Please give me your age and how long you have been dating (exclusively) the single mom you are with...
Is she wants a positive male role model in her kids life... and not just in sporadic moments..I mean day to day... how or when do you know its time to move forward and actually be that guy...
Ive been dating a man exclusively for over a year - we are both 40... we recently have talked about the possibility of him moving in with me (I own, he rents and its easier, we considered all other ways - but with my kids ages and having kids home day to day and established here - he only gets his kids one night a week and 2 weekends a month)... and his lease is up at the end of next month... but now it seems he is looking up apartments locally to him (we live an hour apart)...
I do not want to be selfish with him or put pressure on him - I really do not... I just feel I am doing a disservice to my kids having a man who I mainly see when they are not around - he maybe is with us as a family a couple times a month... and I feel like if I bring up him moving in - though we talked about it briefly - that I am putting pressure on him... however I also feel like there is pressure on me... I want my kids to have a family life with two adults in the home - they DO have a dad who sees them weekly and alternating weekends as well - but when they are home, its just us three - which is fine mostly... but today major meltdown with my son made me realize he needs a male figure in the home.. really he does, I am not trying to sound old fashioned or like I 'need' a man for my needs...)... albeit I do love my bf very much... and we get along great - ok so a few arguments now and then - but very few... .. I hate to end the relationship -- but is this where I am headed?? I mean, I know he gets what I want out of life... I know he understands what I want... and he is not moving in that direction... if I go it will seem like and ultimatum... which I do not want to give him-- I feel torn because I feel like whats best for my kids here is having a man in my life ready for the same family life I want to give them day to day... yet I honestly feel the 40 yr old bf of over a year is not ready for it (I think he is still dealing with his own emotional aftermath of his divorce) -- but I do not want to wake up and look back and say wow kids are now teenagers and look I am still dating a man who lives and hour away... (and I am not talking marriage right now - if ever..) I am talking moving in a forward direction...
Advice from the other side?Need advice from men who are dating single moms...?
Always put your children first,
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 6 months. I am very much in love with him, but he has said time and time again thatdoesn'ttt have the same intensity of feelings for me because of all the rocky times we have had in the beginning * he cheated on me, i found out and since ididn't trust him i began to nag which kinda made it hard for the first few months* now he is getting ready to move out of town and I really dont want him to go but he says he has to and not only that, he does not want me to go with him. SO here are the series of questions I have for you all
1. what are ways that I can make him want to stay or at least want me to go with him? And Is it dumb for me to try and make him stay
2. AND THIS QUESTION IS FOR MOSTLY MEN: Is it true that if you want a guy to come to know the error of his ways the best thing to do is ignore phonecalls and back off for awhile to see if they care?? and if they dont respond to that then they dont? My other issue is...what if by ignoring him it drives him away instead of pulls him in closer??
HELP! i love this person dearly but at the same time I dont want to be a fool!!
any advice would help! thanks!Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
sounds like he has made his feelings pretty clear
you are wonting to make him feel something he does not
as hard as it is move on
you need to be with someone that loves you as much as you love them
after all he cheated on you and then says he doesnt love you as much coz you nag him
move on love you can do so much better Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
If you love him let him go, if he loves you he will come back.
You sound young and this wont be your last love in life.
Don't be too serious with this guy. If he doesn't ';chase'; you find some one who will.
We all want to be loved but we don't all want to be used or made a fool of.
Only YOU give a person permission to treat you that way.
i think you are being dumb running after such a loser... there are people who like to stay with you until their deeds are hidden once those are known they feel like they are lower self... and feel kind of suffocated... so its better to leave him.. i know you love him.. but this is blindness friend.. i am sorry but this what i feel... leave him off if he really respects you he will come back... otherwise he'll indulge himself with someone else... so please try and get out of this love....
First of all, a cheater will never stop cheating, no matter how much he swears he will stop, no matter how much he says he still likes you.
Secondly, live-in situations are always bad. You are getting the house before getting married! If he's done nothing else right, this is the one good choice he's made. Don't go with him. It's as simple as that
You say you don't want to be a fool, and so this is what I say:
You'd be a fool to keep dating him. Find a better man who will NOT cheat. Select your boyfriends, don't settle, darling! God Bless!
honey, once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. besides, he's been honest with u from the start. as they say, as much as u would want to, u can never make someone stay if he doesnt want to. its a decision he has to make for himself. at least he admits to not feeling the same way u do. he's not the one. let him go. do it for him and do it for urself.
Personally, i would've said my goodbyes the minute i knew he was cheating. You shouldnt have to put up with that. No man is worth it if he cheats.
I actually understand the way you feel, something similar happened to me , except he didnt cheat.
No matter what anyone says to you about just get over him, it will never happen that way.
But it has to happen, it is obvious that he doent feel the same so yeah .
