! I am still skinny and my greatest asset and pretty much the only thing I like about my body is my long legs. I also have good hair and a pretty face....Not to sound conceited...I do get told I'm hot, a lot...But, of course these guys haven't seen me naked....OK, so, my question is this....WHen I do have sex again...Do I just act like I have all the confidence in the world and my body is flawless?? Would it be a turn off if I actually pointed out my flaws to a guy?? One thing I do know...I'll definitely be doing it with the lights out. HAHA...OK, Thanks and PLEASE, serious answers only...this really is a sensitive subject for me.Need some advice from men!!?
OK, first and foremost all be it short and sweet, you've not specified what kind of sex you are actually wanting?
If the partner you want is literally going to be for that, a single encounter, then i can't imagine going into detail about your insecurities is going to be the biggest turn on (IF that's the kind of guy you WANT to attract) - as sad and as cruel as that sounds.
HOWEVER
If you're looking for a new permanent partner, then slowly try going out with friends more reguarlly, have the dating process, and IF you get comfortable with a guy and the subject comes up to do with insecurities or body anything, then be honest about it then. He'll appreciate it, and 9 times out of 10, won't care at all IF he's the guy thats taken the time to get to know you.
In the mean time, a bit of tough love. If you are so insecure, i appreciate having children for a woman really does effect the body, but there must be some types of exercise/traioning you can do to at least improve whatcha got.
I hope this really does help, and that you feel happy again soon.Need some advice from men!!?
I'm a guy and confidence is a must. When a girl says something about her flaws, not only is it mildly annoying (because all girls talk about how they are all flawed in so many ways), but its a killer turn off. They are there for a reason. The reason is not because you have stretch marks and cellulite.
Be confident my friend and it will be all set.
yes it will be a turn off if you started to point out your flaw, us men look at what we like first, and flaws second. what you think is a flaw to you, may just be the sexiest part of your body to him. be confident and let him judge you. you will be okay, if you get compliments now, you will continue to get them.
Hmm, most ladies your age wont have had 2 kids so your up against that. Your best looking for a guy whos already a dad i think. I wouldnt mention stretch marks during sexy time. Maybe you could joke about it sometime before when your just hanging out and guage his response.
I definitely wouldn't point out your flaws, that would be a turn off, you sound like a pretty girl, forget about what little flaws your body has, If a guy has a problem with stretch marks you have or whatever, then that is his problem and not yours.
When a guy will love you as you are because he's more worth it than any guy after your looks
Well there are two ways of looking at this question. 1 Are you talking about when you go out and have sex just because you're horny? Or 2 Do you mean sex in the course of a relationship? If you're talking about when you're horny, then don't pay much mind to what the guy is thinking. Just make sure you find a guy that knows how to please a woman and not one that wants to jump in and it's over.
If you're talking about a relationship, then you should be able to talk to the guy about your insecurities before having sex with him. If you're looking for someone who'll care about you then it shouldn't matter what little imperfections your body now has. A lot of men have seen stretch marks and cellulite before (by the way, I bet when you're lying on your back, your boobs look just fine). I know I'd take a sweet, kind, loving woman with your body any day of the week over a bitchy, self-indulgent Playboy Bunny type. I know because my first wife was the bunny type and I couldn't wait to divorce her. My second wife was 35 when I married her; so she was no stranger to cellulite and the effects of gravity on her boobs. But, she is a wonderful human being and I find her incredibly sexy.
Whatever the situation is with you, you're probably still a very beautiful woman and shouldn't worry so much about what others think of you. It's what you think of yourself that counts anyway.
ok good Q. First, just do it. Dont worry about anything, dont act like your all that, but also dont point out your flaws to him either. That will be a Major turn off, because he may not think there is anything wrong with you, and if you point out to him that there are stretch marks etc...he may start looking for them.. just be yourself, and be comfortable. Remember dont warn him about anything, and dont act like you are a model either without any flaws, he should realize that you a mother, and want to have sex with you for who you are and not what is underneath those clothes.
First give yourself time to heal from the divorce. If you go out and have sex right away it will feel like rebound sex and you will feel awkward about it. Don't do anything you may regret later. There is no need to point out your flaws(physically). Talk to the guy. If you tell him that you have 2 children most guys know what to expect and if they are anyone decent they will have no problem with your ';flaws';. I hope that helps.
