I just didn't look at other guys anymore. I used to have a major thing for Antonio Banderas, but now I don't care about him at all. I don't even have a desire to check other guys out. And after almost three years together (married five months), I still get short of breath when he walks into a room.Men and women advice- how do you know you are in love? women ? men?
your heart will tell you
no body can advise you
if you still need advise then you are not in love
so easyMen and women advice- how do you know you are in love? women ? men?
Because the person is EVERYTHING to you in your life, you couldnt live without them-seriously. You would die for them if needed, you put them before your own needs, their happiness is most important, you think of them 24/7, you want to be with them 24/7. I could go on but Ill save space
This may sound strange and kind of silly, but the way I determined whether or not a woman was relationship material was if I could see myself spending the entire day with her at Disneyland! I know it sounds ridiculous, but it's true. Reason being is that most of the women I dated were lots of fun to go out to dinner with, have cocktails with, and sleep with! But if I could honestly see myself spending the ENTIRE DAY with them at Disneyland, going on rides, eating carnival food, holding hands, smiling at families, eating hamburgers in some coffee shop at 1am, and then giving each other foot rubs when we got back to her place or my place, then I knew there was long term potential! So ultimately I wouldn't even ASK a woman to go with me to Disneyland unless I had strong feelings for her. I know I know, sounds ridiculous! But it's true!
FYI: My wife and I went to Disneyland for our 2nd date!
When you don't have to ask how to tell you're in love. You just know.
Its like utopia haha. Ok really, you just know.
I know because I can feel it in my gut, almost like I want to vomit. (sounds degusting huh?) But at the same time I think its when you also trust and respect the other person.
Otherwise love gets confused with lust, or infatuation. Both come out looking more like obsession with a person than love. The ';I can't live with out them';, or ';They make me complete, with out them I would be nothing';. When people think like that I view it as infactuation not love. They are not in love with the other person, they are in love with how that other person makes them feel about themselves. Thus the need and bad self esteem....
Monday, August 23, 2010
What do you think on his advice on men's fashion?
meh, he's off a little with almost everything... and the quality of the videos suckoily skin
Fashionable men's overcoat advice?
I want to buy a Christmas gift of a nice overcoat, the type you wear over a suit or dressy clothes. It should look good for a young guy, not too old fashioned looking, yet not too trendy.
with link or website suggestion?Fashionable men's overcoat advice?
Camel's hair....classic and very expensive looking.
with link or website suggestion?Fashionable men's overcoat advice?
Camel's hair....classic and very expensive looking.
Can women and gay men give each other sex advice?
Me and a female friend of mine are always talking to each other about our boyfriends, and we do talk about and sometimes give advice about things like sex and other stuff, some people think its weird, but I think it is ok, not sure though..Can women and gay men give each other sex advice?
Yes. It's especially helpful for women to get advice from gay men. Since they are men with the same exact equipment as straight guys they can give us women very valuable advice on how to work it. Gay men also give us information on how men think. Women probably have a little less to offer to gay men advice-wise except for some insights on the emotional aspects of relationships.Can women and gay men give each other sex advice?
I have women friends who actively seek me out for advice about their husbands, boyfriends and dates. And this is not just a recent development, but has been going on for more than 35 years.
They can and many do.
As a general rule- yes.
Hetereosexual men (stereotypically) tend to exaggerate and brag about sex, but when it really comes down to it, they have absolutely no clue how to please their partners. They may THINK they know, but they don't. And too, they don't want to hear anything about- and are hurt by the mere thought of- possible inadequacies.
Women and gay men (again stereotypically) tend to be more sensitive to their partners' needs.
Of course I've learned ALL guys, regardless of orientation, never learned how to use a ruler.
I say as long as the advice is working out for the both of you for the most part, then there isn't any problem in it :)
Don't worry about!
Of course!!!
;)
Of course they can.
Why not? one of my closest friends comes to me to ask me for advice on guys she's interested in. she's told me stories and asked for sex advice... So yeah and it's not a bad thing. Not everyone is that way though...
Well of course! Like-minded individuals usually compare notes!
If the two of you are that open enough with each other to discuss sex, then I think helping each other is great. Alway nice to try things you may not have thought about.
I have, and still do, talk to one female friend but the advice or conversation ends at the more detailed parts of sex. And it probably should. That's when it would be easier to talk to my doctor, a councilor or maybe my best male friend. In general people don't talk about sex, if you find someone anyone who does, it usually is a good thing ... I say ';usually'; because your friend maybe seeking more than just your friendship though that type of intimate conversation ...maybe..
Yes. It's especially helpful for women to get advice from gay men. Since they are men with the same exact equipment as straight guys they can give us women very valuable advice on how to work it. Gay men also give us information on how men think. Women probably have a little less to offer to gay men advice-wise except for some insights on the emotional aspects of relationships.Can women and gay men give each other sex advice?
I have women friends who actively seek me out for advice about their husbands, boyfriends and dates. And this is not just a recent development, but has been going on for more than 35 years.
They can and many do.
As a general rule- yes.
Hetereosexual men (stereotypically) tend to exaggerate and brag about sex, but when it really comes down to it, they have absolutely no clue how to please their partners. They may THINK they know, but they don't. And too, they don't want to hear anything about- and are hurt by the mere thought of- possible inadequacies.
Women and gay men (again stereotypically) tend to be more sensitive to their partners' needs.
Of course I've learned ALL guys, regardless of orientation, never learned how to use a ruler.
I say as long as the advice is working out for the both of you for the most part, then there isn't any problem in it :)
Don't worry about!
Of course!!!
;)
Of course they can.
Why not? one of my closest friends comes to me to ask me for advice on guys she's interested in. she's told me stories and asked for sex advice... So yeah and it's not a bad thing. Not everyone is that way though...
Well of course! Like-minded individuals usually compare notes!
If the two of you are that open enough with each other to discuss sex, then I think helping each other is great. Alway nice to try things you may not have thought about.
I have, and still do, talk to one female friend but the advice or conversation ends at the more detailed parts of sex. And it probably should. That's when it would be easier to talk to my doctor, a councilor or maybe my best male friend. In general people don't talk about sex, if you find someone anyone who does, it usually is a good thing ... I say ';usually'; because your friend maybe seeking more than just your friendship though that type of intimate conversation ...maybe..
I need advice on men please! =[?
well ive had this relationship for a while, and hes the nicest guy ever! but when we get on the phone he never talks! and when i asked him a question he kept saying ';what?'; cuz i dont talk slow :(. but not only that, he had a bad day at sport practice and when we both got online he totally ignored me! what do i do? he wont even talk to me:(I need advice on men please! =[?
Wait for him to talk to you, don't seem too eager if he's the right one for you then he'll come drag you off your feet ;-)I need advice on men please! =[?
1. Guys generally aren't phone people. Never were, never will be. Sure, you'll get the odd guy who likes talking on the phone (aka my boyfriend, who is currently going to another university, and calls me EXACTLY 8x a day, for 30min conversations each time-----and IM NOT a phone person!!!)
This may seem sterotypical, and im sorry, but most gay guys are phone talkers, or just talkers in general. However, these guys (phone yappers) are not the majority.
2. He's probably saying ';what'; because you're talking fast, and the poor guys mind just cant keep up.
3. Guys dont like to talk about their feelings. They'd rather sit there, mull in it, and not let anyone know. It does not matter how close to them you are, they still feel that they have to give off a macho image, and not show ';weakness';----even things as silly as ';im not in a good mood because I had a bad day.';
Unless he ignores you or seems very detached normally or when you are physically togeter, i wouldnt worry about it.
1. You need to slow down and make sure others can hear what your saying.
2. Give him some space, he might feel that you are over crowding him and don't want to talk about it at the time. He will tell you what's wrong when he is ready. Just give him some space and he'll come through.
3. In the mean time try to be supporting of anything he does (ie. go to his practices) do random acts of kindness
:) good luck
Talk to him about. Don't jump into conclusions. Some people aren't good at talking on the phone or aim. Trust me. Lol
If this bothers you, talk to him.
Stop trying to talk to himl; ignore him.
You might be coming across as a pest/needy person.
just give him alil space to do his own thing without buggin.
Wait for him to talk to you, don't seem too eager if he's the right one for you then he'll come drag you off your feet ;-)I need advice on men please! =[?
1. Guys generally aren't phone people. Never were, never will be. Sure, you'll get the odd guy who likes talking on the phone (aka my boyfriend, who is currently going to another university, and calls me EXACTLY 8x a day, for 30min conversations each time-----and IM NOT a phone person!!!)
This may seem sterotypical, and im sorry, but most gay guys are phone talkers, or just talkers in general. However, these guys (phone yappers) are not the majority.
2. He's probably saying ';what'; because you're talking fast, and the poor guys mind just cant keep up.
3. Guys dont like to talk about their feelings. They'd rather sit there, mull in it, and not let anyone know. It does not matter how close to them you are, they still feel that they have to give off a macho image, and not show ';weakness';----even things as silly as ';im not in a good mood because I had a bad day.';
Unless he ignores you or seems very detached normally or when you are physically togeter, i wouldnt worry about it.
1. You need to slow down and make sure others can hear what your saying.
2. Give him some space, he might feel that you are over crowding him and don't want to talk about it at the time. He will tell you what's wrong when he is ready. Just give him some space and he'll come through.
3. In the mean time try to be supporting of anything he does (ie. go to his practices) do random acts of kindness
:) good luck
Talk to him about. Don't jump into conclusions. Some people aren't good at talking on the phone or aim. Trust me. Lol
If this bothers you, talk to him.
Stop trying to talk to himl; ignore him.
You might be coming across as a pest/needy person.
just give him alil space to do his own thing without buggin.
I need advice from men and women on this. It's a VERY serious situation please help..?
Hi everyone! I have a friend that is desperate for advice. She's 15. She's a gorgeous girl, and im not just saying that. She has liked this guy for quite a while! When we were younger he was like her dream guy lol :). Anyway, she met him one day she was walking down the street by his house. He introduced himself and was being a complete gentlemen. They set up a date to hang at the park. That day he let her know he was 20. I couldn't believe it! The guy looks like he's about 17 or 18. But yea, he's 20. She quickly told me about this, and is sad because he's such a great guy to her but the age difference is a problem. Although she said he was a sweet guy and she wants a relationship with him, she showed me some of the texts he sent her on her phone. A couple times already, he has brought up the ';sex'; subject. Things like ';i want you in bed';. She's worried that he just wants her for sex and NOT a relationship. What should i tell her?! I don't want to give her the wrong advice...I need advice from men and women on this. It's a VERY serious situation please help..?
Hey! Well, I understand your dilemma...the thing is that you have to be the one to give her the bad news...The guy in his 20s...I'd say he is into her for sex. Guys at that age are usually very interested in not just sex, but having it with as many women as possible. And to get it, they devise various ways and one of them is being a gentleman, completely charming the girl into giving it up and then once they do, the guys move on. I don't want that to happen to your friend.
The thing is also that girls at 15 are very gullible (because they are mostly inexperienced and have not yet been badly burnt by guys to realize their game) and are thus great targets for guys like the one in question. Usually, I would say that age doesn't really matter, but at that age, it does...there is a great difference in experience - he has them, she doesn't and it will probably end bad.
So, my advice (aka you should tell her this):
While she doesn't have to stay away from him and ignore him (as I could be wrong about this guy and he may be very nice), she should definitely tell him that she doesn't intend to sleep with him anytime soon and he is better off looking for that somewhere else. And then see how he reacts...if I am right about him, he will most likely break all (or most) contacts with her, at which point she should forget him. If I am wrong, he might just say OK at which point she should give him a chance, but stay true to herself (aka not do anything that she doesn't want to).
Hopefully it works out well!I need advice from men and women on this. It's a VERY serious situation please help..?
Regardless of what she wants, getting involved with this guy is against the law. She is under the age of legal consent (18) and if they were to become involved, he could face charges. She either needs to wait until she's 18 or find someone under the age of 18.
Sex is not an issue...there doesn't need to be sex involved for this guy to get into a lot of trouble.
No sex! Just see how long he waits, if he's around 1/2 a year and hasn't left because of that, maybe its real. Don't focus on the sex...yes I know thats hard, see what he does then.
Your friend should stay away from him. No 15 year ole girl should be dealing with a 20 year old guy. If a guy that age approached my daughter, who is 15, he would be in jail. The fact that he's mentioning sex to her can land him in jail.
It's you dude.
This does not sound good. Tell her to move on before she gets in trouble.
Tell her not to give him any. If he sticks around, he's worth having. If he doesn't, then he just wanted to use her for sex.
Your friend's ';dream guy'; is a wannabe rapist. He is planning a statutory rape if not a forcible one. Tell your friend to stay away because any 20 yo that asks a 15 yo for sex isn't looking for a ';relationship.';
too
many
details
She should avoid him like the plague. He has made it very clear what he wants and it is NOT a nice relationship. He is bad news. I hope she doesn't make a serious mistake and ruin her life.
Does he know how young she is? She needs to make it clear to him and stay away from him. He would be breaking the law contacting her in a sexual manner, so it's likely he doesn't know (or is stupid if he does know).
They need to go their separate ways...she's not ready to be dating a grown man, and he could go to jail for it.
she don't need to get mixed in with him, its going to end in heartache.
She should be worried about a 20yr. old guy trying to
seduce a 15 yr. old girl...He is very foolish %26amp; immature...
Tell her to run for the hills. No twenty year-old guy should be hitting on a fiften year-old girl. EVER. There's way too much of an age and maturity difference there. Tell her to hold out for a guy who's a lot closer to her age.
Also, even if she's not planning on sleeping with him, it's clearly on his agenda. It's only going to get worse.
tell her that this teenager (20) is a liar . and he uses her until he gets her in bed , and if he was interested in her , he should treat her with some respect , and to take care of her feelings , and not to send her such these nasty texts . you should also tell her that she is still too young to discover who is good guy an who is bad guy , so she must listen to the older friends and take their advice seriously . and that's for her good .
Seeing as he is 20 he's sexually active obviously and will try to sleep with your friend who is clearly not ready so tell her to move on. No complete gentleman would tell a 15 year old girl '; i want you in bed';.
one word PEDOPHILE
call the cops
you shouldn't have to
be bothered by prevs like that
your only 15.....the texts speak
for themselves.......
If he knows she's 15 then really HE SHOULD NOT BE suggesting that they have sex. He could go to JAIL!!
She shouldn't go there.
Girl as an older women (21yrs) to you and your mate.He should respect her and wait til she's 16.Men have a tendancy to be really nice to women when they want sex.They show us with compliments.They make us think that they are too nice to be the sex hungry beasts they are.
I really don't want your friend to be rushed into anything too soon.loosing your virginity to the wrong man will haunt you for life. BE WISE!!
If he's really a nice guy then make him wait.
Well she should say these words to him ';statatory rape of a underage minor is about I think 15 yrs'; If he doesn't run away from that faster than a roadrunner, he's a complete idiot and needs to have his sorry *** turned into the cops. Honestly, for her safety she should talk to her parents about this or show the police these texts and have him arrested before he DOES hurt a innocent girl. Not trying to be a stick in the mud about this but just a older wiser chick who has been there done that so to say. Best advice, leave him alone!!!!
Although he may like your friend if he's already talking about sex she should let him know if that's what he wants he needs to find someone else. He has probably already had experience where your friend has not and probably does want sex. But personally I think if your friend thinks he's to old I have to agree he is. And she should try to find someone her own age.
A 15 year old girl who is having sexual suggestions thrown at her means that she is in serious danger...no matter how old the guy is. If this 20 year old were a true gentleman, he would not be bringing up sex this early. Also, he should know that she cannot consent to sex at her age. If they were to engage in sexual relations at this time, he would be facing rape charges that amount to a felony in most states. (I know this because I am in law school.)
Tell her to tell him that sex is out of the question! If he, after being told this, appears dissapointed and/or frusterated, he is no good. She should drop him like a bad habit. If he appears to be understanding and sympathetic, he is worthy of a second chance. The best situation would be for her to wait untill she is 17. This is such borderline age that there should be very little worries about being prosecuted. Also, this would give them time to get to know each other as friends first. There is obviously no need to rush things...she is only 15, after all.
Tell her that if he is not willing to wait, that she is young, good looking and will have no trouble finding a better guy in the future.
tell her about that law that makes it illegal to have sex with minors!
works everytime.. then tell her you know you're 15 and there's probably 100,000 other 15 year old boys who could treat you the same way.
Turn the idiot in. He's a predator.
Hey! Well, I understand your dilemma...the thing is that you have to be the one to give her the bad news...The guy in his 20s...I'd say he is into her for sex. Guys at that age are usually very interested in not just sex, but having it with as many women as possible. And to get it, they devise various ways and one of them is being a gentleman, completely charming the girl into giving it up and then once they do, the guys move on. I don't want that to happen to your friend.