Oh no...hmmm, your husband is waiting and it's NOT this guy. He is practice for the right one. Suck it up, and remember to keep your pride in tact. BELIEVE ME, i have knowledge of this. You don't know who you are yet. You will be amazed at how this will mean nothing to you really in the near future. Move on, if he is worth it, he will come back for a while..only to leave again! And thank God because your true love is about 3 years away, don't miss him.
1. what are ways that I can make him want to stay or at least want me to go with him? And Is it dumb for me to try and make him stay
2. AND THIS QUESTION IS FOR MOSTLY MEN: Is it true that if you want a guy to come to know the error of his ways the best thing to do is ignore phonecalls and back off for awhile to see if they care?? and if they dont respond to that then they dont? My other issue is...what if by ignoring him it drives him away instead of pulls him in closer??
HELP! i love this person dearly but at the same time I dont want to be a fool!!
any advice would help! thanks!Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
sounds like he has made his feelings pretty clear
you are wonting to make him feel something he does not
as hard as it is move on
you need to be with someone that loves you as much as you love them
after all he cheated on you and then says he doesnt love you as much coz you nag him
move on love you can do so much better Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
If you love him let him go, if he loves you he will come back.
You sound young and this wont be your last love in life.
Don't be too serious with this guy. If he doesn't ';chase'; you find some one who will.
We all want to be loved but we don't all want to be used or made a fool of.
Only YOU give a person permission to treat you that way.
i think you are being dumb running after such a loser... there are people who like to stay with you until their deeds are hidden once those are known they feel like they are lower self... and feel kind of suffocated... so its better to leave him.. i know you love him.. but this is blindness friend.. i am sorry but this what i feel... leave him off if he really respects you he will come back... otherwise he'll indulge himself with someone else... so please try and get out of this love....
First of all, a cheater will never stop cheating, no matter how much he swears he will stop, no matter how much he says he still likes you.
Secondly, live-in situations are always bad. You are getting the house before getting married! If he's done nothing else right, this is the one good choice he's made. Don't go with him. It's as simple as that
You say you don't want to be a fool, and so this is what I say:
You'd be a fool to keep dating him. Find a better man who will NOT cheat. Select your boyfriends, don't settle, darling! God Bless!
honey, once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. besides, he's been honest with u from the start. as they say, as much as u would want to, u can never make someone stay if he doesnt want to. its a decision he has to make for himself. at least he admits to not feeling the same way u do. he's not the one. let him go. do it for him and do it for urself.
Personally, i would've said my goodbyes the minute i knew he was cheating. You shouldnt have to put up with that. No man is worth it if he cheats.
I actually understand the way you feel, something similar happened to me , except he didnt cheat.
No matter what anyone says to you about just get over him, it will never happen that way.
But it has to happen, it is obvious that he doent feel the same so yeah .
Oh no...hmmm, your husband is waiting and it's NOT this guy. He is practice for the right one. Suck it up, and remember to keep your pride in tact. BELIEVE ME, i have knowledge of this. You don't know who you are yet. You will be amazed at how this will mean nothing to you really in the near future. Move on, if he is worth it, he will come back for a while..only to leave again! And thank God because your true love is about 3 years away, don't miss him.
Some advice on men please people!?
I have asked a similar question before, but here is some more detail.
I have been married for almost 4 years now. I was only 20 at the time, and he was 25. He has 2 children to 2 prior relationships.
We now have a child together. I believe our marriage won't last as he continues to believe I am the one with all the problems. And that there is nothing wrong with him. (We have a very rocky relationship and he is extremely verbally and emotionally abusive)
I am currently seeing a psychologist as he refuses to get counseling together. Even she says that there really isn't much future for us as he is not willing to change at all.
What do you think, should I keep trying?Some advice on men please people!?
Sorry you're in such a ';rut.'; At least you're seeking help, that's a good thing....there's nothing wrong with picking up advice that way, or even this way (through Yahoo answers, web articles, self-help books, etc). I once took marriage counseling with the belief that my ex wouldn't change, either... but the counsellor said, ';If I didn't think people could change, then I wouldn't be in this business.'; I never forgot that. So, yes.. your hubbie will change- the question is when, and how long are you willing to wait for it? Could be years and years, sweetie... then again, something drastic could suddenly happen to MAKE him change in an instant (like his tongue gets a disease or something)
Verbal and emotional abuse is the only way he knows how to solve problems or express his anger. Sad. It sucks when you're with someone who is ';dull'; in problem-solving because they'd have to be a willing student in order to learn new skills.... which it sounds like he doesn't have any desire. Guys don't like change, either... especially if they have to read or study crap. If you ever do end up solo, be sure to learn all the ';red flags'; in bad dudes prior to getting committed again!! But, nevertheless, ya'll have a kid, so it's worth trying for a little while longer: Here's my advice-
Anytime your relationship starts to turn sour or isn't ';fulfilling'; anymore, you will need to step back to the ';beginning block'; and that is YOU. Take your focus OFF of him and start investing it in YOU. The more you focus and pull on him, the more he will drift and fight- so forget it, it's a waste of energy. Go back to the girl you were when you first met him, better yet...before him. Start filling your whole schedule with fun and exciting things to do to and be so busy that you don't have the brain power to even worry about **** anymore. You have a kid, now... start doing stuff with the baby. Start a new project, ie; garden, salt-water fish tank, a new home based business, hell, even learn how to file your own taxes. Anything that will consume all of your thoughts!!! Be SO busy, that your hubbie would actually have to be ';penciled in'; to your adjenda! LOL! What will happen, is that he will notice that all of your thoughts, energy and worry on him has suddenly disappeared, yet, you're still happy and even enjoying life (which he isn't) and then his curiosity will start to focus on you and he will cut out the verbal bashing and it will change into ';so,what are you and junior doing again this weekend?'; and ';that sounds like fun, can I come along?'; And what happens is that you will end up with the control again, which gives you more bargaining power to try to ease him into actually LISTENING to you, and your concerns about him being verbally ';rough'; with you... and then he will want to begin trying to change. If not, in the meantime you are actually having a GREAT time and not sweating **** as much anymore! LOL! Trust me, ';ol stick in the mud'; will come around and become that Prince again, I promise. Just remember NOT to be rude, revengeful or untrustworthy as you're ';doing your thing,'; OK?
