My ex and I broke up 5 months ago, after a long, passionate, and very public relationship. We were each others first loves. We broke up initially because we had both become really jealous and we barely let each other hang out with other people. The day after we broke up, he wanted to still kiss me and I told him no, then he got mad and started talking about other girls when I was around to make me jealous, but I knew what he was doing so I ignored it. A month went by and during that time he started skipping school(we are seniors in HS, juniors then) and trying to start fights with a few of my guy friends. I was worried about him so I went to his house one night and talked to him about why he had suddenly changed so much. He was stubborn but I could tell he was still hurt. After our talk, he almost totally stopped the skipping and fighting. We haven't talked since then, but over the summer he would get people to add me on myspace to ';check up on me'; and ask me questions, even though he had a new girlfriend. Also, he makes his girlfriend refer to him by his last name? which I find totally bizarre and impersonal, and he calls her all the nicknames that we made up for each other. And they only see each other on the weekends, nevertheless, they are still together. Now that we are back in school, I catch him staring at me from afar(when he's alone), but he won't say anything. Also, people tell me that in class, when someone says my name, he looks up and acts mad.
So, I think he still has feelings for me but I'm not sure if/how he will admit it because he's too proud.
And sadly, even though I dated a guy briefly and have been talking to lots of guys, I still have feelings for him as well.
How do I break the ice and get him to tell me the truth? Need men's advice on ex boyfriend?
Take the time and just talk to him openly if he wants to play games then he needs more time to grow up. love is a two way street you both have to have your own life an be able to share each others life together you cant just worship each other an that's it life don't work that way.You still need to hang out with the girls at times an him with the guys. That helps keep a healthy relationship. you both need to quite trying to make one another jealous an just start over fresh try to just talk because if you cant talk thing out no relationship will ever work . Been with the same person for 30 years an 7 kids later seen a lot of teen age love affairs some work some don't a lot of broken harts but they all heal in time.
So hang in their keep communications open at all time try not to have to many secrets between each other.
Good luck an keep an open mind never give up if its something you really want . Need men's advice on ex boyfriend?
Jeez, that's harsh.
I'm pretty sure he still likes you, but he might also be caught between you and his girlfriend not knowing what to do.
He'll eventually have to choose, and having no experience in the matter, I have no advice :(
Good Luck
Walk up to him and just tell him slowly and tell him your sorry but.. yeah. not much else i personally can say.
Agreed. Way too long. Stop it with your story already. The guy's got a girlfriend, so leave him alone.
you gatta just say it bluntly and come forward to him
ugh, TOO LONG!!
thnks for the 2 points!
Oh, he totally still has feelings for u big time. but he's not worth going back. to get him off ur mind, join a club or an activity and totally throw yourself into it, to forget him. After a while he'll be nothing but a memory. and once you've moved on chances are he will to.
well 2 things
1st, yes he has feelings for you and he is hurt but he's too egotistical to admit it, he seems to think that he has to tough it out when he doesn't
2nd, if u want to do it secretly make a myspace and add him and talk to him, but don't let him know it's u, make it seem like you are another girl that goes to your school, or say you are a long lost friend of his ex and were wondering if you were still together and what the deal was
This is a bit long, but I've got the time to answer.
It's kind of ironic, but I found myself in that exact same situation at one point in my life, except, well, it was the other way around, seeing as how I was the guy in the relationship. Anyway, it does sound like he still has strong feelings for you. I can tell you from experience that when he's with his new girlfriend, you're the only one he's thinking of. If your relationship was truly as strong as you say it was, then you should do everything you can to win back his love, and his trust. Believe me, if this is true love, hold on, and never let go. Because no matter how hard you search; no matter how hard you try to believe you can find another; you only find true love once. I guess you should start by trying to make him feel more comfortable around you. Begin with some small, physical interactions, you know, brush up against him when you're walking with him, jokingly push him around, etc. Make him miss your touch, and want you back. I know it sounds like you're manipulating him, but it sounds like you really want him back. You really do have to tell him how you feel. Put it all on the line. Love is priceless. If you feel this is lust, or simply an infatuation, then I wouldn't recommend bothering with it. Just try to make things as comforting and not awkward as possible around him, and make him feel like you've put everything behind you, and that you want to start over. If he's smart, he'll take the hint and start flirting with you again. Hope this helps :)
you betta tell him yoo somehow .. lol this dude doesn't joke around ... haha ... thats kind of scary, idk, i wouldn't talk to him if i was you to be honest, he took that break up hard, you should wait a while to let him cool off then talk to him truthfully
Saturday, July 31, 2010
I need advice from women and men, real advice and not just lame answers?
So I am in a long distance relationship, we got engaged recently. Its been a long struggle, we have been together for 2 years. I love him more then I love myself, thats probably my first problem. He has cheated on me twice and I have forgave him, I can't move away from that. Its hard to know if he really loves me. He has committed but its not an issue of commitment. Its an issue of love and respect. We have had our talks and I speak my mind but he still goes out with his friends whenever he wants and comes home and 2 and 3 in the morning. I don't know what else I can do or say to make him understand that its not fair to me how he treats me. It makes me disbelieve in love. How can I make him understand? I don't want to give him up but I need him to put the actions behind the words love and commitment. GUYS, explain your way of thinking please.I need advice from women and men, real advice and not just lame answers?
To be blunt: He doesn't respect you because you don't respect yourself.
The fact that you don't drop him like a hot plate, just proves to him that your self respect is low.
You never once said that he loves you. Don't you think THAT'S a bit 'important' too?
You 'don't want to give him up'
I'm sorry, but 'you don't have him'I need advice from women and men, real advice and not just lame answers?
You've questioned his love for you ... why did you get engaged to him?
As for advice, I think you've answered your own question with explaining ';it's an issue of love and respect'; ... by the sounds of things he is expecting you to always be there. The answer is for you to NOT be there for him ... try saying ';no'; to him occasionally.
It sounds like he takes you for granted. You need to prove to him that your not always going to be there if he treats you like he does. If he doesn't start acting more like he loves you and less like he uses you then you have to realize that sometimes even the one you love isn't always what's best for you.
You are bring vague when you talk about ';actions.'; Be specific. What do you expect from him? Tell him specifically what you would like from him and ask him if he is willing to give that to you. But asking him not to go out with his friends seems to me unreasonable.
he just sounds disrespectful to me. sorry I cant tell you more.
the best thing you could do is give him an ultimatum. either he continues to be the way he is and not be with you or if he wants to be with you to change. and girl never underestimate your worth. this guy is jus taking you for granted. if he was really serious about you then he wouldnt have cheated on you at all! abd the fact that you have forgiven him shows how kind and generous you are with him. most of the times what mistake the girl makes is to give too much and not expect anything. its our nature of giving that makes men like them take us for granted. first things first. stop giving so much love to him. hold back some. make him want you. and if he doesnt then no matter how hard it would be you gotta walk away. coz if you think its going to change after marriage then you are completly wrong... you might just end up as one person in an abusive marriage
I want the 10 points.
Short answer, He is a player, and you are wasting your time.
Longer answer:
This fella has none of the concepts about love that you do. The evidence is the actions. Some guys are callous and just don't care about anybody. Then there are guys that don't have a clue, and think the term all is fair in love and war is really a recipe for life and living.
These are the same people that think that kinky is what they want, and positions are the real meaning of life.
He has a truncated personality, so he will always be convincing. That means he will always know what to say to get you to do what he wants.
He is probably doing as many as he can ask right now. You know he is a cheater, and he knows you know. Still you do nothing, this works for him. I know because a lot of my acquaintances, had this same problem. They never change.
he sounds like he will do whatever he wants, no matter what. I don't think you are going to fix that unless you do something really drastic to give him a reality check. I'm a really mean girlfriend, but i would take a break from him. I would tell him that you want to figure out of he is really worth all this pain, and don't talk to him for a few days. If he starts calling you and trying to get you to forgive him etc. he might be worth it. But if he just gives up I don't think he's worth your time.hot makeup
To be blunt: He doesn't respect you because you don't respect yourself.
The fact that you don't drop him like a hot plate, just proves to him that your self respect is low.
You never once said that he loves you. Don't you think THAT'S a bit 'important' too?
You 'don't want to give him up'
I'm sorry, but 'you don't have him'I need advice from women and men, real advice and not just lame answers?
You've questioned his love for you ... why did you get engaged to him?
As for advice, I think you've answered your own question with explaining ';it's an issue of love and respect'; ... by the sounds of things he is expecting you to always be there. The answer is for you to NOT be there for him ... try saying ';no'; to him occasionally.
It sounds like he takes you for granted. You need to prove to him that your not always going to be there if he treats you like he does. If he doesn't start acting more like he loves you and less like he uses you then you have to realize that sometimes even the one you love isn't always what's best for you.
You are bring vague when you talk about ';actions.'; Be specific. What do you expect from him? Tell him specifically what you would like from him and ask him if he is willing to give that to you. But asking him not to go out with his friends seems to me unreasonable.
he just sounds disrespectful to me. sorry I cant tell you more.
the best thing you could do is give him an ultimatum. either he continues to be the way he is and not be with you or if he wants to be with you to change. and girl never underestimate your worth. this guy is jus taking you for granted. if he was really serious about you then he wouldnt have cheated on you at all! abd the fact that you have forgiven him shows how kind and generous you are with him. most of the times what mistake the girl makes is to give too much and not expect anything. its our nature of giving that makes men like them take us for granted. first things first. stop giving so much love to him. hold back some. make him want you. and if he doesnt then no matter how hard it would be you gotta walk away. coz if you think its going to change after marriage then you are completly wrong... you might just end up as one person in an abusive marriage
I want the 10 points.
Short answer, He is a player, and you are wasting your time.
Longer answer:
This fella has none of the concepts about love that you do. The evidence is the actions. Some guys are callous and just don't care about anybody. Then there are guys that don't have a clue, and think the term all is fair in love and war is really a recipe for life and living.
These are the same people that think that kinky is what they want, and positions are the real meaning of life.
He has a truncated personality, so he will always be convincing. That means he will always know what to say to get you to do what he wants.
He is probably doing as many as he can ask right now. You know he is a cheater, and he knows you know. Still you do nothing, this works for him. I know because a lot of my acquaintances, had this same problem. They never change.
he sounds like he will do whatever he wants, no matter what. I don't think you are going to fix that unless you do something really drastic to give him a reality check. I'm a really mean girlfriend, but i would take a break from him. I would tell him that you want to figure out of he is really worth all this pain, and don't talk to him for a few days. If he starts calling you and trying to get you to forgive him etc. he might be worth it. But if he just gives up I don't think he's worth your time.
Please men some advice?
i need some advice please
i don't understand what my ex is up to
we split up a year ago
we have a son together who is one
we have talked on and off this last year
but we have not seen each other.
he is seeing someone.. has been seeing her since around august last year.
yet for the last 5 months he has been contacting me behind her back
when she isn't at his place asking to see me.
asking to go for a walk or watch a movie
he has a rsvp profile that he checked a week ago
i'm not sure what he is up to
he asked to see me last friday night
i said no for various reasons
then i find out he has gone over east for work and that woman has gone with him
so my question is
if he was really in a real relationship with her and loved her
why is he messaging me behind her back and checking a dating profile?
is the relationship he has with her anything real or just sex?
i still love him and i hope one day we could work things out for our child's sake
when i ask him what is going on and tell him
that i think his behaviour is disgusting
he says he doesnt want to talk to me anymore
yet like clock work within 2 weeks
comes a sms message 'hi wanna go for a walk?'
as though nothing happened.
he keeps coming back to me for some reason
i just dont know what that is?Please men some advice?
hes probably confused and doesnt know what he wants he wants her but then wants you hes not mature and i think you should forget bout him for you and your kid sakePlease men some advice?
the reason he comes back is simple, he still has feelings for you too. duh.
dont read too much into it, because he is in another relationship, but it is hard to let go of someone that you were that close too, regardless of the situation.
Next time, don't have kids with someone you aren't married to. Then you won't have this problem.
He's being the kind of guy that gives us a bad wrap. He's trying to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to have his ';relationship'; with the girl he has now, but he also wants to keep you on the side, give you just enough to make you wonder and keep you away from other guys. I'm sure he wonders if you two can get back together some day, but right now he can have the best of both worlds. He can have the girl he is with right now, plus string you along b/c he knows you two have a kid. It's sad that he can't get past it and make up his mind what he really wants. His child should be his main pursuit, and making a family with you is what he should be concentrating on. If he wasn't interested in that then he shouldn't be texting you or calling behind his girls back. You have to make a stand and figure out what you want too. If you can't have him, then plan on moving on.
i don't understand what my ex is up to
we split up a year ago
we have a son together who is one
we have talked on and off this last year
but we have not seen each other.
he is seeing someone.. has been seeing her since around august last year.
yet for the last 5 months he has been contacting me behind her back
when she isn't at his place asking to see me.
asking to go for a walk or watch a movie
he has a rsvp profile that he checked a week ago
i'm not sure what he is up to
he asked to see me last friday night
i said no for various reasons
then i find out he has gone over east for work and that woman has gone with him
so my question is
if he was really in a real relationship with her and loved her
why is he messaging me behind her back and checking a dating profile?
is the relationship he has with her anything real or just sex?
i still love him and i hope one day we could work things out for our child's sake
when i ask him what is going on and tell him
that i think his behaviour is disgusting
he says he doesnt want to talk to me anymore
yet like clock work within 2 weeks
comes a sms message 'hi wanna go for a walk?'
as though nothing happened.
he keeps coming back to me for some reason
i just dont know what that is?Please men some advice?
hes probably confused and doesnt know what he wants he wants her but then wants you hes not mature and i think you should forget bout him for you and your kid sakePlease men some advice?
the reason he comes back is simple, he still has feelings for you too. duh.
dont read too much into it, because he is in another relationship, but it is hard to let go of someone that you were that close too, regardless of the situation.
Next time, don't have kids with someone you aren't married to. Then you won't have this problem.
He's being the kind of guy that gives us a bad wrap. He's trying to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to have his ';relationship'; with the girl he has now, but he also wants to keep you on the side, give you just enough to make you wonder and keep you away from other guys. I'm sure he wonders if you two can get back together some day, but right now he can have the best of both worlds. He can have the girl he is with right now, plus string you along b/c he knows you two have a kid. It's sad that he can't get past it and make up his mind what he really wants. His child should be his main pursuit, and making a family with you is what he should be concentrating on. If he wasn't interested in that then he shouldn't be texting you or calling behind his girls back. You have to make a stand and figure out what you want too. If you can't have him, then plan on moving on.
Why do women tend to ask OTHER women for relationships advice with men?
this really doesn't make sense to me.
I mean I see magazines and articles on 'guy help' and they're all by women.
and then the girls I know wouldn't go to a close guy friend for GUY advice she would go to a girl....
so men: would you give a girl-friend of yours advice on another guy?
and women: why do you do this?Why do women tend to ask OTHER women for relationships advice with men?
Be cuz women seem to have too much trust in other women when it comes to relationships! They always seem to think that they can beleive one another when they saythey understand or have been tru the samething before! Truthfully unless it's someone you can truly trust or are really close too you should never tell another woman about your relationship because most of the time they are the ones who'll end up taking your place.
Samething with the guys never share all of your relationship info with another man,most of the time it backfires on you. Try talking too someone you don't know and someone who isn't a close friend to either of you that way you will get an unbiased view of the situation!!!Why do women tend to ask OTHER women for relationships advice with men?
Because women have been in relationships with men, and we have the experience. Women reveal more and are more helpful in the relationship area.
I mean I see magazines and articles on 'guy help' and they're all by women.
and then the girls I know wouldn't go to a close guy friend for GUY advice she would go to a girl....
so men: would you give a girl-friend of yours advice on another guy?
and women: why do you do this?Why do women tend to ask OTHER women for relationships advice with men?
Be cuz women seem to have too much trust in other women when it comes to relationships! They always seem to think that they can beleive one another when they saythey understand or have been tru the samething before! Truthfully unless it's someone you can truly trust or are really close too you should never tell another woman about your relationship because most of the time they are the ones who'll end up taking your place.
Samething with the guys never share all of your relationship info with another man,most of the time it backfires on you. Try talking too someone you don't know and someone who isn't a close friend to either of you that way you will get an unbiased view of the situation!!!Why do women tend to ask OTHER women for relationships advice with men?
Because women have been in relationships with men, and we have the experience. Women reveal more and are more helpful in the relationship area.
Men, honest advice?
how do i tell my fiance that i want him to be rough with me? he's very strong, with great muscle mass, especially in his arms... and i want him to be VERY rough with me, but I think he's afraid to hurt me. but hey, a little pain = pleasure, right?
How do I tell him to just take me if/when he wants me? How do I tell him to pull my hair and own me and make me his slave? How do I tell him that if he wants ANYTHING sexually, to either take it or just ask and I'll do it? We're getting married in spring, and I dont' want him to think I'm weirdMen, honest advice?
No, pain does NOT equal pleasure. If your guy is not comfortable with abusing you the way you want to be abused, then don't push him. He respects you and doesn't want to hurt you. Fantasy is fine, but the ';pain = pleasure'; bit is very troubling -- that is not normal.Men, honest advice?
It isn't necessary to tell him
he surely do that ...wait ...
why would you want him to pull your hair. yes, you are weird. pain doesnt equal pleasure. Get pleasure from something else, like an Etch-a-stetch.
If he won't do it, give me a call, I was turned on just by reading you question!!!!
well i'm gay but my suggestion would be to just tell him flat out. if he really cares about you... he'll listen.