The thing is also that girls at 15 are very gullible (because they are mostly inexperienced and have not yet been badly burnt by guys to realize their game) and are thus great targets for guys like the one in question. Usually, I would say that age doesn't really matter, but at that age, it does...there is a great difference in experience - he has them, she doesn't and it will probably end bad.
So, my advice (aka you should tell her this):
While she doesn't have to stay away from him and ignore him (as I could be wrong about this guy and he may be very nice), she should definitely tell him that she doesn't intend to sleep with him anytime soon and he is better off looking for that somewhere else. And then see how he reacts...if I am right about him, he will most likely break all (or most) contacts with her, at which point she should forget him. If I am wrong, he might just say OK at which point she should give him a chance, but stay true to herself (aka not do anything that she doesn't want to).
Hopefully it works out well!I need advice from men and women on this. It's a VERY serious situation please help..?
Regardless of what she wants, getting involved with this guy is against the law. She is under the age of legal consent (18) and if they were to become involved, he could face charges. She either needs to wait until she's 18 or find someone under the age of 18.
Sex is not an issue...there doesn't need to be sex involved for this guy to get into a lot of trouble.
No sex! Just see how long he waits, if he's around 1/2 a year and hasn't left because of that, maybe its real. Don't focus on the sex...yes I know thats hard, see what he does then.
Your friend should stay away from him. No 15 year ole girl should be dealing with a 20 year old guy. If a guy that age approached my daughter, who is 15, he would be in jail. The fact that he's mentioning sex to her can land him in jail.
It's you dude.
This does not sound good. Tell her to move on before she gets in trouble.
Tell her not to give him any. If he sticks around, he's worth having. If he doesn't, then he just wanted to use her for sex.
Your friend's ';dream guy'; is a wannabe rapist. He is planning a statutory rape if not a forcible one. Tell your friend to stay away because any 20 yo that asks a 15 yo for sex isn't looking for a ';relationship.';
too
many
details
She should avoid him like the plague. He has made it very clear what he wants and it is NOT a nice relationship. He is bad news. I hope she doesn't make a serious mistake and ruin her life.
Does he know how young she is? She needs to make it clear to him and stay away from him. He would be breaking the law contacting her in a sexual manner, so it's likely he doesn't know (or is stupid if he does know).
They need to go their separate ways...she's not ready to be dating a grown man, and he could go to jail for it.
she don't need to get mixed in with him, its going to end in heartache.
She should be worried about a 20yr. old guy trying to
seduce a 15 yr. old girl...He is very foolish %26amp; immature...
Tell her to run for the hills. No twenty year-old guy should be hitting on a fiften year-old girl. EVER. There's way too much of an age and maturity difference there. Tell her to hold out for a guy who's a lot closer to her age.
Also, even if she's not planning on sleeping with him, it's clearly on his agenda. It's only going to get worse.
tell her that this teenager (20) is a liar . and he uses her until he gets her in bed , and if he was interested in her , he should treat her with some respect , and to take care of her feelings , and not to send her such these nasty texts . you should also tell her that she is still too young to discover who is good guy an who is bad guy , so she must listen to the older friends and take their advice seriously . and that's for her good .
Seeing as he is 20 he's sexually active obviously and will try to sleep with your friend who is clearly not ready so tell her to move on. No complete gentleman would tell a 15 year old girl '; i want you in bed';.
one word PEDOPHILE
call the cops
you shouldn't have to
be bothered by prevs like that
your only 15.....the texts speak
for themselves.......
If he knows she's 15 then really HE SHOULD NOT BE suggesting that they have sex. He could go to JAIL!!
She shouldn't go there.
Girl as an older women (21yrs) to you and your mate.He should respect her and wait til she's 16.Men have a tendancy to be really nice to women when they want sex.They show us with compliments.They make us think that they are too nice to be the sex hungry beasts they are.
I really don't want your friend to be rushed into anything too soon.loosing your virginity to the wrong man will haunt you for life. BE WISE!!
If he's really a nice guy then make him wait.
Well she should say these words to him ';statatory rape of a underage minor is about I think 15 yrs'; If he doesn't run away from that faster than a roadrunner, he's a complete idiot and needs to have his sorry *** turned into the cops. Honestly, for her safety she should talk to her parents about this or show the police these texts and have him arrested before he DOES hurt a innocent girl. Not trying to be a stick in the mud about this but just a older wiser chick who has been there done that so to say. Best advice, leave him alone!!!!
Although he may like your friend if he's already talking about sex she should let him know if that's what he wants he needs to find someone else. He has probably already had experience where your friend has not and probably does want sex. But personally I think if your friend thinks he's to old I have to agree he is. And she should try to find someone her own age.
A 15 year old girl who is having sexual suggestions thrown at her means that she is in serious danger...no matter how old the guy is. If this 20 year old were a true gentleman, he would not be bringing up sex this early. Also, he should know that she cannot consent to sex at her age. If they were to engage in sexual relations at this time, he would be facing rape charges that amount to a felony in most states. (I know this because I am in law school.)
Tell her to tell him that sex is out of the question! If he, after being told this, appears dissapointed and/or frusterated, he is no good. She should drop him like a bad habit. If he appears to be understanding and sympathetic, he is worthy of a second chance. The best situation would be for her to wait untill she is 17. This is such borderline age that there should be very little worries about being prosecuted. Also, this would give them time to get to know each other as friends first. There is obviously no need to rush things...she is only 15, after all.
Tell her that if he is not willing to wait, that she is young, good looking and will have no trouble finding a better guy in the future.
tell her about that law that makes it illegal to have sex with minors!
works everytime.. then tell her you know you're 15 and there's probably 100,000 other 15 year old boys who could treat you the same way.
Turn the idiot in. He's a predator.
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MEN-I need advice on Romance?
I bought a hotel with a hot tub in it, for my boyfriend and me on his birthday Saturday. How do I jazz up the room? What's romantic but not too girly. I love candles,rose petals,a sexy outfit,strawberries,sex toys,porn,music and all that. But is that more for the girl or what?
any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.MEN-I need advice on Romance?
Well baby, im a simple guy,lil candles lite. Some soft rap music. ANd if your man doesnt like that then hes a lame
any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.MEN-I need advice on Romance?
Well baby, im a simple guy,lil candles lite. Some soft rap music. ANd if your man doesnt like that then hes a lame
I fear being hurt and disappointed by men...need good advice?
Every time I meet a man they tend to just disappoint or even hurt me. I fear my past so bad that if I meet someone I will assume it will happen again. Like when I called my new friend, and he didnt answer and set to ignore I got nervous again. This happened before, and the man was playing games. H0wever he did call back 15 mins later and said he was leaving w0rK.The point is I get so fearful if I don't even hear from him ,though I know you don't need to chat everyday. it's my past fears; I need to get some advice on how to recover? Thnx
I fear being hurt and disappointed by men...need good advice?
Clearly since many guys have let you done before you need to find someone who won't do that. A old friend will work. Also talking about it with your fellow friends will help ease the pain. Since this revolves around a trust issue you need to find a guy who you can place your trust in without any doubt at all. If you do that you can maybe also find someone who you can date become good friends with (etc.).I fear being hurt and disappointed by men...need good advice?
First off you can not let your past relationships determine the new ones. So what if he doesnt call then it was not ment to be you will find the right guy one day. You can not live in fear of being hurt because eventually one day you will be hurt again. Just always remeber things happen for a reason and everything you go through just makes you stronger
sounds like you have trust issues. trust is one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship. when you feel one of your fears coming to life, after its all said and done, tell yourself out loud that its ok, and you were overreacting. once you tell yourself that so many times, you will start to believe yourself. you have to trust people, you have to be let down, but you also have to recover and put yourself right back out there. good luck
I would go talk to a counselor. I understand how you feel it's hard to trust someone is going to treat you right when all you've gotten in the past is bad. A good counselor should be able to help you learn to see a red flag and what to expect in how another person treats you. I hope that helps a bit.
You need to step out of thinking of people and places. Take a biiiig step back and look at the big picture. Dose this person satisfy you in the long run? Are with with him for a good time? Dose he help you achieve you goals as a person?
The number one idea in any self help book is this: Change your self first. Get a hobby do something that isn't pinning over one person. We only got so many years on this planet you might as well spend them trying to be happy then chasing someone who is toying with you.
I hope this helped.
Forget about the past because it's time you move on. You just need to think to yourself everytime you get disappointed, ';Pshh, I can do better than him!!'; I got dumped by my boyfriend I've ben with for almost a year, but I'm over it now. And because I moved on, now I have a better boyfriend. (:
i was like that for about 2 yrs after my 4th gf dumped me (they all dumped me)
i got over it
well i dunno wht to say
try not to get too attached.
i got really attached and dependent on hearing one of my exes voice and talking to herand saying i love you a lot.
she ended up dumping me on 1 yr anniversary.
so my advice try not getting to dependent on him
Don't let ur past encounters interfere with your present or future joys of life. i know the past is hard to forget or even shouldn't be forgotten but u should use it, learn from it to make u stronger. enjoy life and all it has to offer. try to seek help so that someone can be there for u to help u get through this because somethings we just cant get through on our own. good luck to you my friend!!!!!!!!!!
You have to leave the past in the past i'm pretty sure the person that hurt you is not letting you come in between whats going on with them now so just leave it alone all guys are not dogs so until they give you a reason not to trust them just give them a lil trust
seek theraphy to overcome the past and gain positive lessons out of it
and try to use your mind first taking your time to get to know someone properly before opening up your heart to them, then you are less likely to get hurt
i am a man and i don't hurt people only to protect. talk to them before it happen and think before you do.
FORGET ABOUT THE PAST. Its okay. Get it over with. Be happy,positive and look on the bright side. You can do it :)
forget about guys. seek your own independence. when youve done that for a few years....come back and ask that question.
don't base future relationships or friendships on what happened before. It will only end up hurting you
Here's a hint -- STOP DATING LOSERS!
get some help to learn to deal with your pass fears.
You need to release the past fears and insecurities that stem from past relationships. Until you do, you will repeat this pattern over and over again. It basically comes down to trusting that you will be okay no matter what the men in your life do or say, trusting that you will be okay even when you are alone.
Don't expect anyone to be responsible for your happiness. Don't give that responsibility to any other person. You alone are responsible for bringing joy and happiness to yourself. When you truly understand this, you become a whole person, happy no matter what surrounds you. At this point, you will attract another happy, whole person, willing to share part or all of their life with you.
Learn to spot the game players and cut them off right away. Have a vision of the kind of man that you want and deserve, and look for that man. Ignore or politely turn down the rest.
this happens to a lot of people so don't worry because it's normal. i had the same problem my ex and i went out for a few months and he up and decided that he didn't want to be with me anymore because he found somebody else, it hurt me so bad. it's been almost four years since that happened and it took me almost three years to get over what he did to me. you just need time. but a friend told me to love like i had never been hurt, that was the best advice that i had ever gotten. i' found someone new and we've been together for 2 years now, he helped me get through my past and now its just a memory. i know that it's hard to open your heart to another person but if you don't take a chance then you'll never be able to get over it. you don't have to completely let this new guy in just have fun. try not to think of all of the little things. and if you really like this guy and you have fun together then your relationship is worth exploring. everything will be ok.
good luck. and remember to have fun =]
While it is nice to have a man friend, don't make them your whole world.
Make sure you have other activities that you do regularly - perhaps working out at the gym, swimming, volunteering for a local organization, gardening, reading, join a Church, taking a night class - there are so many things you can be doing so that you are not focusing on a man calling you back.
Having a man whom you love and who loves you, helps to make your life happy, but you need to be happy anyway, with or without a man.
Find joy in your life, develop a wide circle of friends - male and female.
Good Luck!
I fear being hurt and disappointed by men...need good advice?
Clearly since many guys have let you done before you need to find someone who won't do that. A old friend will work. Also talking about it with your fellow friends will help ease the pain. Since this revolves around a trust issue you need to find a guy who you can place your trust in without any doubt at all. If you do that you can maybe also find someone who you can date become good friends with (etc.).I fear being hurt and disappointed by men...need good advice?
First off you can not let your past relationships determine the new ones. So what if he doesnt call then it was not ment to be you will find the right guy one day. You can not live in fear of being hurt because eventually one day you will be hurt again. Just always remeber things happen for a reason and everything you go through just makes you stronger
sounds like you have trust issues. trust is one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship. when you feel one of your fears coming to life, after its all said and done, tell yourself out loud that its ok, and you were overreacting. once you tell yourself that so many times, you will start to believe yourself. you have to trust people, you have to be let down, but you also have to recover and put yourself right back out there. good luck
I would go talk to a counselor. I understand how you feel it's hard to trust someone is going to treat you right when all you've gotten in the past is bad. A good counselor should be able to help you learn to see a red flag and what to expect in how another person treats you. I hope that helps a bit.
You need to step out of thinking of people and places. Take a biiiig step back and look at the big picture. Dose this person satisfy you in the long run? Are with with him for a good time? Dose he help you achieve you goals as a person?
The number one idea in any self help book is this: Change your self first. Get a hobby do something that isn't pinning over one person. We only got so many years on this planet you might as well spend them trying to be happy then chasing someone who is toying with you.
I hope this helped.
Forget about the past because it's time you move on. You just need to think to yourself everytime you get disappointed, ';Pshh, I can do better than him!!'; I got dumped by my boyfriend I've ben with for almost a year, but I'm over it now. And because I moved on, now I have a better boyfriend. (:
i was like that for about 2 yrs after my 4th gf dumped me (they all dumped me)
i got over it
well i dunno wht to say
try not to get too attached.
i got really attached and dependent on hearing one of my exes voice and talking to herand saying i love you a lot.
she ended up dumping me on 1 yr anniversary.
so my advice try not getting to dependent on him
Don't let ur past encounters interfere with your present or future joys of life. i know the past is hard to forget or even shouldn't be forgotten but u should use it, learn from it to make u stronger. enjoy life and all it has to offer. try to seek help so that someone can be there for u to help u get through this because somethings we just cant get through on our own. good luck to you my friend!!!!!!!!!!
You have to leave the past in the past i'm pretty sure the person that hurt you is not letting you come in between whats going on with them now so just leave it alone all guys are not dogs so until they give you a reason not to trust them just give them a lil trust
seek theraphy to overcome the past and gain positive lessons out of it
and try to use your mind first taking your time to get to know someone properly before opening up your heart to them, then you are less likely to get hurt
i am a man and i don't hurt people only to protect. talk to them before it happen and think before you do.
FORGET ABOUT THE PAST. Its okay. Get it over with. Be happy,positive and look on the bright side. You can do it :)
forget about guys. seek your own independence. when youve done that for a few years....come back and ask that question.
don't base future relationships or friendships on what happened before. It will only end up hurting you
Here's a hint -- STOP DATING LOSERS!
get some help to learn to deal with your pass fears.
You need to release the past fears and insecurities that stem from past relationships. Until you do, you will repeat this pattern over and over again. It basically comes down to trusting that you will be okay no matter what the men in your life do or say, trusting that you will be okay even when you are alone.
Don't expect anyone to be responsible for your happiness. Don't give that responsibility to any other person. You alone are responsible for bringing joy and happiness to yourself. When you truly understand this, you become a whole person, happy no matter what surrounds you. At this point, you will attract another happy, whole person, willing to share part or all of their life with you.
Learn to spot the game players and cut them off right away. Have a vision of the kind of man that you want and deserve, and look for that man. Ignore or politely turn down the rest.
this happens to a lot of people so don't worry because it's normal. i had the same problem my ex and i went out for a few months and he up and decided that he didn't want to be with me anymore because he found somebody else, it hurt me so bad. it's been almost four years since that happened and it took me almost three years to get over what he did to me. you just need time. but a friend told me to love like i had never been hurt, that was the best advice that i had ever gotten. i' found someone new and we've been together for 2 years now, he helped me get through my past and now its just a memory. i know that it's hard to open your heart to another person but if you don't take a chance then you'll never be able to get over it. you don't have to completely let this new guy in just have fun. try not to think of all of the little things. and if you really like this guy and you have fun together then your relationship is worth exploring. everything will be ok.
good luck. and remember to have fun =]
While it is nice to have a man friend, don't make them your whole world.
Make sure you have other activities that you do regularly - perhaps working out at the gym, swimming, volunteering for a local organization, gardening, reading, join a Church, taking a night class - there are so many things you can be doing so that you are not focusing on a man calling you back.
Having a man whom you love and who loves you, helps to make your life happy, but you need to be happy anyway, with or without a man.
Find joy in your life, develop a wide circle of friends - male and female.