Good luck and have fun!! You deserve it and so does junior!! :DSome advice on men please people!?
No, I do not think you should keep trying. Not unless, you can accept unacceptable behavior. He can only change if he is willing to change. It sounds as if he is not so therefore you need to take care of yourself and your child. I know it is difficult because your lives have been somewhat melded together and you have also become a part of his other children's lives but it is possible. I'm really glad to hear that you are seeing a psychologist. You know, I think us women can come to accept many things from our husbands but any type of abuse and disrespect should never be accepted.
Good luck to you.
it sounds to me like he is the one with the problems. If he is unwilling to seek counseling with you I doubt if really cares all that much about you. Your still young, maybe you should consider getting a divorce. Although I know nothing about your relationship it seems to me that it is headed for big trouble. Are his children with you? Think of your child,please.It is always the children seem to have to suffer. By all means make sure your child's interest are looked after. He/she are your number one concern.
I don't think so, you say he his mentally and emotionally abusive, that cant be much fun for you or for your child. Why have his past relationships failed is this how he has always been and if so why is he likely to change now.
You do not want to stay with someone who is making you unhappy or could make your child think that his kind of behaviour is normal.
Good Luck
xx
well yes ... getting divorced is not so easy especially that you have a baby ... so yes i would recommend to keep trying for a while ... maybe tehre is things that you didnt try yet ... till the moments you feel that you 100% sure you cannot work things out together .. then you can divorce .. but at least you will know that you've done your best to safe your marriage ...
(NOT SHOUTIN) WHY SHOULD U KEEP TRYING WHEN HE IS NOT WILLING 2 MEET U HALFWAY. THERE IS ONLY SO MUCH U CAN DO. LET HIM KNOW THAT THE NEXT TIME HE IS VERBALLY/EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE 2 U THAT U AND YOUR BABY ARE OUT THE DOOR. U AND THE BABY DESERVE BETTER. BECAUSE YOUR CHILD WILL GROW UP THINKING THIS BEHAVIOR IS ACCEPTABLE BCUZ THIS IS WHAT HE/SHE HAS WITNESSED. IT SEEMS U HAVE DONE ALL U CAN DO, BUT IF HE'S NOT WILLING 2 TRY AND HELP HIMSELF THE BEST THING 4 U MAY BE 2 WALK AWAY
if he doesnt listen to you, then your marriage isnt really a marrigae....its dictatorship...marriages are based on equality and compromise...if he is unwilling to do so...then you better think hard if you can see yourself as his slave for the rest of your long life....because believe me you are going to have one if he doesnt change his attitude!
WELL YOU KNOW YOU REALLY CAN'T CHANGE A MAN WHO'S ALREADY SET IN HIS WAYS. I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM AND ALL AND THERE ARE KIDS INVOLVED BUT IF YOU'RE NOT HAPPY THEN YOU MIGHT HAVE TO LEAVE HIM A WOMAN CAN ONLY TAKE SO MUCH UNTIL SHE GETS FED UP ( AND YOU WILL KNOW) DID YOU KNOW THAT THERE ARE CERTAINT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE ONLY FOR A SEASON AND THERES CERTAIN PEOPLE FOR A LIFE TIME.
GOOD LUCK SWEETY!!!! AND IF YOU ARE GOD FEARING THEN PRAY O.K
Frankly, I think you chose the wrong guy. Also, anybody can notice the pattern using the given data; he marries, has a child, marriage ends, he gains custody. wash rinse repeat. I'm thinking this abuse started AFTER the child was born. He sounds like he is deliberaltely, yet cleanly trying to end the marriage, he isnt hitting you but emotional and verbal is enough to go for splitting, him refusing to see a counselor defines either his denial or a deliberate attempt to reconcile the marriage. Trust your instincts, not what he has let you believe about him and judge for yourself. Either way, I don't see much glimmer either, BUT i do see an insolent, jerk who should be .........never mind me.......hope it helps
I have been married for almost 4 years now. I was only 20 at the time, and he was 25. He has 2 children to 2 prior relationships.