It sounds like you have rape fantasies.
Most men are uneasy going too physical with a woman for fear of being accused of rape or sexual violence. He might not feel comfortable with mixing violence and sex. Why do you want to be rough?
Just tell him the way you told us! (It worked for my gal!)
Ok, I'm not a guy but I'll give you my opinion anyway (and you aren't weird btw) one time when you want him to be rough with you while he's doing whatever it is he does during foreplay, lean over and whisper in his ear that he doesn't have to be nice all the time and that you won't break. You could always talk to him and just tell him what you want of course, but I don't feel like you aren't wanting to verbalize it outright. And if all else fails....lead by example! And if he's a natural bad boy you could always tell him he's not supposed to be rough with you...incorporate it into whatever it is that already turns him on. Good luck ;)
just tell him...no big deal....
Use a safe word so he knows your limits.
How do I tell him to just take me if/when he wants me? How do I tell him to pull my hair and own me and make me his slave? How do I tell him that if he wants ANYTHING sexually, to either take it or just ask and I'll do it? We're getting married in spring, and I dont' want him to think I'm weirdMen, honest advice?
No, pain does NOT equal pleasure. If your guy is not comfortable with abusing you the way you want to be abused, then don't push him. He respects you and doesn't want to hurt you. Fantasy is fine, but the ';pain = pleasure'; bit is very troubling -- that is not normal.Men, honest advice?
It isn't necessary to tell him
he surely do that ...wait ...
why would you want him to pull your hair. yes, you are weird. pain doesnt equal pleasure. Get pleasure from something else, like an Etch-a-stetch.
If he won't do it, give me a call, I was turned on just by reading you question!!!!
well i'm gay but my suggestion would be to just tell him flat out. if he really cares about you... he'll listen.
It sounds like you have rape fantasies.
Most men are uneasy going too physical with a woman for fear of being accused of rape or sexual violence. He might not feel comfortable with mixing violence and sex. Why do you want to be rough?
Just tell him the way you told us! (It worked for my gal!)
Ok, I'm not a guy but I'll give you my opinion anyway (and you aren't weird btw) one time when you want him to be rough with you while he's doing whatever it is he does during foreplay, lean over and whisper in his ear that he doesn't have to be nice all the time and that you won't break. You could always talk to him and just tell him what you want of course, but I don't feel like you aren't wanting to verbalize it outright. And if all else fails....lead by example! And if he's a natural bad boy you could always tell him he's not supposed to be rough with you...incorporate it into whatever it is that already turns him on. Good luck ;)
just tell him...no big deal....
Use a safe word so he knows your limits.
Why do women tend to ask OTHER women for relationships advice with men?
this really doesn't make sense to me.
I mean I see magazines and articles on 'guy help' and they're all by women.
and then the girls I know wouldn't go to a close guy friend for GUY advice she would go to a girl....
so men: would you give a girl-friend of yours advice on another guy?
and women: why do you do this?Why do women tend to ask OTHER women for relationships advice with men?
Be cuz women seem to have too much trust in other women when it comes to relationships! They always seem to think that they can beleive one another when they saythey understand or have been tru the samething before! Truthfully unless it's someone you can truly trust or are really close too you should never tell another woman about your relationship because most of the time they are the ones who'll end up taking your place.
Samething with the guys never share all of your relationship info with another man,most of the time it backfires on you. Try talking too someone you don't know and someone who isn't a close friend to either of you that way you will get an unbiased view of the situation!!!Why do women tend to ask OTHER women for relationships advice with men?
Because women have been in relationships with men, and we have the experience. Women reveal more and are more helpful in the relationship area.
I mean I see magazines and articles on 'guy help' and they're all by women.
and then the girls I know wouldn't go to a close guy friend for GUY advice she would go to a girl....
so men: would you give a girl-friend of yours advice on another guy?
and women: why do you do this?Why do women tend to ask OTHER women for relationships advice with men?
Be cuz women seem to have too much trust in other women when it comes to relationships! They always seem to think that they can beleive one another when they saythey understand or have been tru the samething before! Truthfully unless it's someone you can truly trust or are really close too you should never tell another woman about your relationship because most of the time they are the ones who'll end up taking your place.
Samething with the guys never share all of your relationship info with another man,most of the time it backfires on you. Try talking too someone you don't know and someone who isn't a close friend to either of you that way you will get an unbiased view of the situation!!!Why do women tend to ask OTHER women for relationships advice with men?
Because women have been in relationships with men, and we have the experience. Women reveal more and are more helpful in the relationship area.
I found a turtle, and I'm trying to decide a name. I'm stuck between Dude, Mr. Turtle, and Jelly man. Advice?
And if you don't choose one of those, don't say anything stupid like Rabbit the turtle or something dumb like that. Make it good.I found a turtle, and I'm trying to decide a name. I'm stuck between Dude, Mr. Turtle, and Jelly man. Advice?
jelly man sounds cute
-LMSI found a turtle, and I'm trying to decide a name. I'm stuck between Dude, Mr. Turtle, and Jelly man. Advice?
KaRay Zee and CF are absolutely correct- it is against the law to keep a turtle- and even if you could, it would be cruel. Turtles are wild animals who need a natural setting to live their lives as they are meant to. My boss's son has a huge red eared slider in a 40 gallon tank- they got it online- sent through the mail- as a quarter size little thing- and now he's huge. It just makes me sick to see that poor thing in that little tank. PLEASE let him go back where you found him.
First off..you can not keep a wild turtle as a pet. It is cruel, because many times the turtle will not eat/drink correctly and will slowly and painfully starve to death. If the turtle is in any way protected from poaching (which you have done) you can receive fines.
The best thing to do, for the sake of the turtle is to take him/her back to where you found it and release it back into the wild. The turtle we be grateful to you.
I know it seems ok, to take the turtle -but the turtle will not have the life he was meant to have if you keep him caged up.
If the turtle is female she may be full of eggs, and not being in her natural habitat she will not lay them and she again will suffer.
Please be responsible and free the turtle back to his habitat in which you found it.
if you found it, very likely you cannot keep it.
it is illegal to catch and keep any wild animal in most parts of the world. you can either kill it and eat it (where hunting is allowed) or let it go.
jelly man sounds good..and just out of curiosity did you think of those cuz of the movie finding nemo? lol
jelly man
Ninja is cool.
i like jelly man
jelly man sounds cute
-LMSI found a turtle, and I'm trying to decide a name. I'm stuck between Dude, Mr. Turtle, and Jelly man. Advice?
KaRay Zee and CF are absolutely correct- it is against the law to keep a turtle- and even if you could, it would be cruel. Turtles are wild animals who need a natural setting to live their lives as they are meant to. My boss's son has a huge red eared slider in a 40 gallon tank- they got it online- sent through the mail- as a quarter size little thing- and now he's huge. It just makes me sick to see that poor thing in that little tank. PLEASE let him go back where you found him.
First off..you can not keep a wild turtle as a pet. It is cruel, because many times the turtle will not eat/drink correctly and will slowly and painfully starve to death. If the turtle is in any way protected from poaching (which you have done) you can receive fines.
The best thing to do, for the sake of the turtle is to take him/her back to where you found it and release it back into the wild. The turtle we be grateful to you.
I know it seems ok, to take the turtle -but the turtle will not have the life he was meant to have if you keep him caged up.
If the turtle is female she may be full of eggs, and not being in her natural habitat she will not lay them and she again will suffer.
Please be responsible and free the turtle back to his habitat in which you found it.
if you found it, very likely you cannot keep it.
it is illegal to catch and keep any wild animal in most parts of the world. you can either kill it and eat it (where hunting is allowed) or let it go.
jelly man sounds good..and just out of curiosity did you think of those cuz of the movie finding nemo? lol
jelly man
Ninja is cool.
i like jelly man
Men...Trouble Advice needed from both sexes?
Well 6months back me and this guy met over a friend we mostly talked over msn ... xThen com back from summer we talked but not as much which was weird the convo got drier and stuff... Then this guy had a party we saw each other and my friend said he kept staring at me but everytime i tried talking to him he would like preted not to hear....But everytime we do each other we both never talk infront of one another were both shy dont know whyy...
but anyway ever since he always tells me about his life makes stupid exzcuses to go on cam like do i look ill ? wtf yehh ... anyway
i got invited to go to the club by one of his cousins n i couldnt make it and out of the blue hes like can you make it n ****... the firts time ever hes asking me to come some where
ITS LIKE What the hell
im soo confused
because my mates always say hes looking at me but i dont know what to think...
I know this seems like my life story ... but ijust need opinions from diff people
ThanksMen...Trouble Advice needed from both sexes?
hiya, he likes you, but he seems unsure of you.could be he scared to ask for a date,incase you say no.if you like him,ask him out.good luck.Men...Trouble Advice needed from both sexes?
Im not sure, beacause he is weird! He may like you, but you need ta ask him or ull never know. Dont let him pretend he desnt listen! Mak him listen to you and ask him wssp!hot makeup
but anyway ever since he always tells me about his life makes stupid exzcuses to go on cam like do i look ill ? wtf yehh ... anyway
i got invited to go to the club by one of his cousins n i couldnt make it and out of the blue hes like can you make it n ****... the firts time ever hes asking me to come some where
ITS LIKE What the hell
im soo confused
because my mates always say hes looking at me but i dont know what to think...
I know this seems like my life story ... but ijust need opinions from diff people
ThanksMen...Trouble Advice needed from both sexes?
hiya, he likes you, but he seems unsure of you.could be he scared to ask for a date,incase you say no.if you like him,ask him out.good luck.Men...Trouble Advice needed from both sexes?
Im not sure, beacause he is weird! He may like you, but you need ta ask him or ull never know. Dont let him pretend he desnt listen! Mak him listen to you and ask him wssp!
Men please advice? I posted this and got only 1 response. Please help 10 points for best answer!?
Ok so I've been seeing this guy for a few months now.
It started out as what I just thought was gonna be a one night stand and didn't expect or think anything more of it. Anyway he found me on facebook and asked for my number, then called me and asked to take me on a date.
Since then we've really hit it off. He takes me out at least once a week, I've meet all his friends and he's meet mine, sex is great, we hang out and chill every now and then.
Only thing is, I don't know where I stand. We are like we're in a relationship, but at the moment we're still single, just dating.
My question is, whats the best way to get HIM to officially initiate a relationship with ME?
I say HIM to initiate because it's simply not an option for me to do so. I've been in a similar situation before and thought, oh well I'll just ask him myself, massive fail!
The guy I was seeing at the time said he didn't want a relationship he wasn't ready, I was so hurt I couldn't bare to see him anymore.
I wont ask him, I want for him to close the deal, him to seek a relationship with me.
Now be honest guys, what would work here.
I read this Dr phill book, and he suggested you have create urgency by ';letting him know without a dout that hes not the only game in town and that if he snoozes he dam sure losses'; pretty much, make him jealous.
Guys, would this work? Dr Phill said so? Is there anything else I can do?
Oh by the way, I know alot of people are gonna be like ';Oh well your having sex with him already, why would he buy the cow blah blah blah'; Yeah yeah I know, but it started as just sex and nothing more, until we got each other. So yeah, holding off on sex is a good method but with the way we started off it's not an option. Oh by the way, any prudes that wanna bag me out for sex before marriage or something, don't even bother, only mature answers please.Men please advice? I posted this and got only 1 response. Please help 10 points for best answer!?
Screw Dr. Phil, that dude I hate to say it is strictly for women, he forgot his own gender. To make us as men feel like we're the ones who are wrong for everything we do. I wouldn't listen to that, if a man is past all that as far as playing the making him jealous game then he's not going to budge, if that was me I'd say that's fine. I don't get why women say we as men have commitment problems, a lot of us actually don't, it just takes us a little longer. We're not experience in all of this as far as our feelings, the things we feel may seem weird to us that we don't understand them. So its a little confusing, we're taught as boys to be men, not to cry, to be strong, so eventually after time you learn to repress your feelings, whereas with girls its easier for a majority of women to talk about how they feel because for women society says its ok. For men, if you cry, other men %26amp; society see you as a wuss. If you care about him, give him time, the way women tell us men to respect their wishes %26amp; give them time. I think if you've met his friends %26amp; he's met yours that's a good thing. If I wasn't into a certain girl, other than the sex I wouldn't introduce her to my friends.Men please advice? I posted this and got only 1 response. Please help 10 points for best answer!?
YOU ARE WELL EXPERIENCES WITH THIS SITUATION SO GO ON
Was your intention also just having xxx and fun ? If so, why bother about relationship now? If that's not the case and you are really serious about the relationship now, know him well enough as a person before you take that step...
If you need to discuss more than just this Q/A, drop me a note at-
mr_tek2007@yahoo.com
Well i wouldnt hold out on sex cause that will only drive him off lol, if you want him to initiate why dont you ask him where you stand instead of over thinking? instead of asking him to be your boyfriend why not just ask if you two are ';exclusive'; and from that answer alone you'll know. its not like your asking him to marry you or anything your just curious where you are, chances are like me and most guys hes in the same boat as you and he is worried about failing. hope it does something for you.
Funny how you say ';only mature answers'; after you have just explained that u dont want any ';prudes'; going on about sex before marriage. Because, really, the mature thing to do/say would be no sex before marriage.
You wonder why u got hurt the last time
P.S- Dont ask strangers about ur love life, its stupid.
it seem like he wants a date u but then again u guys had ur fun. he could be seeing u as a game. the test is let him see u huging a guy to see if he get jelious ! or u need to have a talk with him u need to look at every relationship as a new one dont bring the past into it cause that will distory ur current relationship
It started out as what I just thought was gonna be a one night stand and didn't expect or think anything more of it. Anyway he found me on facebook and asked for my number, then called me and asked to take me on a date.
Since then we've really hit it off. He takes me out at least once a week, I've meet all his friends and he's meet mine, sex is great, we hang out and chill every now and then.
Only thing is, I don't know where I stand. We are like we're in a relationship, but at the moment we're still single, just dating.
My question is, whats the best way to get HIM to officially initiate a relationship with ME?
I say HIM to initiate because it's simply not an option for me to do so. I've been in a similar situation before and thought, oh well I'll just ask him myself, massive fail!
The guy I was seeing at the time said he didn't want a relationship he wasn't ready, I was so hurt I couldn't bare to see him anymore.
I wont ask him, I want for him to close the deal, him to seek a relationship with me.
Now be honest guys, what would work here.
I read this Dr phill book, and he suggested you have create urgency by ';letting him know without a dout that hes not the only game in town and that if he snoozes he dam sure losses'; pretty much, make him jealous.
Guys, would this work? Dr Phill said so? Is there anything else I can do?
Oh by the way, I know alot of people are gonna be like ';Oh well your having sex with him already, why would he buy the cow blah blah blah'; Yeah yeah I know, but it started as just sex and nothing more, until we got each other. So yeah, holding off on sex is a good method but with the way we started off it's not an option. Oh by the way, any prudes that wanna bag me out for sex before marriage or something, don't even bother, only mature answers please.Men please advice? I posted this and got only 1 response. Please help 10 points for best answer!?
Screw Dr. Phil, that dude I hate to say it is strictly for women, he forgot his own gender. To make us as men feel like we're the ones who are wrong for everything we do. I wouldn't listen to that, if a man is past all that as far as playing the making him jealous game then he's not going to budge, if that was me I'd say that's fine. I don't get why women say we as men have commitment problems, a lot of us actually don't, it just takes us a little longer. We're not experience in all of this as far as our feelings, the things we feel may seem weird to us that we don't understand them. So its a little confusing, we're taught as boys to be men, not to cry, to be strong, so eventually after time you learn to repress your feelings, whereas with girls its easier for a majority of women to talk about how they feel because for women society says its ok. For men, if you cry, other men %26amp; society see you as a wuss. If you care about him, give him time, the way women tell us men to respect their wishes %26amp; give them time. I think if you've met his friends %26amp; he's met yours that's a good thing. If I wasn't into a certain girl, other than the sex I wouldn't introduce her to my friends.Men please advice? I posted this and got only 1 response. Please help 10 points for best answer!?
YOU ARE WELL EXPERIENCES WITH THIS SITUATION SO GO ON
Was your intention also just having xxx and fun ? If so, why bother about relationship now? If that's not the case and you are really serious about the relationship now, know him well enough as a person before you take that step...
If you need to discuss more than just this Q/A, drop me a note at-
mr_tek2007@yahoo.com
Well i wouldnt hold out on sex cause that will only drive him off lol, if you want him to initiate why dont you ask him where you stand instead of over thinking? instead of asking him to be your boyfriend why not just ask if you two are ';exclusive'; and from that answer alone you'll know. its not like your asking him to marry you or anything your just curious where you are, chances are like me and most guys hes in the same boat as you and he is worried about failing. hope it does something for you.
Funny how you say ';only mature answers'; after you have just explained that u dont want any ';prudes'; going on about sex before marriage. Because, really, the mature thing to do/say would be no sex before marriage.
You wonder why u got hurt the last time
P.S- Dont ask strangers about ur love life, its stupid.
it seem like he wants a date u but then again u guys had ur fun. he could be seeing u as a game. the test is let him see u huging a guy to see if he get jelious ! or u need to have a talk with him u need to look at every relationship as a new one dont bring the past into it cause that will distory ur current relationship
Men, your advice please...on younger guys & dating older women?