I'm only 24. I've been married 6 years. Just got divorced not too long ago. Was married to the only guy I've ever had sex with. Naturally, when I first had sex, I had a great body. Since then, I've had 2 kids. So, I'm not as comfortable with my body now. I try to pretend I have high self esteem. But, really, I don't. I have stretch marks on my tummy %26amp; thighs, cellulite on my thighs %26amp; hips and don't even get me started on my boobs!!! I am still skinny and my greatest asset and pretty much the only thing I like about my body is my long legs. I also have good hair and a pretty face....Not to sound conceited...I do get told I'm hot, a lot...But, of course these guys haven't seen me naked....OK, so, my question is this....WHen I do have sex again...Do I just act like I have all the confidence in the world and my body is flawless?? Would it be a turn off if I actually pointed out my flaws to a guy?? One thing I do know...I'll definitely be doing it with the lights out. HAHA...OK, Thanks and PLEASE, serious answers only...this really is a sensitive subject for me.Need some advice from men!!?
OK, first and foremost all be it short and sweet, you've not specified what kind of sex you are actually wanting?
If the partner you want is literally going to be for that, a single encounter, then i can't imagine going into detail about your insecurities is going to be the biggest turn on (IF that's the kind of guy you WANT to attract) - as sad and as cruel as that sounds.
HOWEVER
If you're looking for a new permanent partner, then slowly try going out with friends more reguarlly, have the dating process, and IF you get comfortable with a guy and the subject comes up to do with insecurities or body anything, then be honest about it then. He'll appreciate it, and 9 times out of 10, won't care at all IF he's the guy thats taken the time to get to know you.
In the mean time, a bit of tough love. If you are so insecure, i appreciate having children for a woman really does effect the body, but there must be some types of exercise/traioning you can do to at least improve whatcha got.
I hope this really does help, and that you feel happy again soon.Need some advice from men!!?
I'm a guy and confidence is a must. When a girl says something about her flaws, not only is it mildly annoying (because all girls talk about how they are all flawed in so many ways), but its a killer turn off. They are there for a reason. The reason is not because you have stretch marks and cellulite.
Be confident my friend and it will be all set.
yes it will be a turn off if you started to point out your flaw, us men look at what we like first, and flaws second. what you think is a flaw to you, may just be the sexiest part of your body to him. be confident and let him judge you. you will be okay, if you get compliments now, you will continue to get them.
Hmm, most ladies your age wont have had 2 kids so your up against that. Your best looking for a guy whos already a dad i think. I wouldnt mention stretch marks during sexy time. Maybe you could joke about it sometime before when your just hanging out and guage his response.
I definitely wouldn't point out your flaws, that would be a turn off, you sound like a pretty girl, forget about what little flaws your body has, If a guy has a problem with stretch marks you have or whatever, then that is his problem and not yours.
When a guy will love you as you are because he's more worth it than any guy after your looks
Well there are two ways of looking at this question. 1 Are you talking about when you go out and have sex just because you're horny? Or 2 Do you mean sex in the course of a relationship? If you're talking about when you're horny, then don't pay much mind to what the guy is thinking. Just make sure you find a guy that knows how to please a woman and not one that wants to jump in and it's over.
If you're talking about a relationship, then you should be able to talk to the guy about your insecurities before having sex with him. If you're looking for someone who'll care about you then it shouldn't matter what little imperfections your body now has. A lot of men have seen stretch marks and cellulite before (by the way, I bet when you're lying on your back, your boobs look just fine). I know I'd take a sweet, kind, loving woman with your body any day of the week over a bitchy, self-indulgent Playboy Bunny type. I know because my first wife was the bunny type and I couldn't wait to divorce her. My second wife was 35 when I married her; so she was no stranger to cellulite and the effects of gravity on her boobs. But, she is a wonderful human being and I find her incredibly sexy.
Whatever the situation is with you, you're probably still a very beautiful woman and shouldn't worry so much about what others think of you. It's what you think of yourself that counts anyway.
ok good Q. First, just do it. Dont worry about anything, dont act like your all that, but also dont point out your flaws to him either. That will be a Major turn off, because he may not think there is anything wrong with you, and if you point out to him that there are stretch marks etc...he may start looking for them.. just be yourself, and be comfortable. Remember dont warn him about anything, and dont act like you are a model either without any flaws, he should realize that you a mother, and want to have sex with you for who you are and not what is underneath those clothes.
First give yourself time to heal from the divorce. If you go out and have sex right away it will feel like rebound sex and you will feel awkward about it. Don't do anything you may regret later. There is no need to point out your flaws(physically). Talk to the guy. If you tell him that you have 2 children most guys know what to expect and if they are anyone decent they will have no problem with your ';flaws';. I hope that helps.
I need advice, gay men please help a confused young one please?