Good Luck!
Guys advice on men?
I've met up with this guy twice now and he is realy nice but on both dates he hasn't even made any attempt to flirt with me or mentioned us getting it on and I would like to know why?Guys advice on men?
He could be a little reserved. There must be some attraction if he went out on a date with you twice. Think about it, if the first date was lame, why would he ask you out on another?
On the next date you should make the first move. Help get him out of his shell.Guys advice on men?
Maybe he's trying to figure out his next move. If the first date didn't answer all the questions he's asking himself, he probably thought a second date might. Basically, it sounds like he's interested in you, not so sure of how deep that interest runs, and doesn't want to mislead either you or himself. If he likes you, really likes, he'll become confident in that and make his next move. If he figures out that he isn't as into you as he originally thought, then no harm done...he didn't mislead you or ';play'; you. Sounds like he's playing it safe until he sorts out his feelings, that way nobody gets really hurt later on.
Because he's either shy, playing it incredibly slow, not able to ask you out coz he ain't got the balls downstairs, or he's just not interested in a relationship. You can get guys like that. ask him if you're so interested in what his intentions are. Maybe he just wants to be sweet.
He's probably sick of people putting him in the stereotype of how most guys 'only want one thing', so he's trying really hard to not be that. He probably really does like you, but is afraid to scare you off.
Maybe he doesn't want to come across as that is all he is after a quick shag. He should of payed u some sort of compliment though maybe he's just shy. He obviously likes u otherwise why would he go on a second date?
a)...prob playing hard to get.
b) he has no interest in your whatsover?
Could be neither of them things, but that's what first came to mind.
could be he is a gentleman
He could be a little reserved. There must be some attraction if he went out on a date with you twice. Think about it, if the first date was lame, why would he ask you out on another?
On the next date you should make the first move. Help get him out of his shell.Guys advice on men?
Maybe he's trying to figure out his next move. If the first date didn't answer all the questions he's asking himself, he probably thought a second date might. Basically, it sounds like he's interested in you, not so sure of how deep that interest runs, and doesn't want to mislead either you or himself. If he likes you, really likes, he'll become confident in that and make his next move. If he figures out that he isn't as into you as he originally thought, then no harm done...he didn't mislead you or ';play'; you. Sounds like he's playing it safe until he sorts out his feelings, that way nobody gets really hurt later on.
Because he's either shy, playing it incredibly slow, not able to ask you out coz he ain't got the balls downstairs, or he's just not interested in a relationship. You can get guys like that. ask him if you're so interested in what his intentions are. Maybe he just wants to be sweet.
He's probably sick of people putting him in the stereotype of how most guys 'only want one thing', so he's trying really hard to not be that. He probably really does like you, but is afraid to scare you off.
Maybe he doesn't want to come across as that is all he is after a quick shag. He should of payed u some sort of compliment though maybe he's just shy. He obviously likes u otherwise why would he go on a second date?
a)...prob playing hard to get.
b) he has no interest in your whatsover?
Could be neither of them things, but that's what first came to mind.
could be he is a gentleman
Need advice from men PLEASE!!?
how do you determine if a guy is losing interest, or is just comfortable with the relationship? my guy....calls everynight and we have good convos, but he's not as ';into'; sharing how he feels about us.....and less 'sexy' talk etc..... and right now he's into his hobbies and not about making a plan. but yet he still talks about the future? should i just chill and let it play out? i dont' want to push or scare him. but geesh, men can be really hard to read sometimesNeed advice from men PLEASE!!?
I'd be worried,if a guy doesn't want to talk about sex then hes gay r just not into you,I'd give him some more time,but ....Need advice from men PLEASE!!?
Alright, what you have to realize is that in this respect men are very different than women. When it comes to talking about our feelings, for the most part we don't like to say it more than once. He's told you his feelings before right? Most men feel that saying the same thing over and over is useless, you know how he feels, what's the point in saying it another hundred times? If he's stopped what you call the ';sexy talk'; as you call it, there are a few possible reasons, and it could be a mix of them. The first is the same as the feelings thing, why say the same things all over again? The other is that the initial attraction has started to die. This is not a bad thing though, because if he's still taking time to talk with you, then he sees something more to the relationship and the possiblity of it being permanent. This is especially true if he is willing to talk about the future. However, don't push him. Just focus on being yourself and not worrying about it. There's alot going on in his head right now and the last thing he needs is to wonder why your acting so strange.When he's ready to make a plan, he'll go to you.
We are not that hard to read, we just get a bit lazy sometimes at pursuing a relationship. You should be with him making him smile, while he is enjoying his hobbies. If not then you are left out. As for the sexy talk, yes it fades, but it is always easy to get a rise out of us. Just show up with a raincoat and nothing else and whisper in his ear that you are not wearing any panties and see the response. Let it play out a bit then be creative. Good luck with your choices.
He's still into you. I assume you've been with him for a while. He's comfortable with you and doesn't feel the need to overdo anything. Less sexy talk, less sharing how he feels about the two of you.... no worries though, because as you said, he still talks about the future with you. That means he wants to be with you
Let it play out a while, it could be one of ';those'; phases. He'll probably realize eventually the kind of situation he's putting you in. If not, tell him.
You should distance your self a bit, don't take things so fast.
dont make a a good thing a problem.just chill
when the sex goes down the interest is fading
From my perspective. One of you should try and spice something up. Obviously, he is not willing to do that, so as tired as you may get for trying to make things interesting, do something you feel you havent done for a while or something never done between you two.
I myself am having a little bit of a struggle with my relationship, and it is me that is having a hard time deciding if I am happy with my girlfriend or not, but we have been together for 1 yr and 7mon. Something is good for us and I am not leting myself make wrong asumptions.
If the spicing of the realtionship don't work, then you 2 really need to have a talk. What you need to do is get him in his good mood and then start small with questians or you will overwhelm him. Take an easy on him, men have emotions that are hard to control sometimes.
Anyways, if he is still talking of the future with you and of you, and his attitude is not what it use to be, then he still loves you, just in a different way or not for the same reason.
I hope that I was helpful in different perspectives. I try to show people different thoughts or views of a subject rather that the person dwell on one. Good luck and have a nice life.
I'd be worried,if a guy doesn't want to talk about sex then hes gay r just not into you,I'd give him some more time,but ....Need advice from men PLEASE!!?
Alright, what you have to realize is that in this respect men are very different than women. When it comes to talking about our feelings, for the most part we don't like to say it more than once. He's told you his feelings before right? Most men feel that saying the same thing over and over is useless, you know how he feels, what's the point in saying it another hundred times? If he's stopped what you call the ';sexy talk'; as you call it, there are a few possible reasons, and it could be a mix of them. The first is the same as the feelings thing, why say the same things all over again? The other is that the initial attraction has started to die. This is not a bad thing though, because if he's still taking time to talk with you, then he sees something more to the relationship and the possiblity of it being permanent. This is especially true if he is willing to talk about the future. However, don't push him. Just focus on being yourself and not worrying about it. There's alot going on in his head right now and the last thing he needs is to wonder why your acting so strange.When he's ready to make a plan, he'll go to you.
We are not that hard to read, we just get a bit lazy sometimes at pursuing a relationship. You should be with him making him smile, while he is enjoying his hobbies. If not then you are left out. As for the sexy talk, yes it fades, but it is always easy to get a rise out of us. Just show up with a raincoat and nothing else and whisper in his ear that you are not wearing any panties and see the response. Let it play out a bit then be creative. Good luck with your choices.
He's still into you. I assume you've been with him for a while. He's comfortable with you and doesn't feel the need to overdo anything. Less sexy talk, less sharing how he feels about the two of you.... no worries though, because as you said, he still talks about the future with you. That means he wants to be with you
Let it play out a while, it could be one of ';those'; phases. He'll probably realize eventually the kind of situation he's putting you in. If not, tell him.
You should distance your self a bit, don't take things so fast.
dont make a a good thing a problem.just chill
when the sex goes down the interest is fading
From my perspective. One of you should try and spice something up. Obviously, he is not willing to do that, so as tired as you may get for trying to make things interesting, do something you feel you havent done for a while or something never done between you two.
I myself am having a little bit of a struggle with my relationship, and it is me that is having a hard time deciding if I am happy with my girlfriend or not, but we have been together for 1 yr and 7mon. Something is good for us and I am not leting myself make wrong asumptions.
If the spicing of the realtionship don't work, then you 2 really need to have a talk. What you need to do is get him in his good mood and then start small with questians or you will overwhelm him. Take an easy on him, men have emotions that are hard to control sometimes.
Anyways, if he is still talking of the future with you and of you, and his attitude is not what it use to be, then he still loves you, just in a different way or not for the same reason.
I hope that I was helpful in different perspectives. I try to show people different thoughts or views of a subject rather that the person dwell on one. Good luck and have a nice life.
Relationship advice from men please?
I have been seeing this guy who id out the country at the moment,
He is gone for a month, he has been busy with work and didnt contact me for three days then got on messenger for a chat seemed fine with me but was exhausted having worked 10 days straight without a day off and worked 12 hour day
he isnt working now his contract finished he is in the process of moving country to live here, i havent heard from him in 4 days now, my question is would it be plausable for him to not get in contact now till he moves over to the Uk permanetly cause he has nothing to say cause he will see me in 2 weeks or should I think that maybe he is losing interest
2 weeks ago the day he left he told me that he thought I was amazing and thought he had hit the jackpot, so guys, is this just a case of female neurocis on my part cause he is probably busy packing sorting flights etc. or is he losing interest
id be really keen to hear male thoughts on thisRelationship advice from men please?
Yes, just a case of female neurosis...I think..
Have patience...He may be busy with his work or something else.....you have not told how long you were knowing him, since he left for other country..........Even if we want to contact our family members, we could not, due to some circumstances...If you both are in love, no need to worry.....he will come back to you.Relationship advice from men please?
Just wait n watch. He must have been worn out after the hectic job n taking rest. He may not be losing interest in you but u cant say this for sure. Maybe he is busy with his work or packing,etc. So, have patience n then make a move.(we men do need our time atleast for sometime)
He is gone for a month, he has been busy with work and didnt contact me for three days then got on messenger for a chat seemed fine with me but was exhausted having worked 10 days straight without a day off and worked 12 hour day
he isnt working now his contract finished he is in the process of moving country to live here, i havent heard from him in 4 days now, my question is would it be plausable for him to not get in contact now till he moves over to the Uk permanetly cause he has nothing to say cause he will see me in 2 weeks or should I think that maybe he is losing interest
2 weeks ago the day he left he told me that he thought I was amazing and thought he had hit the jackpot, so guys, is this just a case of female neurocis on my part cause he is probably busy packing sorting flights etc. or is he losing interest
id be really keen to hear male thoughts on thisRelationship advice from men please?
Yes, just a case of female neurosis...I think..
Have patience...He may be busy with his work or something else.....you have not told how long you were knowing him, since he left for other country..........Even if we want to contact our family members, we could not, due to some circumstances...If you both are in love, no need to worry.....he will come back to you.Relationship advice from men please?
Just wait n watch. He must have been worn out after the hectic job n taking rest. He may not be losing interest in you but u cant say this for sure. Maybe he is busy with his work or packing,etc. So, have patience n then make a move.(we men do need our time atleast for sometime)
Need advice on men issue?
Can anyone explain these dudes to me?
1. Is a guy I had a crush on long ago, now he tells his mother he likes me, but won't have anything to do with me. Cause he doesn't want anyone to know he likes me. ??
2. Is a guy I used to party with in the old days, he acts like he's jealous of every guy around me, but he's married. Keeps bringing up that I turned him down in the old days and telling me how I missed out. ??
3. Is this guy I met online, we've been talking for almost a year and he seems very sweet, but now he wants to meet. He gets jealous too is I mention another guy. He says he hasn't been with any other woman for months cause he didn't think I would like it.??
4. Is the man I've been seeing for awhile. We we're together and then broke up. Then we started seeing each other again. We get together about once a week and it is so perfect. He's affrectionate, caring, giving, and so sweet. But we don't want to be together full time. Do I stick with this or run?Need advice on men issue?
Sounds like you have some admires of sorts. I would tell them all that you are only interested in being friends and nothing more. Then when you are ready to settle with someone, they will be top on your list for consideration; if your friendships last that long. Reason is because you want to see if their issues of insecurity and jealously pass. Who needs their drama if your not interested in them like that. Get to know them for what they are truly worth, good and bad qualities alike before you commit to having any kind of relationship other than friends. Life is too short to have to deal with un-necessary stress of someones Else's short coming especially if you are not married to them.Need advice on men issue?
i say give it sometime and don't rush into a relationship but don't run from it either :)
Wow, It doesn't sound like any of these guys want to be your friend. And it doesn't sound like they are into any kind of relationship except a one nighter. Some sound arrogant and possessive and (especially) #4 sounds like a player. #2 doesn't sound like you missed out on too much there, he's already dissing his wife by being out there and flirting with you. #3 sounds like a control freak, I don't know if you made some kind of commitment when you first got online with him but if you didn't then I'd dump his *** NOW and definitely don't meet with him.oily skin
1. Is a guy I had a crush on long ago, now he tells his mother he likes me, but won't have anything to do with me. Cause he doesn't want anyone to know he likes me. ??
2. Is a guy I used to party with in the old days, he acts like he's jealous of every guy around me, but he's married. Keeps bringing up that I turned him down in the old days and telling me how I missed out. ??
3. Is this guy I met online, we've been talking for almost a year and he seems very sweet, but now he wants to meet. He gets jealous too is I mention another guy. He says he hasn't been with any other woman for months cause he didn't think I would like it.??
4. Is the man I've been seeing for awhile. We we're together and then broke up. Then we started seeing each other again. We get together about once a week and it is so perfect. He's affrectionate, caring, giving, and so sweet. But we don't want to be together full time. Do I stick with this or run?Need advice on men issue?
Sounds like you have some admires of sorts. I would tell them all that you are only interested in being friends and nothing more. Then when you are ready to settle with someone, they will be top on your list for consideration; if your friendships last that long. Reason is because you want to see if their issues of insecurity and jealously pass. Who needs their drama if your not interested in them like that. Get to know them for what they are truly worth, good and bad qualities alike before you commit to having any kind of relationship other than friends. Life is too short to have to deal with un-necessary stress of someones Else's short coming especially if you are not married to them.Need advice on men issue?
i say give it sometime and don't rush into a relationship but don't run from it either :)
Wow, It doesn't sound like any of these guys want to be your friend. And it doesn't sound like they are into any kind of relationship except a one nighter. Some sound arrogant and possessive and (especially) #4 sounds like a player. #2 doesn't sound like you missed out on too much there, he's already dissing his wife by being out there and flirting with you. #3 sounds like a control freak, I don't know if you made some kind of commitment when you first got online with him but if you didn't then I'd dump his *** NOW and definitely don't meet with him.
Husband advice please (men and women-married please)?
I recently married a very nice guy that I love dearly. Problem is that real life is settling in and now that we are married, he is getting a lot more demanding, intolerant of my needs ( I am finishing grad school..working full time now), and likes things his way. Now I don't mind so much, I am accomodating as I can be. But the moodiness and blaming is getting concerning....and I am working so hard to get him legal, with health insurance...ya da ya da.
I don't want pity, I just want to know what to do..some ideas. I see problems brewing. Not easy ones...and I know what the problems are: smoker, drinking but doesn't think it is an issue. Wanting to quit but still in an awkward time adjusting to it all.
I am being tolerant. But the moodiness is a bit much. And I put a lot of time into legal matters, homemaking, and him every week. What is the deal? Does it even matter in the long run?Husband advice please (men and women-married please)?
Is he getting more demanding and intolerant, or is it just that the bloom is starting to come off the rose? Could it be that all these behaviors were evident but ';love is blind'; was in effect prior to marriage?
As you say, Russians are usually pretty serious folk. And they are notorious drinkers. Was the ';wanting to quit'; a pre-marital promise, or a sincere confession on his part? If you had to solicit promises of changed behavior prior to tying the knot, that's a huge red flag in my book.
I think the larger question here is what your motivations were for getting married to this guy. It sounds like your life is frantic right now...seems you'd be wanting someone more supportive rather than someone demanding MORE of your energy. I'm beginning to wonder if maybe you got hitched in less time than you needed to evaluate his character (there's that word again) and disposition.