I'm a single woman who is in her mid 40s but who is frequently invited on dates by guys who are in their 20s. This is such a compliment as they usually guess that I'm around 30. I have a problem in that I'm often attracted to them too. The only thing is, my judgement tells me that they are only out for the sexual experience and once they ask me my age, I often loose confidence. I have this idea, even though it seems a bit prejudiced, that younger guys will want to meet 'the mother of thier children' in the woman of their life. Men out there, please talk to me and advise me on this one. Are you all (when in your 20's) interested in the sexual experience when you want to date an older woman or can it really be a stable, long term, real love relationship. Because, this is what I want. (I've never been married and have no kids).Men, your advice please...on younger guys %26amp; dating older women?
They are only interested in yes, that. Also, those men are attracted to older women because they are way less dramatic, less complicated that an averghae 20 year old womanm and financially stable enough to buy their own drinks. Mature women will not to nag about football, valentine's day etc. and are uncomplicated, fun and confident.
Men will not persue, however, a deeper relationship other than deep admiration and causal and awesome dates/ s ex. They will not bring you home to their mothers and they will not fantasize to have children with you.
Have fun with them, but please, do not get hurt as your expectations may exceed theirs. If you want to get serious with someone, you will not find that on a young party gigolo.
Good luckMen, your advice please...on younger guys %26amp; dating older women?
Been a little while since I was 20-ish, but I know there are some guys in that age range who are actually interested in a solid relationship. Lots of folks get married before they're 30 (I did) so I think that says something.
Lets face it; a younger guy is going to feel that 'itch' more strongly. It's biology. But I think it'll be pretty obvious early on whether he's a gentleman or just 'itchy'.
Leave the rose-colored glasses at home. Open your eyes and really pay attention to how he behaves, how he treats you; that will tell you a lot.
Me, I'd have been flattered as all heck to have an older woman on my arm.
You'll have had more life experience than a younger man. Look for a guy that respects that but doesn't bow down; one that's confident but not cocky.
After my divorce, I got hit on by mostly younger men. Any where from 24-29. I was 36. I never got the impression that any of them out for the booty only any more than any other age group of men. Trust me...they are all out for the booty, its up to us to decide who to give it too and if they are worthy of our goods.
I'm a 48 year old happily married male. It will come as no surprise to you when I tell you that all males are pretty much horndogs.
However, I don't think you need to fear that 20-somethings are looking at you as a way to gain sexual experience with you just so they can say they did it with an older woman. If they are asking you out, it is because they find you attractive. They probably aren't thinking too deeply about whether this woman can be a long-term relationship any more or any less than they do when they see a girl in her 20's. Nor do I think they are looking for only sex any more than the guys your age are.
If a twenty-something guy asks you out, it's because he sees something he likes. Besides your good looks, maybe it's the confidence you exhibit that comes with your forty years of life experience. Maybe you seem less flighty than the younger girls. Then again, maybe it's just your good looks.
Don't worry about what any ulterior motives. The only concern you ought to have is whether or not the guy is likely to be ready to commit in the near future. In your mid-forties, you don't want to waste your time having fun with the good-time boys (regardless of their age) if you are looking for someone stable and long-term.
I would guess they're looking to hook up also-
I am in your age group, and I can bet the young men are there for two things. Sex and money. It would have to be very special for any of them to work out, maybe 1 % of them .
go ahead and do em, just dont expect too much in the relationship area.
Men who date women 5+ years older than them are looking for the fun and will dump you hard and fast when a younger woman comes along. Men want home and family, not grandma. That's all. Unless they're very very insecure, they do not want to settle with an older woman. My sister experienced this. She looks hot for her age and very young, but when it comes to commitment, those young guys run the opposite direction and tell her she will be ';old'; and won't be able to keep up with them in 10 years. Very mean. Stay away from young users.
Sorry, they just want to bang you.
Listen to Tom Leykis. He teaches men in their 20s how to get laid, and you're a prime target. It's just sex.
Sorry, wish I had better news for you, because you sound like a nice person.
A normal, healthy guy in his 20's will have very little in common, from a long-term relationship standpoint, with a women in her 40's, so their attraction to you is about the sex. Men of all ages have learned that many women don't really get comfortable with themselves sexually until their mid 30's, and women in their early 40's know what they want and how to get it.
Could it work? Yes it could work. With the right mature guy and if you both are on the same page. Unfortunately though it probably wouldn't. Men do like older women though (I married an older woman--only 2 years older) and I think there is more of a sexual match for younger men with older women. That is just my thoughts though.
Sure - it can definitely lead to a stable, long-term relationship... but you need to find the right fella who's going to be in the same ';social';-place in his life as you.
Some things which these guys need to consider when dating an older gal is their future careers and their prospects of having children. Is he going to still be with you when he's a bit older and (hopefully) more successful in his career?? (or will he be tempted by the ';hotter %26amp; younger'; gals which will be available to him when he gains such success?) Children are another major factor - sure, lots of women are still bearing children into their 50's ... but is that something you (as the older woman) would want to do?? The fact is, a younger gal is a better prospect when it comes to bearing / raising a family.
There *are* fellas out there who would love to be with you... so, don't get too discouraged. (And enjoy the rolicking sex while you can!)
Well my mom is 62 and my stepfather is 42 and they are very happily married. He is very good to her and have never heard them argue. If she is happy then that makes me happy. They have been married for 18yrs. So i think it will work out. I am 37 my oldest brother is 40 and my least brother is 33 And as far as the sexual experience most guy all ready have that by the time they are in there 20's and u know what they say it gets better with age for both. LOL So good luck and do what makes u happy and don't worry about what other people think
They are only interested in yes, that. Also, those men are attracted to older women because they are way less dramatic, less complicated that an averghae 20 year old womanm and financially stable enough to buy their own drinks. Mature women will not to nag about football, valentine's day etc. and are uncomplicated, fun and confident.
Men will not persue, however, a deeper relationship other than deep admiration and causal and awesome dates/ s ex. They will not bring you home to their mothers and they will not fantasize to have children with you.
Have fun with them, but please, do not get hurt as your expectations may exceed theirs. If you want to get serious with someone, you will not find that on a young party gigolo.
Good luckMen, your advice please...on younger guys %26amp; dating older women?
Been a little while since I was 20-ish, but I know there are some guys in that age range who are actually interested in a solid relationship. Lots of folks get married before they're 30 (I did) so I think that says something.
Lets face it; a younger guy is going to feel that 'itch' more strongly. It's biology. But I think it'll be pretty obvious early on whether he's a gentleman or just 'itchy'.
Leave the rose-colored glasses at home. Open your eyes and really pay attention to how he behaves, how he treats you; that will tell you a lot.
Me, I'd have been flattered as all heck to have an older woman on my arm.
You'll have had more life experience than a younger man. Look for a guy that respects that but doesn't bow down; one that's confident but not cocky.
After my divorce, I got hit on by mostly younger men. Any where from 24-29. I was 36. I never got the impression that any of them out for the booty only any more than any other age group of men. Trust me...they are all out for the booty, its up to us to decide who to give it too and if they are worthy of our goods.
I'm a 48 year old happily married male. It will come as no surprise to you when I tell you that all males are pretty much horndogs.
However, I don't think you need to fear that 20-somethings are looking at you as a way to gain sexual experience with you just so they can say they did it with an older woman. If they are asking you out, it is because they find you attractive. They probably aren't thinking too deeply about whether this woman can be a long-term relationship any more or any less than they do when they see a girl in her 20's. Nor do I think they are looking for only sex any more than the guys your age are.
If a twenty-something guy asks you out, it's because he sees something he likes. Besides your good looks, maybe it's the confidence you exhibit that comes with your forty years of life experience. Maybe you seem less flighty than the younger girls. Then again, maybe it's just your good looks.
Don't worry about what any ulterior motives. The only concern you ought to have is whether or not the guy is likely to be ready to commit in the near future. In your mid-forties, you don't want to waste your time having fun with the good-time boys (regardless of their age) if you are looking for someone stable and long-term.
I would guess they're looking to hook up also-
I am in your age group, and I can bet the young men are there for two things. Sex and money. It would have to be very special for any of them to work out, maybe 1 % of them .
go ahead and do em, just dont expect too much in the relationship area.
Men who date women 5+ years older than them are looking for the fun and will dump you hard and fast when a younger woman comes along. Men want home and family, not grandma. That's all. Unless they're very very insecure, they do not want to settle with an older woman. My sister experienced this. She looks hot for her age and very young, but when it comes to commitment, those young guys run the opposite direction and tell her she will be ';old'; and won't be able to keep up with them in 10 years. Very mean. Stay away from young users.
Sorry, they just want to bang you.
Listen to Tom Leykis. He teaches men in their 20s how to get laid, and you're a prime target. It's just sex.
Sorry, wish I had better news for you, because you sound like a nice person.
A normal, healthy guy in his 20's will have very little in common, from a long-term relationship standpoint, with a women in her 40's, so their attraction to you is about the sex. Men of all ages have learned that many women don't really get comfortable with themselves sexually until their mid 30's, and women in their early 40's know what they want and how to get it.
Could it work? Yes it could work. With the right mature guy and if you both are on the same page. Unfortunately though it probably wouldn't. Men do like older women though (I married an older woman--only 2 years older) and I think there is more of a sexual match for younger men with older women. That is just my thoughts though.
Sure - it can definitely lead to a stable, long-term relationship... but you need to find the right fella who's going to be in the same ';social';-place in his life as you.
Some things which these guys need to consider when dating an older gal is their future careers and their prospects of having children. Is he going to still be with you when he's a bit older and (hopefully) more successful in his career?? (or will he be tempted by the ';hotter %26amp; younger'; gals which will be available to him when he gains such success?) Children are another major factor - sure, lots of women are still bearing children into their 50's ... but is that something you (as the older woman) would want to do?? The fact is, a younger gal is a better prospect when it comes to bearing / raising a family.
There *are* fellas out there who would love to be with you... so, don't get too discouraged. (And enjoy the rolicking sex while you can!)
Well my mom is 62 and my stepfather is 42 and they are very happily married. He is very good to her and have never heard them argue. If she is happy then that makes me happy. They have been married for 18yrs. So i think it will work out. I am 37 my oldest brother is 40 and my least brother is 33 And as far as the sexual experience most guy all ready have that by the time they are in there 20's and u know what they say it gets better with age for both. LOL So good luck and do what makes u happy and don't worry about what other people think
Men...please advice.....thank you.?
Am woundering if aman would find it attractive when the girl friend tells him about her Past thou not mentioning all....and telling him how his friends are hitting/making passes on her.
Do you like it or Quite disgusting????
i want to know so that i should feel comfortable talking to him about this or i should shut up!
He rearly tells me much thou he answers any questions when asked about his past and present if need be. thou he doesn't just talk about him self as i do.....he prefers listening.
Do you think he's judging me, Knows i love him so much to do so or thinks am being a Nag! he's 40 and am 29 years.thanks all.Men...please advice.....thank you.?
Definitely don't tell him about his friends making passes. It sounds stuck upMen...please advice.....thank you.?
talk about it hes mature enough to understand
You should be as honest about your past as posible so he can trust you from the begining and not brand you as a liar right from the begining. Just don't give so many details (unless you're asked). Most men appreciate honesty, but are kinda turn off about so many details in your past if you dwell on them so much. And about his friends hitting on you: Well, I think it's up to you to tell him or not. there are drawbacks and advantages about doing so. Weigh the possible drawbacks against the advantages and decide.
I don't think any guy wants to hear about Ex's...and he would REALLY want you to tell him about his friends making passes on you so he can beat the snot out of them...
Or better yet, YOU beat the snot out of them and he'll be like ';wow i know i can trust her';...
Do you like it or Quite disgusting????
i want to know so that i should feel comfortable talking to him about this or i should shut up!
He rearly tells me much thou he answers any questions when asked about his past and present if need be. thou he doesn't just talk about him self as i do.....he prefers listening.
Do you think he's judging me, Knows i love him so much to do so or thinks am being a Nag! he's 40 and am 29 years.thanks all.Men...please advice.....thank you.?
Definitely don't tell him about his friends making passes. It sounds stuck upMen...please advice.....thank you.?
talk about it hes mature enough to understand
You should be as honest about your past as posible so he can trust you from the begining and not brand you as a liar right from the begining. Just don't give so many details (unless you're asked). Most men appreciate honesty, but are kinda turn off about so many details in your past if you dwell on them so much. And about his friends hitting on you: Well, I think it's up to you to tell him or not. there are drawbacks and advantages about doing so. Weigh the possible drawbacks against the advantages and decide.
I don't think any guy wants to hear about Ex's...and he would REALLY want you to tell him about his friends making passes on you so he can beat the snot out of them...
Or better yet, YOU beat the snot out of them and he'll be like ';wow i know i can trust her';...
**** MEN ...ANY ADVICE?
LONG...I know. =(
I have been talking to this guy for about a year, we met through one of my good friends. Things were good in the beginning, we went out to the movies, played golf etc. We admitted we like eachother. One night things went farther than should have and after that happened he basically said things were moving too fast. (I aslo found out that his ex cheated on him while overseas). I said fine ok whatever. I then thought well seems like he only wanted me for one thing, it hurt. We have argued by text alot and he mostly would say hurtful things to me and then end up talking again. It's weird. He has basically said that he does not want a relationship. So we continue to talk and he mentions friends w/benes and I really don't want to and know that I will only hurt myself and I feel that it disrespects who I am. But..I did it anyway..stupid I know. In hopes that things would change but of course they don't. The more he didn't show he cared the more my respect for him went out the window, but I still tried to be his friend because I guess I'm just too nice.
Well..the other night I txted him to see if he wanted to hang out. He txts back and says you come over here..I said where's here?..he says I'm at my friends house on base. I said um ok I guess..and then he said or we can come get you. I was like no I can come.
So I'm txting back and forth with who I thought was him and it was actually his friend and I didn't figure that out until I got on base and called his phone. So I was thinking okkk..maybe he is too drunk or something to give me directions so he is having his friend do it. So I get to his friends house and call his phone again and specifically say his name to make sure it was him and his friend tries to act like it's him and I say come outside so I can make sure I got the right house. He says alright.
A guy comes out with a hoodie and I thought it was him (my guy) and as soon as I get out of my car the guy walks away and goes inside and slams the door in my face, then I figured it must be his friend trying to act like him and didn't want me to see him. Weird I know.
I almost turned around and went home. Then I knock on the door and his friends wife with a baby answers and Im like ok..then go in and the guy I'm talking to is passed out on the couch sort of awake. I sit down and I'm in a room with him and his friend and his wife and baby. Then his friend tells him to wake up that he has company, not to be rude. Well he doesn't really get up, just says he's real tired.
His friend tells me that he had talked about me earlier that night and then that was it. I was like um ok? I should have asked what but didn't. The guy I'm talking to, we will just call him Mark finally gets up hardly says anything to me and goes to the kitchen. His friend and me are sitting in the living room and he starts just talking general conversation, then we all take a shot talk some more.
Still Mark really didn't say anything to me, I asked him what he wanted me to do? He said I dunno. I was like ok. I figured out when I first walked in the house that his friend was the one txting me and not him. After I bit of us just talking in the kitchen his friend says hey mark I gotta talk to you outside..come outside man.
So they go out and I'm sure it was about me. As I'm standing there I was in an akward talk with marks friends wife since I just don't even know her. Then the guys come back in and Mark goes and lays back down and I go outside and two seconds later Marks friend comes outside with a sweatshirt cause it was cold for me which I thanked him for and he starts talking to me about just general things and then randomley is like yeah I don't know what you and Mark got going on, but you know...then starts talking about something else.
I was what is going on?? Then I finally decide I need to leave. And Mark walks me out saying he felt bad because his friends txted me and he didn't want to hang because he was tired. I text him today and ask him why his friend invited me over and he said they just wanted you to come over, I got mad at them though because I didn't I was tired. Then he randomley says that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up that there could be any possibility of a relationship with him. I said I don't like you, what makes you think that.
I told him about the whole situation and how I felt his friends were nicer to me than him and that it seems the things he was talking about with his friends earlier before I came over weren't good. And it looks like the joke was on me. He said HA you figured it out. I just feel sick to my stomach. I have been nothing but caring, nice and just trying to be a friend and I've gotten nothing in return. It hurts that someone could act so low. I couldn't tell if it was just a cover when he said that or what. I told him who does that? How could you be that way to me?**** MEN ...ANY ADVICE?
It's an unfortunate story and I'm very sorry to hear you were hurt but please don't pursue this man any longer. You nailed it in your additional details area, it has to do with his ego. His intentions were always just sex and I'm sure he lead you on at times but I bet you read more into things you shouldn't have. I've had two friends with benefits in my life and neither of those girls did i end up hooking up with. When a guy suggests that he's openly asking you to allow him to **** around with other people, yet asking you to put out. I do have a friend who started a relationship with a female who started off as a ';**** buddy'; but it only lasted a couple months. He told me and a few of the other guys it was more of a mercy type thing. Sadly this act isn't uncommon where a guy will figure he's showing sympathy by A) entering a relationship B) preserving his supply.
I really hate to hear guys do things like the one you mentioned above but you have to work to raise your standards and not put yourself in a situation like that.
I have been talking to this guy for about a year, we met through one of my good friends. Things were good in the beginning, we went out to the movies, played golf etc. We admitted we like eachother. One night things went farther than should have and after that happened he basically said things were moving too fast. (I aslo found out that his ex cheated on him while overseas). I said fine ok whatever. I then thought well seems like he only wanted me for one thing, it hurt. We have argued by text alot and he mostly would say hurtful things to me and then end up talking again. It's weird. He has basically said that he does not want a relationship. So we continue to talk and he mentions friends w/benes and I really don't want to and know that I will only hurt myself and I feel that it disrespects who I am. But..I did it anyway..stupid I know. In hopes that things would change but of course they don't. The more he didn't show he cared the more my respect for him went out the window, but I still tried to be his friend because I guess I'm just too nice.
