Woman needin advice on men! Serious Answers Please!?

Hi


I REALLY NEED SOME ADVICE PLEASE, SO SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY THX!!





Hi, im 19 n was with my ex for about just over 2 n 1/2 yrs, and we have a young baby, who is now 9months old, we split up quite recently about end of october last year, a month later i met someone else who was good to the baby and that, and i do like him alot, but just before christmas all i could think of was my ex after i was looking back at pictures of the baby n saw loads of us really happy.(the father of my child) and i dont know whether to carry on seein this boy n see if i get over my exe, or do i follow my heart and get bak with my exe?!


My family dont really get on with my exe, he took drugs ( he has stopped taking them now) and couple months before the baby was born he was always gettin stressy n losing his temper with me he wasnt like it much to start with, but it got more n more, but most of the time we were really happy, he never hit me but he hit my brother once, (the reason we split up) but everyone is saying how he has really changed, n he has said he hass changed, n he rote a really long letter to my family appologising for what he did, n i think he realised what he lost, but we've been txtin everyday for a while now (bout xmas time).


The boy im wit now doesnt know that i am tlkin to my exe still, n my exe has no idea about this new man.





if i was to get back with my exe, do i tell him i was seein someone when we split up? because i kno it may upset him, but i dont really think he has to know does he? as we wernt together at the time?





anyway should i stay with tht bloke atm or get bak with my exe/father of child, and what would i tell my family if i got bak with my exe because they probably hate him now.





THX. Hope u understand what im goin on bout lolWoman needin advice on men! Serious Answers Please!?
hello , you really need to listen to your heart , it will speak volumes for you , good luck to you and your babyWoman needin advice on men! Serious Answers Please!?
stay with new one - you started having feelings for your ex because you were looking at photos and it brought those memories/feelings back
You don't trust the ex, and you don't love the new one! Maybe NEITHER fit the bill!
stay with the new one!!!
if i were you i would go and have a serious talk with your ex.. talk about your options and how you feel about each other


from my point of view.. it seems like you dont like your new partener enough to have a full relationship. and i wouldnt worry about what your family thinks, i would just concentrate on your babys new family.. and making it as strong as possible :)


its a hard situation to be in.. and some things are easier said then done.. but to be honest i would follow heart over head
I think if you want to be with the father of your baby and he is willing to work things out u should. A young baby needs both of his or her parents. He may have been acting crazy due to the drugs that he was taking and then he stopped cold turkey. That has a lot to do with how someones attitude is. I think you need to have a long talk with both of the mean and let them know how you are feeling if neither understand than that is not who you should be with. Yeah he is going to be mad that you are with someone else but he messed up. U guys talking is a good sign that things can get back to the way they were. Be true to your feelings and yourself.
just close ur eyes and do what ur heart tells u to do..
What i say is stop seeing the boy and go bk to your ex because he is the father of your baby. Your family doesn't trust him right, but you do.


Just FOLLOW your HEART. Trust it never fails.
ok there are so many answers for you but the best one is do what makes you happy! not what makes your family happy... you are always no matter what going to have feelings for your ex because he is the father of your child. i would say to take your time, think things through, and be careful what you choose to do. you and your ex are separated so what you do and who you talk to is your business. if he asks you then say yes i made a new friend and that is all we were. JUST FRIENDS. if you do plan on getting back with your ex, you, him and your family should all sit down and talk and let him and your family know what is going on and how it is going to be! good luck!
i feel so sorry for you it must be hard to decide..


in a way i think if your ex has really genuinely changed then maybe it would be good for your baby to have the real dad around since it would make things easier in the future, but i think from the way ur ex treated you was not acceptable and you don't know for sure if he will ever go back to being the way he was or go on drugs again.. if he does do this the baby will need stability in his life and if you and ur ex break up again your baby might be confused who his/her father figure may be in the future ! if your family dont like him maybe they think you deserve better ! but maybe its a risk you might want to take and things might work out good this time..

bright makeup

I need advice from men......i found a clip of my boyfriend on the internet....masturbating?

