I am planning on marrying someone from Nigeria (lives in UK) and I am from America. I have already read the negative stereotypes and information (multiple wives, controlling/possessive). Is there any information or support groups out there to make sure I am making the right choice and will not get hurt in the end. I want to love and trust him but I my safety is important too.Soon to marry a Nigerian man...need advice and support?
Make sure you are not being a victim of a scam. If you are asking for advice, most likely deep inside you don't trust him, and sometimes it's best to listen to what your gut feeling tells you.Soon to marry a Nigerian man...need advice and support?
Are you saying that this is a correspondence/online relationship with him living in the UK and you living in America? Have the two of you spent much face-to-face time together? If not, then marriage plans are premature. Is he pushing to get married before you are ready? Then ask yourself why. The fact that you are asking total strangers for advice indicates that you have doubts about the wisdom of marrying this man. Follow your instincts鈥攜ou are not ready to marry this man!
Stereotypes are stereotypes. You should really judge people individually. Since you're about to get married I would assume you've known him for a long time. If you do then you should know who he is whether he's a nice guy or a rude guy. If you accept the engagement ring that means you really like him. If he has never treated you badly from the time you've been together, it's unlikely he'll treat you badly after marriage.
Know the person you plan to marry BEFORE you marry him. Relationships are 50/50.. it either works out or it doesnt. I suggest you live with someone you plan to marry for at least 6 weeks before you marry him. Makes things easier I believe.
Stereotypes dont apply to everyone, mind you.
Don't marry someone that you don't know!!!
Just make sure that he is white. If not, you can kiss your azz goodbye!
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