Well..the other night I txted him to see if he wanted to hang out. He txts back and says you come over here..I said where's here?..he says I'm at my friends house on base. I said um ok I guess..and then he said or we can come get you. I was like no I can come.
So I'm txting back and forth with who I thought was him and it was actually his friend and I didn't figure that out until I got on base and called his phone. So I was thinking okkk..maybe he is too drunk or something to give me directions so he is having his friend do it. So I get to his friends house and call his phone again and specifically say his name to make sure it was him and his friend tries to act like it's him and I say come outside so I can make sure I got the right house. He says alright.
A guy comes out with a hoodie and I thought it was him (my guy) and as soon as I get out of my car the guy walks away and goes inside and slams the door in my face, then I figured it must be his friend trying to act like him and didn't want me to see him. Weird I know.
I almost turned around and went home. Then I knock on the door and his friends wife with a baby answers and Im like ok..then go in and the guy I'm talking to is passed out on the couch sort of awake. I sit down and I'm in a room with him and his friend and his wife and baby. Then his friend tells him to wake up that he has company, not to be rude. Well he doesn't really get up, just says he's real tired.
His friend tells me that he had talked about me earlier that night and then that was it. I was like um ok? I should have asked what but didn't. The guy I'm talking to, we will just call him Mark finally gets up hardly says anything to me and goes to the kitchen. His friend and me are sitting in the living room and he starts just talking general conversation, then we all take a shot talk some more.
Still Mark really didn't say anything to me, I asked him what he wanted me to do? He said I dunno. I was like ok. I figured out when I first walked in the house that his friend was the one txting me and not him. After I bit of us just talking in the kitchen his friend says hey mark I gotta talk to you outside..come outside man.
So they go out and I'm sure it was about me. As I'm standing there I was in an akward talk with marks friends wife since I just don't even know her. Then the guys come back in and Mark goes and lays back down and I go outside and two seconds later Marks friend comes outside with a sweatshirt cause it was cold for me which I thanked him for and he starts talking to me about just general things and then randomley is like yeah I don't know what you and Mark got going on, but you know...then starts talking about something else.
I was what is going on?? Then I finally decide I need to leave. And Mark walks me out saying he felt bad because his friends txted me and he didn't want to hang because he was tired. I text him today and ask him why his friend invited me over and he said they just wanted you to come over, I got mad at them though because I didn't I was tired. Then he randomley says that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up that there could be any possibility of a relationship with him. I said I don't like you, what makes you think that.
I told him about the whole situation and how I felt his friends were nicer to me than him and that it seems the things he was talking about with his friends earlier before I came over weren't good. And it looks like the joke was on me. He said HA you figured it out. I just feel sick to my stomach. I have been nothing but caring, nice and just trying to be a friend and I've gotten nothing in return. It hurts that someone could act so low. I couldn't tell if it was just a cover when he said that or what. I told him who does that? How could you be that way to me?**** MEN ...ANY ADVICE?
It's an unfortunate story and I'm very sorry to hear you were hurt but please don't pursue this man any longer. You nailed it in your additional details area, it has to do with his ego. His intentions were always just sex and I'm sure he lead you on at times but I bet you read more into things you shouldn't have. I've had two friends with benefits in my life and neither of those girls did i end up hooking up with. When a guy suggests that he's openly asking you to allow him to **** around with other people, yet asking you to put out. I do have a friend who started a relationship with a female who started off as a ';**** buddy'; but it only lasted a couple months. He told me and a few of the other guys it was more of a mercy type thing. Sadly this act isn't uncommon where a guy will figure he's showing sympathy by A) entering a relationship B) preserving his supply.
I really hate to hear guys do things like the one you mentioned above but you have to work to raise your standards and not put yourself in a situation like that.
Men, honest advice?
how do i tell my fiance that i want him to be rough with me? he's very strong, with great muscle mass, especially in his arms... and i want him to be VERY rough with me, but I think he's afraid to hurt me. but hey, a little pain = pleasure, right?
How do I tell him to just take me if/when he wants me? How do I tell him to pull my hair and own me and make me his slave? How do I tell him that if he wants ANYTHING sexually, to either take it or just ask and I'll do it? We're getting married in spring, and I dont' want him to think I'm weirdMen, honest advice?
You just told countless howmany people and you can't tell your boyfriend this?Men, honest advice?
tell him exactly what you just wrote. I know I would love to hear that.
just tell him as ur doin it...when ever u want it just tell him whast u want and he should have np doin it...i know i wouldnt ...good luck
PEACE
If you can't be open and honest about your wants in what is to be your marriage, then maybe you shouldn't be getting married. A good marriage is based on open communication. Just tell him what you want and how you want it. If he thinks you're weird, then ask him why he's judging you? And why he feels funny about it. Because if he does think it's weird, then he's the one with the problem.
How do I tell him to just take me if/when he wants me? How do I tell him to pull my hair and own me and make me his slave? How do I tell him that if he wants ANYTHING sexually, to either take it or just ask and I'll do it? We're getting married in spring, and I dont' want him to think I'm weirdMen, honest advice?
You just told countless howmany people and you can't tell your boyfriend this?Men, honest advice?
tell him exactly what you just wrote. I know I would love to hear that.
just tell him as ur doin it...when ever u want it just tell him whast u want and he should have np doin it...i know i wouldnt ...good luck
PEACE
If you can't be open and honest about your wants in what is to be your marriage, then maybe you shouldn't be getting married. A good marriage is based on open communication. Just tell him what you want and how you want it. If he thinks you're weird, then ask him why he's judging you? And why he feels funny about it. Because if he does think it's weird, then he's the one with the problem.
****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
LONG...I know. =(
I have been talking to this guy for about a year, we met through one of my good friends. Things were good in the beginning, we went out to the movies, played golf etc. We admitted we like eachother. One night things went farther than should have and after that happened he basically said things were moving too fast. (I aslo found out that his ex cheated on him while overseas). I said fine ok whatever. I then thought well seems like he only wanted me for one thing, it hurt. We have argued by text alot and he mostly would say hurtful things to me and then end up talking again. It's weird. He has basically said that he does not want a relationship. So we continue to talk and he mentions friends w/benes and I really don't want to and know that I will only hurt myself and I feel that it disrespects who I am. But..I did it anyway..stupid I know. In hopes that things would change but of course they don't. The more he didn't show he cared the more my respect for him went out the window, but I still tried to be his friend because I guess I'm just too nice.
Well..the other night I txted him to see if he wanted to hang out. He txts back and says you come over here..I said where's here?..he says I'm at my friends house on base. I said um ok I guess..and then he said or we can come get you. I was like no I can come.
So I'm txting back and forth with who I thought was him and it was actually his friend and I didn't figure that out until I got on base and called his phone. So I was thinking okkk..maybe he is too drunk or something to give me directions so he is having his friend do it. So I get to his friends house and call his phone again and specifically say his name to make sure it was him and his friend tries to act like it's him and I say come outside so I can make sure I got the right house. He says alright.
A guy comes out with a hoodie and I thought it was him (my guy) and as soon as I get out of my car the guy walks away and goes inside and slams the door in my face, then I figured it must be his friend trying to act like him and didn't want me to see him. Weird I know.
I almost turned around and went home. Then I knock on the door and his friends wife with a baby answers and Im like ok..then go in and the guy I'm talking to is passed out on the couch sort of awake. I sit down and I'm in a room with him and his friend and his wife and baby. Then his friend tells him to wake up that he has company, not to be rude. Well he doesn't really get up, just says he's real tired.
His friend tells me that he had talked about me earlier that night and then that was it. I was like um ok? I should have asked what but didn't. The guy I'm talking to, we will just call him Mark finally gets up hardly says anything to me and goes to the kitchen. His friend and me are sitting in the living room and he starts just talking general conversation, then we all take a shot talk some more.
Still Mark really didn't say anything to me, I asked him what he wanted me to do? He said I dunno. I was like ok. I figured out when I first walked in the house that his friend was the one txting me and not him. After I bit of us just talking in the kitchen his friend says hey mark I gotta talk to you outside..come outside man.
So they go out and I'm sure it was about me. As I'm standing there I was in an akward talk with marks friends wife since I just don't even know her. Then the guys come back in and Mark goes and lays back down and I go outside and two seconds later Marks friend comes outside with a sweatshirt cause it was cold for me which I thanked him for and he starts talking to me about just general things and then randomley is like yeah I don't know what you and Mark got going on, but you know...then starts talking about something else.
I was what is going on?? Then I finally decide I need to leave. And Mark walks me out saying he felt bad because his friends txted me and he didn't want to hang because he was tired. I text him today and ask him why his friend invited me over and he said they just wanted you to come over, I got mad at them though because I didn't I was tired. Then he randomley says that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up that there could be any possibility of a relationship with him. I said I don't like you, what makes you think that.
I told him about the whole situation and how I felt his friends were nicer to me than him and that it seems the things he was talking about with his friends earlier before I came over weren't good. And it looks like the joke was on me. He said HA you figured it out. I just feel sick to my stomach. I have been nothing but caring, nice and just trying to be a friend and I've gotten nothing in return. It hurts that someone could act so low. I couldn't tell if it was just a cover when he said that or what. I told him who does that? How could you be that way to me?****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
Holy Fkn crap, that is long. Well when I skimmed through it, short answer. Dump him, and move on. There are plenty of guys out there you could choose from****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
Ok sorry to tell you but if he is yelling at you and being so stupid you should just dump him get away from him this is the grounds for abuse and it could start. Hey i may have it wrong but watch out please
You really just need to move on. I don't think he's interested. Do yourself a favor and drop all communication with him.
Hey i know youve just asked for mens advice, but i dont think they would take the time to read your question, lol.
I think that you sound like a sweet person who has just been taken for a ride. He probably thought you were easy because you went all the way too quickly, and expected you to be his booty call.
Guys like that really **** me, especially when youve got strong feelings for them, its hard! But you need to be strong and confident, there is nothing more attractive!
My advice to you would be this.
Move on, delete his number in your phone (to save the drunk dialling).
Next time you know your going to see him, try and look your best. Rub it in his face what he's missing. No doubt he will try and hook up with you again, but you need to be the stronger person! Hook up with someone nicer and better looking, lol.
You don't need all that drama, and he certainly doesn't deserve you!!
ok... ya im a guy and i got 2 admit... sometimes were just idoits lol and ur gonna have 2 get used to it...sry we dont try to be that way usually its just when were n a bad mood you just as well might stay away... for example he was tired therfore acted like an idiot so you get my point
I think he doesn't like you that much. Or like most guys maybe he just wanted to be alone for sometime and was frustrated to see you.
There's not much you can do here. Except leaving him alone for sometime; if he likes you he'll be back.
Otherwise he isn't for you.
Hope that helps.
Hun, he just wanted sex. Trust me my brother is a pig to women too. We're women we think we see mixed messages because we don't want to believe what's really going on :(hot makeup
I have been talking to this guy for about a year, we met through one of my good friends. Things were good in the beginning, we went out to the movies, played golf etc. We admitted we like eachother. One night things went farther than should have and after that happened he basically said things were moving too fast. (I aslo found out that his ex cheated on him while overseas). I said fine ok whatever. I then thought well seems like he only wanted me for one thing, it hurt. We have argued by text alot and he mostly would say hurtful things to me and then end up talking again. It's weird. He has basically said that he does not want a relationship. So we continue to talk and he mentions friends w/benes and I really don't want to and know that I will only hurt myself and I feel that it disrespects who I am. But..I did it anyway..stupid I know. In hopes that things would change but of course they don't. The more he didn't show he cared the more my respect for him went out the window, but I still tried to be his friend because I guess I'm just too nice.
Well..the other night I txted him to see if he wanted to hang out. He txts back and says you come over here..I said where's here?..he says I'm at my friends house on base. I said um ok I guess..and then he said or we can come get you. I was like no I can come.
So I'm txting back and forth with who I thought was him and it was actually his friend and I didn't figure that out until I got on base and called his phone. So I was thinking okkk..maybe he is too drunk or something to give me directions so he is having his friend do it. So I get to his friends house and call his phone again and specifically say his name to make sure it was him and his friend tries to act like it's him and I say come outside so I can make sure I got the right house. He says alright.
A guy comes out with a hoodie and I thought it was him (my guy) and as soon as I get out of my car the guy walks away and goes inside and slams the door in my face, then I figured it must be his friend trying to act like him and didn't want me to see him. Weird I know.
I almost turned around and went home. Then I knock on the door and his friends wife with a baby answers and Im like ok..then go in and the guy I'm talking to is passed out on the couch sort of awake. I sit down and I'm in a room with him and his friend and his wife and baby. Then his friend tells him to wake up that he has company, not to be rude. Well he doesn't really get up, just says he's real tired.
His friend tells me that he had talked about me earlier that night and then that was it. I was like um ok? I should have asked what but didn't. The guy I'm talking to, we will just call him Mark finally gets up hardly says anything to me and goes to the kitchen. His friend and me are sitting in the living room and he starts just talking general conversation, then we all take a shot talk some more.
Still Mark really didn't say anything to me, I asked him what he wanted me to do? He said I dunno. I was like ok. I figured out when I first walked in the house that his friend was the one txting me and not him. After I bit of us just talking in the kitchen his friend says hey mark I gotta talk to you outside..come outside man.
So they go out and I'm sure it was about me. As I'm standing there I was in an akward talk with marks friends wife since I just don't even know her. Then the guys come back in and Mark goes and lays back down and I go outside and two seconds later Marks friend comes outside with a sweatshirt cause it was cold for me which I thanked him for and he starts talking to me about just general things and then randomley is like yeah I don't know what you and Mark got going on, but you know...then starts talking about something else.
I was what is going on?? Then I finally decide I need to leave. And Mark walks me out saying he felt bad because his friends txted me and he didn't want to hang because he was tired. I text him today and ask him why his friend invited me over and he said they just wanted you to come over, I got mad at them though because I didn't I was tired. Then he randomley says that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up that there could be any possibility of a relationship with him. I said I don't like you, what makes you think that.
I told him about the whole situation and how I felt his friends were nicer to me than him and that it seems the things he was talking about with his friends earlier before I came over weren't good. And it looks like the joke was on me. He said HA you figured it out. I just feel sick to my stomach. I have been nothing but caring, nice and just trying to be a friend and I've gotten nothing in return. It hurts that someone could act so low. I couldn't tell if it was just a cover when he said that or what. I told him who does that? How could you be that way to me?****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
Holy Fkn crap, that is long. Well when I skimmed through it, short answer. Dump him, and move on. There are plenty of guys out there you could choose from****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
Ok sorry to tell you but if he is yelling at you and being so stupid you should just dump him get away from him this is the grounds for abuse and it could start. Hey i may have it wrong but watch out please
You really just need to move on. I don't think he's interested. Do yourself a favor and drop all communication with him.
Hey i know youve just asked for mens advice, but i dont think they would take the time to read your question, lol.
I think that you sound like a sweet person who has just been taken for a ride. He probably thought you were easy because you went all the way too quickly, and expected you to be his booty call.
Guys like that really **** me, especially when youve got strong feelings for them, its hard! But you need to be strong and confident, there is nothing more attractive!
My advice to you would be this.
Move on, delete his number in your phone (to save the drunk dialling).
Next time you know your going to see him, try and look your best. Rub it in his face what he's missing. No doubt he will try and hook up with you again, but you need to be the stronger person! Hook up with someone nicer and better looking, lol.
You don't need all that drama, and he certainly doesn't deserve you!!
ok... ya im a guy and i got 2 admit... sometimes were just idoits lol and ur gonna have 2 get used to it...sry we dont try to be that way usually its just when were n a bad mood you just as well might stay away... for example he was tired therfore acted like an idiot so you get my point
I think he doesn't like you that much. Or like most guys maybe he just wanted to be alone for sometime and was frustrated to see you.
There's not much you can do here. Except leaving him alone for sometime; if he likes you he'll be back.
Otherwise he isn't for you.
Hope that helps.
Hun, he just wanted sex. Trust me my brother is a pig to women too. We're women we think we see mixed messages because we don't want to believe what's really going on :(
****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
LONG...I know. =(
I have been talking to this guy for about a year, we met through one of my good friends. Things were good in the beginning, we went out to the movies, played golf etc. We admitted we like eachother. One night things went farther than should have and after that happened he basically said things were moving too fast. (I aslo found out that his ex cheated on him while overseas). I said fine ok whatever. I then thought well seems like he only wanted me for one thing, it hurt. We have argued by text alot and he mostly would say hurtful things to me and then end up talking again. It's weird. He has basically said that he does not want a relationship. So we continue to talk and he mentions friends w/benes and I really don't want to and know that I will only hurt myself and I feel that it disrespects who I am. But..I did it anyway..stupid I know. In hopes that things would change but of course they don't. The more he didn't show he cared the more my respect for him went out the window, but I still tried to be his friend because I guess I'm just too nice.
Well..the other night I txted him to see if he wanted to hang out. He txts back and says you come over here..I said where's here?..he says I'm at my friends house on base. I said um ok I guess..and then he said or we can come get you. I was like no I can come.
So I'm txting back and forth with who I thought was him and it was actually his friend and I didn't figure that out until I got on base and called his phone. So I was thinking okkk..maybe he is too drunk or something to give me directions so he is having his friend do it. So I get to his friends house and call his phone again and specifically say his name to make sure it was him and his friend tries to act like it's him and I say come outside so I can make sure I got the right house. He says alright.