So I need some advice
There is this gay student union in my school and I came to them but to my detriment they just fired back at me and said that I was ugly, fat and that no one wanted me. Ever since then they just attacked me and called me a disgrace to the gay community and told me that I should die now cuz no gay man would ever think of loving me...all of this has made me real sad and has really crushed me, I just need some advice on how I can get through this...
All of this is making me want to be cynical, angry and I really am starting to think gay man will ever love me.
I am 16 by the way, this hurts though and to have them remind me everyday is just cruel and unjust..
Am I really that ugly anyways?
http://s232.photobucket.com/albums/ee196/Admiralmac/?action=view%26amp;current=derek9.jpg
One of them even had the nerve to tell me that I am one of the few ugly gay men in the world that is not even worth saving..what do I need saving from anyways?
Maybe from them but...
HELP!I need advice, gay men please help a confused young one please?
There is nothing ugly about you! Very few of us hit a peak at sixteen. And those who do look like crap by the time they are thirty. You've just run afoul of some really superficial Twinks. Most gay men are not like that.I need advice, gay men please help a confused young one please?
You are NOT ugly. Anyone who tells you different is just trying to hurt you. I would suggest that if this harassment continues that you report it to your counselor or your schools administration. The stuff that they are doing gives the gay community a bad name.
Find a group of friends that makes you happy.
If they said this contact the principal immediately and tell them what happened to however (and IM not saying u r fat) if YOU think you are fat then exercise i was over weight then i began to run all SUMMER long when i got back to school the guys couldn't resist ( just kidding) but seriously i felt a lot better
I can understand how you would be confused. I look at your picture and see someone beautiful. It's hard to believe that fellow gay students could be so cruel. Find other support.
do you love either one of them?
Sure your overweight but you have great bone structure, broad shoulders, a nice smile and nice hair. (thats all superfical stuff but seeing as how I don't know you personaly thats all I can work with)
I get excluded to when I hang out with some gay guys not because am overweight but because I have long hair. I know I can just cut my hair but I am not going to cut it because they think it is to girly if I decide to cut it I will only because I want to change. I pretty much just told them ';why do you call me to girly for having long hair when you paint your nails pink and wear girl shirts';
You just have to shrug it off and in some cases even stand up for yourself. I know it can be hard (I cried at first because being excluded sucks) and say I am not like you I am myself.
also since I think it is a school club those often times have rules against that sort of discriminatory behavior try speaking with the priniciple or a teacher about what can be done.
The GLBT comunity needs to learn to get along with each other we all are considered outcasts amongst many groups world wide still so we need to take care of one another not hurt them.
You don't want to hear this, but don't take what they said so seriously. It might be that your ';attackers'; were just trying to get your goat because of some past grudge or because they don't like how you dress or something idiotic like that. Or if they are a little older than you, maybe they are just on a little power trip and think they can make you sweat by hazing you. So ignore their comments, which were certainly made carelessly and callously. My guess is there is some strange reason they were mean to you, a reason that has nothing to do with your particular physical appearance.bright makeup
There is this gay student union in my school and I came to them but to my detriment they just fired back at me and said that I was ugly, fat and that no one wanted me. Ever since then they just attacked me and called me a disgrace to the gay community and told me that I should die now cuz no gay man would ever think of loving me...all of this has made me real sad and has really crushed me, I just need some advice on how I can get through this...
All of this is making me want to be cynical, angry and I really am starting to think gay man will ever love me.
I am 16 by the way, this hurts though and to have them remind me everyday is just cruel and unjust..
Am I really that ugly anyways?
http://s232.photobucket.com/albums/ee196/Admiralmac/?action=view%26amp;current=derek9.jpg
One of them even had the nerve to tell me that I am one of the few ugly gay men in the world that is not even worth saving..what do I need saving from anyways?
Maybe from them but...
HELP!I need advice, gay men please help a confused young one please?
There is nothing ugly about you! Very few of us hit a peak at sixteen. And those who do look like crap by the time they are thirty. You've just run afoul of some really superficial Twinks. Most gay men are not like that.I need advice, gay men please help a confused young one please?
You are NOT ugly. Anyone who tells you different is just trying to hurt you. I would suggest that if this harassment continues that you report it to your counselor or your schools administration. The stuff that they are doing gives the gay community a bad name.
Find a group of friends that makes you happy.
If they said this contact the principal immediately and tell them what happened to however (and IM not saying u r fat) if YOU think you are fat then exercise i was over weight then i began to run all SUMMER long when i got back to school the guys couldn't resist ( just kidding) but seriously i felt a lot better
I can understand how you would be confused. I look at your picture and see someone beautiful. It's hard to believe that fellow gay students could be so cruel. Find other support.
do you love either one of them?