We now have a child together. I believe our marriage won't last as he continues to believe I am the one with all the problems. And that there is nothing wrong with him. (We have a very rocky relationship and he is extremely verbally and emotionally abusive)
I am currently seeing a psychologist as he refuses to get counseling together. Even she says that there really isn't much future for us as he is not willing to change at all.
What do you think, should I keep trying?Some advice on men please people!?
Sorry you're in such a ';rut.'; At least you're seeking help, that's a good thing....there's nothing wrong with picking up advice that way, or even this way (through Yahoo answers, web articles, self-help books, etc). I once took marriage counseling with the belief that my ex wouldn't change, either... but the counsellor said, ';If I didn't think people could change, then I wouldn't be in this business.'; I never forgot that. So, yes.. your hubbie will change- the question is when, and how long are you willing to wait for it? Could be years and years, sweetie... then again, something drastic could suddenly happen to MAKE him change in an instant (like his tongue gets a disease or something)
Verbal and emotional abuse is the only way he knows how to solve problems or express his anger. Sad. It sucks when you're with someone who is ';dull'; in problem-solving because they'd have to be a willing student in order to learn new skills.... which it sounds like he doesn't have any desire. Guys don't like change, either... especially if they have to read or study crap. If you ever do end up solo, be sure to learn all the ';red flags'; in bad dudes prior to getting committed again!! But, nevertheless, ya'll have a kid, so it's worth trying for a little while longer: Here's my advice-
Anytime your relationship starts to turn sour or isn't ';fulfilling'; anymore, you will need to step back to the ';beginning block'; and that is YOU. Take your focus OFF of him and start investing it in YOU. The more you focus and pull on him, the more he will drift and fight- so forget it, it's a waste of energy. Go back to the girl you were when you first met him, better yet...before him. Start filling your whole schedule with fun and exciting things to do to and be so busy that you don't have the brain power to even worry about **** anymore. You have a kid, now... start doing stuff with the baby. Start a new project, ie; garden, salt-water fish tank, a new home based business, hell, even learn how to file your own taxes. Anything that will consume all of your thoughts!!! Be SO busy, that your hubbie would actually have to be ';penciled in'; to your adjenda! LOL! What will happen, is that he will notice that all of your thoughts, energy and worry on him has suddenly disappeared, yet, you're still happy and even enjoying life (which he isn't) and then his curiosity will start to focus on you and he will cut out the verbal bashing and it will change into ';so,what are you and junior doing again this weekend?'; and ';that sounds like fun, can I come along?'; And what happens is that you will end up with the control again, which gives you more bargaining power to try to ease him into actually LISTENING to you, and your concerns about him being verbally ';rough'; with you... and then he will want to begin trying to change. If not, in the meantime you are actually having a GREAT time and not sweating **** as much anymore! LOL! Trust me, ';ol stick in the mud'; will come around and become that Prince again, I promise. Just remember NOT to be rude, revengeful or untrustworthy as you're ';doing your thing,'; OK?
Good luck and have fun!! You deserve it and so does junior!! :DSome advice on men please people!?
No, I do not think you should keep trying. Not unless, you can accept unacceptable behavior. He can only change if he is willing to change. It sounds as if he is not so therefore you need to take care of yourself and your child. I know it is difficult because your lives have been somewhat melded together and you have also become a part of his other children's lives but it is possible. I'm really glad to hear that you are seeing a psychologist. You know, I think us women can come to accept many things from our husbands but any type of abuse and disrespect should never be accepted.
Good luck to you.
it sounds to me like he is the one with the problems. If he is unwilling to seek counseling with you I doubt if really cares all that much about you. Your still young, maybe you should consider getting a divorce. Although I know nothing about your relationship it seems to me that it is headed for big trouble. Are his children with you? Think of your child,please.It is always the children seem to have to suffer. By all means make sure your child's interest are looked after. He/she are your number one concern.
I don't think so, you say he his mentally and emotionally abusive, that cant be much fun for you or for your child. Why have his past relationships failed is this how he has always been and if so why is he likely to change now.
You do not want to stay with someone who is making you unhappy or could make your child think that his kind of behaviour is normal.
Good Luck
xx
well yes ... getting divorced is not so easy especially that you have a baby ... so yes i would recommend to keep trying for a while ... maybe tehre is things that you didnt try yet ... till the moments you feel that you 100% sure you cannot work things out together .. then you can divorce .. but at least you will know that you've done your best to safe your marriage ...