A guy comes out with a hoodie and I thought it was him (my guy) and as soon as I get out of my car the guy walks away and goes inside and slams the door in my face, then I figured it must be his friend trying to act like him and didn't want me to see him. Weird I know.
I almost turned around and went home. Then I knock on the door and his friends wife with a baby answers and Im like ok..then go in and the guy I'm talking to is passed out on the couch sort of awake. I sit down and I'm in a room with him and his friend and his wife and baby. Then his friend tells him to wake up that he has company, not to be rude. Well he doesn't really get up, just says he's real tired.
His friend tells me that he had talked about me earlier that night and then that was it. I was like um ok? I should have asked what but didn't. The guy I'm talking to, we will just call him Mark finally gets up hardly says anything to me and goes to the kitchen. His friend and me are sitting in the living room and he starts just talking general conversation, then we all take a shot talk some more.
Still Mark really didn't say anything to me, I asked him what he wanted me to do? He said I dunno. I was like ok. I figured out when I first walked in the house that his friend was the one txting me and not him. After I bit of us just talking in the kitchen his friend says hey mark I gotta talk to you outside..come outside man.
So they go out and I'm sure it was about me. As I'm standing there I was in an akward talk with marks friends wife since I just don't even know her. Then the guys come back in and Mark goes and lays back down and I go outside and two seconds later Marks friend comes outside with a sweatshirt cause it was cold for me which I thanked him for and he starts talking to me about just general things and then randomley is like yeah I don't know what you and Mark got going on, but you know...then starts talking about something else.
I was what is going on?? Then I finally decide I need to leave. And Mark walks me out saying he felt bad because his friends txted me and he didn't want to hang because he was tired. I text him today and ask him why his friend invited me over and he said they just wanted you to come over, I got mad at them though because I didn't I was tired. Then he randomley says that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up that there could be any possibility of a relationship with him. I said I don't like you, what makes you think that.
I told him about the whole situation and how I felt his friends were nicer to me than him and that it seems the things he was talking about with his friends earlier before I came over weren't good. And it looks like the joke was on me. He said HA you figured it out. I just feel sick to my stomach. I have been nothing but caring, nice and just trying to be a friend and I've gotten nothing in return. It hurts that someone could act so low. I couldn't tell if it was just a cover when he said that or what. I told him who does that? How could you be that way to me?****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
Holy Fkn crap, that is long. Well when I skimmed through it, short answer. Dump him, and move on. There are plenty of guys out there you could choose from****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
Ok sorry to tell you but if he is yelling at you and being so stupid you should just dump him get away from him this is the grounds for abuse and it could start. Hey i may have it wrong but watch out please
You really just need to move on. I don't think he's interested. Do yourself a favor and drop all communication with him.
Hey i know youve just asked for mens advice, but i dont think they would take the time to read your question, lol.
I think that you sound like a sweet person who has just been taken for a ride. He probably thought you were easy because you went all the way too quickly, and expected you to be his booty call.
Guys like that really **** me, especially when youve got strong feelings for them, its hard! But you need to be strong and confident, there is nothing more attractive!
My advice to you would be this.
Move on, delete his number in your phone (to save the drunk dialling).
Next time you know your going to see him, try and look your best. Rub it in his face what he's missing. No doubt he will try and hook up with you again, but you need to be the stronger person! Hook up with someone nicer and better looking, lol.
You don't need all that drama, and he certainly doesn't deserve you!!
ok... ya im a guy and i got 2 admit... sometimes were just idoits lol and ur gonna have 2 get used to it...sry we dont try to be that way usually its just when were n a bad mood you just as well might stay away... for example he was tired therfore acted like an idiot so you get my point
I think he doesn't like you that much. Or like most guys maybe he just wanted to be alone for sometime and was frustrated to see you.
There's not much you can do here. Except leaving him alone for sometime; if he likes you he'll be back.
Otherwise he isn't for you.
Hope that helps.
Hun, he just wanted sex. Trust me my brother is a pig to women too. We're women we think we see mixed messages because we don't want to believe what's really going on :(
I have been talking to this guy for about a year, we met through one of my good friends. Things were good in the beginning, we went out to the movies, played golf etc. We admitted we like eachother. One night things went farther than should have and after that happened he basically said things were moving too fast. (I aslo found out that his ex cheated on him while overseas). I said fine ok whatever. I then thought well seems like he only wanted me for one thing, it hurt. We have argued by text alot and he mostly would say hurtful things to me and then end up talking again. It's weird. He has basically said that he does not want a relationship. So we continue to talk and he mentions friends w/benes and I really don't want to and know that I will only hurt myself and I feel that it disrespects who I am. But..I did it anyway..stupid I know. In hopes that things would change but of course they don't. The more he didn't show he cared the more my respect for him went out the window, but I still tried to be his friend because I guess I'm just too nice.
Well..the other night I txted him to see if he wanted to hang out. He txts back and says you come over here..I said where's here?..he says I'm at my friends house on base. I said um ok I guess..and then he said or we can come get you. I was like no I can come.
So I'm txting back and forth with who I thought was him and it was actually his friend and I didn't figure that out until I got on base and called his phone. So I was thinking okkk..maybe he is too drunk or something to give me directions so he is having his friend do it. So I get to his friends house and call his phone again and specifically say his name to make sure it was him and his friend tries to act like it's him and I say come outside so I can make sure I got the right house. He says alright.
A guy comes out with a hoodie and I thought it was him (my guy) and as soon as I get out of my car the guy walks away and goes inside and slams the door in my face, then I figured it must be his friend trying to act like him and didn't want me to see him. Weird I know.
I almost turned around and went home. Then I knock on the door and his friends wife with a baby answers and Im like ok..then go in and the guy I'm talking to is passed out on the couch sort of awake. I sit down and I'm in a room with him and his friend and his wife and baby. Then his friend tells him to wake up that he has company, not to be rude. Well he doesn't really get up, just says he's real tired.
His friend tells me that he had talked about me earlier that night and then that was it. I was like um ok? I should have asked what but didn't. The guy I'm talking to, we will just call him Mark finally gets up hardly says anything to me and goes to the kitchen. His friend and me are sitting in the living room and he starts just talking general conversation, then we all take a shot talk some more.
Still Mark really didn't say anything to me, I asked him what he wanted me to do? He said I dunno. I was like ok. I figured out when I first walked in the house that his friend was the one txting me and not him. After I bit of us just talking in the kitchen his friend says hey mark I gotta talk to you outside..come outside man.
So they go out and I'm sure it was about me. As I'm standing there I was in an akward talk with marks friends wife since I just don't even know her. Then the guys come back in and Mark goes and lays back down and I go outside and two seconds later Marks friend comes outside with a sweatshirt cause it was cold for me which I thanked him for and he starts talking to me about just general things and then randomley is like yeah I don't know what you and Mark got going on, but you know...then starts talking about something else.
I was what is going on?? Then I finally decide I need to leave. And Mark walks me out saying he felt bad because his friends txted me and he didn't want to hang because he was tired. I text him today and ask him why his friend invited me over and he said they just wanted you to come over, I got mad at them though because I didn't I was tired. Then he randomley says that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up that there could be any possibility of a relationship with him. I said I don't like you, what makes you think that.
I told him about the whole situation and how I felt his friends were nicer to me than him and that it seems the things he was talking about with his friends earlier before I came over weren't good. And it looks like the joke was on me. He said HA you figured it out. I just feel sick to my stomach. I have been nothing but caring, nice and just trying to be a friend and I've gotten nothing in return. It hurts that someone could act so low. I couldn't tell if it was just a cover when he said that or what. I told him who does that? How could you be that way to me?****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
Holy Fkn crap, that is long. Well when I skimmed through it, short answer. Dump him, and move on. There are plenty of guys out there you could choose from****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
Ok sorry to tell you but if he is yelling at you and being so stupid you should just dump him get away from him this is the grounds for abuse and it could start. Hey i may have it wrong but watch out please
You really just need to move on. I don't think he's interested. Do yourself a favor and drop all communication with him.
Hey i know youve just asked for mens advice, but i dont think they would take the time to read your question, lol.
I think that you sound like a sweet person who has just been taken for a ride. He probably thought you were easy because you went all the way too quickly, and expected you to be his booty call.
Guys like that really **** me, especially when youve got strong feelings for them, its hard! But you need to be strong and confident, there is nothing more attractive!
My advice to you would be this.
Move on, delete his number in your phone (to save the drunk dialling).
Next time you know your going to see him, try and look your best. Rub it in his face what he's missing. No doubt he will try and hook up with you again, but you need to be the stronger person! Hook up with someone nicer and better looking, lol.
You don't need all that drama, and he certainly doesn't deserve you!!
ok... ya im a guy and i got 2 admit... sometimes were just idoits lol and ur gonna have 2 get used to it...sry we dont try to be that way usually its just when were n a bad mood you just as well might stay away... for example he was tired therfore acted like an idiot so you get my point
I think he doesn't like you that much. Or like most guys maybe he just wanted to be alone for sometime and was frustrated to see you.
There's not much you can do here. Except leaving him alone for sometime; if he likes you he'll be back.
Otherwise he isn't for you.
Hope that helps.
Hun, he just wanted sex. Trust me my brother is a pig to women too. We're women we think we see mixed messages because we don't want to believe what's really going on :(
****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
LONG...I know. =(
I have been talking to this guy for about a year, we met through one of my good friends. Things were good in the beginning, we went out to the movies, played golf etc. We admitted we like eachother. One night things went farther than should have and after that happened he basically said things were moving too fast. (I aslo found out that his ex cheated on him while overseas). I said fine ok whatever. I then thought well seems like he only wanted me for one thing, it hurt. We have argued by text alot and he mostly would say hurtful things to me and then end up talking again. It's weird. He has basically said that he does not want a relationship. So we continue to talk and he mentions friends w/benes and I really don't want to and know that I will only hurt myself and I feel that it disrespects who I am. But..I did it anyway..stupid I know. In hopes that things would change but of course they don't. The more he didn't show he cared the more my respect for him went out the window, but I still tried to be his friend because I guess I'm just too nice.
Well..the other night I txted him to see if he wanted to hang out. He txts back and says you come over here..I said where's here?..he says I'm at my friends house on base. I said um ok I guess..and then he said or we can come get you. I was like no I can come.
So I'm txting back and forth with who I thought was him and it was actually his friend and I didn't figure that out until I got on base and called his phone. So I was thinking okkk..maybe he is too drunk or something to give me directions so he is having his friend do it. So I get to his friends house and call his phone again and specifically say his name to make sure it was him and his friend tries to act like it's him and I say come outside so I can make sure I got the right house. He says alright.
A guy comes out with a hoodie and I thought it was him (my guy) and as soon as I get out of my car the guy walks away and goes inside and slams the door in my face, then I figured it must be his friend trying to act like him and didn't want me to see him. Weird I know.
I almost turned around and went home. Then I knock on the door and his friends wife with a baby answers and Im like ok..then go in and the guy I'm talking to is passed out on the couch sort of awake. I sit down and I'm in a room with him and his friend and his wife and baby. Then his friend tells him to wake up that he has company, not to be rude. Well he doesn't really get up, just says he's real tired.
His friend tells me that he had talked about me earlier that night and then that was it. I was like um ok? I should have asked what but didn't. The guy I'm talking to, we will just call him Mark finally gets up hardly says anything to me and goes to the kitchen. His friend and me are sitting in the living room and he starts just talking general conversation, then we all take a shot talk some more.
Still Mark really didn't say anything to me, I asked him what he wanted me to do? He said I dunno. I was like ok. I figured out when I first walked in the house that his friend was the one txting me and not him. After I bit of us just talking in the kitchen his friend says hey mark I gotta talk to you outside..come outside man.
So they go out and I'm sure it was about me. As I'm standing there I was in an akward talk with marks friends wife since I just don't even know her. Then the guys come back in and Mark goes and lays back down and I go outside and two seconds later Marks friend comes outside with a sweatshirt cause it was cold for me which I thanked him for and he starts talking to me about just general things and then randomley is like yeah I don't know what you and Mark got going on, but you know...then starts talking about something else.
I was what is going on?? Then I finally decide I need to leave. And Mark walks me out saying he felt bad because his friends txted me and he didn't want to hang because he was tired. I text him today and ask him why his friend invited me over and he said they just wanted you to come over, I got mad at them though because I didn't I was tired. Then he randomley says that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up that there could be any possibility of a relationship with him. I said I don't like you, what makes you think that.
I told him about the whole situation and how I felt his friends were nicer to me than him and that it seems the things he was talking about with his friends earlier before I came over weren't good. And it looks like the joke was on me. He said HA you figured it out. I just feel sick to my stomach. I have been nothing but caring, nice and just trying to be a friend and I've gotten nothing in return. It hurts that someone could act so low. I couldn't tell if it was just a cover when he said that or what. I told him who does that? How could you be that way to me?****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
Its not GUYS...its this Guy
%26amp; if you're as caring as you say you are there are plenty of men that would be happy to have you around..
Stay away from mental abuse - Please****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
Some people are just douchebags.. There isn't much you can do but ignore such individuals.
Mark is a douche. Forget him. He's playing games with your head..
Wow, that was way to much...I couldn't even finish it, what was the point or the direct question?
Guys who are immature and thoughtless don't know what they want. They use kind people. Plain and simple. Girls who are immature and thoughtless do the same thing to great guys. Personally, I hate being strung along and used after I've put so much thought and dedication into one person. The best thing to do is surround yourself with naturally positive and heplful people, much like yourself.
I can tell this really bothers you and that you put a lot of thought into many things you do. Otherwise, you would have just written a short summary of how this all happened. I am, in many ways the same, so I can absolutely see where you are coming from.
It takes time to learn to stay away from these types of people, and by no means, offer to help them. This is because we think everyone can change, everyone deserves another chance and everyone can be helped. The sad realization is that some people aren't worth that second chance, some people don't want to be hepled and many will never change. I hoped this has helped in some way. This response is rather lengthy because, I too, put much thought into what I do.
I'm not a guy, but I do understand them a little more than the average girl. No, guys are not jerks. Jerks are jerks. And that was your problem: you were too nice. You didn't put your foot down with standards, rules and limits to what you wanted. You basically gave and he just took. In the real world, nice people get taken advantage of over people who are mean every once in a while.
Next time, learn from your mistake. Don't allow yourself to become a mat and get walked all over. Stand up for what you want. If a guy really likes you and is interested, he will do whatever he can in his power to be with you, show you how much he loves you, and respect you. Please don't forget that.
Take care sweetie.
he isn't worth wasting you time on. you deserve a man that will hold you up and honor you. you are worth it. friends with benes only lead to heart break cause you will bond together emotionally and physically but rip yourself apart at the end of very night cause you know its not real. just seperate yourself from him and find some peace in you heart.
the best thing to do after that is forgive him and walk away. you don't want bitterness in your heart, cause it will harden your heart towards love in the future. you are worth having the man of your dreams.
try this; write down a list of non negotiables for your dream man, a list of would be nice ifs and a list of negotiables. then pray about them and ssee what happens. its impossible to pray and nothing happen.
walk victorious
if the guy has driven you to write this then you know what to do... forget about him, also not all guys are the same
First off
don't make the details so long
I'm trying to help but I don't wanna read the equivalent to the Lord of The Rings trilogy in the explanation.
Short sweet and to the point next time please =]
I have been talking to this guy for about a year, we met through one of my good friends. Things were good in the beginning, we went out to the movies, played golf etc. We admitted we like eachother. One night things went farther than should have and after that happened he basically said things were moving too fast. (I aslo found out that his ex cheated on him while overseas). I said fine ok whatever. I then thought well seems like he only wanted me for one thing, it hurt. We have argued by text alot and he mostly would say hurtful things to me and then end up talking again. It's weird. He has basically said that he does not want a relationship. So we continue to talk and he mentions friends w/benes and I really don't want to and know that I will only hurt myself and I feel that it disrespects who I am. But..I did it anyway..stupid I know. In hopes that things would change but of course they don't. The more he didn't show he cared the more my respect for him went out the window, but I still tried to be his friend because I guess I'm just too nice.
Well..the other night I txted him to see if he wanted to hang out. He txts back and says you come over here..I said where's here?..he says I'm at my friends house on base. I said um ok I guess..and then he said or we can come get you. I was like no I can come.
So I'm txting back and forth with who I thought was him and it was actually his friend and I didn't figure that out until I got on base and called his phone. So I was thinking okkk..maybe he is too drunk or something to give me directions so he is having his friend do it. So I get to his friends house and call his phone again and specifically say his name to make sure it was him and his friend tries to act like it's him and I say come outside so I can make sure I got the right house. He says alright.
A guy comes out with a hoodie and I thought it was him (my guy) and as soon as I get out of my car the guy walks away and goes inside and slams the door in my face, then I figured it must be his friend trying to act like him and didn't want me to see him. Weird I know.
I almost turned around and went home. Then I knock on the door and his friends wife with a baby answers and Im like ok..then go in and the guy I'm talking to is passed out on the couch sort of awake. I sit down and I'm in a room with him and his friend and his wife and baby. Then his friend tells him to wake up that he has company, not to be rude. Well he doesn't really get up, just says he's real tired.
His friend tells me that he had talked about me earlier that night and then that was it. I was like um ok? I should have asked what but didn't. The guy I'm talking to, we will just call him Mark finally gets up hardly says anything to me and goes to the kitchen. His friend and me are sitting in the living room and he starts just talking general conversation, then we all take a shot talk some more.