Sure your overweight but you have great bone structure, broad shoulders, a nice smile and nice hair. (thats all superfical stuff but seeing as how I don't know you personaly thats all I can work with)
I get excluded to when I hang out with some gay guys not because am overweight but because I have long hair. I know I can just cut my hair but I am not going to cut it because they think it is to girly if I decide to cut it I will only because I want to change. I pretty much just told them ';why do you call me to girly for having long hair when you paint your nails pink and wear girl shirts';
You just have to shrug it off and in some cases even stand up for yourself. I know it can be hard (I cried at first because being excluded sucks) and say I am not like you I am myself.
also since I think it is a school club those often times have rules against that sort of discriminatory behavior try speaking with the priniciple or a teacher about what can be done.
The GLBT comunity needs to learn to get along with each other we all are considered outcasts amongst many groups world wide still so we need to take care of one another not hurt them.
You don't want to hear this, but don't take what they said so seriously. It might be that your ';attackers'; were just trying to get your goat because of some past grudge or because they don't like how you dress or something idiotic like that. Or if they are a little older than you, maybe they are just on a little power trip and think they can make you sweat by hazing you. So ignore their comments, which were certainly made carelessly and callously. My guess is there is some strange reason they were mean to you, a reason that has nothing to do with your particular physical appearance.
Need some advice on men, serious answers only!?
there are 2 guys, the one i am currently dating and the one that i have currently have deleloped a thing for. yes i know that i am dating someone but i feel that i have sort of disconnected from him. yeah i should probably tell him, but it is not always an easy thing to do. anyway thou, i am extremely intrigued by this other guy and i think that we totally click. i know i should weigh my options and stuff, but feelings can make you go crazy!!! i really just want to be friends and maybe go out, but i don't want it to seem like i am cheating or sneaking around even though i like this guy a little and all. i dont want to take it to the next level just do some innocent flirting, yes flirting can be innocent. i know that we would never be a couple or anything, just want to have a little fun. do you think that having fun and going out with the other guy is okay?Need some advice on men, serious answers only!?
I don't see why you can't be friends. Let me ask you thugh - what kind of relationship do you have with this guy? Is it exclusive? Or are you just casually dating but are free to see other people? If it's exclusive, then you shouldn't see this other guy on a more than friends level, as that could jeopardize your current relationship.Need some advice on men, serious answers only!?
Honestly, no. You already know that you have feelings for this guy, so it is completely unfair to your current boyfriend for you to do this. Whether or not you ';take it to the next level'; or not, you would be having a form of a relationship with this guy, and therefore would be cheating on your current boyfriend. Imagine how you would feel if the situation were reversed. I don't think you would be happy with it either. Either leave this other guy alone, or break things off with your boyfriend first before trying anything. Don't just keep him hanging around in case things don't work out with the new one.
I think its ok just dont let the guy your seeing find out. Who knows you just might hid it off well with the other guy and there could be something in the future. Dont wait until its too late. Go for whatever makes you happy, you'll just never know until you try it.
Sure, it is ok if they both realise that you are single and officially unattached.
I presume you are in your late teens or early 20's.
This is a common way of thinking when a woman begins to date, and is most exciting.
You just enjoy yourself without hurting any ones feelings.
Some men will expect you to be dating them only.
Just make it clear that you would like to remain friends at this point and you are not in a hurry to settle down.
Having said this, it really isn't any of their business what you do in your own time or who you date.
Enjoy !
Of course its ok, as long as you let him ';Flirt'; with another woman.
Break up with the first guy, it's not fair to him if your not into the relationship anymore. It will hurt him more later when he finds out what you've been up to. Whether you did anything or not with #2 guy,he will always wonder and not trust you.
absolutely not.
if you think you have really fallen for this new guy, then you should let your current boyfriend go, but if you think about it and realize that is just a fantasy thing then you should dump it and remember your boyfriend!
that depends if the 2 guys are Friends if they are than sure if they aren't try to get close to both and make them like each other if they hate each other your screwed
P.S. make sure the guy that you aren't dating KNOWS that there's no chance so he doesn't start hitting on you
You are dating, not married.
There is nothing wrong with being friends with the guy and spending a little time together, but at the point you find yourself wishing you were with the new guy instead of ';bf';, you should call it off with your boyfriend.