(NOT SHOUTIN) WHY SHOULD U KEEP TRYING WHEN HE IS NOT WILLING 2 MEET U HALFWAY. THERE IS ONLY SO MUCH U CAN DO. LET HIM KNOW THAT THE NEXT TIME HE IS VERBALLY/EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE 2 U THAT U AND YOUR BABY ARE OUT THE DOOR. U AND THE BABY DESERVE BETTER. BECAUSE YOUR CHILD WILL GROW UP THINKING THIS BEHAVIOR IS ACCEPTABLE BCUZ THIS IS WHAT HE/SHE HAS WITNESSED. IT SEEMS U HAVE DONE ALL U CAN DO, BUT IF HE'S NOT WILLING 2 TRY AND HELP HIMSELF THE BEST THING 4 U MAY BE 2 WALK AWAY
if he doesnt listen to you, then your marriage isnt really a marrigae....its dictatorship...marriages are based on equality and compromise...if he is unwilling to do so...then you better think hard if you can see yourself as his slave for the rest of your long life....because believe me you are going to have one if he doesnt change his attitude!
WELL YOU KNOW YOU REALLY CAN'T CHANGE A MAN WHO'S ALREADY SET IN HIS WAYS. I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM AND ALL AND THERE ARE KIDS INVOLVED BUT IF YOU'RE NOT HAPPY THEN YOU MIGHT HAVE TO LEAVE HIM A WOMAN CAN ONLY TAKE SO MUCH UNTIL SHE GETS FED UP ( AND YOU WILL KNOW) DID YOU KNOW THAT THERE ARE CERTAINT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE ONLY FOR A SEASON AND THERES CERTAIN PEOPLE FOR A LIFE TIME.
GOOD LUCK SWEETY!!!! AND IF YOU ARE GOD FEARING THEN PRAY O.K
Frankly, I think you chose the wrong guy. Also, anybody can notice the pattern using the given data; he marries, has a child, marriage ends, he gains custody. wash rinse repeat. I'm thinking this abuse started AFTER the child was born. He sounds like he is deliberaltely, yet cleanly trying to end the marriage, he isnt hitting you but emotional and verbal is enough to go for splitting, him refusing to see a counselor defines either his denial or a deliberate attempt to reconcile the marriage. Trust your instincts, not what he has let you believe about him and judge for yourself. Either way, I don't see much glimmer either, BUT i do see an insolent, jerk who should be .........never mind me.......hope it helps
Ladies advice please...men feel free to answer as well.?
I just made 6 months with my bf. I am having serious issues at home..which have been occuring for some time now. I am looking for someone to live with, and i have considered asking my bf to move in with him.(he knows that i want to move out) I dont think it would be a problem. I just would like your advice on if you think its alright for me to move in with him? the only thing i wonder is if he would prevent me from going to lounges/clubs like ive been doing as im living at home.(He doesnt like this bc he thinks i will hook up with someone else). He works with promoters so he is busy mainly at night. Do you think it would be alright to live with him?Ladies advice please...men feel free to answer as well.?
It all depends on the strength of your relationship, which I feel needs to be questioned by your sentence, ';he would prevent me from going to lounges/clubs like ive been doing as im living at home.(He doesnt like this bc he thinks i will hook up with someone else).'; Firstly this says there are trust issues - why does he think you will hook up with someone else? Whatever it is, he doesn't trust you. That is not a good basis for any relationship. All relationships - between lovers, friends, family, colleagues - rely on trust as their base. It sounds like this relationship is not strong enough yet for you to move in with him. It may put more pressure on you both. I say, move out, but get a place with other people, or friends, and enjoy your newfound independence, and see how your relationship goes for another year before thinking about moving in with him.Ladies advice please...men feel free to answer as well.?
in my opinion it not a good idea at all. even though he is a nice guy and he not going to do anything to u but other people might misunderstand u. so try to fix ur family problem first. if it not work out than ask one of ur gf to stay with for a while.
He sounds possesive. Sounds like you might be looking for security. I foresee big problems.bright makeup
It all depends on the strength of your relationship, which I feel needs to be questioned by your sentence, ';he would prevent me from going to lounges/clubs like ive been doing as im living at home.(He doesnt like this bc he thinks i will hook up with someone else).'; Firstly this says there are trust issues - why does he think you will hook up with someone else? Whatever it is, he doesn't trust you. That is not a good basis for any relationship. All relationships - between lovers, friends, family, colleagues - rely on trust as their base. It sounds like this relationship is not strong enough yet for you to move in with him. It may put more pressure on you both. I say, move out, but get a place with other people, or friends, and enjoy your newfound independence, and see how your relationship goes for another year before thinking about moving in with him.Ladies advice please...men feel free to answer as well.?
in my opinion it not a good idea at all. even though he is a nice guy and he not going to do anything to u but other people might misunderstand u. so try to fix ur family problem first. if it not work out than ask one of ur gf to stay with for a while.
He sounds possesive. Sounds like you might be looking for security. I foresee big problems.
Need advice about men what should i do?