Still Mark really didn't say anything to me, I asked him what he wanted me to do? He said I dunno. I was like ok. I figured out when I first walked in the house that his friend was the one txting me and not him. After I bit of us just talking in the kitchen his friend says hey mark I gotta talk to you outside..come outside man.
So they go out and I'm sure it was about me. As I'm standing there I was in an akward talk with marks friends wife since I just don't even know her. Then the guys come back in and Mark goes and lays back down and I go outside and two seconds later Marks friend comes outside with a sweatshirt cause it was cold for me which I thanked him for and he starts talking to me about just general things and then randomley is like yeah I don't know what you and Mark got going on, but you know...then starts talking about something else.
I was what is going on?? Then I finally decide I need to leave. And Mark walks me out saying he felt bad because his friends txted me and he didn't want to hang because he was tired. I text him today and ask him why his friend invited me over and he said they just wanted you to come over, I got mad at them though because I didn't I was tired. Then he randomley says that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up that there could be any possibility of a relationship with him. I said I don't like you, what makes you think that.
I told him about the whole situation and how I felt his friends were nicer to me than him and that it seems the things he was talking about with his friends earlier before I came over weren't good. And it looks like the joke was on me. He said HA you figured it out. I just feel sick to my stomach. I have been nothing but caring, nice and just trying to be a friend and I've gotten nothing in return. It hurts that someone could act so low. I couldn't tell if it was just a cover when he said that or what. I told him who does that? How could you be that way to me?****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
Its not GUYS...its this Guy
%26amp; if you're as caring as you say you are there are plenty of men that would be happy to have you around..
Stay away from mental abuse - Please****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
Some people are just douchebags.. There isn't much you can do but ignore such individuals.
Mark is a douche. Forget him. He's playing games with your head..
Wow, that was way to much...I couldn't even finish it, what was the point or the direct question?
Guys who are immature and thoughtless don't know what they want. They use kind people. Plain and simple. Girls who are immature and thoughtless do the same thing to great guys. Personally, I hate being strung along and used after I've put so much thought and dedication into one person. The best thing to do is surround yourself with naturally positive and heplful people, much like yourself.
I can tell this really bothers you and that you put a lot of thought into many things you do. Otherwise, you would have just written a short summary of how this all happened. I am, in many ways the same, so I can absolutely see where you are coming from.
It takes time to learn to stay away from these types of people, and by no means, offer to help them. This is because we think everyone can change, everyone deserves another chance and everyone can be helped. The sad realization is that some people aren't worth that second chance, some people don't want to be hepled and many will never change. I hoped this has helped in some way. This response is rather lengthy because, I too, put much thought into what I do.
I'm not a guy, but I do understand them a little more than the average girl. No, guys are not jerks. Jerks are jerks. And that was your problem: you were too nice. You didn't put your foot down with standards, rules and limits to what you wanted. You basically gave and he just took. In the real world, nice people get taken advantage of over people who are mean every once in a while.
Next time, learn from your mistake. Don't allow yourself to become a mat and get walked all over. Stand up for what you want. If a guy really likes you and is interested, he will do whatever he can in his power to be with you, show you how much he loves you, and respect you. Please don't forget that.
Take care sweetie.
he isn't worth wasting you time on. you deserve a man that will hold you up and honor you. you are worth it. friends with benes only lead to heart break cause you will bond together emotionally and physically but rip yourself apart at the end of very night cause you know its not real. just seperate yourself from him and find some peace in you heart.
the best thing to do after that is forgive him and walk away. you don't want bitterness in your heart, cause it will harden your heart towards love in the future. you are worth having the man of your dreams.
try this; write down a list of non negotiables for your dream man, a list of would be nice ifs and a list of negotiables. then pray about them and ssee what happens. its impossible to pray and nothing happen.
walk victorious
if the guy has driven you to write this then you know what to do... forget about him, also not all guys are the same
First off
don't make the details so long
I'm trying to help but I don't wanna read the equivalent to the Lord of The Rings trilogy in the explanation.
Short sweet and to the point next time please =]
Men ~ Threesome Advice?
Women who have been in this position can answer too...
I'm sure its not very common for women to really want this and have the guts to make it happen, but men, if you were with a girl for a couple of years, loved each other unconditionally, and would do anything for one another, how would you feel if your girlfriend suggested a threesome or ';swapping'; with another couple that you were friends with? Also, how would you want her to approach you about it? I'm in my 20s, no kids and not married. I'm just curious, I love making fantasies happen. I love him and don't want to hurt his feelings because he really is the best lover I have ever had and I love him dearly. I just think it would be fun. Sometimes I'm mad at myself for even considering asking him....Men ~ Threesome Advice?
This is something my wife and I never really had to deal with because we were both on the same page when it came to sexual fantasies and our ideas of love and sex and the separation between the two. But here's how I think you'd want to approach it.
First, you do have to worry about him getting hurt and defensive because of it. Most people's first response would be ';What?! I'm not enough for you?!'; We both know that's not the case, but we've been conditioned by others with that idea that that is the way a relationship is supposed to be, that that one person will fufill your every emtional, intellectual and physical need for the rest of your life.
The truth is no one person can, and to ask them to do such is setting yourself up for dissapointment and eventual resentment of them because ';they let you down';.
The common misconception about opening-up your relationship sexually is that you are doing it because your spouse doesn't satisy you. Anyone who's ever really done it knows that's not the case at all. It's just a fun, exciting fantasy come to life. It's sex, and that's it.
So first you have to approach it as the fact that it is a sexual fantasy, and that sex is sex and love is love, and although ou can enjoy sex with someone you don't love you enjoy it the most with him, because you do love him. It's not replacement sex, it's additional sex. And the same goes for him. He should enjoy sex with the other woman, and he knows deep down in his heart that he could have sex with someone else and it would in no way diminish the love he feels for you. But it's hard to project the same onto your spouse.
You have to be very secure in yourself and your value to your spouse, so you have to let him know how much you value him and that this is simply sex and nothing more.
First, lets face it, unless you were a virgin when you got married you had sex, and good sex at that, with someone else. But that obviously wasn't ';enough'; or you'd be married to them instead of who you are married to. THAT is what noone but your spouse will ever be to you, and nobody can replace that.
Below is a link to some great posts on The Swingers Board about this very subject. I hope it helps.Men ~ Threesome Advice?
First and formoat, do not do this randomly, you will regret it. If it ever comes down to ';a possibility'; then find a good swingers club, one that has an orientation session and ask questions. They have heard them all so there is no big deal. Then you will have a better idea of what is going on. Also, never ';get together'; with a friend, unless you have been to swingers clubs for some time and you make friends there. It can work, but sex is much too important to be left to amatuers.
Adding other people into your sex life together isn't something you should do on a whim. It can sound really hot as a fantasy, but when it is really happening and you see your partner really going at it with another person your emotions can blow up like crazy and ruin everything. Have you ever talked with him about fantasies like this? Or would this be coming out of the blue? This is something you need to talk about a lot and take slowly if you want your relationship to still be there after the fantasy is over.
ChiChi, I would be crushed and broken-hearted if my girlfriend suggested this...
Are you saying a threesome with another guy?
If my girl asked for that I'd break up with her and tell her to go be with that guy. Same with the swapping, I don't want any other guy nailing a girl I love.
Now the standard threesome is two girls and a guy and it ends badly 95% of the time.
I'd draw the line there because sex is best with 2 people not 3. Emotions come into play that you don't expect when you see your partner with another person.
If youy want to do this with another guy, he may be less than happy. But if you're thinking of bringing in another girl, he might be more than willing. It all depends on which way you go.
if u want a guy as the 3rd partner ur bf will be pissed off! its gotcha be a hot gal..
I'm sure its not very common for women to really want this and have the guts to make it happen, but men, if you were with a girl for a couple of years, loved each other unconditionally, and would do anything for one another, how would you feel if your girlfriend suggested a threesome or ';swapping'; with another couple that you were friends with? Also, how would you want her to approach you about it? I'm in my 20s, no kids and not married. I'm just curious, I love making fantasies happen. I love him and don't want to hurt his feelings because he really is the best lover I have ever had and I love him dearly. I just think it would be fun. Sometimes I'm mad at myself for even considering asking him....Men ~ Threesome Advice?
This is something my wife and I never really had to deal with because we were both on the same page when it came to sexual fantasies and our ideas of love and sex and the separation between the two. But here's how I think you'd want to approach it.
First, you do have to worry about him getting hurt and defensive because of it. Most people's first response would be ';What?! I'm not enough for you?!'; We both know that's not the case, but we've been conditioned by others with that idea that that is the way a relationship is supposed to be, that that one person will fufill your every emtional, intellectual and physical need for the rest of your life.
The truth is no one person can, and to ask them to do such is setting yourself up for dissapointment and eventual resentment of them because ';they let you down';.
The common misconception about opening-up your relationship sexually is that you are doing it because your spouse doesn't satisy you. Anyone who's ever really done it knows that's not the case at all. It's just a fun, exciting fantasy come to life. It's sex, and that's it.
So first you have to approach it as the fact that it is a sexual fantasy, and that sex is sex and love is love, and although ou can enjoy sex with someone you don't love you enjoy it the most with him, because you do love him. It's not replacement sex, it's additional sex. And the same goes for him. He should enjoy sex with the other woman, and he knows deep down in his heart that he could have sex with someone else and it would in no way diminish the love he feels for you. But it's hard to project the same onto your spouse.
You have to be very secure in yourself and your value to your spouse, so you have to let him know how much you value him and that this is simply sex and nothing more.
First, lets face it, unless you were a virgin when you got married you had sex, and good sex at that, with someone else. But that obviously wasn't ';enough'; or you'd be married to them instead of who you are married to. THAT is what noone but your spouse will ever be to you, and nobody can replace that.
Below is a link to some great posts on The Swingers Board about this very subject. I hope it helps.Men ~ Threesome Advice?
First and formoat, do not do this randomly, you will regret it. If it ever comes down to ';a possibility'; then find a good swingers club, one that has an orientation session and ask questions. They have heard them all so there is no big deal. Then you will have a better idea of what is going on. Also, never ';get together'; with a friend, unless you have been to swingers clubs for some time and you make friends there. It can work, but sex is much too important to be left to amatuers.
Adding other people into your sex life together isn't something you should do on a whim. It can sound really hot as a fantasy, but when it is really happening and you see your partner really going at it with another person your emotions can blow up like crazy and ruin everything. Have you ever talked with him about fantasies like this? Or would this be coming out of the blue? This is something you need to talk about a lot and take slowly if you want your relationship to still be there after the fantasy is over.
ChiChi, I would be crushed and broken-hearted if my girlfriend suggested this...
Are you saying a threesome with another guy?
If my girl asked for that I'd break up with her and tell her to go be with that guy. Same with the swapping, I don't want any other guy nailing a girl I love.
Now the standard threesome is two girls and a guy and it ends badly 95% of the time.
I'd draw the line there because sex is best with 2 people not 3. Emotions come into play that you don't expect when you see your partner with another person.
If youy want to do this with another guy, he may be less than happy. But if you're thinking of bringing in another girl, he might be more than willing. It all depends on which way you go.
if u want a guy as the 3rd partner ur bf will be pissed off! its gotcha be a hot gal..
***MEN any advice on this???? PLEASEEE!!!***?
First off I know it's long..but no one would understand if I didn't explain so please be patient =/..thanks.
Last year I was seeing this guy (we have known eachother for about 3 years) but were seeing/dating or hooking up ..I have no clue what we were but it was just complicated. When he came back from Iraq he decided to go out with his cousins best friend (whom he was previously interested in) and told me that he just had slightly more feelings for her and yadda yadda..just too much stuff I don't need to get into. lol Then after a year we start to talk again.. recently..just catching up on life..and he basically broke my heart the first time (i fall hard) but he made it out to seem he was interested and we ';hooked up'; alot, point is I was naieve and stupid and he broke my heart.
Well recently we started to talk almost every night and he kept telling me how much he wanted to see me and one night he tells me that him and his ';now ex'; broke up because she is currently in another country and wants to enlist for another 3 years and they just want different things. I am definitley keeping a BIG guard up with him. We decided to meet and we chilled at his place and we got intimate (I didn't want it to happen but it did) ..he was drunk and he was pretty overwhelming with telling me almost ALL night how interested he was in me and how glad he was that I came to spend time with him blah blah blah. I mean he has never been that way before at all.
We went to the rooftop to just go up there and he ended up holding my hand and I was like why are you interested NOW?? He was just like your sincere and caring. We went to dinner and a movie this past weekend and had a good time, but it's like he's holding back. I noticed his myspace (as petty as it is) still has him and his ex as the main picture (we aren't myspace friends and his is private) and it just seems odd to me. I asked him wtf is going on, I'm not understanding he basically said he was interested (although we aren't an ';item'; I still think I have the right to know. He said he was interested, but didn't know what he wanted right now. I mean why is he coming back into my life after treating me the way he did? I have a weird feeling I'm either a rebound or just company.
I told him I'm not having anymore intimacy with him and haven't heard from him by txt since unless I write him. Any opinions, suggestions??? I don't feel that I should contact him that much anymore, I'm not sure what to do.
The other night I texted him and asked him if him and his ex were still going out and he kept asking me why. I said look it's not a big deal I just wanted to know. He finally said no..we aren't dating anymore. But still kept asking me why I wanted to know..I just said drop it. He was texting me almost all day and then after I ask him that question and tell him no more intimacy he hasn't texted at all or tried to call..lol..I find that real funny. So that pretty indicates that..he is scrared? Using me? I'm sure I probably know the answer. I've waited to see if he would text me or call or even IM but I've gotten nothing from him, what is his problem?? Then last night I told him I knew he would stop talking to me (just to prove a point)..and he said why..I said because I said I wouldn't ';do anything'; with you and I asked you about your ex.. and he was like I stopped talking to you because you didn't answer me on why you asked me about my ex and I told you I did I didn't want to have intimacy either, obviously you don't trust me so don't waste my time. (waste his time haha unbelievable)!***MEN any advice on this???? PLEASEEE!!!***?
please email me when the short version is released.***MEN any advice on this???? PLEASEEE!!!***?
Bottom line - he's using you as a fallback and you know it. You just dont want to see it. If he cared about you in the slightest bit, he would have told you one way or the other - we'll be together or not. Instead he keeps you on a yo-yo because he can.
You're dealing with a guy that has no respect for you. Is that what you want/deserve, or are you better than that?
Listen, you sound like a real sweet woman. You gave it a shot - it didn't work out. But, this guy likes the fact that you are there when he gets into a fight or has tiff with his 'alleged' ex.
Stop seeing the guy. Wait a few years...you can be friends - but no communicating for a while and then if your paths cross latter so be it.
Find someone who wants to be with you for certain...this guy just likes hooking up.
Last year I was seeing this guy (we have known eachother for about 3 years) but were seeing/dating or hooking up ..I have no clue what we were but it was just complicated. When he came back from Iraq he decided to go out with his cousins best friend (whom he was previously interested in) and told me that he just had slightly more feelings for her and yadda yadda..just too much stuff I don't need to get into. lol Then after a year we start to talk again.. recently..just catching up on life..and he basically broke my heart the first time (i fall hard) but he made it out to seem he was interested and we ';hooked up'; alot, point is I was naieve and stupid and he broke my heart.
Well recently we started to talk almost every night and he kept telling me how much he wanted to see me and one night he tells me that him and his ';now ex'; broke up because she is currently in another country and wants to enlist for another 3 years and they just want different things. I am definitley keeping a BIG guard up with him. We decided to meet and we chilled at his place and we got intimate (I didn't want it to happen but it did) ..he was drunk and he was pretty overwhelming with telling me almost ALL night how interested he was in me and how glad he was that I came to spend time with him blah blah blah. I mean he has never been that way before at all.
We went to the rooftop to just go up there and he ended up holding my hand and I was like why are you interested NOW?? He was just like your sincere and caring. We went to dinner and a movie this past weekend and had a good time, but it's like he's holding back. I noticed his myspace (as petty as it is) still has him and his ex as the main picture (we aren't myspace friends and his is private) and it just seems odd to me. I asked him wtf is going on, I'm not understanding he basically said he was interested (although we aren't an ';item'; I still think I have the right to know. He said he was interested, but didn't know what he wanted right now. I mean why is he coming back into my life after treating me the way he did? I have a weird feeling I'm either a rebound or just company.
I told him I'm not having anymore intimacy with him and haven't heard from him by txt since unless I write him. Any opinions, suggestions??? I don't feel that I should contact him that much anymore, I'm not sure what to do.
The other night I texted him and asked him if him and his ex were still going out and he kept asking me why. I said look it's not a big deal I just wanted to know. He finally said no..we aren't dating anymore. But still kept asking me why I wanted to know..I just said drop it. He was texting me almost all day and then after I ask him that question and tell him no more intimacy he hasn't texted at all or tried to call..lol..I find that real funny. So that pretty indicates that..he is scrared? Using me? I'm sure I probably know the answer. I've waited to see if he would text me or call or even IM but I've gotten nothing from him, what is his problem?? Then last night I told him I knew he would stop talking to me (just to prove a point)..and he said why..I said because I said I wouldn't ';do anything'; with you and I asked you about your ex.. and he was like I stopped talking to you because you didn't answer me on why you asked me about my ex and I told you I did I didn't want to have intimacy either, obviously you don't trust me so don't waste my time. (waste his time haha unbelievable)!***MEN any advice on this???? PLEASEEE!!!***?
please email me when the short version is released.***MEN any advice on this???? PLEASEEE!!!***?