It's still early in your marriage...may be time to draw the line and illustrate what a loving marriage looks like...because yours is rapidly deviating from the path.Husband advice please (men and women-married please)?
how long have you been married? that would be my first question. a fellow has to know his castle is his and no one else's, i have been married 12 years and we went to marriage counc. three years ago because we were not very happy with each other.............we are still married...............and let me guess.sex and money are the two hot issues in your household. well, it will get better in time as long as he is able to see both side of the fence...........if he is unable to se it both ways, then it is time to wake his *** up, because if not, you will not be married much longer.......pack his lunch for him and leave a note in it explaining what is going to happen if he does not start talking to instead of demanding........get him to talk to you....slow down, the both of you...set date nights at least once a week, and always try to have dinner together.............hope this helped.......good luck
Sorry, to be free %26amp; frank, but I want to kick such persons, who don't care the feelings of others.
Infact, it is difficult to change the attitude of others, but try by departing for some period. You may go to your parents for a longer time. your absense may create and prove your importance in life which might torch ignition to change the feelings.
I'd say that your hubby is feeling insecured - maybe the reason for his actions. I'd suggest you both go to a marriage counselor to iron things out. Most of the problems you have are perhaps superficial, and he might even be thinking that it's you who have changed.
As with everything else, patience is the key. And try and do things both of you were doing before you got married.
Too bad marriage did not come with a manual....
Yes it matters. You don't say how long you've been married but didn't he smoke and drink before marriage? You can't change a person, try as you might. You'll have to sit down with him and tell him you'd like to have a serious discussion. Lay it out on the line. Explain that you are scared things may spiral out of control and you want him to know how you feel. Ask him if there is something he'd like you to work on. Don't be surprised if he comes up with a few things. If you think seeing a counselor once or twice to help get the discussion going do that. Open communication is the only way to go at this point. Hope all goes well. Keep love alive.
if the problems are the same things that wasnt a problem before you got married ...like if he smoked before you knew that then as well..so why a problem now, both of you are probably less tolorable of things now that you are married and the honeymoon is over...its not going to be easy, but talk out your concerns and address them together without blame or fault
I think the problem is that you are being tolerant. You are letting him be this way so he continues. You are telling him it's ok to be that way while you are waiting for it to go away. It will probably get worse, he's seeing what he can get away with. I started doing that (not being nice) to my husband and the more he let me the more I did it. The day he got so mad and yelled at me I felt so bad and snapped out of it and I then felt apologetic and never did it again. Before I was feeling smarter than him and actually annoyed that he wouldn't put me in my place, I kind of thought he was a wimp. I don't know what got into me.
What does THIS mean?
';I am working so hard to get him legal';??
Tell you what... the person you are starting to see now IS the real person. There is no telling how far he will change. It all depends on how far he went pretending to be someone else before the marriage. Forget what you thought of him before. Ask yourself, do you want to marry this person now? Then think, why was he nice to you before?
Yes, I see problem blewing too. The only thing you can do is to sit him down and have a long talk with him. Come to an agreement both of you can live with.
By the way, international marriage is difficult. You assumed he knows how hard you are working, and you want the job shared or at least recognized. Are you sure he knows? In some culture, those things are automatically women's job. He may not even know he is supposed to acknowledge it and offer help? If you want something different (obviously you do), it may become your job to teach him these cultural differences.
I have no excuse for moodiness though. Like I said, you really need to sit down and talk with him about reality of marriage in the US.
..is he working? If not he doesn't play the role of homemaker? He is an alien resident and can't work?
marriage is about wanting to know the needs of the partner and feeling good about taking care of those things...sounds like you are but he isn't... I think a real man must be able to provide for his woman or he starts to fall apart...
Marriage has a lot of ups and downs. You need to communicate. Talk all day and all night if you must to come to an understanding. Things that are left unsaid will linger. Yes the honeymoon is over, but if you want the marriage to continue, you will be open and honest with each other. If he doesn't know what is bothering you, he will just go on as if nothing is wrong, visa-versa. Whatever the problem, talk to each other. He needs to know that his parents marriage was then and his is now. Unfortunately, his mother will influence the situation. Put your foot down and take control.
All relationships need adjustments.But it is from both the sides.Ignore his moodiness and tantrums.Dont give 100% to any relationship.you are always at loss.
Put it out there for him bluntly. If he expects things to work out then he is going to have to change his attitude and stop acting childish or its not going to work. Too many guys are like this. Sometimes it takes a 'threat' to open their eyes.
Mark
Communication is key in a marriage. Set aside time from both your busy schedules to sit down and talk (away from all distractions). Let him know you need his support and that school won't last forever. Perhaps when you're done with grad school, there is something he wants to do. Drinking is a being issue brewing and it will only get bigger. Make him legal? What's with that? I think you should have looked before you lept, but right now I think you'd better sit down and get things straight with him.
Reading between the lines, it sounds like he is having real trouble integrating into a new society.
You are doing so well and he sees an insurmountable problem of being your equal partner. This hurts his pride and is immensely frustrating to him.
However, that is his problem. He is getting excellent help and support from you. (which probably makes him feel inferior) He needs to grow up and be a man.
If he can't do that, your future is not good.
a marriage is a lot like book keeping check and balance its sound like me cave man you women i hope he help you out around the house because you re working full time if not its get old fast trust me
Do you save this marriage, or run for your life?
Get a marriage counselor before it is too late.
Life is too short for a bad marriage.
A big YES. you're in a long haul. Talk to him and let him know you have your own needs too. You need affirmation from him too.
You should try marrige threapy or consuling so he can see a different point of view and realize that its not just you but him that is doing wrong.
Familiarity breeds contempt.
This is a major problem with
marriage.
Thus, any such union requires a lot
of work and compromise.
Have a sit-down talk with your
husband.
If he can't handle this,
find another husband.
Im sorry to say but if he is damanding already it will get worse. Get out now before he gets really controlling and abusive. My mom is going through that with someone and she has been with him 15 years and I worry about her everyday that we know that he is home. The moodiness is a true sign of how he really is. And my husband totally agrees with me on this.
sometimes marriage is tough, that's what for better or worse means
This is a tough boat, but you got in it willingly. I'm sure you knew about all of these issues before you married him.
I'm not saying you should let him walk on you. But you chose to take this on, and now you need to tough it out and make it work.
I don't want pity, I just want to know what to do..some ideas. I see problems brewing. Not easy ones...and I know what the problems are: smoker, drinking but doesn't think it is an issue. Wanting to quit but still in an awkward time adjusting to it all.
I am being tolerant. But the moodiness is a bit much. And I put a lot of time into legal matters, homemaking, and him every week. What is the deal? Does it even matter in the long run?Husband advice please (men and women-married please)?
Is he getting more demanding and intolerant, or is it just that the bloom is starting to come off the rose? Could it be that all these behaviors were evident but ';love is blind'; was in effect prior to marriage?
As you say, Russians are usually pretty serious folk. And they are notorious drinkers. Was the ';wanting to quit'; a pre-marital promise, or a sincere confession on his part? If you had to solicit promises of changed behavior prior to tying the knot, that's a huge red flag in my book.
I think the larger question here is what your motivations were for getting married to this guy. It sounds like your life is frantic right now...seems you'd be wanting someone more supportive rather than someone demanding MORE of your energy. I'm beginning to wonder if maybe you got hitched in less time than you needed to evaluate his character (there's that word again) and disposition.
It's still early in your marriage...may be time to draw the line and illustrate what a loving marriage looks like...because yours is rapidly deviating from the path.Husband advice please (men and women-married please)?
how long have you been married? that would be my first question. a fellow has to know his castle is his and no one else's, i have been married 12 years and we went to marriage counc. three years ago because we were not very happy with each other.............we are still married...............and let me guess.sex and money are the two hot issues in your household. well, it will get better in time as long as he is able to see both side of the fence...........if he is unable to se it both ways, then it is time to wake his *** up, because if not, you will not be married much longer.......pack his lunch for him and leave a note in it explaining what is going to happen if he does not start talking to instead of demanding........get him to talk to you....slow down, the both of you...set date nights at least once a week, and always try to have dinner together.............hope this helped.......good luck
Sorry, to be free %26amp; frank, but I want to kick such persons, who don't care the feelings of others.
Infact, it is difficult to change the attitude of others, but try by departing for some period. You may go to your parents for a longer time. your absense may create and prove your importance in life which might torch ignition to change the feelings.
I'd say that your hubby is feeling insecured - maybe the reason for his actions. I'd suggest you both go to a marriage counselor to iron things out. Most of the problems you have are perhaps superficial, and he might even be thinking that it's you who have changed.
As with everything else, patience is the key. And try and do things both of you were doing before you got married.
Too bad marriage did not come with a manual....
Yes it matters. You don't say how long you've been married but didn't he smoke and drink before marriage? You can't change a person, try as you might. You'll have to sit down with him and tell him you'd like to have a serious discussion. Lay it out on the line. Explain that you are scared things may spiral out of control and you want him to know how you feel. Ask him if there is something he'd like you to work on. Don't be surprised if he comes up with a few things. If you think seeing a counselor once or twice to help get the discussion going do that. Open communication is the only way to go at this point. Hope all goes well. Keep love alive.
if the problems are the same things that wasnt a problem before you got married ...like if he smoked before you knew that then as well..so why a problem now, both of you are probably less tolorable of things now that you are married and the honeymoon is over...its not going to be easy, but talk out your concerns and address them together without blame or fault
I think the problem is that you are being tolerant. You are letting him be this way so he continues. You are telling him it's ok to be that way while you are waiting for it to go away. It will probably get worse, he's seeing what he can get away with. I started doing that (not being nice) to my husband and the more he let me the more I did it. The day he got so mad and yelled at me I felt so bad and snapped out of it and I then felt apologetic and never did it again. Before I was feeling smarter than him and actually annoyed that he wouldn't put me in my place, I kind of thought he was a wimp. I don't know what got into me.
What does THIS mean?
';I am working so hard to get him legal';??
Tell you what... the person you are starting to see now IS the real person. There is no telling how far he will change. It all depends on how far he went pretending to be someone else before the marriage. Forget what you thought of him before. Ask yourself, do you want to marry this person now? Then think, why was he nice to you before?
Yes, I see problem blewing too. The only thing you can do is to sit him down and have a long talk with him. Come to an agreement both of you can live with.
By the way, international marriage is difficult. You assumed he knows how hard you are working, and you want the job shared or at least recognized. Are you sure he knows? In some culture, those things are automatically women's job. He may not even know he is supposed to acknowledge it and offer help? If you want something different (obviously you do), it may become your job to teach him these cultural differences.
I have no excuse for moodiness though. Like I said, you really need to sit down and talk with him about reality of marriage in the US.
..is he working? If not he doesn't play the role of homemaker? He is an alien resident and can't work?
marriage is about wanting to know the needs of the partner and feeling good about taking care of those things...sounds like you are but he isn't... I think a real man must be able to provide for his woman or he starts to fall apart...
Marriage has a lot of ups and downs. You need to communicate. Talk all day and all night if you must to come to an understanding. Things that are left unsaid will linger. Yes the honeymoon is over, but if you want the marriage to continue, you will be open and honest with each other. If he doesn't know what is bothering you, he will just go on as if nothing is wrong, visa-versa. Whatever the problem, talk to each other. He needs to know that his parents marriage was then and his is now. Unfortunately, his mother will influence the situation. Put your foot down and take control.
All relationships need adjustments.But it is from both the sides.Ignore his moodiness and tantrums.Dont give 100% to any relationship.you are always at loss.
Put it out there for him bluntly. If he expects things to work out then he is going to have to change his attitude and stop acting childish or its not going to work. Too many guys are like this. Sometimes it takes a 'threat' to open their eyes.
Mark
Communication is key in a marriage. Set aside time from both your busy schedules to sit down and talk (away from all distractions). Let him know you need his support and that school won't last forever. Perhaps when you're done with grad school, there is something he wants to do. Drinking is a being issue brewing and it will only get bigger. Make him legal? What's with that? I think you should have looked before you lept, but right now I think you'd better sit down and get things straight with him.
Reading between the lines, it sounds like he is having real trouble integrating into a new society.
You are doing so well and he sees an insurmountable problem of being your equal partner. This hurts his pride and is immensely frustrating to him.
However, that is his problem. He is getting excellent help and support from you. (which probably makes him feel inferior) He needs to grow up and be a man.
If he can't do that, your future is not good.
a marriage is a lot like book keeping check and balance its sound like me cave man you women i hope he help you out around the house because you re working full time if not its get old fast trust me
Do you save this marriage, or run for your life?
Get a marriage counselor before it is too late.
Life is too short for a bad marriage.
A big YES. you're in a long haul. Talk to him and let him know you have your own needs too. You need affirmation from him too.
You should try marrige threapy or consuling so he can see a different point of view and realize that its not just you but him that is doing wrong.
Familiarity breeds contempt.
This is a major problem with
marriage.
Thus, any such union requires a lot
of work and compromise.
Have a sit-down talk with your
husband.
If he can't handle this,
find another husband.
Im sorry to say but if he is damanding already it will get worse. Get out now before he gets really controlling and abusive. My mom is going through that with someone and she has been with him 15 years and I worry about her everyday that we know that he is home. The moodiness is a true sign of how he really is. And my husband totally agrees with me on this.
sometimes marriage is tough, that's what for better or worse means
This is a tough boat, but you got in it willingly. I'm sure you knew about all of these issues before you married him.
I'm not saying you should let him walk on you. But you chose to take this on, and now you need to tough it out and make it work.
Men and women advice- how do you know you are in love? women ? men?
You'd be willing to do anything for them.Men and women advice- how do you know you are in love? women ? men?
I've been told that you'll 'just know'.
But I know I'm in love because...
We know we will spend the rest of our lives togeter
I could NEVER ever be attracted to someone else, because they could never be as good as him.
If I ever broke up, I could never find someone good enough.
Also, I mostly like him for personality, so I know it's not lust.Men and women advice- how do you know you are in love? women ? men?
Hey lexi!!
This is really easy! Close your eyes think of the guy you like. Now picture him, do you see him? What do you feel? Do get goose bombs? Do you want to hug him? Is everything around you much easier to take when he is with you? When he is around you do you feel good and protected? When you open your eyes again, how do you feel now? Do you miss him? Do wish he would be there when you fall asleep and be there when you awake??
If you have to answer these questions with yes! Congratulations you are in love with your dream man!!
I know I'm in love when I'm willing to go through anything that life might throw at us with him. I know that sounds boring but every other way I tried ends pretty quickly.
I used to think I know, but I don't anymore. Sorry.
Don't worry about knowing if you are in love. You need to make sure that the person is in love with you before you express your true feelings.
However the way that I know that I am in love is because I will do things that I don't normally do in a relationship. I find myself eager to please the person and going above and beyond what is required of me.
I knew i was in love with the guy that i am with when i knew that my feelings for him were stronger than i have ever had with anyone else i had been with and that i couldn't picture my life without him
Mostly That I couldn't picture my life without him in it
He is the only one that I would Trust With my Life if It ever came down to it
And i would Do absoultley anything for him
I've been told that you'll 'just know'.
But I know I'm in love because...
We know we will spend the rest of our lives togeter
I could NEVER ever be attracted to someone else, because they could never be as good as him.
If I ever broke up, I could never find someone good enough.
Also, I mostly like him for personality, so I know it's not lust.Men and women advice- how do you know you are in love? women ? men?
Hey lexi!!
This is really easy! Close your eyes think of the guy you like. Now picture him, do you see him? What do you feel? Do get goose bombs? Do you want to hug him? Is everything around you much easier to take when he is with you? When he is around you do you feel good and protected? When you open your eyes again, how do you feel now? Do you miss him? Do wish he would be there when you fall asleep and be there when you awake??
If you have to answer these questions with yes! Congratulations you are in love with your dream man!!
I know I'm in love when I'm willing to go through anything that life might throw at us with him. I know that sounds boring but every other way I tried ends pretty quickly.
I used to think I know, but I don't anymore. Sorry.
Don't worry about knowing if you are in love. You need to make sure that the person is in love with you before you express your true feelings.
However the way that I know that I am in love is because I will do things that I don't normally do in a relationship. I find myself eager to please the person and going above and beyond what is required of me.
I knew i was in love with the guy that i am with when i knew that my feelings for him were stronger than i have ever had with anyone else i had been with and that i couldn't picture my life without him
Mostly That I couldn't picture my life without him in it
He is the only one that I would Trust With my Life if It ever came down to it
And i would Do absoultley anything for him
Advice is unlimited for women, but where do men learn of fashion do's and don'ts as well as trends if you will?
Mid-thirties recently divorced after 12 years forces one to look at this a little closer than normalAdvice is unlimited for women, but where do men learn of fashion do's and don'ts as well as trends if you will?
askmen.com
USE IT.
It works wonders.Advice is unlimited for women, but where do men learn of fashion do's and don'ts as well as trends if you will?
http://hypebeast.com/
we dont
Askmen.com
askmen.com
USE IT.