Basically, ask yourself what level you would be comfortable with if your boyfriend was in your shoes, spending time with someone else. When you've reached the point where you wouldn't like it if you were treated a certain way, end the relationship and move on.
no unless your into lying and cheating on your man then yeah its fine
If you're dating someone, then I don't feel that it's okay to go out with someone else that you're attracted to. Flip the coin and think about how you would feel. You need to figure out how you feel about your current guy. If it's really just not there anymore, than why stick around? You could be missing out on a great relationship elsewhere....ie beau number two...
It would most definately hurt your main guy, that is if he found out. If you think you can ';get away with it'; if you wanna call it that, then I guess go ahead. I'll just say that if my girlfriend did that... I would probably be really hurt.
Is your dating relationship with Guy A considered ';exclusive';? If so - then you need to be upfront with him. Or, maybe get a girlfriend to double date - you with Guy A and her with Guy B. That would give you a chance to check out Mr. B a little more closely. Regardless, sounds like you and Mr. A need to have a long talk...
if it's okay with your guy then it's not cheating. it's only as innocent as he thinks it is if you're serious about having a boyfriend.
A lot of girls have been in this situation. I think you should look at it from your boyfriend's perspective. Would you want him flirting with other girls? If you don't think you would mind, then I say maybe you could be friends with this other guy. Flirt, a little. See if anything develops.
sure
I don't see why you can't be friends. Let me ask you thugh - what kind of relationship do you have with this guy? Is it exclusive? Or are you just casually dating but are free to see other people? If it's exclusive, then you shouldn't see this other guy on a more than friends level, as that could jeopardize your current relationship.Need some advice on men, serious answers only!?
Honestly, no. You already know that you have feelings for this guy, so it is completely unfair to your current boyfriend for you to do this. Whether or not you ';take it to the next level'; or not, you would be having a form of a relationship with this guy, and therefore would be cheating on your current boyfriend. Imagine how you would feel if the situation were reversed. I don't think you would be happy with it either. Either leave this other guy alone, or break things off with your boyfriend first before trying anything. Don't just keep him hanging around in case things don't work out with the new one.
I think its ok just dont let the guy your seeing find out. Who knows you just might hid it off well with the other guy and there could be something in the future. Dont wait until its too late. Go for whatever makes you happy, you'll just never know until you try it.
Sure, it is ok if they both realise that you are single and officially unattached.
I presume you are in your late teens or early 20's.
This is a common way of thinking when a woman begins to date, and is most exciting.
You just enjoy yourself without hurting any ones feelings.
Some men will expect you to be dating them only.
Just make it clear that you would like to remain friends at this point and you are not in a hurry to settle down.
Having said this, it really isn't any of their business what you do in your own time or who you date.
Enjoy !
Of course its ok, as long as you let him ';Flirt'; with another woman.
Break up with the first guy, it's not fair to him if your not into the relationship anymore. It will hurt him more later when he finds out what you've been up to. Whether you did anything or not with #2 guy,he will always wonder and not trust you.
absolutely not.
if you think you have really fallen for this new guy, then you should let your current boyfriend go, but if you think about it and realize that is just a fantasy thing then you should dump it and remember your boyfriend!
that depends if the 2 guys are Friends if they are than sure if they aren't try to get close to both and make them like each other if they hate each other your screwed
P.S. make sure the guy that you aren't dating KNOWS that there's no chance so he doesn't start hitting on you
You are dating, not married.
There is nothing wrong with being friends with the guy and spending a little time together, but at the point you find yourself wishing you were with the new guy instead of ';bf';, you should call it off with your boyfriend.
Basically, ask yourself what level you would be comfortable with if your boyfriend was in your shoes, spending time with someone else. When you've reached the point where you wouldn't like it if you were treated a certain way, end the relationship and move on.
no unless your into lying and cheating on your man then yeah its fine
If you're dating someone, then I don't feel that it's okay to go out with someone else that you're attracted to. Flip the coin and think about how you would feel. You need to figure out how you feel about your current guy. If it's really just not there anymore, than why stick around? You could be missing out on a great relationship elsewhere....ie beau number two...
It would most definately hurt your main guy, that is if he found out. If you think you can ';get away with it'; if you wanna call it that, then I guess go ahead. I'll just say that if my girlfriend did that... I would probably be really hurt.
Is your dating relationship with Guy A considered ';exclusive';? If so - then you need to be upfront with him. Or, maybe get a girlfriend to double date - you with Guy A and her with Guy B. That would give you a chance to check out Mr. B a little more closely. Regardless, sounds like you and Mr. A need to have a long talk...
if it's okay with your guy then it's not cheating. it's only as innocent as he thinks it is if you're serious about having a boyfriend.
A lot of girls have been in this situation. I think you should look at it from your boyfriend's perspective. Would you want him flirting with other girls? If you don't think you would mind, then I say maybe you could be friends with this other guy. Flirt, a little. See if anything develops.
sure
Need some advice from both men and women?
