Need advice from older men - men's health/sex/age gap?

I've started seeing a 55 year old man, who has a few health problems (one he describes as a waterworks problem). We are very close, but I'm 37 and a virgin (yes, I really am). I'm seeing problems ahead but still want to persue the relationship. He knows about me and was shocked initially. Any suggestions?Need advice from older men - men's health/sex/age gap?
i say go with your heart and good luck to you bothNeed advice from older men - men's health/sex/age gap?
a waterworks problem is not a very clinical description, but if you are interested in a sexual relationship with the man, it may not hurt to come out and ask.





do the problems outweigh the benefits of the relationship. being eighteen years his junior you will also have to consider twenty years from now.
at his age a waterworks problem suggest a prostate problem. as men age the prostate enlarges and causes them to have urinary or man problems because the enlarged prostrate cuts of the supply of urine or sperm. Good Luck!
Okay. The age. There is an 18 years gap between you. Your man could be marvellous sexually but simply ask him if he feels up to having wonderful close relationships with you that extend for hours and hours and hours. Not just ten minutes.


All men can enjoy sex in a self centred way but their partner's fulfillment is not part of their regime. (Not for you.) But you are


inexperienced. You are both mature enough to enjoy a wonderful sexual relationship. How do you feel about that?





Do not get tied up with erroneous concepts of sex must be within marriage. Simply you be the one to push for no marriage. Honestly, the first thing that goes wrong with a relationship is marriage. Avoid a lot of problems by forsaking marriage. You can be open to that in five years after living together for that long.


Do you both socialise, or is that a one sided affair? It is no fun going out if your partner does not want to come with you. It is awfully hard and embarrassing to make excuses for them all the while. If you are inflicted by religion, both of you, drop it.


Politics? Likewise. You do not want old men who you do not even know notifying you what you can and cannot do in your bedroom.


His waterworks problem is probably related to a prostate problem. This gland can enlarge and start to block the eurethra, causing urinary difficulties. It just takes longer to perform that function. Most men by the time they reach 70 will have experienced this kind of trouble. Your man is kind of young for this to happen, but it does.





His doctor can monitor the problem with psa readings from blood specimens. It can develop into a cancer, and then spread, which is pretty bad.





How are you at handling your own stress? The stress of a


partner can greatly damage a man's own immune system to


recover. If you are a worry wart (most women are) don't make things worse for him.





but if you are a caring and loving person, then you can be of tremendous assistance. The prostate cancer can be treated by radiation quite successfully, but it could be necessary to medicinally stop his sexual functions while this treatment happens. It is harder for him than you, but understand the matter.


Love is grand while it lasts. It is usually over at the end of the honeymooon, however. You do not want to become an unpaid servant, so agree beforehand that living together is a two way affair. It is not who does the washing up, the meal preparation, the cleaning up etc., etc. but it is a shared activity. You need his support and sharing in your interests, too, and he yours in his. These are the important points of a marriage and even an affair. Are you willing to do that? What about him?


Friction is inevitable. Unfortunately. But why? Ask yourselves why. Don't have an affair out of desperation, better none than a bad one. If you both have little annoying habits, get rid of them. Fair is fair.





LIVING TOGETHER IS A VERY, VERY HARD JOB.





Are you both up to it? If not, do not.





Don't mistake an ongoing, exciting romance for which you count the hours until you see your beloved again, as being


capable of leading on to something even more grand. It aint necessarily so.





And you have to consider your attitude about hving children of your own. Bare in mind that your partner is old enough to have had children who now have children of their own. Hewill not want to endure the sleepness nights again. He will know what it really is like, not you. Kids are a bigger matter than chubby cheeked bambinos.





Like Madonna sang in Spain: ';Hey there, Billie, don't be silly!


Put a condom on your willy.';
THe age gap isnt that great a differnce in my opinion. As for the 'waterworks'; question... we cant really know what that means without specifics. Men at the age of 60 have approxiamtely half the testosterone that they did have when they were 20. These low levels of testosterone accounts for much of the erectile dysfunction of 60 year old men. Viagra is sometimes prescribed to ensure that the blood path to the penis is as broad as possible to enable an erection upon sexual stimulation. Testosterone can also be supplemented. He can get a blood test. By water works, he might simply mean he has difficulty urinating which could be a prostate gland problem. Really, he needs to see a doctor.





BTW.. men well into their 80's are having some sex.
If the chemistry is truly there between the two of you and there is at least the potential for true mutual love, I see no reason to not pursue things with the gent and see where things go. Even if a romance does not work you, you both certainly could in all likelihood remain friends with one another in some form. As for the ';waterworks problem'; the fellow alludes to, that usually means something involved with the urinary system and/or prostate that is not right: Difficulty urinating or frequent or excessive urination or problems including pressure placed on the bladder and resulting from an enlarge prostate gland are among the primary possibilities. I don't believe that the gent necessarily has problems as to sexual performance, but if he is with erectile dysfunction or has performance anxiety as to sexual relations, that does not mean in and of itself that whatever you two share cannot go the distance. There is much more to life and love than what goes on in the bedroom. I was once in a relationship with an individual twenty years my senior, so as someone who has gone that route, so to speak, I advise maintaining your sense of humor and being as loving and understanding as you possibly can. I also advise that if the gent expresses to you that he does not want a relationship, that he is only interested in something non-serious and ';casual';, please realize that you cannot change him so that he will want otherwise. In fact, what I have discovered over time is that no one can change unless he or she wants to change and is willing to do what is necessary to change. Best of luck to the both of you, hope all works out well.
Go with your heart. Absolutely. Most people have health problems. Life is short.
The best thing I would say is to be able to have Total and Honest Communication ... and ; to Take everything SLOW .. as there is NO rush .....