It works wonders.Advice is unlimited for women, but where do men learn of fashion do's and don'ts as well as trends if you will?
http://hypebeast.com/
we dont
Askmen.com
I need advice from men and women please?
Ok i start seeing this guy in march we started out as boyfriend girlfriend he used to ring me from work every day always made sure we had plans for the weekend it was like that for about 6weeks then slowly bit by bit he stopped ringin me as much and stood me up a few times but was always so sorry the next day now he says he likes me and loves the sex and he doesnt want to give that up but he just doesnt want commitment,so tell me how in the space of 5 months can he go from wantin me as a girlfriend and telling me he is mad about me to just sex? it seems alot of effort to go to just for sex,its not likke im a porn star in the bedroom!I need advice from men and women please?
It sounds like your guy has one bottom line, and that's sex. So he's going to do as little as he can, as long as he can still get to the bottom line. I imagine that he started going out with you for other reasons (ie. he enjoyed your company, mutual interests, etc.), but in his current situation he sees an opportunity to get sex for very little effort. I doubt it was his original intention, just the current results of an immature mind. I bet the relationship can be salvaged, you just need to make sure that your demands are higher. As long as it is still easier to have sex with you than to try and start all over, he'll do whatever you ask. It sounds like you have the power here. If you like him keep it up, if you can see that it's a waste of time in the long run drop him.I need advice from men and women please?
he's not the guy for you if you're asking about it. if he just likes you for the sex, that means when you're old and wrinkley, he won't like you anymore cause your body won't be as sexy as it used 2 be!
i guess a single man lonely quit some time so felt a littel desperate so you came into his life that why he love you. you are the one who pop into his life~!
Well i think hes seeing another girl and just wants a bootie call. Break up with him, he has nothing u need.
u never know he may have thought he wanted a relationship and then found sum1 else and still wants u for sex
i don't think he would be the first to say he doesn't want to give up the sex!!! seriously though if that is how you see yourself , as just someone he can have sex with,that is a decision you can only make, but i have always seen women as so much more then just what happens in the bedroom so , my self, i say, why should he have his cake and eat it too when he won't make any commitment
I'm gonna try my best to give you a good answer according to what I understood (and ofcourse,I trust that everyone else gives you a good answer as well). First of all if you want commitment at your age and he doesnt want to then he's definetly not the guy for you. He says he loves you and loves the sex, so disgusting of him,it seems to me that he's treating you like some machine to satisfy only himself (again I dont know the guy pretty well so I could be wrong), but if I'm right then I advice you to stay away from him cause you (and every single person in this world) deserve to live the life you want,with a guy who respects you,shares his interests with you and doesnt treat you like a machine. I'm in my late teens so I'm basically looking at your case from a teenagers point of view...just thought I'd write something that may help you,cheer you up or make you consider this matter and know whats right or wrong.
It sounds like your guy has one bottom line, and that's sex. So he's going to do as little as he can, as long as he can still get to the bottom line. I imagine that he started going out with you for other reasons (ie. he enjoyed your company, mutual interests, etc.), but in his current situation he sees an opportunity to get sex for very little effort. I doubt it was his original intention, just the current results of an immature mind. I bet the relationship can be salvaged, you just need to make sure that your demands are higher. As long as it is still easier to have sex with you than to try and start all over, he'll do whatever you ask. It sounds like you have the power here. If you like him keep it up, if you can see that it's a waste of time in the long run drop him.I need advice from men and women please?
he's not the guy for you if you're asking about it. if he just likes you for the sex, that means when you're old and wrinkley, he won't like you anymore cause your body won't be as sexy as it used 2 be!
i guess a single man lonely quit some time so felt a littel desperate so you came into his life that why he love you. you are the one who pop into his life~!
Well i think hes seeing another girl and just wants a bootie call. Break up with him, he has nothing u need.
u never know he may have thought he wanted a relationship and then found sum1 else and still wants u for sex
i don't think he would be the first to say he doesn't want to give up the sex!!! seriously though if that is how you see yourself , as just someone he can have sex with,that is a decision you can only make, but i have always seen women as so much more then just what happens in the bedroom so , my self, i say, why should he have his cake and eat it too when he won't make any commitment
I'm gonna try my best to give you a good answer according to what I understood (and ofcourse,I trust that everyone else gives you a good answer as well). First of all if you want commitment at your age and he doesnt want to then he's definetly not the guy for you. He says he loves you and loves the sex, so disgusting of him,it seems to me that he's treating you like some machine to satisfy only himself (again I dont know the guy pretty well so I could be wrong), but if I'm right then I advice you to stay away from him cause you (and every single person in this world) deserve to live the life you want,with a guy who respects you,shares his interests with you and doesnt treat you like a machine. I'm in my late teens so I'm basically looking at your case from a teenagers point of view...just thought I'd write something that may help you,cheer you up or make you consider this matter and know whats right or wrong.
What god advice to men?
Lead because you deserve to and be considerate and loving to all in you protectionWhat god advice to men?
Which god?What god advice to men?
No means No?
Repent
Mark 1:15
“The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand. Repent, and believe in the gospel.”
nothing
Do you mean 'What is God's advice to men?'
If so, then it is this: 'Be nice to each other'
Unfortunately, noone throughout history has paid any attention to his advice whatsoever.
Pants first and then shoes.
obey
';Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?'; Jesus replied: '; 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.';
He wants us to learn a language before using it to post on Y!A.
Which god?What god advice to men?
No means No?
Repent
Mark 1:15
“The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand. Repent, and believe in the gospel.”
nothing
Do you mean 'What is God's advice to men?'
If so, then it is this: 'Be nice to each other'
Unfortunately, noone throughout history has paid any attention to his advice whatsoever.
Pants first and then shoes.
obey
';Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?'; Jesus replied: '; 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.';
He wants us to learn a language before using it to post on Y!A.
Need some advice about men?
I really like this guy but I'm not sure how to tell him because I'm afraid that I may push him away. The thing is we've became really good friends over the last 8 months. So what should I do? Plz give me some advice!!!!!Need some advice about men?
If you're willing to throw away the ';friend factor'; just start being flirty with him. Throw a little flirt out, and gauge his reactions to it. If he backs away, that's a sign that you should stop and end the mission. If he flirts back, well you just scored him.Need some advice about men?
Well 8 months is kinda a long time you should be able to be up front with him and let him know how you feel you can tell if he likes you like that from his actions around you.
if you are good friends,just him how he feels about you,the rest will fall into place.
just tell him or ask him if he would date you. if he is single that is.oily skin
If you're willing to throw away the ';friend factor'; just start being flirty with him. Throw a little flirt out, and gauge his reactions to it. If he backs away, that's a sign that you should stop and end the mission. If he flirts back, well you just scored him.Need some advice about men?
Well 8 months is kinda a long time you should be able to be up front with him and let him know how you feel you can tell if he likes you like that from his actions around you.
if you are good friends,just him how he feels about you,the rest will fall into place.
just tell him or ask him if he would date you. if he is single that is.
I need advice.. Married men answer this please?
I got married a week back. I am enough crazy about sex and we had it 5-6 times in a day but my wife wants till more. I am exhausted and cant do it more and i try to divert her attention to indulge in some other things but she has only one thing on her mind always... She was a virgin and she says she has strongly become addicted to sex. Is it normal or is she a crazy gal??I need advice.. Married men answer this please?
You haven't given her an orgasm yet and it is driving her crazy.....I'm a woman, I know all about it.I need advice.. Married men answer this please?
I AM 44 AND I CAN KEEP UP ,SEND THAT CRAZY GAL TO ME
Your stuck now buddy.... didnt you ever hear of the phrase you have to test drive a car before you buy it. If I was you, on a Saturday invest in a pill ov viagra and then give it to her so much she will leave you a lone for a lil bit!
Don't worry. Work hard. Trust her. Work hard to master your career and earn a lot of money. Don't spend too much. Many respondents assumed you're not giving her enough orgasms. You may or may not be. That's not important in the long run. Trust God. **** her up the butt if she accepts you there. If not, wait and do it later. But, you must master her. If she hasn't had an orgasm, lick her clitoris lightly and steadily. Don't speed up no matter what. Be sensitive to her.
But back to money. You must be serious about your relation to her, and your ability to earn AND SAVE money is paramount. I could not emphasize that more. I have four kids, have been married, I don't know, at least eight years because my oldest son is eight. I take out all the trash. I teach English and earn 6 thousand a month, but am getting tired from speaking so much, so I write books, English conversation books. If you start another business, make it VERY similar to your basic competency, just an expansion on that. Learn to love the work you do, and turn away jobs that seem to offend your dignity, which means though you take their money, you don't feel it helps them. Be very sensitive to your conscience, and always work towards building greater character and a more ethical product that you offer the public. Plan for vacations well, and invest a lot of time in your kids. I do most of the house keeping and kid care. You do that and your wife won't leave you. She'll give great blow jobs throughout your life, and she'll not seek out the affection of others. Oh, also, don't use contraceptives. She'll get pregnant right off the bat, and then she'll lose some libido as she loses some sleep getting up during the night to walk around the house holding the baby. You do that, too, though. Every bit of work you do to spare her work works towards the good of the family. Gotta go.
Love, Nathaniel
i think it is healthy and normal. My wife (although not a virgin) was the same way when we met and got married. Soon enough you may remembering these times and wishing for their return. So go for it dude!
count yourself lucky
it will wind down
especially if you have children
enoy it while you can
maybe even get another guy in the picture
Be smart. Buy a good vibrator she can use when you are not up to it. But if you are under thirty and cannot keep up with her you have a real problem. Viagra may help. you are a lucky guy. Also she could be manic depressive and calm down, though incompletely, on one of the common antidepressants. A psychiatrist could help greatly if that is the situation.
Yeah you'd better be grateful, and ride her hard, keep her happy and find additional ways to stimulate her. Some of us guys are lucky to get it once a year bub.
This is normal. Try and indulge in some other activities and maybe go out to a public place. Go for jogging etc
making her scream your name and reach for the stars....her little toes curling....belly quivering......and then that squirt like the fountains at baligio in vegas.......have you tried to perform oral sex till she has an orgasism?.......toys?......get with it boy!!!!!!
Wow, great question but it sounds like Adult Content to me and I don't want any of those weasel Puritans flagging me again... Wish I could help, but Yahoo is going full bore with this censorship thing. And here I thought it was just the poor Chi-Coms that got censored by them...
Just go with the flow ... only I doubt that she is making a full disclosure here. A woman who has never had any sexual experience isn't going to be instantly on from your wedding night on. Sounds like there is something else in her past that is manifesting itself just now.
I met a woman who had been through some bad and abusive experiences as a young girl. As a result, her sexual appetite was insatiable. One man wasn't even enough. She would do most anyone anytime of day. She was a sweet girl and very honest with me ... she knew who she was and simply didn't know what to do about it. All of the counseling and therapy only informed her of why she was crazy for sex all the time. It didn't solve the problem.
I think you have more on your hands than you realize. It sounds great right now to all of us out here ... but maybe you should talk to her about what all has happened in the past. This kind of interest in sex by a newly married virgin is unknown in my experience.
been there done that, man. I know what your giong thru. I got my wife 2 ';play toys'; that I use on her, when I can't go anymore, I keep her going and she's very satisfied!!!!
take vitamins
excercise
consider yourself very very very very lucky
After you give her an orgasm she will calm down.
normal; sex affects people in defferent ways. hang in there!
As soon as you wake up, it will all be over.
Your complaining? Most men would trade you in a heartbeat.
if this is the SO ...
I suggest not to indulge in mechanical action of sex..directly
instead...
make yourself buisy by any activity around her...even unnatural...
just to elongate the rest period.
prepare her,,,or inflame her by several ways first..
wispering..touching...kissing..dancing鈥?to music...
rearranging the bed ,collecting flowers.......etc..hey man...u can invent 1000s of stuff...come on
ask her to be on top...at least will be tired after some walk of 10-15 minutes..and will stop asking so
use some ointment prepared for delaying ejaculating....
protest BEFOR making love that you love her and try to insist...BUT spontaneously ....and NOT DIRECTLY after ,,otherwise she likes more..
You haven't given her an orgasm yet and it is driving her crazy.....I'm a woman, I know all about it.I need advice.. Married men answer this please?
I AM 44 AND I CAN KEEP UP ,SEND THAT CRAZY GAL TO ME
Your stuck now buddy.... didnt you ever hear of the phrase you have to test drive a car before you buy it. If I was you, on a Saturday invest in a pill ov viagra and then give it to her so much she will leave you a lone for a lil bit!
Don't worry. Work hard. Trust her. Work hard to master your career and earn a lot of money. Don't spend too much. Many respondents assumed you're not giving her enough orgasms. You may or may not be. That's not important in the long run. Trust God. **** her up the butt if she accepts you there. If not, wait and do it later. But, you must master her. If she hasn't had an orgasm, lick her clitoris lightly and steadily. Don't speed up no matter what. Be sensitive to her.
But back to money. You must be serious about your relation to her, and your ability to earn AND SAVE money is paramount. I could not emphasize that more. I have four kids, have been married, I don't know, at least eight years because my oldest son is eight. I take out all the trash. I teach English and earn 6 thousand a month, but am getting tired from speaking so much, so I write books, English conversation books. If you start another business, make it VERY similar to your basic competency, just an expansion on that. Learn to love the work you do, and turn away jobs that seem to offend your dignity, which means though you take their money, you don't feel it helps them. Be very sensitive to your conscience, and always work towards building greater character and a more ethical product that you offer the public. Plan for vacations well, and invest a lot of time in your kids. I do most of the house keeping and kid care. You do that and your wife won't leave you. She'll give great blow jobs throughout your life, and she'll not seek out the affection of others. Oh, also, don't use contraceptives. She'll get pregnant right off the bat, and then she'll lose some libido as she loses some sleep getting up during the night to walk around the house holding the baby. You do that, too, though. Every bit of work you do to spare her work works towards the good of the family. Gotta go.
Love, Nathaniel
i think it is healthy and normal. My wife (although not a virgin) was the same way when we met and got married. Soon enough you may remembering these times and wishing for their return. So go for it dude!
count yourself lucky
it will wind down
especially if you have children
enoy it while you can
maybe even get another guy in the picture
Be smart. Buy a good vibrator she can use when you are not up to it. But if you are under thirty and cannot keep up with her you have a real problem. Viagra may help. you are a lucky guy. Also she could be manic depressive and calm down, though incompletely, on one of the common antidepressants. A psychiatrist could help greatly if that is the situation.
Yeah you'd better be grateful, and ride her hard, keep her happy and find additional ways to stimulate her. Some of us guys are lucky to get it once a year bub.
This is normal. Try and indulge in some other activities and maybe go out to a public place. Go for jogging etc
making her scream your name and reach for the stars....her little toes curling....belly quivering......and then that squirt like the fountains at baligio in vegas.......have you tried to perform oral sex till she has an orgasism?.......toys?......get with it boy!!!!!!
Wow, great question but it sounds like Adult Content to me and I don't want any of those weasel Puritans flagging me again... Wish I could help, but Yahoo is going full bore with this censorship thing. And here I thought it was just the poor Chi-Coms that got censored by them...
Just go with the flow ... only I doubt that she is making a full disclosure here. A woman who has never had any sexual experience isn't going to be instantly on from your wedding night on. Sounds like there is something else in her past that is manifesting itself just now.
I met a woman who had been through some bad and abusive experiences as a young girl. As a result, her sexual appetite was insatiable. One man wasn't even enough. She would do most anyone anytime of day. She was a sweet girl and very honest with me ... she knew who she was and simply didn't know what to do about it. All of the counseling and therapy only informed her of why she was crazy for sex all the time. It didn't solve the problem.
I think you have more on your hands than you realize. It sounds great right now to all of us out here ... but maybe you should talk to her about what all has happened in the past. This kind of interest in sex by a newly married virgin is unknown in my experience.
been there done that, man. I know what your giong thru. I got my wife 2 ';play toys'; that I use on her, when I can't go anymore, I keep her going and she's very satisfied!!!!
take vitamins
excercise
consider yourself very very very very lucky
After you give her an orgasm she will calm down.
normal; sex affects people in defferent ways. hang in there!
As soon as you wake up, it will all be over.
Your complaining? Most men would trade you in a heartbeat.
if this is the SO ...
I suggest not to indulge in mechanical action of sex..directly
instead...
make yourself buisy by any activity around her...even unnatural...
just to elongate the rest period.
prepare her,,,or inflame her by several ways first..
wispering..touching...kissing..dancing鈥?to music...
rearranging the bed ,collecting flowers.......etc..hey man...u can invent 1000s of stuff...come on
ask her to be on top...at least will be tired after some walk of 10-15 minutes..and will stop asking so
use some ointment prepared for delaying ejaculating....
protest BEFOR making love that you love her and try to insist...BUT spontaneously ....and NOT DIRECTLY after ,,otherwise she likes more..