Hiya, i just want a some advice really. Im 20 and ive never been in aserious long term relationship, ive dated guys for a month at a time, the only guy i ever actualy liked ended up screwin me over, and i didnt feel a spark with the other guys so i ended the others. Im quite attractive i would say, i get alota guys asking for my number and get alot of guys smiling at me etc but girls u know what its like you dont give a random guy of the street shouting 'oi can i talk to you whats ur number!' ya number do ya! lol Im also the kinda girl that takes awhile to get to know, not that im shy coz believe me im pretty blunt, but it takes a while to get to know my heart. Is it a case of being paitent and waiting for a nice guy to come my way, or should i get more pro-active? thanksNeed advice about men what should i do?
Well babes, you seem to be pretty proactive in getting the Guy department......maybe you should calm down a bit, what hobbies
do you have ? if none , get some,? I not know where you live but
enjoy yourself first.. figure out what you like..even Skating, 'Ballroom Dancing, Swimming,Bingo,Choir singing, Bell Ringing (I have just taken
this up ! great.we end up at the Pub !) anything to find yourself and
be content with you !! then let a guy in .... it worked for me good luck ! ..Need advice about men what should i do?
Nice guys are everywhere.
Well babes, you seem to be pretty proactive in getting the Guy department......maybe you should calm down a bit, what hobbies
do you have ? if none , get some,? I not know where you live but
enjoy yourself first.. figure out what you like..even Skating, 'Ballroom Dancing, Swimming,Bingo,Choir singing, Bell Ringing (I have just taken
this up ! great.we end up at the Pub !) anything to find yourself and
be content with you !! then let a guy in .... it worked for me good luck ! ..Need advice about men what should i do?
Nice guys are everywhere.
I wanna get advice about men from REAL men, so boys will you please help me out?
1) Any advice about how a woman should treat a man( in general)?
2)what would you do if a girl showed too much attention and intrest in you? (mention if you like her and if you don't like her)
3)What are the BIGGEST mistakes that girls do around boys?
4)What are the qualities that most girls lack?
5)what are the qualities that you appreciate the most in a woman?
6)would you rather like a feisty, energetic woman , or an over calm and timid woman?
7)Why do men like women so much?!!
8)what are the warnning signs for a girl to be able to distinguish a great man from a terrible one??
9)what do you think of women who hate kids or can't tolerate them?
10)what do you think of women who have a very hot temper?
11)is it that even good dudes think about sex all the time or not?
i know i have a lot of questions but thanks to all the dudes who will the time to answer them.I wanna get advice about men from REAL men, so boys will you please help me out?
1)A woman should treat a man, in general, the way she would want to be treated.
2)If she showed a lot of attention and I liked her, I would probably ask her out yo. :] If I didn't like her, I'd most likely avoid her in hopes that she'll get the message and the crush will die out.
3)I think the biggest mistake a girl could do around boys is to flirt with a guy right infront of another guy that she recently flirted with. Also, if he likes her, she should never talk about her exs or what she's done in the past, sexually.
4)Qualities that most girls lack are.. qualities. Most girls I meet are usually no different from the other when it comes to their hobbies and what they like to do. Personality, character, etc etc
5)I appreciate all the feminine qualities that make her a woman, as well as her having hobbies and interests. Cooking is one attractive skill, by the way. :]
6)Over calm and timid
7)Uhh what else is there? Sorry :(
8)No idea
9)Boo :( I might want kids someday, ya know..
10)My brother is a hot head and it is not pleasant to live with him sometimes. Chill or gtfo please (I mean that in the kindest way). :(
11)No idea
Hope I helpedI wanna get advice about men from REAL men, so boys will you please help me out?
the answer to most of your questions is just be yourself there is a guy that likes who you are so just be who you are if a guy don't like a lot of attention and you like to show a lot then he is not for you. Some guys are turned on by hot temper women so don't hide it be real. This advice is for when you get serious about wanting the guy for yourself.
i'm a chick so i can't really answer but i reckon you put up some good questions
1)Usually with some respect to a certain point. And treat them as you would like to be treated as well.
2)If I like her I would give her a chance to know her.
But if I didn't I would be less likely to attempt to know her as much. I'll probably move more into a friend-zone only or maybe just an acquitance.
3)Start of being really rude when a guy says hi, or trys to introduce themselves.
4)For some, a sense of stability at times.(Like when some make a choice and regretted it it takes them a long time to gte back on track). Self-Respect, determination.
5)When she is daring, benevolent(Kind hearted), independence,diligence(Hard-Working).
6)Personally I like either energetic or timid woman.
7)One of the reasons is that it's a part of human nature.
Another is to know the mystery of girls.
Then it could be we enjoy your company.
Etc...
8)The way a guy would treat many women.(Usually disrepectful,not showing much kindness, too agressive,unwilliness to help at all) are signs of a terrible man at times but you have to be able to find some other signs. A great man usually has respect,concern, helpful at times when it's necessary(Not like in a submissive way), and pretty much someone you can see that he wil have a good future.