I have known a guy for almost 6 years and we were just friends because I was dating someone. He has been such a great friend to me. Recently, while drinking he called me and confessed he likes me as more than a friend. I admitted that I also like him. One problem, he has a girlfriend that he has been a year. He tells me things like sometimes he thinks she is a little sketchy towards him and that I have always been truthful. He says he can't just leave a relationship because i became single. Should I wait for him to become single or am I being put on hold as a backup?Need some advice from both men and women?
I would live my life and don't put it on hold. He's not done with his girlfriend yet, no matter how sketchy the relationship is. Don't waste your time unless he is completely done with her and willing to let her go to be with you.
Otherwise it would be drama and games. You don't need that hon.Need some advice from both men and women?
Move on with your life. You are just a back up. Be careful.
u are being put on hold ..... i wouldn't wait around
You're being put on hold. Tell him you're not going to wait and see what he does. That will tell you a lot.
Ur situation sounds like mine - and I'm waiting! My guy is really worth waiting for. Urs is too, I bet.
don't put your life on hold for him. keep living your life. meet new people, go on dates, keep your options open. if he is really serious then he would have stepped up and made the choice to be with you. i think he is just venting out his frustrations with his girlfriend to you but he most likely will stay with her. waiting for him or any guy for that matter will just make you meiserable and then resentful towards him later on. dont wait for him to make up his mind sweetie cause you will end up wasting all your time and energy thinking about him being with you and then in the end, your the one that is left out in the cold. if he wants you badly enough, he won't risk losing the opportunity of you being by his side. Besides, life is too short to wait around for someone that doesn't know what they want. hope this helps!
Natalie
wow tough......well depends do u want any1 else? if no then wait btu if youve meet some1 else then go for them but if u really like this guy then wait for him
you better tell him straight about his decision... he has to make a choice.. its either his present gf or you that he confessed that he loves...
I think your relationship is very deep-rooted and should never end. But it kind of seem as though you are being put on hold. Don't take that. Tell him it is now or never. This is probably where you'd find out if that is how he wants you. As a backup.
Hope you find what you're looking for!!!!!!
I would live my life and don't put it on hold. He's not done with his girlfriend yet, no matter how sketchy the relationship is. Don't waste your time unless he is completely done with her and willing to let her go to be with you.
Otherwise it would be drama and games. You don't need that hon.Need some advice from both men and women?
Move on with your life. You are just a back up. Be careful.
u are being put on hold ..... i wouldn't wait around
You're being put on hold. Tell him you're not going to wait and see what he does. That will tell you a lot.
Ur situation sounds like mine - and I'm waiting! My guy is really worth waiting for. Urs is too, I bet.
don't put your life on hold for him. keep living your life. meet new people, go on dates, keep your options open. if he is really serious then he would have stepped up and made the choice to be with you. i think he is just venting out his frustrations with his girlfriend to you but he most likely will stay with her. waiting for him or any guy for that matter will just make you meiserable and then resentful towards him later on. dont wait for him to make up his mind sweetie cause you will end up wasting all your time and energy thinking about him being with you and then in the end, your the one that is left out in the cold. if he wants you badly enough, he won't risk losing the opportunity of you being by his side. Besides, life is too short to wait around for someone that doesn't know what they want. hope this helps!
Natalie
wow tough......well depends do u want any1 else? if no then wait btu if youve meet some1 else then go for them but if u really like this guy then wait for him
you better tell him straight about his decision... he has to make a choice.. its either his present gf or you that he confessed that he loves...
I think your relationship is very deep-rooted and should never end. But it kind of seem as though you are being put on hold. Don't take that. Tell him it is now or never. This is probably where you'd find out if that is how he wants you. As a backup.
Hope you find what you're looking for!!!!!!
Need advice from men who are dating single moms...?
Please give me your age and how long you have been dating (exclusively) the single mom you are with...
Is she wants a positive male role model in her kids life... and not just in sporadic moments..I mean day to day... how or when do you know its time to move forward and actually be that guy...
Ive been dating a man exclusively for over a year - we are both 40... we recently have talked about the possibility of him moving in with me (I own, he rents and its easier, we considered all other ways - but with my kids ages and having kids home day to day and established here - he only gets his kids one night a week and 2 weekends a month)... and his lease is up at the end of next month... but now it seems he is looking up apartments locally to him (we live an hour apart)...