Ladies,please advice!and men,let me know your thoughts.?
I fell in love with a guy in Africa 27 years ago and we wanted to get married then, but my parents refused.We parted ways,he got married and had kids and I did the same.My husband died and moved to the United States.I recently met with my old b/f who happened to be in the USA also.He is still married(though having problems).
He fell in love with me all over again,but I dont feel the same way anylonger(he actually disvirgined me years ago),he refused to accept we can no longer have a relationship,and says he cannot bear to do without me,he stucks me with unending phonecalls day and night,calls everybody I know to beg me...and so on.The truth is..I dont love him anymore and moreover,he is MARRIED.PLease help,what do you all advice.Thanks in advance.Ladies,please advice!and men,let me know your thoughts.?
Wow. Whatever you do, don't get involved with a married man. Especially a married man that you are not interested in. If you have an answering machine, save his messages and keep them. If the harrassment continues, tell him that you will be calling his wife with proof of his attempts at infidelity. You will probably never need the tape, but you will have your proof if you need to send it.
That threat should serve as a serious wakeup call.Ladies,please advice!and men,let me know your thoughts.?
Just tell him how you feel, plain and simple..then don't answer his calls and he'll eventually get tired and give up
just keep ignoring him and if that doesn't work tell his wife
Not only can you get a restraining order, there are stalking laws..Is he a stalker? Contact your local authorities to find out what type of stalking laws there are in your area. Once you know, and you finally tell your old flame off, let him know of your intentions re: restraining order and charge of stalking.
Tell him that the past is just that the past. That you cannot in good faith have any type of relationship with him and that you would appreciate if he would cease contacting you and your friends. If it persists you can always have a restraining order placed against him contacting you. 27 years is a long time and I'm certain that you are both different people since then and let him know that also and that you cannot just turn back the clock and become who and what you were at that time in your life. Good luck to you.
State it one more time, firmly, leaving him NO room for error. No ';I think you're great but...';, No ';I really value our friendship...';, nothing to give him hopes to hang out. Then distance yourself. I konw this sounds cruel as he was a terribly important person in your life, but without distancing yourself, he's going to continue to reach out to you again and again. Don't answer his calls, and tell your friends to do the same. Don't waver, because every time you do, he takes that as a sign that maybe he has a chance. This will be hard, but it's what you have to do if you really want him to realize that you two don't have a future together. If you're not able to do this, then take a step back and think about why - is there a part of you that still misses him? A part of you that misses being cared for by someone now that your husband has passed away? A part of you that worries you are going to hurt him too much? In the long run, you will probably hurt him (and his wife, indirectly) more by giving him a shred of hope that there's a future for you. So decide what you want, state it firmly, and let go. Good luck... tough situation you have yourself in here.
He fell in love with me all over again,but I dont feel the same way anylonger(he actually disvirgined me years ago),he refused to accept we can no longer have a relationship,and says he cannot bear to do without me,he stucks me with unending phonecalls day and night,calls everybody I know to beg me...and so on.The truth is..I dont love him anymore and moreover,he is MARRIED.PLease help,what do you all advice.Thanks in advance.Ladies,please advice!and men,let me know your thoughts.?
Wow. Whatever you do, don't get involved with a married man. Especially a married man that you are not interested in. If you have an answering machine, save his messages and keep them. If the harrassment continues, tell him that you will be calling his wife with proof of his attempts at infidelity. You will probably never need the tape, but you will have your proof if you need to send it.
That threat should serve as a serious wakeup call.Ladies,please advice!and men,let me know your thoughts.?
Just tell him how you feel, plain and simple..then don't answer his calls and he'll eventually get tired and give up
just keep ignoring him and if that doesn't work tell his wife
Not only can you get a restraining order, there are stalking laws..Is he a stalker? Contact your local authorities to find out what type of stalking laws there are in your area. Once you know, and you finally tell your old flame off, let him know of your intentions re: restraining order and charge of stalking.
Tell him that the past is just that the past. That you cannot in good faith have any type of relationship with him and that you would appreciate if he would cease contacting you and your friends. If it persists you can always have a restraining order placed against him contacting you. 27 years is a long time and I'm certain that you are both different people since then and let him know that also and that you cannot just turn back the clock and become who and what you were at that time in your life. Good luck to you.
State it one more time, firmly, leaving him NO room for error. No ';I think you're great but...';, No ';I really value our friendship...';, nothing to give him hopes to hang out. Then distance yourself. I konw this sounds cruel as he was a terribly important person in your life, but without distancing yourself, he's going to continue to reach out to you again and again. Don't answer his calls, and tell your friends to do the same. Don't waver, because every time you do, he takes that as a sign that maybe he has a chance. This will be hard, but it's what you have to do if you really want him to realize that you two don't have a future together. If you're not able to do this, then take a step back and think about why - is there a part of you that still misses him? A part of you that misses being cared for by someone now that your husband has passed away? A part of you that worries you are going to hurt him too much? In the long run, you will probably hurt him (and his wife, indirectly) more by giving him a shred of hope that there's a future for you. So decide what you want, state it firmly, and let go. Good luck... tough situation you have yourself in here.
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Flirting tips/advice for men?
So i've seen this really cute chick a couple of times now. She works in a pub. First time i saw her i had a hard time sleeping at night...the girl drives me wild. My friend (who's accualy her friend too) told me that she's single (no time to loose!!). I'm not shy or anything like that, i just don't wanna to mess it up. I got the balls, i know a lot of good places to take her out, but i haven't got the flirting skills.
So this is where you come in...please, please give me some good tips! Tnx ;)Flirting tips/advice for men?
Maybe your friend can casually introduce you to her and just make conversation. I agree about not taking her to a pub since she works at one. maybe a nice dinner or a walk on the beach or park.Flirting tips/advice for men?
Get her attention buy asking for something at the pub. Ask her if you could take her out to eat or something during her lunch break. It must always be easy to strike up a conversation in a pub. just order something! BEST OF LUCK!
compliment her.. girls love that you know. dont say shes hot or something.. say shes beautiful.. or gorgeous. it means more that way. %26amp; dont sound like a stalker by saying ';i've been seeing you around'; ah freaky.
JUST MOVE SLOW AND BE ROMANTIC.
ask her what she does on her day off, then invite her to dinner or something.. do NOT go to a PUB
go up to her smile sweetly and start talking
and then ask if she'd like to check out a movie sometime
or something.
So this is where you come in...please, please give me some good tips! Tnx ;)Flirting tips/advice for men?
Maybe your friend can casually introduce you to her and just make conversation. I agree about not taking her to a pub since she works at one. maybe a nice dinner or a walk on the beach or park.Flirting tips/advice for men?
Get her attention buy asking for something at the pub. Ask her if you could take her out to eat or something during her lunch break. It must always be easy to strike up a conversation in a pub. just order something! BEST OF LUCK!
compliment her.. girls love that you know. dont say shes hot or something.. say shes beautiful.. or gorgeous. it means more that way. %26amp; dont sound like a stalker by saying ';i've been seeing you around'; ah freaky.
JUST MOVE SLOW AND BE ROMANTIC.
ask her what she does on her day off, then invite her to dinner or something.. do NOT go to a PUB
go up to her smile sweetly and start talking
and then ask if she'd like to check out a movie sometime
or something.
I need advice from men re: flirting?
Seems like a crazy question, but I'm getting divorced and I've been out of the ';scene'; for about 12 years. I have no clue about flirting now! There's a man I'm interested in, but I don't know what to do about it. (He's a few years older than me.) Men? Help?I need advice from men re: flirting?
Just be yourself and it will come natural. Flirting is universal. Laugh at everything he says and give him compliments
Just be yourself and it will come natural. Flirting is universal. Laugh at everything he says and give him compliments
You are the dating coach....what is your top advice for men....and for women?
Women: Trust your instincts and your gut. If it smells like a dog, walks like a dog and sounds like a dog, then it's a dog!
Men: If you like a woman, just ask her out, don't be shy about it. Stop being so hard to read.You are the dating coach....what is your top advice for men....and for women?
Be comfortable with who you are, b/c dating is about offering to share your life with other people, not attracting a person to patch up all the holes.You are the dating coach....what is your top advice for men....and for women?
not to follow all advices given and trust your hunch because, not all advices appy to all people :)
be true to one another.oily skin
Men: If you like a woman, just ask her out, don't be shy about it. Stop being so hard to read.You are the dating coach....what is your top advice for men....and for women?
Be comfortable with who you are, b/c dating is about offering to share your life with other people, not attracting a person to patch up all the holes.You are the dating coach....what is your top advice for men....and for women?
not to follow all advices given and trust your hunch because, not all advices appy to all people :)
be true to one another.
Please help, guys I need advice... about men and porn and looking at other women.?
We have been together for two years. He is 40, I am 42. I know men look at other women but for two years now when we go out, he ignores me, and watches other women. Last friday night we went to a family resturant, a sixteen year old girl was behind us with a short skirt on, she was heavy set, anyway he watched her the whole time we were there. He used to view porn on line but we got in fights over it, so now every morning before work he looks at Lingerie, this is every single morning, the man wont pack his lunch but he will get up early to view them. Like I said I know men look, but most dont do it in front of their g/fs or wives. Ive tried for two years to tell him how I feel, he still continues to do this in public. When we go out he acts like hes looking for something, he wont even hold a conversation with me. He said hes just looking, no big deal!!!! What do you think. Should I give up and move on??Please help, guys I need advice... about men and porn and looking at other women.?
Well, being in his 40's, its possible that he's just set in his ways. He's always looked at other women, and now that he is in a relationship, he can't bring himself to stop.
Or he is stubborn, believes it is no big deal (like you said), and continues to do it in front of you knowing that it bothers you, ';proving'; that it isn't a big deal - that is, he wins the ';argument'; every time he does it anyway.
Personally, based solely on what you've told me about you two, I would leave. I don't know how serious you two are, though, or how other aspects of your relationship are going.Please help, guys I need advice... about men and porn and looking at other women.?
sorry but if he's looking he's thinking about cheating. some men can look and not touch ,others you never know, if he's looking at porn he's not happy in your relationship,and he's shopping for a new girl if he looks when your with him. One more thing,if your catching this and not doing anything about it your in for trouble down the road.
He is looking, because he is missing what you can't offer him anymore. Is not stable relationship if he find what he is looking for you are history.
It sounds a little over the top, but i would think their is a deeper insecurity on your side you are redirecting at him either that or you don't trust the man... and i don't know maybe there is reason for that, if not remember you are what you think of others... deal with it or leave him..
Get rid of the perv. No offense, but you're not going to get any BETTER looking with time.....none of us will. There will always be porn and hot chicks. If that's how he chooses to use his eyes instead of for you, then get rid of him.
If you're ready to pack it in, move on.
Sounds like maybe you are not satisfying him. Maybe you should try some new things in bed. Get his mind back on you. He's probably bored of the same old routine.
First, you need to let that man look at pron, unless your going to give him some action 2-3 times a day. Second, every guy looks on occasion, he just doesn't sound very discreet. If he's dumb enough to get caught, then you have a right to get mad. However, I would suggest letting him look at the pron and maybe even have a little alone time for yourself. If you catch him looking, then he deserves a kick to the junk.
It sounds like he has a problem. He needs to seek counseling, or you move on ~ especially if you only see things getting worse.
Looking at porn and beating off is one thing, but to ignore you to stare at other girls or women is not cool. I'd dump him and move on to a real man who can treat you like a lady. What a jerk.
hell yeah, move on! unless you want to put up with it forever. Duh. Empower yourself. Why would you want to put up with that crap?
i hate to say it; but he is an inconsiderate jerk with no respect for you, women in general, or your relationship. RESPECT yourself and move on.... good luck
Well, being in his 40's, its possible that he's just set in his ways. He's always looked at other women, and now that he is in a relationship, he can't bring himself to stop.
Or he is stubborn, believes it is no big deal (like you said), and continues to do it in front of you knowing that it bothers you, ';proving'; that it isn't a big deal - that is, he wins the ';argument'; every time he does it anyway.
Personally, based solely on what you've told me about you two, I would leave. I don't know how serious you two are, though, or how other aspects of your relationship are going.Please help, guys I need advice... about men and porn and looking at other women.?
sorry but if he's looking he's thinking about cheating. some men can look and not touch ,others you never know, if he's looking at porn he's not happy in your relationship,and he's shopping for a new girl if he looks when your with him. One more thing,if your catching this and not doing anything about it your in for trouble down the road.
He is looking, because he is missing what you can't offer him anymore. Is not stable relationship if he find what he is looking for you are history.
It sounds a little over the top, but i would think their is a deeper insecurity on your side you are redirecting at him either that or you don't trust the man... and i don't know maybe there is reason for that, if not remember you are what you think of others... deal with it or leave him..
Get rid of the perv. No offense, but you're not going to get any BETTER looking with time.....none of us will. There will always be porn and hot chicks. If that's how he chooses to use his eyes instead of for you, then get rid of him.
If you're ready to pack it in, move on.
Sounds like maybe you are not satisfying him. Maybe you should try some new things in bed. Get his mind back on you. He's probably bored of the same old routine.
First, you need to let that man look at pron, unless your going to give him some action 2-3 times a day. Second, every guy looks on occasion, he just doesn't sound very discreet. If he's dumb enough to get caught, then you have a right to get mad. However, I would suggest letting him look at the pron and maybe even have a little alone time for yourself. If you catch him looking, then he deserves a kick to the junk.
It sounds like he has a problem. He needs to seek counseling, or you move on ~ especially if you only see things getting worse.
Looking at porn and beating off is one thing, but to ignore you to stare at other girls or women is not cool. I'd dump him and move on to a real man who can treat you like a lady. What a jerk.
hell yeah, move on! unless you want to put up with it forever. Duh. Empower yourself. Why would you want to put up with that crap?
i hate to say it; but he is an inconsiderate jerk with no respect for you, women in general, or your relationship. RESPECT yourself and move on.... good luck
Advice on man troubles, women and men please? what would you do?
well my boyfriend of three years broke up with me last week, things have been kinda rocky for awhile but I belive that we truely love each other, for the record i know there isnt another woman. It has been a terrible week, trying to not call and hoping that things will work themselves out. i still think about him constantly but have been trying to better myself and spend more time with the girls. i am 23 he is 31. he has been busy at work from what i know the times we have talked. tonight i called and wanted to see if he wanted to grab a beer and catch up. he said it wasnt a good idea which made me upset then he told me he found out today his dad has cancer. his dad and him and also I were very close we lived with him for awhile when we first got together. He wouldnt let me meet up with him even to talk as friends I know he is very upset. I want so badly for things to work. I keep telling myself not to call him everyday and let him miss me its so hard though i miss him
advice pleaseAdvice on man troubles, women and men please? what would you do?
It sounds like he is just needing his space. If you do truely love each other as you say you do, you two will be fine. Just give him a little time to clear his head. And I know its hard to give him that space. One thing that helped me threw a similar break-up was a diary. If the urge to talk to him gets to strong, write/type him a letter and say all the things you would tell him if you were to talk to him. DO NOT give them to him... this is only theraputic for you. Giving them to him will only defeat the purpose. You can always delete them when you are done to resist that urge. If you want him back, you have to give him time to miss you. You have already made it clear to him that you are there for him...you have to let him realize on his own that that is what he wants. He will come around.Advice on man troubles, women and men please? what would you do?
I know it's hard and I'm sorry, but you should probably back off for a while.
advice pleaseAdvice on man troubles, women and men please? what would you do?
It sounds like he is just needing his space. If you do truely love each other as you say you do, you two will be fine. Just give him a little time to clear his head. And I know its hard to give him that space. One thing that helped me threw a similar break-up was a diary. If the urge to talk to him gets to strong, write/type him a letter and say all the things you would tell him if you were to talk to him. DO NOT give them to him... this is only theraputic for you. Giving them to him will only defeat the purpose. You can always delete them when you are done to resist that urge. If you want him back, you have to give him time to miss you. You have already made it clear to him that you are there for him...you have to let him realize on his own that that is what he wants. He will come around.Advice on man troubles, women and men please? what would you do?
I know it's hard and I'm sorry, but you should probably back off for a while.
My marriage I don't think is going to make it. Men and Woman advice welcomed?
I have been married to the same man for 12 years. Our marriage like others has had it's ups and downs. But in the last 3 years it has been hell. I do try for my children, he says all I do is ***** I try to explain to him that what he is doing is not healthy for our children. All his friends children are grown, or they have nothing to do with them.