9)That's their preference but I know that she won't be a good mother if she ever decides to have a family unless she changes her opinion.
10)Not really someone I would be around with because she may snap at the smallest things that will may a hard time to be with.(Possibly may need some anger management classes).
11)Regardless or not, some dudes will think about sex a few times but there is a limit. If the dude is extremely obessive about sex that he can't control his urges, then it may lead to some problems later on.
It was my pleasure to answer these. I hope this will help you.
2)what would you do if a girl showed too much attention and intrest in you? (mention if you like her and if you don't like her)
3)What are the BIGGEST mistakes that girls do around boys?
4)What are the qualities that most girls lack?
5)what are the qualities that you appreciate the most in a woman?
6)would you rather like a feisty, energetic woman , or an over calm and timid woman?
7)Why do men like women so much?!!
8)what are the warnning signs for a girl to be able to distinguish a great man from a terrible one??
9)what do you think of women who hate kids or can't tolerate them?
10)what do you think of women who have a very hot temper?
11)is it that even good dudes think about sex all the time or not?
i know i have a lot of questions but thanks to all the dudes who will the time to answer them.I wanna get advice about men from REAL men, so boys will you please help me out?
1)A woman should treat a man, in general, the way she would want to be treated.
2)If she showed a lot of attention and I liked her, I would probably ask her out yo. :] If I didn't like her, I'd most likely avoid her in hopes that she'll get the message and the crush will die out.
3)I think the biggest mistake a girl could do around boys is to flirt with a guy right infront of another guy that she recently flirted with. Also, if he likes her, she should never talk about her exs or what she's done in the past, sexually.
4)Qualities that most girls lack are.. qualities. Most girls I meet are usually no different from the other when it comes to their hobbies and what they like to do. Personality, character, etc etc
5)I appreciate all the feminine qualities that make her a woman, as well as her having hobbies and interests. Cooking is one attractive skill, by the way. :]
6)Over calm and timid
7)Uhh what else is there? Sorry :(
8)No idea
9)Boo :( I might want kids someday, ya know..
10)My brother is a hot head and it is not pleasant to live with him sometimes. Chill or gtfo please (I mean that in the kindest way). :(
11)No idea
Hope I helpedI wanna get advice about men from REAL men, so boys will you please help me out?
the answer to most of your questions is just be yourself there is a guy that likes who you are so just be who you are if a guy don't like a lot of attention and you like to show a lot then he is not for you. Some guys are turned on by hot temper women so don't hide it be real. This advice is for when you get serious about wanting the guy for yourself.
i'm a chick so i can't really answer but i reckon you put up some good questions
1)Usually with some respect to a certain point. And treat them as you would like to be treated as well.
2)If I like her I would give her a chance to know her.
But if I didn't I would be less likely to attempt to know her as much. I'll probably move more into a friend-zone only or maybe just an acquitance.
3)Start of being really rude when a guy says hi, or trys to introduce themselves.
4)For some, a sense of stability at times.(Like when some make a choice and regretted it it takes them a long time to gte back on track). Self-Respect, determination.
5)When she is daring, benevolent(Kind hearted), independence,diligence(Hard-Working).
6)Personally I like either energetic or timid woman.
7)One of the reasons is that it's a part of human nature.
Another is to know the mystery of girls.
Then it could be we enjoy your company.
Etc...
8)The way a guy would treat many women.(Usually disrepectful,not showing much kindness, too agressive,unwilliness to help at all) are signs of a terrible man at times but you have to be able to find some other signs. A great man usually has respect,concern, helpful at times when it's necessary(Not like in a submissive way), and pretty much someone you can see that he wil have a good future.
9)That's their preference but I know that she won't be a good mother if she ever decides to have a family unless she changes her opinion.
10)Not really someone I would be around with because she may snap at the smallest things that will may a hard time to be with.(Possibly may need some anger management classes).
11)Regardless or not, some dudes will think about sex a few times but there is a limit. If the dude is extremely obessive about sex that he can't control his urges, then it may lead to some problems later on.
It was my pleasure to answer these. I hope this will help you.
Need advice from men please?
Hi
What does it mean if you are with your girlfriend of a year and you drive past your first love for whom you obviously have very high regard and fond memories of.
Me and my boyfriend drove past his first love the other day and he made a point of telling me that was her and what she did and that she had just been in the local paper for winning some award. They both waved and smiled at each other. I dont think there is anything going on, but could he still have feelings for her. They seperated nearly 15 years ago and he did pine for her a lot and still tried to get back with her for a long long time. They eventually lost touch when she moved away and only realised she was married a few years ago. She moved back and Im worried he might get all his old feelings back for her. What do you think?
Also why did he have to point her out to me. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. Please advice me. They are likely to bump into each other regularly cos it is a small town but she seems to work out of town a lot.Need advice from men please?