I do not want to be selfish with him or put pressure on him - I really do not... I just feel I am doing a disservice to my kids having a man who I mainly see when they are not around - he maybe is with us as a family a couple times a month... and I feel like if I bring up him moving in - though we talked about it briefly - that I am putting pressure on him... however I also feel like there is pressure on me... I want my kids to have a family life with two adults in the home - they DO have a dad who sees them weekly and alternating weekends as well - but when they are home, its just us three - which is fine mostly... but today major meltdown with my son made me realize he needs a male figure in the home.. really he does, I am not trying to sound old fashioned or like I 'need' a man for my needs...)... albeit I do love my bf very much... and we get along great - ok so a few arguments now and then - but very few... .. I hate to end the relationship -- but is this where I am headed?? I mean, I know he gets what I want out of life... I know he understands what I want... and he is not moving in that direction... if I go it will seem like and ultimatum... which I do not want to give him-- I feel torn because I feel like whats best for my kids here is having a man in my life ready for the same family life I want to give them day to day... yet I honestly feel the 40 yr old bf of over a year is not ready for it (I think he is still dealing with his own emotional aftermath of his divorce) -- but I do not want to wake up and look back and say wow kids are now teenagers and look I am still dating a man who lives and hour away... (and I am not talking marriage right now - if ever..) I am talking moving in a forward direction...
Advice from the other side?Need advice from men who are dating single moms...?
Always put your children first,
Is she wants a positive male role model in her kids life... and not just in sporadic moments..I mean day to day... how or when do you know its time to move forward and actually be that guy...
Ive been dating a man exclusively for over a year - we are both 40... we recently have talked about the possibility of him moving in with me (I own, he rents and its easier, we considered all other ways - but with my kids ages and having kids home day to day and established here - he only gets his kids one night a week and 2 weekends a month)... and his lease is up at the end of next month... but now it seems he is looking up apartments locally to him (we live an hour apart)...
I do not want to be selfish with him or put pressure on him - I really do not... I just feel I am doing a disservice to my kids having a man who I mainly see when they are not around - he maybe is with us as a family a couple times a month... and I feel like if I bring up him moving in - though we talked about it briefly - that I am putting pressure on him... however I also feel like there is pressure on me... I want my kids to have a family life with two adults in the home - they DO have a dad who sees them weekly and alternating weekends as well - but when they are home, its just us three - which is fine mostly... but today major meltdown with my son made me realize he needs a male figure in the home.. really he does, I am not trying to sound old fashioned or like I 'need' a man for my needs...)... albeit I do love my bf very much... and we get along great - ok so a few arguments now and then - but very few... .. I hate to end the relationship -- but is this where I am headed?? I mean, I know he gets what I want out of life... I know he understands what I want... and he is not moving in that direction... if I go it will seem like and ultimatum... which I do not want to give him-- I feel torn because I feel like whats best for my kids here is having a man in my life ready for the same family life I want to give them day to day... yet I honestly feel the 40 yr old bf of over a year is not ready for it (I think he is still dealing with his own emotional aftermath of his divorce) -- but I do not want to wake up and look back and say wow kids are now teenagers and look I am still dating a man who lives and hour away... (and I am not talking marriage right now - if ever..) I am talking moving in a forward direction...
Advice from the other side?Need advice from men who are dating single moms...?
Always put your children first,
Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 6 months. I am very much in love with him, but he has said time and time again thatdoesn'ttt have the same intensity of feelings for me because of all the rocky times we have had in the beginning * he cheated on me, i found out and since ididn't trust him i began to nag which kinda made it hard for the first few months* now he is getting ready to move out of town and I really dont want him to go but he says he has to and not only that, he does not want me to go with him. SO here are the series of questions I have for you all
1. what are ways that I can make him want to stay or at least want me to go with him? And Is it dumb for me to try and make him stay
2. AND THIS QUESTION IS FOR MOSTLY MEN: Is it true that if you want a guy to come to know the error of his ways the best thing to do is ignore phonecalls and back off for awhile to see if they care?? and if they dont respond to that then they dont? My other issue is...what if by ignoring him it drives him away instead of pulls him in closer??
HELP! i love this person dearly but at the same time I dont want to be a fool!!
any advice would help! thanks!Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
sounds like he has made his feelings pretty clear
you are wonting to make him feel something he does not
as hard as it is move on
you need to be with someone that loves you as much as you love them
after all he cheated on you and then says he doesnt love you as much coz you nag him
move on love you can do so much better Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
If you love him let him go, if he loves you he will come back.
You sound young and this wont be your last love in life.
Don't be too serious with this guy. If he doesn't ';chase'; you find some one who will.
We all want to be loved but we don't all want to be used or made a fool of.