I have delt with lies, dranking, coming home when he wanted to. But i looked over all that and said that we got married for a reason so we can work it out, And so we did and for a year it was good. HE works construction and when he works he is gone alot. Now he is laid off and all I ask for him to do is spend time with his children they are 2-9 (girls). But he has been back to hanging with the guys who are drankers. Nice guys! but Drank a lot, He is back to dranking and driving again. Not spending time with the girls. Said that I made his life miserable. OUCH that hurt. I try to be understanding, and deal but it is hard.My marriage I don't think is going to make it. Men and Woman advice welcomed?
file for a divorce and stop wasting time on a hopeless marriage really you woman kill me hanging on to what ??????My marriage I don't think is going to make it. Men and Woman advice welcomed?
Very sorry to hear that he's doing that. It sounds like he's on his way to becoming an alcoholic and it's illegal to drink and drive. If he were my husband and I knew he was driving drunk, I would call the police on his *** and report him.
He also sounds emotionally abusive and unavailable. Don't subject yourself or your daughters to abuse. My advice is for you to convince him to seek counseling with you. If he refuses, seek counseling for yourself at least.
But if he gets physically abusive at all, you leave him right away. Don't ever subject your children to a violent environment...12 years of marriage is NEVER WORTH THAT.
Good luck.
My friend, there is nothing worse for a man who has lost face due to no work. Dont be ready to quit. The stresses men have to face working on construction sites is nobody's joke. Bosses have demanding clients who want work completed yesterday and the men get in your face treatment daily. Tempers fly and the stress levels rise.
I live in a different country to yours, but even here ther is such terrible abuse of workers and moneys with held and no contracts made, no increases are given - its terrible! We are all expected to live and yet no one gives a fig! Our jobs are taken away from us and we are replaced with unskilled labour who dont care but want to be paid regardless. They refuse to work properly either. No wonder our men are so frustrated. You have to stand by him in thick and thin. Understand him and make him feel better. Tell him you understand. The fact that he has friends around is a release valve, even drinking. The point I make is he is in a terrible position. Just listen to what he says. Dont come up with solutions, its not what he wants to hear.
Also note his age. I assume he is in his 40's and heading for mid-life crisis. He is insecure and by you going him all the time it doesnt help matters at all. You have to look hard at the situation and not put any pressure on him at all. Leave him alone and just go on with the normal things. He will wonder why you are not reacting, because he is so used to you letting him have it. I have so been there and understand this only to well. its a terrible place for you to be, but it does get better. When he is sober, gently ask him how you can help him and tell him you are not angry with him. He needs your support or he will go find it else where. I made that mistake. it led to separation and 4 years later divorce. Ironically 4 months after the divorce he came right back home and has never left again, and I changed my whole attitude. I forgave him and chose that. I didnt feel like forgiving him, but chose to regardless of my feelings. I brought respect for him back into our relationship and the changes have been remarkable in the 9 years following the divorce. We are best of friends too. However I did this all with Gods help, without preaching at him too. I asked God to change me and help me through the challenges and he did. If it can work for me, it can work for you. It will take a lot of effort but then a marriage is not a bed of roses is it and requires working at. Its up to you. You can go with the flow or swim upstream. Its your choice. I chose upstream and it was well worth the trouble!
Good luck and I wish you all a very good christmas. Seek counselling too. Become more confident and fun to be with and stop operating in the negative, because all it does is draw the negative. Trust God with your man and God will deliver. He really loves you. He knows you intimately and wants a relationship with you. Get there. Seek first the kingdom of God and all things will be added to you. It really works!
God bless you friend.
1st of all, don't stay together becuase of the kids, that is the biggest mistake you can do. By staying together can screw ur kids up more, than if you got a divorce. You can always try couple counsling, but it doesn't seem like he'd want to work at it. It would be tough, but I think yu show move on.
Good Luck
You both need counseling. After so many years of marriage you grow apart. Women usually stay thinking that things will go back to the way it was in the beginning. It never does!!! Open your eyes and do right by yourself and your kids. If he doesn't straighten up then leave. You and your children deserve better.
Maybe he has a drinking problem. If he is an alchoholic, he probably needs help to deal with his drinking. I would issue an ultimatum, get help or I'll leave. Alchoholics are not able to put their family first, drinking always comes first. If he does not seek help with AA or a liscensced treatment center, file for divorce. If he truly loves you and your girls, he will wake up and seek help. If not, you don't need him anyway.
there is no point in sticking it out your kids will understand you need a divorce there is no point in being misserable for the rest of your life because you are trying to work it out for them.
Sounds like he has a drinking problem and there is nothing you can do for that, he has to want to get help for that, you can't beg, plead or ***** at him to stop. AA is a good program but it won't work if he doesnt want it. There are also meetings for you, Al-Anon for family members of alcoholics, and they are free. You could also go to counseling yourself, to figure out what you want to do about the relationship. Unfortunatly the construction industry is full of guys who get loaded after work, so he's probably not going to stop unless he gets some kind of ultimatum. You need support, from family, your mother, any sisters? It's hard to go through it alone, and you might have to divorce him. I know you want to stay together for the kids sake, but think about what you are teaching your daughters if you stay. The older one espicially is watching what you are doing and how you are with him, and she'll grow up and marry the same type of man. But, I know you feel like you're alone, and you're not. Get some help, you're not the only one with this problem, there are lots of people like you. Good luck!
Hi,
Wow... a real hard one. Marriage is very hard. It takes two people to work on it constantly. There is no such thing as a 50/50 %. There have been in my 23 yrs of marriage that I might give 60% and he give 40% or vice versa. When faced with problems in my marriage we had gone to counseling or church. Have you suggested going and getting professional help? There we have learned to argue fairly. By this I mean not screaming to the top of our lungs and by no means say things at that moment to say hurtful things. Not to withhold or withdraw from one another. I wish I could be of better assistance. I wish you the best.
Anyone that is having trouble with their marriage and comes on here seeking answers from total strangers already knows the answer. Just get the divorce and move on.
I feel bad for the children they don't have a choice to be there but, you do. Deep down inside you know what to do. You know it's over when he is accusing you of his problems. What are you going to do what till he hit you, tries to hurt the children? It only get worse. This happened to me my ex worked for the City and got laid off we have 3 daughters (18mo,7yrs,11yrs) I thought oh thing's will work out let me give him time the drinking started, drugs, abuse phys.,mental,verbal,cheating, accusing me of all his problems. I still stayed, till the day he tried to burn my house down with me and my daughters in it. Now I live a better life my kids are happy, my sec. daughter has to see counseling cause of it all and I can't help but blame myself cause I could of prevented it all by just leaving him when I saw the first sign.....
As you can see he has started his cycle of putting his friends before you and your children. Your birthday, whats next the childrens birthday. Now the children are seeing it too, I always hear we learn from our mistakes, babygirl please learn from mine and get out he is not the man you fell in love with any more.
I think you should move on. You and your daughters deserve better then this! I wish you the best of luck and pray for you and your family.
I agree with worryed_2006. Get out before it's to late you are in an abusive relationship and you and the children are the one going ot get hurt. Do you want you girls to grow up and marry this way if you stay you are telling them this is how it must be a never ending cycle. You know there are support groups you are not alone. Just get out before it's to late for you or your children.
Leave him. No man is worth your tears.......sorry for being so blunt but from what you wrote its obvious that he is not trying so why should you! We only live once and you do not deserve to have your spouse bringing you down.
A marriage takes two people to work on it. Drinking is never a good ingredient and it really is important for a father to spend time with kids. Sounds like you need to have a long heart to heart with him, and if that doesn't help you will have to decide if this is the kind of life you want.
I appreciate that fact that you think that staying in the marriage is the right thing to do. I also appreciate the fact that your life is hell.
However, speaking as someone whose parents ';stayed together for the kids';, you need to leave him and take your daughters with you. Basically you are showing them that it is ok for a woman to take whatever abuse a man gives to her. You need to teach them to be strong and stand up when they are being mistreated.
I love my parents,but they have definitely affected how my brother and I view marriage. My mother didn't even have to point out problems with their marriage to me. I was always there and I picked up on what was happening.
I know it won't be easy leaving him and being on your own with your daughters, but you need to reclaim your life and stand up for yourself.
good luck and my thoughts are with you.
You are in a difficult place. Obviously, there are some serious problems going on with your husband. Well, since he feels that you have made his life miserable then give him what he wants freedom because he's not doing anything with the kids anyway and they probably won't notice the difference especially the younger ones. Because it's not good for the girls to see their father in a drunkard stupor all the time and obviously not happy the rest of the time and you stressed and anger most of the time. This will affect them the rest of the life especially how they will view men. So the need the opportunity to see a man in loving way and maybe if you leave him you will be able to find such a man that will be willing to grow up and face his problems instead of hiding behind a bottle. Because if he's feeling that bad eventually he might become physically abusive, he's already mentally and emotional abusive. So at least give yourself and him some space. Maybe in that time he will come to his senses or not then you know the next steps.
If he is miserable, then maybe it's time for a break. Let him feel what it's like not to have you. Alway remember and never forget: It takes two to make a marriage work, and no one deserves to be disrespected. Right now he is disrespecting you and your children. He has gotten himself in a rut and is obviously having a hard time getting out of it. Sometimes people have to hit rock bottom before they can learn to walk again. Best wishes.
Whether or not you can tolerate this situation is irrelevant. Your girls need a stable environment and at least one parent who is there for them, sober and willing to be responsible for their lives.
When someone tells you to your face that you are making his life miserable, let him go.
He clearly wants to be free to drink and party without repercussion. It is his life. He can do that if he wants to, because he doesn't feel any responsibility.
Move on, he's a burden and when your girls get older, he will be an embarrassment to them. Is that what you want for them...cause it isn't about you anymore.
It seems you have gone through alot already to try and make your marriage work, he doesn't seem to be changing his ways so maybe it is time to call it a day. It won't be doing your children any good seeing your husband like this. Also if you do leave him he may realize that he needs to change and that his FAMILY is the most important thing. Good luck.
Your children are going to grow up sooner than you think. You don't want your girls to think that it's okay to put up with that kind of treatment. File for legal separation, leave and if he wants to change he'll do it on his own and not for you. Give him a time limit and if he doesn't do what you ask then you can file for divorce. Break the pattern now. If you allow yourself to be treated like this your girls will learn from you. Good luck.
The best way to mend a hurting relationship is communication. Tell him what your feelings are at an appropriate time when you're both of sound mind and not arguing. Have you tried marriage counseling? Does your husband even want to try to work things out. If he doesn't than you might try a trial separation to see if he can get his act together. Hopefully things will work out in the end but remember that even if you don't think it at first, it's for the better. Good luck!
That's what you get for marrying in the first place! It's something only the retarded masses do out of fear and conforming. If people truly loved each other there is no possible way they could marry AT ALL, because it means legalised possession of another and permissiveness, they very antithesis of love. It may sound philosophical (or corny) but love does not ask for anything, so if you really did love your husband, which you do not, then ANYTHING would be okay, not matter how selfish or evil, because your love would be unconditional. As it is not and each person places demands on the other, any feeling of 'love' in the ordinary sense has flown out of the window. All the bullcrap vows that you made at your wedding, ';till death us do part'; and all that nonsense suddenly don't seem so sincere now, do they? As usual, I expect to get a million 'thumbs down' from the retards that don't understand sense and truth. What a world...
I have delt with lies, dranking, coming home when he wanted to. But i looked over all that and said that we got married for a reason so we can work it out, And so we did and for a year it was good. HE works construction and when he works he is gone alot. Now he is laid off and all I ask for him to do is spend time with his children they are 2-9 (girls). But he has been back to hanging with the guys who are drankers. Nice guys! but Drank a lot, He is back to dranking and driving again. Not spending time with the girls. Said that I made his life miserable. OUCH that hurt. I try to be understanding, and deal but it is hard.My marriage I don't think is going to make it. Men and Woman advice welcomed?
file for a divorce and stop wasting time on a hopeless marriage really you woman kill me hanging on to what ??????My marriage I don't think is going to make it. Men and Woman advice welcomed?
Very sorry to hear that he's doing that. It sounds like he's on his way to becoming an alcoholic and it's illegal to drink and drive. If he were my husband and I knew he was driving drunk, I would call the police on his *** and report him.
He also sounds emotionally abusive and unavailable. Don't subject yourself or your daughters to abuse. My advice is for you to convince him to seek counseling with you. If he refuses, seek counseling for yourself at least.
But if he gets physically abusive at all, you leave him right away. Don't ever subject your children to a violent environment...12 years of marriage is NEVER WORTH THAT.
Good luck.
My friend, there is nothing worse for a man who has lost face due to no work. Dont be ready to quit. The stresses men have to face working on construction sites is nobody's joke. Bosses have demanding clients who want work completed yesterday and the men get in your face treatment daily. Tempers fly and the stress levels rise.
I live in a different country to yours, but even here ther is such terrible abuse of workers and moneys with held and no contracts made, no increases are given - its terrible! We are all expected to live and yet no one gives a fig! Our jobs are taken away from us and we are replaced with unskilled labour who dont care but want to be paid regardless. They refuse to work properly either. No wonder our men are so frustrated. You have to stand by him in thick and thin. Understand him and make him feel better. Tell him you understand. The fact that he has friends around is a release valve, even drinking. The point I make is he is in a terrible position. Just listen to what he says. Dont come up with solutions, its not what he wants to hear.
Also note his age. I assume he is in his 40's and heading for mid-life crisis. He is insecure and by you going him all the time it doesnt help matters at all. You have to look hard at the situation and not put any pressure on him at all. Leave him alone and just go on with the normal things. He will wonder why you are not reacting, because he is so used to you letting him have it. I have so been there and understand this only to well. its a terrible place for you to be, but it does get better. When he is sober, gently ask him how you can help him and tell him you are not angry with him. He needs your support or he will go find it else where. I made that mistake. it led to separation and 4 years later divorce. Ironically 4 months after the divorce he came right back home and has never left again, and I changed my whole attitude. I forgave him and chose that. I didnt feel like forgiving him, but chose to regardless of my feelings. I brought respect for him back into our relationship and the changes have been remarkable in the 9 years following the divorce. We are best of friends too. However I did this all with Gods help, without preaching at him too. I asked God to change me and help me through the challenges and he did. If it can work for me, it can work for you. It will take a lot of effort but then a marriage is not a bed of roses is it and requires working at. Its up to you. You can go with the flow or swim upstream. Its your choice. I chose upstream and it was well worth the trouble!
Good luck and I wish you all a very good christmas. Seek counselling too. Become more confident and fun to be with and stop operating in the negative, because all it does is draw the negative. Trust God with your man and God will deliver. He really loves you. He knows you intimately and wants a relationship with you. Get there. Seek first the kingdom of God and all things will be added to you. It really works!
God bless you friend.
1st of all, don't stay together becuase of the kids, that is the biggest mistake you can do. By staying together can screw ur kids up more, than if you got a divorce. You can always try couple counsling, but it doesn't seem like he'd want to work at it. It would be tough, but I think yu show move on.
Good Luck
You both need counseling. After so many years of marriage you grow apart. Women usually stay thinking that things will go back to the way it was in the beginning. It never does!!! Open your eyes and do right by yourself and your kids. If he doesn't straighten up then leave. You and your children deserve better.
Maybe he has a drinking problem. If he is an alchoholic, he probably needs help to deal with his drinking. I would issue an ultimatum, get help or I'll leave. Alchoholics are not able to put their family first, drinking always comes first. If he does not seek help with AA or a liscensced treatment center, file for divorce. If he truly loves you and your girls, he will wake up and seek help. If not, you don't need him anyway.
there is no point in sticking it out your kids will understand you need a divorce there is no point in being misserable for the rest of your life because you are trying to work it out for them.
Sounds like he has a drinking problem and there is nothing you can do for that, he has to want to get help for that, you can't beg, plead or ***** at him to stop. AA is a good program but it won't work if he doesnt want it. There are also meetings for you, Al-Anon for family members of alcoholics, and they are free. You could also go to counseling yourself, to figure out what you want to do about the relationship. Unfortunatly the construction industry is full of guys who get loaded after work, so he's probably not going to stop unless he gets some kind of ultimatum. You need support, from family, your mother, any sisters? It's hard to go through it alone, and you might have to divorce him. I know you want to stay together for the kids sake, but think about what you are teaching your daughters if you stay. The older one espicially is watching what you are doing and how you are with him, and she'll grow up and marry the same type of man. But, I know you feel like you're alone, and you're not. Get some help, you're not the only one with this problem, there are lots of people like you. Good luck!
Hi,
Wow... a real hard one. Marriage is very hard. It takes two people to work on it constantly. There is no such thing as a 50/50 %. There have been in my 23 yrs of marriage that I might give 60% and he give 40% or vice versa. When faced with problems in my marriage we had gone to counseling or church. Have you suggested going and getting professional help? There we have learned to argue fairly. By this I mean not screaming to the top of our lungs and by no means say things at that moment to say hurtful things. Not to withhold or withdraw from one another. I wish I could be of better assistance. I wish you the best.