From a guy's point of view-don't worry about it. She was probably his first love. They are hard to forget. I still remember my first love, and it was over 30 years ago. He loves you, or he wouldn't be with you for a year. Make your own fond memories, and love him with all your heart, and he'll love you more. He just didn't use to well of good judgement by pointing her out to you the way he did. Be patient, and remember your first love. Everything will be okay. Good luck!!Need advice from men please?
first love is for keeps.though they have moved on in life,but cant say if they will meet in private.it all depends on how you handle this situation.
why dont you ask your husband to bring her around for lunch and find out more about her(if she is married/have a steady boy friend)so that you can make decisions.
People can never forget first love. It is reality. But you should not be so worried. If she have feeling for u then u should clearly talk her. It is better for u to take her in a park and say every think which are hidden in your mind. In this way you can satisfy.
must mean he feels comfortable telling it to you, don't worry about it at all, hes moved on so have you, he wont get 'old feelings back' if they bump into each other it will be a hello nothing more nothing less.
First loves last. People remember and cherish them. Don't panic. They have both moved on.
You don't have fond memories of your first love? its a memory and she's married
I wouldn't worry just yet. If you start seeing signs of him withdrawing from you emotionally, or spending more time than usual away from you, or you start finding text messages, emails, phone messages, things like that between them, then you should worry.
And if those things start to happen, you should contact her spouse and bring him what evidence you have (don't do this unless you have REAL evidence) and then both of you confront them together.
It seems like you're a very long way from any of that though.
What you should do is sit down with him now and talk to him about all this. Tell him your concerns and listen to what he says.
And don't turn all jealous and suspicious unless he starts showing signs that something's going on. Just go on with life as usual, talk to him about this, and don't worry unless you have real reason to.
When you have a first love, they tend to stay in your memories forever and the memories themselves would have been very memorable. But she is married now and YOU are the one going out with him. Keep that in mind. To tell the truth I still have something for this lass in Yorkshire but I no it would be a long distance relationship and also that she now has a boyfriend. Sometimes you have to let it go like I have- it's hard but if you don't then what chance do you have with anyone else. If he truly felt something for her still then he would have gone to find her when she first left. He is probably just remembering his memories. :)
What does it mean if you are with your girlfriend of a year and you drive past your first love for whom you obviously have very high regard and fond memories of.
Me and my boyfriend drove past his first love the other day and he made a point of telling me that was her and what she did and that she had just been in the local paper for winning some award. They both waved and smiled at each other. I dont think there is anything going on, but could he still have feelings for her. They seperated nearly 15 years ago and he did pine for her a lot and still tried to get back with her for a long long time. They eventually lost touch when she moved away and only realised she was married a few years ago. She moved back and Im worried he might get all his old feelings back for her. What do you think?
Also why did he have to point her out to me. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. Please advice me. They are likely to bump into each other regularly cos it is a small town but she seems to work out of town a lot.Need advice from men please?
From a guy's point of view-don't worry about it. She was probably his first love. They are hard to forget. I still remember my first love, and it was over 30 years ago. He loves you, or he wouldn't be with you for a year. Make your own fond memories, and love him with all your heart, and he'll love you more. He just didn't use to well of good judgement by pointing her out to you the way he did. Be patient, and remember your first love. Everything will be okay. Good luck!!Need advice from men please?
first love is for keeps.though they have moved on in life,but cant say if they will meet in private.it all depends on how you handle this situation.
why dont you ask your husband to bring her around for lunch and find out more about her(if she is married/have a steady boy friend)so that you can make decisions.
People can never forget first love. It is reality. But you should not be so worried. If she have feeling for u then u should clearly talk her. It is better for u to take her in a park and say every think which are hidden in your mind. In this way you can satisfy.
must mean he feels comfortable telling it to you, don't worry about it at all, hes moved on so have you, he wont get 'old feelings back' if they bump into each other it will be a hello nothing more nothing less.
First loves last. People remember and cherish them. Don't panic. They have both moved on.
You don't have fond memories of your first love? its a memory and she's married
I wouldn't worry just yet. If you start seeing signs of him withdrawing from you emotionally, or spending more time than usual away from you, or you start finding text messages, emails, phone messages, things like that between them, then you should worry.
And if those things start to happen, you should contact her spouse and bring him what evidence you have (don't do this unless you have REAL evidence) and then both of you confront them together.
It seems like you're a very long way from any of that though.
What you should do is sit down with him now and talk to him about all this. Tell him your concerns and listen to what he says.
And don't turn all jealous and suspicious unless he starts showing signs that something's going on. Just go on with life as usual, talk to him about this, and don't worry unless you have real reason to.
When you have a first love, they tend to stay in your memories forever and the memories themselves would have been very memorable. But she is married now and YOU are the one going out with him. Keep that in mind. To tell the truth I still have something for this lass in Yorkshire but I no it would be a long distance relationship and also that she now has a boyfriend. Sometimes you have to let it go like I have- it's hard but if you don't then what chance do you have with anyone else. If he truly felt something for her still then he would have gone to find her when she first left. He is probably just remembering his memories. :)
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