Only YOU give a person permission to treat you that way.
i think you are being dumb running after such a loser... there are people who like to stay with you until their deeds are hidden once those are known they feel like they are lower self... and feel kind of suffocated... so its better to leave him.. i know you love him.. but this is blindness friend.. i am sorry but this what i feel... leave him off if he really respects you he will come back... otherwise he'll indulge himself with someone else... so please try and get out of this love....
First of all, a cheater will never stop cheating, no matter how much he swears he will stop, no matter how much he says he still likes you.
Secondly, live-in situations are always bad. You are getting the house before getting married! If he's done nothing else right, this is the one good choice he's made. Don't go with him. It's as simple as that
You say you don't want to be a fool, and so this is what I say:
You'd be a fool to keep dating him. Find a better man who will NOT cheat. Select your boyfriends, don't settle, darling! God Bless!
honey, once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. besides, he's been honest with u from the start. as they say, as much as u would want to, u can never make someone stay if he doesnt want to. its a decision he has to make for himself. at least he admits to not feeling the same way u do. he's not the one. let him go. do it for him and do it for urself.
Personally, i would've said my goodbyes the minute i knew he was cheating. You shouldnt have to put up with that. No man is worth it if he cheats.
I actually understand the way you feel, something similar happened to me , except he didnt cheat.
No matter what anyone says to you about just get over him, it will never happen that way.
But it has to happen, it is obvious that he doent feel the same so yeah .
Oh no...hmmm, your husband is waiting and it's NOT this guy. He is practice for the right one. Suck it up, and remember to keep your pride in tact. BELIEVE ME, i have knowledge of this. You don't know who you are yet. You will be amazed at how this will mean nothing to you really in the near future. Move on, if he is worth it, he will come back for a while..only to leave again! And thank God because your true love is about 3 years away, don't miss him.
1. what are ways that I can make him want to stay or at least want me to go with him? And Is it dumb for me to try and make him stay
2. AND THIS QUESTION IS FOR MOSTLY MEN: Is it true that if you want a guy to come to know the error of his ways the best thing to do is ignore phonecalls and back off for awhile to see if they care?? and if they dont respond to that then they dont? My other issue is...what if by ignoring him it drives him away instead of pulls him in closer??
HELP! i love this person dearly but at the same time I dont want to be a fool!!
any advice would help! thanks!Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
sounds like he has made his feelings pretty clear
you are wonting to make him feel something he does not
as hard as it is move on
you need to be with someone that loves you as much as you love them
after all he cheated on you and then says he doesnt love you as much coz you nag him
move on love you can do so much better Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
If you love him let him go, if he loves you he will come back.
You sound young and this wont be your last love in life.
Don't be too serious with this guy. If he doesn't ';chase'; you find some one who will.
We all want to be loved but we don't all want to be used or made a fool of.
Only YOU give a person permission to treat you that way.
i think you are being dumb running after such a loser... there are people who like to stay with you until their deeds are hidden once those are known they feel like they are lower self... and feel kind of suffocated... so its better to leave him.. i know you love him.. but this is blindness friend.. i am sorry but this what i feel... leave him off if he really respects you he will come back... otherwise he'll indulge himself with someone else... so please try and get out of this love....
First of all, a cheater will never stop cheating, no matter how much he swears he will stop, no matter how much he says he still likes you.
Secondly, live-in situations are always bad. You are getting the house before getting married! If he's done nothing else right, this is the one good choice he's made. Don't go with him. It's as simple as that
You say you don't want to be a fool, and so this is what I say:
You'd be a fool to keep dating him. Find a better man who will NOT cheat. Select your boyfriends, don't settle, darling! God Bless!
honey, once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. besides, he's been honest with u from the start. as they say, as much as u would want to, u can never make someone stay if he doesnt want to. its a decision he has to make for himself. at least he admits to not feeling the same way u do. he's not the one. let him go. do it for him and do it for urself.
Personally, i would've said my goodbyes the minute i knew he was cheating. You shouldnt have to put up with that. No man is worth it if he cheats.
I actually understand the way you feel, something similar happened to me , except he didnt cheat.
No matter what anyone says to you about just get over him, it will never happen that way.
But it has to happen, it is obvious that he doent feel the same so yeah .
Oh no...hmmm, your husband is waiting and it's NOT this guy. He is practice for the right one. Suck it up, and remember to keep your pride in tact. BELIEVE ME, i have knowledge of this. You don't know who you are yet. You will be amazed at how this will mean nothing to you really in the near future. Move on, if he is worth it, he will come back for a while..only to leave again! And thank God because your true love is about 3 years away, don't miss him.
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