Bottom line - he's using you as a fallback and you know it. You just dont want to see it. If he cared about you in the slightest bit, he would have told you one way or the other - we'll be together or not. Instead he keeps you on a yo-yo because he can.
You're dealing with a guy that has no respect for you. Is that what you want/deserve, or are you better than that?
Listen, you sound like a real sweet woman. You gave it a shot - it didn't work out. But, this guy likes the fact that you are there when he gets into a fight or has tiff with his 'alleged' ex.
Stop seeing the guy. Wait a few years...you can be friends - but no communicating for a while and then if your paths cross latter so be it.
Find someone who wants to be with you for certain...this guy just likes hooking up.
Men some advice please...: What do i tell my guy friend.....?
I am really close with my boyfriends guy friends and they tell me everything.... I guess there really comfortable around me and think i'm ';one of the guys';... Well anyway, were all around the ages of 20-23.... one of my guy friends came up to me today and ask to talk to me privately..... he aid he has been having a problem with his ';man hood'; and was really scared of what would happen.... he says that everytime and only when he has sex with his girl friend and ';n*ts'; he gets pain in his testicles after wards... he says he doesn't want to tell his girl friend because he doesn't want her to be scared because he's scared.... he wants to know what he should do.... i told him to go to the doctor just to make sure everything is ok... but he has a man mentality and is nervous lol.... what could it be and what should he do? how can i convice him to go see a doctor... he's 20-21 and told me he never went for a physical before.....Men some advice please...: What do i tell my guy friend.....?
He better go, man health detacts that you treat the ';man hood'; with the up most respect. So unless he wants to loss is prostate or repture his ';man hood'; with a possible kiney stone. He better actually MAN THE F';IN UP!!!!! F'in *******, jesus oooo the doctor is so scary, oooo the doctors going to hurt me, no please, no not the doctor, f'in little f;in kiddos seriously thats not manly, females do that more then man, thats just a lack of trust in society caused by a lack of emotional attunement towards the true reality he lives in. In other words, he is just being a kid, let him know, because this act of kiddoness could hurt the only thing he can label a man, his ';man hood';......
He better go, man health detacts that you treat the ';man hood'; with the up most respect. So unless he wants to loss is prostate or repture his ';man hood'; with a possible kiney stone. He better actually MAN THE F';IN UP!!!!! F'in *******, jesus oooo the doctor is so scary, oooo the doctors going to hurt me, no please, no not the doctor, f'in little f;in kiddos seriously thats not manly, females do that more then man, thats just a lack of trust in society caused by a lack of emotional attunement towards the true reality he lives in. In other words, he is just being a kid, let him know, because this act of kiddoness could hurt the only thing he can label a man, his ';man hood';......
Help Please!! need advice from both men & women. Advice on Ex, is it or isn't it?!?
My boyfriend recentely split with me suddenly sayin his head was a mess and he didn't know what he wanted anymore. He said he had never felt what he had with me, but felt there was always something holding him back in his head. He said he had to do it cause he didn't want to hurt me, cause he cared to much about me. MEN %26amp; WOMEN I NEED THIS DECODING IS THIS A BULLSHIT MAN EXCUSE??
He had only had one serious relationship before me and his girlfriend messed him around a lot, she asked him back while he was with me but said no %26amp; i know 4 sure he is not with her.
He has been there 4 me since, he texts me nearly everyday n we c each other regular still, we sometimes sleep together but not always.
It hard though cause we been mates nearly 12 years now so don't wanna loose that friendship, but don't know whether i am just lyin 2 myself and him?
Please help does this sound genuine or like he is just lookin 4 easy way out, also and havin his cake n eatin it!Help Please!! need advice from both men %26amp; women. Advice on Ex, is it or isn't it?!?
seriously if he doesn't want to hurt you then why the seeing each other and sleeping together, sounds to me like he wants all the benefits of having a relationship but without the complexities. It might be hard but you need to tell him that until he gets his head straight you'll be friends or nothing at all or he'll end up doing what he says he's trying to avoid.Help Please!! need advice from both men %26amp; women. Advice on Ex, is it or isn't it?!?
Song by Bonnie Riatt (...';I can't make you love me if you don't and you can't make your heart feel something it won't....';). Be his friend, don't be his friends with benefits (no sex). Find a guy who wants you for you (the whole package) and not just for sex. Good luck.
I really think that distance between you both is a good idea right now.
This guy has obviously got a lot of emotional issues to sort out, and in many ways the memory of his ex is haunting your relationship.
Your friendship is obviously precious to you both, and at least he's not given up on that, but from what he is saying, if he can't have 'space' right now, that friendship may be put in jeopody..
But this goes for you as well, as IF this is what he wants then there must be 'ground rules' for you both, and he cannot expect you to 'jump' at his requests to see you whenever.
Give yourselves a break from the relationship on a 'trial basis' , remain as friends, but physically and emotionally you both need time to 'work out' your needs and wants right now.
good luck with your decision
Caramac x
I have been in this situation before but mine wasn't that long it's not an excuse he basically saying he needed a break to clear his head. it does hurt but it usually works in the end. that is what i experience anyway I'm not entirely sure on your situation though. hope this helps a little.
he is having his cake and eating it. He is definitely using you.
I personally think he wants cake! (lol) but he might just have a hard time letting go. Id pray.
God Bless
Sammi
if he doesnt want to hurt you, why is he SLEEPING with you still while you arent together?? Sounds to me like that was a BS excuse....find someone better...it does sound like hes having his cake and eating it too.
he was just trying to let you down easy he proply slept with someone eslse
Having his cake and eating it too..! He wants to keep you on the hook. How do you know for sure he's not seeing someone else? Because you haven't caught him yet? He made it plain when he broke up with you, why are you still sleeping with him? Now he's free to date whomever he wants, but you are still tied to him. Cut the rope...!!!!
i sympathize with his head being a mess.
maybe if you give it time he will see what he had in you
and want you back, especially if it had been 12 years.
and if you still think he had some heart in it too.
ask yourself.
is he a good person?
is he usually honest with you?
was your relationship going anywhere?
were you good friends before dating and hooking up?
you have the answers, you just need to know how to find them.
wish i helped a little.
i don't see why he wouldn't be interested in still being friends.
just dont be too fast in taking him back if he asks you out again.
good luck!
He is looking for a way out and have his cake.
He may be just using you for your attention...get someone else who desires your attention. Plenty other fishes to catch! ever heard that phrase b4???blackhead treatment
He had only had one serious relationship before me and his girlfriend messed him around a lot, she asked him back while he was with me but said no %26amp; i know 4 sure he is not with her.
He has been there 4 me since, he texts me nearly everyday n we c each other regular still, we sometimes sleep together but not always.
It hard though cause we been mates nearly 12 years now so don't wanna loose that friendship, but don't know whether i am just lyin 2 myself and him?
Please help does this sound genuine or like he is just lookin 4 easy way out, also and havin his cake n eatin it!Help Please!! need advice from both men %26amp; women. Advice on Ex, is it or isn't it?!?
seriously if he doesn't want to hurt you then why the seeing each other and sleeping together, sounds to me like he wants all the benefits of having a relationship but without the complexities. It might be hard but you need to tell him that until he gets his head straight you'll be friends or nothing at all or he'll end up doing what he says he's trying to avoid.Help Please!! need advice from both men %26amp; women. Advice on Ex, is it or isn't it?!?
Song by Bonnie Riatt (...';I can't make you love me if you don't and you can't make your heart feel something it won't....';). Be his friend, don't be his friends with benefits (no sex). Find a guy who wants you for you (the whole package) and not just for sex. Good luck.
I really think that distance between you both is a good idea right now.
This guy has obviously got a lot of emotional issues to sort out, and in many ways the memory of his ex is haunting your relationship.
Your friendship is obviously precious to you both, and at least he's not given up on that, but from what he is saying, if he can't have 'space' right now, that friendship may be put in jeopody..
But this goes for you as well, as IF this is what he wants then there must be 'ground rules' for you both, and he cannot expect you to 'jump' at his requests to see you whenever.
Give yourselves a break from the relationship on a 'trial basis' , remain as friends, but physically and emotionally you both need time to 'work out' your needs and wants right now.
good luck with your decision
Caramac x
I have been in this situation before but mine wasn't that long it's not an excuse he basically saying he needed a break to clear his head. it does hurt but it usually works in the end. that is what i experience anyway I'm not entirely sure on your situation though. hope this helps a little.
he is having his cake and eating it. He is definitely using you.
I personally think he wants cake! (lol) but he might just have a hard time letting go. Id pray.
God Bless
Sammi
if he doesnt want to hurt you, why is he SLEEPING with you still while you arent together?? Sounds to me like that was a BS excuse....find someone better...it does sound like hes having his cake and eating it too.
he was just trying to let you down easy he proply slept with someone eslse
Having his cake and eating it too..! He wants to keep you on the hook. How do you know for sure he's not seeing someone else? Because you haven't caught him yet? He made it plain when he broke up with you, why are you still sleeping with him? Now he's free to date whomever he wants, but you are still tied to him. Cut the rope...!!!!
i sympathize with his head being a mess.
maybe if you give it time he will see what he had in you
and want you back, especially if it had been 12 years.
and if you still think he had some heart in it too.
ask yourself.
is he a good person?
is he usually honest with you?
was your relationship going anywhere?
were you good friends before dating and hooking up?
you have the answers, you just need to know how to find them.
wish i helped a little.
i don't see why he wouldn't be interested in still being friends.
just dont be too fast in taking him back if he asks you out again.
good luck!
He is looking for a way out and have his cake.
He may be just using you for your attention...get someone else who desires your attention. Plenty other fishes to catch! ever heard that phrase b4???
MEN & LADIES advice needed PLEASE: Should I back off or proceed?
I'm a widow of over two years, with no kids and haven't reach 30 years old.
In these two years, a few divorced older men did approach me but it never worked out, cos' of differences in opinions or very different personalities.
About 6 months ago, I met this guy of my age..never married before, and we started of as friends. I know a younger single girl is interested in him. So I made efforts to help this girl get this guy, until this guy asked me to stop it cos' he really doesn't like her but truly like me instead. He said stuff like, he truly like my personality and way of life etc, but just cannot like that girl. I don't understand why cos' she's younger and more beautiful, and never married.
My friends told me to back off cos' it's being selfish as this girl was never married and I was. Initially I agreed but now I realized I too have begin to like this guy. I mean we started of as friends and then I realized we just really clicked....I am not even pretending or tried to win him.
Should I back off, forget him or it is ok to proceed?
Thanks a lot.MEN %26amp; LADIES advice needed PLEASE: Should I back off or proceed?
Are you afraid of commitment? Did your lose of your husband spook you?
You are as worthy of happiness as the next person.
Just be honest with yourself and people around you. Be truthful about how you feel. If you truly like him and feel that you would be happy with him, and that he would be happy with you, go for it.
The girlfriend of yours might get angry or she might thank you. There is nothing worse than being with someone who loves someone else.MEN %26amp; LADIES advice needed PLEASE: Should I back off or proceed?
go for it! you have to do what makes you happy stop worrying about everyone else. you found someone who likes you for you obviously so don't pass it up .
c proceed,if he is not interested in her why should you miss out on something great?all is fair in love and war.if she messes with your love declare war.:P
In these two years, a few divorced older men did approach me but it never worked out, cos' of differences in opinions or very different personalities.
About 6 months ago, I met this guy of my age..never married before, and we started of as friends. I know a younger single girl is interested in him. So I made efforts to help this girl get this guy, until this guy asked me to stop it cos' he really doesn't like her but truly like me instead. He said stuff like, he truly like my personality and way of life etc, but just cannot like that girl. I don't understand why cos' she's younger and more beautiful, and never married.
My friends told me to back off cos' it's being selfish as this girl was never married and I was. Initially I agreed but now I realized I too have begin to like this guy. I mean we started of as friends and then I realized we just really clicked....I am not even pretending or tried to win him.
Should I back off, forget him or it is ok to proceed?
Thanks a lot.MEN %26amp; LADIES advice needed PLEASE: Should I back off or proceed?
Are you afraid of commitment? Did your lose of your husband spook you?
You are as worthy of happiness as the next person.
Just be honest with yourself and people around you. Be truthful about how you feel. If you truly like him and feel that you would be happy with him, and that he would be happy with you, go for it.
The girlfriend of yours might get angry or she might thank you. There is nothing worse than being with someone who loves someone else.MEN %26amp; LADIES advice needed PLEASE: Should I back off or proceed?
go for it! you have to do what makes you happy stop worrying about everyone else. you found someone who likes you for you obviously so don't pass it up .
c proceed,if he is not interested in her why should you miss out on something great?all is fair in love and war.if she messes with your love declare war.:P
****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
LONG...I know. =(
I have been talking to this guy for about a year, we met through one of my good friends. Things were good in the beginning, we went out to the movies, played golf etc. We admitted we like eachother. One night things went farther than should have and after that happened he basically said things were moving too fast. (I aslo found out that his ex cheated on him while overseas). I said fine ok whatever. I then thought well seems like he only wanted me for one thing, it hurt. We have argued by text alot and he mostly would say hurtful things to me and then end up talking again. It's weird. He has basically said that he does not want a relationship. So we continue to talk and he mentions friends w/benes and I really don't want to and know that I will only hurt myself and I feel that it disrespects who I am. But..I did it anyway..stupid I know. In hopes that things would change but of course they don't. The more he didn't show he cared the more my respect for him went out the window, but I still tried to be his friend because I guess I'm just too nice.
Well..the other night I txted him to see if he wanted to hang out. He txts back and says you come over here..I said where's here?..he says I'm at my friends house on base. I said um ok I guess..and then he said or we can come get you. I was like no I can come.
So I'm txting back and forth with who I thought was him and it was actually his friend and I didn't figure that out until I got on base and called his phone. So I was thinking okkk..maybe he is too drunk or something to give me directions so he is having his friend do it. So I get to his friends house and call his phone again and specifically say his name to make sure it was him and his friend tries to act like it's him and I say come outside so I can make sure I got the right house. He says alright.
A guy comes out with a hoodie and I thought it was him (my guy) and as soon as I get out of my car the guy walks away and goes inside and slams the door in my face, then I figured it must be his friend trying to act like him and didn't want me to see him. Weird I know.
I almost turned around and went home. Then I knock on the door and his friends wife with a baby answers and Im like ok..then go in and the guy I'm talking to is passed out on the couch sort of awake. I sit down and I'm in a room with him and his friend and his wife and baby. Then his friend tells him to wake up that he has company, not to be rude. Well he doesn't really get up, just says he's real tired.
His friend tells me that he had talked about me earlier that night and then that was it. I was like um ok? I should have asked what but didn't. The guy I'm talking to, we will just call him Mark finally gets up hardly says anything to me and goes to the kitchen. His friend and me are sitting in the living room and he starts just talking general conversation, then we all take a shot talk some more.
Still Mark really didn't say anything to me, I asked him what he wanted me to do? He said I dunno. I was like ok. I figured out when I first walked in the house that his friend was the one txting me and not him. After I bit of us just talking in the kitchen his friend says hey mark I gotta talk to you outside..come outside man.
So they go out and I'm sure it was about me. As I'm standing there I was in an akward talk with marks friends wife since I just don't even know her. Then the guys come back in and Mark goes and lays back down and I go outside and two seconds later Marks friend comes outside with a sweatshirt cause it was cold for me which I thanked him for and he starts talking to me about just general things and then randomley is like yeah I don't know what you and Mark got going on, but you know...then starts talking about something else.
I was what is going on?? Then I finally decide I need to leave. And Mark walks me out saying he felt bad because his friends txted me and he didn't want to hang because he was tired. I text him today and ask him why his friend invited me over and he said they just wanted you to come over, I got mad at them though because I didn't I was tired. Then he randomley says that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up that there could be any possibility of a relationship with him. I said I don't like you, what makes you think that.
I told him about the whole situation and how I felt his friends were nicer to me than him and that it seems the things he was talking about with his friends earlier before I came over weren't good. And it looks like the joke was on me. He said HA you figured it out. I just feel sick to my stomach. I have been nothing but caring, nice and just trying to be a friend and I've gotten nothing in return. It hurts that someone could act so low. I couldn't tell if it was just a cover when he said that or what. I told him who does that? How could you be that way to me?****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
You want some advice from a man? Here you go: No man is going to take the time to read all of that. Cut it down to about three sentences and maybe you'll get some responses from men.****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
I didn't read any of that but I'm sure whatever it was can be solved by giving him a *******.
The simplest explanation for the book you just wrote is that he's a complete @$$hole. Nothing worth pursuing here. Move on.
I have been talking to this guy for about a year, we met through one of my good friends. Things were good in the beginning, we went out to the movies, played golf etc. We admitted we like eachother. One night things went farther than should have and after that happened he basically said things were moving too fast. (I aslo found out that his ex cheated on him while overseas). I said fine ok whatever. I then thought well seems like he only wanted me for one thing, it hurt. We have argued by text alot and he mostly would say hurtful things to me and then end up talking again. It's weird. He has basically said that he does not want a relationship. So we continue to talk and he mentions friends w/benes and I really don't want to and know that I will only hurt myself and I feel that it disrespects who I am. But..I did it anyway..stupid I know. In hopes that things would change but of course they don't. The more he didn't show he cared the more my respect for him went out the window, but I still tried to be his friend because I guess I'm just too nice.
Well..the other night I txted him to see if he wanted to hang out. He txts back and says you come over here..I said where's here?..he says I'm at my friends house on base. I said um ok I guess..and then he said or we can come get you. I was like no I can come.