Anyone that is having trouble with their marriage and comes on here seeking answers from total strangers already knows the answer. Just get the divorce and move on.
I feel bad for the children they don't have a choice to be there but, you do. Deep down inside you know what to do. You know it's over when he is accusing you of his problems. What are you going to do what till he hit you, tries to hurt the children? It only get worse. This happened to me my ex worked for the City and got laid off we have 3 daughters (18mo,7yrs,11yrs) I thought oh thing's will work out let me give him time the drinking started, drugs, abuse phys.,mental,verbal,cheating, accusing me of all his problems. I still stayed, till the day he tried to burn my house down with me and my daughters in it. Now I live a better life my kids are happy, my sec. daughter has to see counseling cause of it all and I can't help but blame myself cause I could of prevented it all by just leaving him when I saw the first sign.....
As you can see he has started his cycle of putting his friends before you and your children. Your birthday, whats next the childrens birthday. Now the children are seeing it too, I always hear we learn from our mistakes, babygirl please learn from mine and get out he is not the man you fell in love with any more.
I think you should move on. You and your daughters deserve better then this! I wish you the best of luck and pray for you and your family.
I agree with worryed_2006. Get out before it's to late you are in an abusive relationship and you and the children are the one going ot get hurt. Do you want you girls to grow up and marry this way if you stay you are telling them this is how it must be a never ending cycle. You know there are support groups you are not alone. Just get out before it's to late for you or your children.
Leave him. No man is worth your tears.......sorry for being so blunt but from what you wrote its obvious that he is not trying so why should you! We only live once and you do not deserve to have your spouse bringing you down.
A marriage takes two people to work on it. Drinking is never a good ingredient and it really is important for a father to spend time with kids. Sounds like you need to have a long heart to heart with him, and if that doesn't help you will have to decide if this is the kind of life you want.
I appreciate that fact that you think that staying in the marriage is the right thing to do. I also appreciate the fact that your life is hell.
However, speaking as someone whose parents ';stayed together for the kids';, you need to leave him and take your daughters with you. Basically you are showing them that it is ok for a woman to take whatever abuse a man gives to her. You need to teach them to be strong and stand up when they are being mistreated.
I love my parents,but they have definitely affected how my brother and I view marriage. My mother didn't even have to point out problems with their marriage to me. I was always there and I picked up on what was happening.
I know it won't be easy leaving him and being on your own with your daughters, but you need to reclaim your life and stand up for yourself.
good luck and my thoughts are with you.
You are in a difficult place. Obviously, there are some serious problems going on with your husband. Well, since he feels that you have made his life miserable then give him what he wants freedom because he's not doing anything with the kids anyway and they probably won't notice the difference especially the younger ones. Because it's not good for the girls to see their father in a drunkard stupor all the time and obviously not happy the rest of the time and you stressed and anger most of the time. This will affect them the rest of the life especially how they will view men. So the need the opportunity to see a man in loving way and maybe if you leave him you will be able to find such a man that will be willing to grow up and face his problems instead of hiding behind a bottle. Because if he's feeling that bad eventually he might become physically abusive, he's already mentally and emotional abusive. So at least give yourself and him some space. Maybe in that time he will come to his senses or not then you know the next steps.
If he is miserable, then maybe it's time for a break. Let him feel what it's like not to have you. Alway remember and never forget: It takes two to make a marriage work, and no one deserves to be disrespected. Right now he is disrespecting you and your children. He has gotten himself in a rut and is obviously having a hard time getting out of it. Sometimes people have to hit rock bottom before they can learn to walk again. Best wishes.
Whether or not you can tolerate this situation is irrelevant. Your girls need a stable environment and at least one parent who is there for them, sober and willing to be responsible for their lives.
When someone tells you to your face that you are making his life miserable, let him go.
He clearly wants to be free to drink and party without repercussion. It is his life. He can do that if he wants to, because he doesn't feel any responsibility.
Move on, he's a burden and when your girls get older, he will be an embarrassment to them. Is that what you want for them...cause it isn't about you anymore.
It seems you have gone through alot already to try and make your marriage work, he doesn't seem to be changing his ways so maybe it is time to call it a day. It won't be doing your children any good seeing your husband like this. Also if you do leave him he may realize that he needs to change and that his FAMILY is the most important thing. Good luck.
Your children are going to grow up sooner than you think. You don't want your girls to think that it's okay to put up with that kind of treatment. File for legal separation, leave and if he wants to change he'll do it on his own and not for you. Give him a time limit and if he doesn't do what you ask then you can file for divorce. Break the pattern now. If you allow yourself to be treated like this your girls will learn from you. Good luck.
The best way to mend a hurting relationship is communication. Tell him what your feelings are at an appropriate time when you're both of sound mind and not arguing. Have you tried marriage counseling? Does your husband even want to try to work things out. If he doesn't than you might try a trial separation to see if he can get his act together. Hopefully things will work out in the end but remember that even if you don't think it at first, it's for the better. Good luck!
That's what you get for marrying in the first place! It's something only the retarded masses do out of fear and conforming. If people truly loved each other there is no possible way they could marry AT ALL, because it means legalised possession of another and permissiveness, they very antithesis of love. It may sound philosophical (or corny) but love does not ask for anything, so if you really did love your husband, which you do not, then ANYTHING would be okay, not matter how selfish or evil, because your love would be unconditional. As it is not and each person places demands on the other, any feeling of 'love' in the ordinary sense has flown out of the window. All the bullcrap vows that you made at your wedding, ';till death us do part'; and all that nonsense suddenly don't seem so sincere now, do they? As usual, I expect to get a million 'thumbs down' from the retards that don't understand sense and truth. What a world...
Advice from men pls (women are welcome too if u inderstand men)?
So you have 2 kids and a partner, but your relationship is not going to well. You definanlty not happy. You go out one night and meet a guy who chats you up and u end up talking most the night. He has just separated from his wife 2 weeks prior and has one child. he drops you home and you talk for two hours in the car, while he tries to kiss you(but u dont kiss him) many times. he wants to give you his no but u decline and say if you like me you can find me on facebook, but he say he wont.
So you spend the next two weeks thinking about him and you cant get him out of you head. YOu look up his name and find his number and call, expecting him to be happy about it.
This is the part i need help to interpret
When you ring he doesnt sound very interested and pretty much staright away goes on to say you should sort things out with your partner cause you have 2 kids to think about. But then says we should catch up, and you say 'maybe'
More commingAdvice from men pls (women are welcome too if u inderstand men)?
Well it sounds to me like he is just doing the stand up, right thing. You are technically in a relationship, good or bad, and until you are free and single you are still committed to a life with him and your children.
He's right, your kids have to come first, and you need to sort out your stuff before getting into anything else. Even a casual thing. It's bad dating karma to cheat like that...
Also, he just got out of something pretty heavy duty himself and may not feel ready to get into this much drama so soon.
Take care of you and your situation, whatever that turns out to be. Figure out why you aren't happy in your relationship, and try to fix it, if it doesn't work. Leave. But you have to at least try for the sake of your kids for as long as you can.
It depends on so many factors, which are your business alone.
I honestly think this guy was just being respectful and decent, he may have tried to kiss you, but remember you guys had been out ( I am assuming drinking a bit) and that can lead to all sorts of silliness.
Leave it be for now, deal with your life, if it's meant to be it will happen.
Best of luck!Advice from men pls (women are welcome too if u inderstand men)?
he is not separated --- when you called he was at home and he did not want to say too much with his wife in the house --- when he rings later he is alone --- he is probably looking for someone ';on the side'; --- i would suggest forgetting about him and decide what you want to do with your life --- best wishes
He is feeling the pain of breaking it off with his now ex.
He is feeling like he is going to make you hurt like he is hurting by entering the picture.
You really should talk with him about this and ask him these questions.
I think he wants what is best for you. If you and your partner split then the two of you could give something a try. He probably believes that everything happens for a reason and if it was meant to workout it will. Good luck!
well to me he just want a bit on the side,if he was going to break up he would of.don't be fooled. he sounds like a jerk. you don't need that.
He is looking for a casual sexual relationship and he probably figured you would be interested due to your current situation. Since you shot him down at first, he has since moved on looking for other woman to fit his needs. Since you went looking for him, that tells him you are interested but since he is still looking for casual and you did not prove to be an easy catch, his interest is limited. He probably feels that it would be too complicated with you and that's why he's telling you to work it out. If you are interested in sex, he's your guy. If you want more, look elsewhere.
I may be way off of base but it sounds to this old fool like he doesn't want his wife to know you are calling him at their home. Sorry but sometimes guys (as well as females) will tell tales about their relationships that are not always 100%. Look right now you are married whether things are going good or not. So why not either try and get things on track with your current old man or else give him the traveling card and start afresh while being true for yourself. Best of luck.
If you're relationship with your partner isn't working out, try to fix it and go to a marrige counselor and if you can't handle that get a divorce.
but until then i wouldn't worry about this guy because it doesn't seem like he's going to talk to you as long as you're married..
And he probably said that he doesn't want to wreck a relationship because
1] He genuinely cares about your relationship with your partner and your kids.
2] He was mad that you didn't kiss him and give him your number.
3] He likes you but he doesn't want to get his hopes up and fall in love with you just to be crushed by the fact that you're married.
Take my advice and go to a marrige counselor; It will be better for your kids and don't call this man much..
He likes you...for sex! He isn't serious with you, he just tries to kiss you cuz he's horny!
If he's serious with you, he should help you out, not 'I think you got things to think of, you have 2 kids'. It's like saying ';I like to help you but I don't want anything to do with your kids, I already got mine.'; And when he says you should call him some time, it means 'call him when you're happy..and when you're happy you might actually have sex with him.'
I'm gonna type it again- he only likes your body, for sex. He tried to kiss you many times cuz he was horny- like most men are.
So you spend the next two weeks thinking about him and you cant get him out of you head. YOu look up his name and find his number and call, expecting him to be happy about it.
This is the part i need help to interpret
When you ring he doesnt sound very interested and pretty much staright away goes on to say you should sort things out with your partner cause you have 2 kids to think about. But then says we should catch up, and you say 'maybe'
More commingAdvice from men pls (women are welcome too if u inderstand men)?
Well it sounds to me like he is just doing the stand up, right thing. You are technically in a relationship, good or bad, and until you are free and single you are still committed to a life with him and your children.
He's right, your kids have to come first, and you need to sort out your stuff before getting into anything else. Even a casual thing. It's bad dating karma to cheat like that...
Also, he just got out of something pretty heavy duty himself and may not feel ready to get into this much drama so soon.
Take care of you and your situation, whatever that turns out to be. Figure out why you aren't happy in your relationship, and try to fix it, if it doesn't work. Leave. But you have to at least try for the sake of your kids for as long as you can.
It depends on so many factors, which are your business alone.
I honestly think this guy was just being respectful and decent, he may have tried to kiss you, but remember you guys had been out ( I am assuming drinking a bit) and that can lead to all sorts of silliness.
Leave it be for now, deal with your life, if it's meant to be it will happen.
Best of luck!Advice from men pls (women are welcome too if u inderstand men)?
he is not separated --- when you called he was at home and he did not want to say too much with his wife in the house --- when he rings later he is alone --- he is probably looking for someone ';on the side'; --- i would suggest forgetting about him and decide what you want to do with your life --- best wishes
He is feeling the pain of breaking it off with his now ex.
He is feeling like he is going to make you hurt like he is hurting by entering the picture.
You really should talk with him about this and ask him these questions.
I think he wants what is best for you. If you and your partner split then the two of you could give something a try. He probably believes that everything happens for a reason and if it was meant to workout it will. Good luck!
well to me he just want a bit on the side,if he was going to break up he would of.don't be fooled. he sounds like a jerk. you don't need that.
He is looking for a casual sexual relationship and he probably figured you would be interested due to your current situation. Since you shot him down at first, he has since moved on looking for other woman to fit his needs. Since you went looking for him, that tells him you are interested but since he is still looking for casual and you did not prove to be an easy catch, his interest is limited. He probably feels that it would be too complicated with you and that's why he's telling you to work it out. If you are interested in sex, he's your guy. If you want more, look elsewhere.
I may be way off of base but it sounds to this old fool like he doesn't want his wife to know you are calling him at their home. Sorry but sometimes guys (as well as females) will tell tales about their relationships that are not always 100%. Look right now you are married whether things are going good or not. So why not either try and get things on track with your current old man or else give him the traveling card and start afresh while being true for yourself. Best of luck.
If you're relationship with your partner isn't working out, try to fix it and go to a marrige counselor and if you can't handle that get a divorce.
but until then i wouldn't worry about this guy because it doesn't seem like he's going to talk to you as long as you're married..
And he probably said that he doesn't want to wreck a relationship because
1] He genuinely cares about your relationship with your partner and your kids.
2] He was mad that you didn't kiss him and give him your number.
3] He likes you but he doesn't want to get his hopes up and fall in love with you just to be crushed by the fact that you're married.
Take my advice and go to a marrige counselor; It will be better for your kids and don't call this man much..
He likes you...for sex! He isn't serious with you, he just tries to kiss you cuz he's horny!
If he's serious with you, he should help you out, not 'I think you got things to think of, you have 2 kids'. It's like saying ';I like to help you but I don't want anything to do with your kids, I already got mine.'; And when he says you should call him some time, it means 'call him when you're happy..and when you're happy you might actually have sex with him.'
I'm gonna type it again- he only likes your body, for sex. He tried to kiss you many times cuz he was horny- like most men are.
A girl calling out to all men... I need advice?
So, I'm trying to put together a romantic night for my husband.. I was thinking of dancing for him, blindfolding him, then gently raping him.. lol!!! What would you guys want your girl or a girl do to you or for you? (I don't might TMI details, let it all go lose)A girl calling out to all men... I need advice?
Your husband doesn't want a girl he wants a woman try that first then the rest will fall into place.A girl calling out to all men... I need advice?
Go for it girl. Waaahhh.
Tease your husband.
Lay on the bed wearing sexy lingerie and ask him if he wants see how horny you are.
Then start touching yourself right in front of him.
If he tries to come too near just tell him to wait and watch.
If he stares at you with lust in his eyes, ask him if he likes seeing what you are doing to yourself.
Keep looking in his eyes and teasing him.
Ask him if you should strip off your lingerie for him.
Do this slowly, without losing eye contact.
Tell him what a naughty girl you feel tonight.
Open yourself wide and tell him to look how wet you are.
Ask him what he wants to do to you.
Then let him............
Ugh...Herbie`s reply creeped me out.
Lingerie...lots of bootie shakin`, Champagne in bed...get drunk while f*ing. Forget the blindfold...you want him to see what an absolute fox you are and let him replay the whole thing in his head while at the office. Shave everything too if you haven`t already ;o)
Dancing for him is great. Bend over in front of him. Blindfolds, not so good. I like to see everything. Make him watch you pleasure yourself for a while. It sounds weird, but it turns guys on big time.
Guys are visual creatures. Blind folding can enhance his sense of touch, but it may dull his visual stimulation.
If you are going to gently rape him, I would suggest tie up his hands instead.
Be natural. That's what i would want, you sound pervy.
Your husband doesn't want a girl he wants a woman try that first then the rest will fall into place.A girl calling out to all men... I need advice?
Go for it girl. Waaahhh.
Tease your husband.
Lay on the bed wearing sexy lingerie and ask him if he wants see how horny you are.
Then start touching yourself right in front of him.
If he tries to come too near just tell him to wait and watch.
If he stares at you with lust in his eyes, ask him if he likes seeing what you are doing to yourself.
Keep looking in his eyes and teasing him.
Ask him if you should strip off your lingerie for him.
Do this slowly, without losing eye contact.
Tell him what a naughty girl you feel tonight.
Open yourself wide and tell him to look how wet you are.
Ask him what he wants to do to you.
Then let him............
Ugh...Herbie`s reply creeped me out.
Lingerie...lots of bootie shakin`, Champagne in bed...get drunk while f*ing. Forget the blindfold...you want him to see what an absolute fox you are and let him replay the whole thing in his head while at the office. Shave everything too if you haven`t already ;o)
Dancing for him is great. Bend over in front of him. Blindfolds, not so good. I like to see everything. Make him watch you pleasure yourself for a while. It sounds weird, but it turns guys on big time.
Guys are visual creatures. Blind folding can enhance his sense of touch, but it may dull his visual stimulation.
If you are going to gently rape him, I would suggest tie up his hands instead.
Be natural. That's what i would want, you sound pervy.
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