So I'm txting back and forth with who I thought was him and it was actually his friend and I didn't figure that out until I got on base and called his phone. So I was thinking okkk..maybe he is too drunk or something to give me directions so he is having his friend do it. So I get to his friends house and call his phone again and specifically say his name to make sure it was him and his friend tries to act like it's him and I say come outside so I can make sure I got the right house. He says alright.
A guy comes out with a hoodie and I thought it was him (my guy) and as soon as I get out of my car the guy walks away and goes inside and slams the door in my face, then I figured it must be his friend trying to act like him and didn't want me to see him. Weird I know.
I almost turned around and went home. Then I knock on the door and his friends wife with a baby answers and Im like ok..then go in and the guy I'm talking to is passed out on the couch sort of awake. I sit down and I'm in a room with him and his friend and his wife and baby. Then his friend tells him to wake up that he has company, not to be rude. Well he doesn't really get up, just says he's real tired.
His friend tells me that he had talked about me earlier that night and then that was it. I was like um ok? I should have asked what but didn't. The guy I'm talking to, we will just call him Mark finally gets up hardly says anything to me and goes to the kitchen. His friend and me are sitting in the living room and he starts just talking general conversation, then we all take a shot talk some more.
Still Mark really didn't say anything to me, I asked him what he wanted me to do? He said I dunno. I was like ok. I figured out when I first walked in the house that his friend was the one txting me and not him. After I bit of us just talking in the kitchen his friend says hey mark I gotta talk to you outside..come outside man.
So they go out and I'm sure it was about me. As I'm standing there I was in an akward talk with marks friends wife since I just don't even know her. Then the guys come back in and Mark goes and lays back down and I go outside and two seconds later Marks friend comes outside with a sweatshirt cause it was cold for me which I thanked him for and he starts talking to me about just general things and then randomley is like yeah I don't know what you and Mark got going on, but you know...then starts talking about something else.
I was what is going on?? Then I finally decide I need to leave. And Mark walks me out saying he felt bad because his friends txted me and he didn't want to hang because he was tired. I text him today and ask him why his friend invited me over and he said they just wanted you to come over, I got mad at them though because I didn't I was tired. Then he randomley says that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up that there could be any possibility of a relationship with him. I said I don't like you, what makes you think that.
I told him about the whole situation and how I felt his friends were nicer to me than him and that it seems the things he was talking about with his friends earlier before I came over weren't good. And it looks like the joke was on me. He said HA you figured it out. I just feel sick to my stomach. I have been nothing but caring, nice and just trying to be a friend and I've gotten nothing in return. It hurts that someone could act so low. I couldn't tell if it was just a cover when he said that or what. I told him who does that? How could you be that way to me?****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
You want some advice from a man? Here you go: No man is going to take the time to read all of that. Cut it down to about three sentences and maybe you'll get some responses from men.****MEN....any ADVICE???*****?
I didn't read any of that but I'm sure whatever it was can be solved by giving him a *******.
The simplest explanation for the book you just wrote is that he's a complete @$$hole. Nothing worth pursuing here. Move on.
Men 25+ Advice please! - To straight forward for my own good?
Two weeks ago I met a guy through my best friends boyfriend at a party. We got on well and had a lot of fun and I was very happy when he texted me the next day. We've texted back and forth, but it's been either 4 or 5 in a day or 1 text a week and I don't know how to take it. I felt like I was initating things to often and wondered if he was actually interested. Being the straight forward, do or die sort of girl I am, last saturday (after a back and forth text thing) I said bollocks to it and asked him if he wanted to meet for a drink. He couldn't that day (good reason), but then sort of fell off the face of the planet until today. I had pretty much written him off as not interested, but he wanted to know if I was 'around' tomorrow. I was busy and suggested another time, and he then said he was basically busy until March. Was I too direct? Or is it that he's not that interested, but was bored? Or is it that he is interested, but when I said no want to show he was busy too?Men 25+ Advice please! - To straight forward for my own good?
It seems to me (I'm a 24 y.o. male) that he was only ';interested'; on HIS time. When a conflict occured for you...and couldn't meet with him when he was free....he couldn't handle it and said he was unavailable until March. First off...that's a lie. Secondly, I think you should just move on. If this guy REALLY liked you..believe me, he would make time for you. He's just texting....to keep you interested. Get rid of this guy. Or...seriously, he'll probably end up sleeping with you and will disappear. That's my honest opinion. I'm not trying to be funny, I'm telling you the truth. Just forget him and move on.Men 25+ Advice please! - To straight forward for my own good?
he seems to work alot I bet. Most likely your just catching eachother at bad times when asking for the dates... next time he offers...try to be more abled to see him. :)
We do not know what is in his mind.
But you are all so new to each other.
Why don't you take it one step at a time?
He may or may not be interested in you.
It is still too early to tell.
Don't pin your hopes on him.
Never do that, it's silly.
Do your best but be prepared to loose him.
If you don't take him too seriously, you wouldn't feel so bad loosing him.
Also, never bed him with the hope this will keep him.
It will never happen.
Sounds like he isn't that interested or he'd make the time...busy until March???!?! What could he possibly be so busy with for a month?
Obviously married.
Why not stop texting, ring him up and ask him.
...WOW!!!!....I'd personally get on the phone with this guy and simply quit dancing and dinging around the dong about this ';when we gonna get together here stuff ?....honestly!!!!.....but only especially if you ';think'; you really like him babe....cause otherwise ?....forget him until March darling!
What else really?
no he is probably very busy....i probably won't put too much energy into him...if i were you.....
if hes to 'busy' til march that tells me hes looking for a one nighter..why would u want to get involved with someone whos gonna be busy for the next few weeks!
It seems to me (I'm a 24 y.o. male) that he was only ';interested'; on HIS time. When a conflict occured for you...and couldn't meet with him when he was free....he couldn't handle it and said he was unavailable until March. First off...that's a lie. Secondly, I think you should just move on. If this guy REALLY liked you..believe me, he would make time for you. He's just texting....to keep you interested. Get rid of this guy. Or...seriously, he'll probably end up sleeping with you and will disappear. That's my honest opinion. I'm not trying to be funny, I'm telling you the truth. Just forget him and move on.Men 25+ Advice please! - To straight forward for my own good?
he seems to work alot I bet. Most likely your just catching eachother at bad times when asking for the dates... next time he offers...try to be more abled to see him. :)
We do not know what is in his mind.
But you are all so new to each other.
Why don't you take it one step at a time?
He may or may not be interested in you.
It is still too early to tell.
Don't pin your hopes on him.
Never do that, it's silly.
Do your best but be prepared to loose him.
If you don't take him too seriously, you wouldn't feel so bad loosing him.
Also, never bed him with the hope this will keep him.
It will never happen.
Sounds like he isn't that interested or he'd make the time...busy until March???!?! What could he possibly be so busy with for a month?
Obviously married.
Why not stop texting, ring him up and ask him.
...WOW!!!!....I'd personally get on the phone with this guy and simply quit dancing and dinging around the dong about this ';when we gonna get together here stuff ?....honestly!!!!.....but only especially if you ';think'; you really like him babe....cause otherwise ?....forget him until March darling!
What else really?
no he is probably very busy....i probably won't put too much energy into him...if i were you.....
if hes to 'busy' til march that tells me hes looking for a one nighter..why would u want to get involved with someone whos gonna be busy for the next few weeks!
**** MEN ...ANY ADVICE??
LONG...I know. =( But I will give extra points for anyone that can help me. Thanks so much!!!
I have been talking to this guy for about a year, we met through one of my good friends. Things were good in the beginning, we went out to the movies, played golf etc. We admitted we like eachother. One night things went farther than should have and after that happened he basically said things were moving too fast. (I aslo found out that his ex cheated on him while overseas). I said fine ok whatever. I then thought well seems like he only wanted me for one thing, it hurt. We have argued by text alot and he mostly would say hurtful things to me and then end up talking again. It's weird. He has basically said that he does not want a relationship. So we continue to talk and he mentions friends w/benes and I really don't want to and know that I will only hurt myself and I feel that it disrespects who I am. But..I did it anyway..stupid I know. In hopes that things would change but of course they don't. The more he didn't show he cared the more my respect for him went out the window, but I still tried to be his friend because I guess I'm just too nice.
Well..the other night I txted him to see if he wanted to hang out. He txts back and says you come over here..I said where's here?..he says I'm at my friends house on base. I said um ok I guess..and then he said or we can come get you. I was like no I can come.
So I'm txting back and forth with who I thought was him and it was actually his friend and I didn't figure that out until I got on base and called his phone. So I was thinking okkk..maybe he is too drunk or something to give me directions so he is having his friend do it. So I get to his friends house and call his phone again and specifically say his name to make sure it was him and his friend tries to act like it's him and I say come outside so I can make sure I got the right house. He says alright.
A guy comes out with a hoodie and I thought it was him (my guy) and as soon as I get out of my car the guy walks away and goes inside and slams the door in my face, then I figured it must be his friend trying to act like him and didn't want me to see him. Weird I know.
I almost turned around and went home. Then I knock on the door and his friends wife with a baby answers and Im like ok..then go in and the guy I'm talking to is passed out on the couch sort of awake. I sit down and I'm in a room with him and his friend and his wife and baby. Then his friend tells him to wake up that he has company, not to be rude. Well he doesn't really get up, just says he's real tired.
His friend tells me that he had talked about me earlier that night and then that was it. I was like um ok? I should have asked what but didn't. The guy I'm talking to, we will just call him Mark finally gets up hardly says anything to me and goes to the kitchen. His friend and me are sitting in the living room and he starts just talking general conversation, then we all take a shot talk some more.
Still Mark really didn't say anything to me, I asked him what he wanted me to do? He said I dunno. I was like ok. I figured out when I first walked in the house that his friend was the one txting me and not him. After I bit of us just talking in the kitchen his friend says hey mark I gotta talk to you outside..come outside man.
So they go out and I'm sure it was about me. As I'm standing there I was in an akward talk with marks friends wife since I just don't even know her. Then the guys come back in and Mark goes and lays back down and I go outside and two seconds later Marks friend comes outside with a sweatshirt cause it was cold for me which I thanked him for and he starts talking to me about just general things and then randomley is like yeah I don't know what you and Mark got going on, but you know...then starts talking about something else.
I was what is going on?? Then I finally decide I need to leave. And Mark walks me out saying he felt bad because his friends txted me and he didn't want to hang because he was tired. I text him today and ask him why his friend invited me over and he said they just wanted you to come over, I got mad at them though because I didn't I was tired. Then he randomley says that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up that there could be any possibility of a relationship with him. I said I don't like you, what makes you think that.
I told him about the whole situation and how I felt his friends were nicer to me than him and that it seems the things he was talking about with his friends earlier before I came over weren't good. And it looks like the joke was on me. He said HA you figured it out. I just feel sick to my stomach. I have been nothing but caring, nice and just trying to be a friend and I've gotten nothing in return. It hurts that someone could act so low. I couldn't tell if it was just a cover when he said that or what. I told him who does that? How could you be that way to me?**** MEN ...ANY ADVICE??
Yes, honey, looks like the joke was on you. Just learn your lesson from it and go on. Don't have any contact with him. Just hold your head up and walk away.
He should be mad at the friend for doing that anyway. That's pretty low.**** MEN ...ANY ADVICE??
i think that you should forget about him and stuff its kind of immature that he blocks you on aim but yo could probably do alot better =]
Pffft he's playing games!
You can do bettr than that sweetie :)
What the hell is this... I read the first sentence and...just too long... Summary plz.
stay away and stay single.
hey **** you
i am actually a girl, i didnt see men only until now, you might think that u r trying to be nice the guy is obviously a jerk, the best thing is to ignore him, delete his myspace his phone number and move on, to me it sounds like a one night stand baby, wish u luck mwah
forget about the loser he is just being a jerk.
the thing at the base was garbage, he is just being a jerk.
I wouldn't talk to him ever again or you will just be is puppet.
hence what happened at the base.
I would delete him off your myspace account and if he calls or
texts you to just ignore it. cause eventually he will get his friends to be jerks to you as well if you start being friends with them too.
I would ditch the loser
sorrry 2 say dis dear.... but u need 2 find out someone else... he's just not ready for a relationship... and yes ... u made a mistake falling for him.... however it seems u r in love wid him so just try n gt away and hav some rest .... hopefully it will work and u cn get over his thoughts
WHAT AN ASSHOLE!
move on hunny
u can do so much better
he's pathetic!
i hope his dick get cut off in some freak accident...
agh i hate guys like that
he has issues, u dont need that in your life
I have been talking to this guy for about a year, we met through one of my good friends. Things were good in the beginning, we went out to the movies, played golf etc. We admitted we like eachother. One night things went farther than should have and after that happened he basically said things were moving too fast. (I aslo found out that his ex cheated on him while overseas). I said fine ok whatever. I then thought well seems like he only wanted me for one thing, it hurt. We have argued by text alot and he mostly would say hurtful things to me and then end up talking again. It's weird. He has basically said that he does not want a relationship. So we continue to talk and he mentions friends w/benes and I really don't want to and know that I will only hurt myself and I feel that it disrespects who I am. But..I did it anyway..stupid I know. In hopes that things would change but of course they don't. The more he didn't show he cared the more my respect for him went out the window, but I still tried to be his friend because I guess I'm just too nice.
Well..the other night I txted him to see if he wanted to hang out. He txts back and says you come over here..I said where's here?..he says I'm at my friends house on base. I said um ok I guess..and then he said or we can come get you. I was like no I can come.
So I'm txting back and forth with who I thought was him and it was actually his friend and I didn't figure that out until I got on base and called his phone. So I was thinking okkk..maybe he is too drunk or something to give me directions so he is having his friend do it. So I get to his friends house and call his phone again and specifically say his name to make sure it was him and his friend tries to act like it's him and I say come outside so I can make sure I got the right house. He says alright.
A guy comes out with a hoodie and I thought it was him (my guy) and as soon as I get out of my car the guy walks away and goes inside and slams the door in my face, then I figured it must be his friend trying to act like him and didn't want me to see him. Weird I know.
I almost turned around and went home. Then I knock on the door and his friends wife with a baby answers and Im like ok..then go in and the guy I'm talking to is passed out on the couch sort of awake. I sit down and I'm in a room with him and his friend and his wife and baby. Then his friend tells him to wake up that he has company, not to be rude. Well he doesn't really get up, just says he's real tired.
His friend tells me that he had talked about me earlier that night and then that was it. I was like um ok? I should have asked what but didn't. The guy I'm talking to, we will just call him Mark finally gets up hardly says anything to me and goes to the kitchen. His friend and me are sitting in the living room and he starts just talking general conversation, then we all take a shot talk some more.
Still Mark really didn't say anything to me, I asked him what he wanted me to do? He said I dunno. I was like ok. I figured out when I first walked in the house that his friend was the one txting me and not him. After I bit of us just talking in the kitchen his friend says hey mark I gotta talk to you outside..come outside man.
So they go out and I'm sure it was about me. As I'm standing there I was in an akward talk with marks friends wife since I just don't even know her. Then the guys come back in and Mark goes and lays back down and I go outside and two seconds later Marks friend comes outside with a sweatshirt cause it was cold for me which I thanked him for and he starts talking to me about just general things and then randomley is like yeah I don't know what you and Mark got going on, but you know...then starts talking about something else.
I was what is going on?? Then I finally decide I need to leave. And Mark walks me out saying he felt bad because his friends txted me and he didn't want to hang because he was tired. I text him today and ask him why his friend invited me over and he said they just wanted you to come over, I got mad at them though because I didn't I was tired. Then he randomley says that he doesn't want me to get my hopes up that there could be any possibility of a relationship with him. I said I don't like you, what makes you think that.
I told him about the whole situation and how I felt his friends were nicer to me than him and that it seems the things he was talking about with his friends earlier before I came over weren't good. And it looks like the joke was on me. He said HA you figured it out. I just feel sick to my stomach. I have been nothing but caring, nice and just trying to be a friend and I've gotten nothing in return. It hurts that someone could act so low. I couldn't tell if it was just a cover when he said that or what. I told him who does that? How could you be that way to me?**** MEN ...ANY ADVICE??
Yes, honey, looks like the joke was on you. Just learn your lesson from it and go on. Don't have any contact with him. Just hold your head up and walk away.
He should be mad at the friend for doing that anyway. That's pretty low.**** MEN ...ANY ADVICE??
i think that you should forget about him and stuff its kind of immature that he blocks you on aim but yo could probably do alot better =]
Pffft he's playing games!
You can do bettr than that sweetie :)
What the hell is this... I read the first sentence and...just too long... Summary plz.
stay away and stay single.
hey **** you
i am actually a girl, i didnt see men only until now, you might think that u r trying to be nice the guy is obviously a jerk, the best thing is to ignore him, delete his myspace his phone number and move on, to me it sounds like a one night stand baby, wish u luck mwah
forget about the loser he is just being a jerk.
the thing at the base was garbage, he is just being a jerk.
I wouldn't talk to him ever again or you will just be is puppet.
hence what happened at the base.
I would delete him off your myspace account and if he calls or
texts you to just ignore it. cause eventually he will get his friends to be jerks to you as well if you start being friends with them too.
I would ditch the loser
sorrry 2 say dis dear.... but u need 2 find out someone else... he's just not ready for a relationship... and yes ... u made a mistake falling for him.... however it seems u r in love wid him so just try n gt away and hav some rest .... hopefully it will work and u cn get over his thoughts
WHAT AN ASSHOLE!
move on hunny
u can do so much better
he's pathetic!
i hope his dick get cut off in some freak accident...
agh i hate guys like that
he has issues, u dont need that in your life
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