i walked in on my boyfriend surfing porn


thats cool with me even masterbating to it is cool with me *sereously*





BUT, then i looked at the site later and found a posting of him masterbating via web cam!!!





around ME, he has always been very shy and dosnt like to talk about fantasies etc but on this web site he is looking for people to roll play with him!!!





im totaly at a loss weve been together for 5 years, during that time we never had the internet so this is a new issue not an old one im just finding out about ... should i be completely freaked out?





but for real i f'ing love him, we were about to get married...





i ended up talking to him about it calmly and he tryed to lie out of it (im sure he was just embarassed, but its worth mentioning) then he said he was just looking for something exciting (ive only been home on the weekends for the last 3 months)





is this something any guy might do or is this a precurser to weirdo fettish/molestationI need advice from men......i found a clip of my boyfriend on the internet....masturbating?
Everyone does it.I need advice from men......i found a clip of my boyfriend on the internet....masturbating?
OK porn and masterbating is normal for a guy, but if he doesn't actually talk to you about sexual fantasies, you should sit with him and just try to make him talk about them, he will probably get proper embarrassed and try to get away but keep trying. oh and p.s if he really wants to look at himself masterbating..well.. ummm dont worry
I know this doesn't directly answer your question, but if you are looking for a serious relationship that results in marriage, five years is way too long for you two to figure this out (unless you started dating when you were 15). You need to finish that sentence ';we were about to get married....'; and I think you'll find your answer with regards to masturbating with strangers online.
honestly I would be bothered since he didn't tell me. I can tell you this isn't something just any guy would do especially since he is looking for someone to interact with (even if it is just internet based). I would work out your feelings about it and then talk to him. You guys need to set some boundries based on your comfort levels.
Well, if hes got like a million vids and hes secretly a porn star or something you should worry, if he did it once then uhh, well i guess thats his deal im not one to judge but in my opinion thats a little weird, if he doesnt do it anymore i wouldnt worry, but I know i wouldnt do something like that lol
its not something any guy would do..... however he must just really be into it. Did you see his face?





like you said you have only been home on the weekends. if the guy gets off on wanking, let it be!





what would you rather have him do....? hookers.





just be firm and honest and say you know its him, tell him its not serious, but your just curious why he did it. i dont think its much to worry about. he could do a lot worse!
its not normal





fantasy cheating on the web is still cheating





specially in this situation because hes posting vids of himself





which other people can watch....





if hes posting them hes also downloading them of other people





the difference between this and porn is there is usually contact via messenging/chat..





id dump his ***, hes not faithfull
I would be concerned that he's hiding it and then trying to lie about it. I think you need to talk to him more and figure out what is going on and if this is something you're comfortable with.
I think its funnier than hell, masterbation is as normal to me as working nine to five. Everyone does it, and those who say they don;t are liars, but to be on the internet doing it, is hilarious.
This is not something all guys do. I will never dream of puting my intimate moments on the net. He will have to explain himsielf to you.
im a girl and it sounds to me like u might have some trust issues with him....(like u might not be able to trust him completely) and if hes asking for people to come and role play with him then yeah u should be pissed....ummm thats cheating
Kinda weird, maybe hes into voyeoursim or something. Lol sugeest having sex in a car in the parking lot of yuor local mall and see what heppens.
watching it= normal


staring in your own home video and posting it on the web = not normal





if he is seeking out others to role play with I would be VERY upset, its like finding his ad on Match.com
Masterbating to porn is normal.





Video camming it and posting it online is not normal.
no he is slowly getting sicker...stop him asap...soon he'll be pulled out of your house for having naked kids on your computers or something sick like that
Its better than finding him on the net with another girl.
In my head...it would be a red flag


because





';around ME, he has always been very shy and dosnt like to talk about fantasies etc ';





he is concealing this from you....then he LIED.....
sometimes men do things just to be doing them..this sounds like one of those times.as long as he treats you with respect and loves and adore you don't worry about it.
Girl lemme tell you something, dont let no man play with your emotions like that, you are better than that
its normal
THE LINK!!!!!
This is sort of odd, no man of mine has done this.
dump the wierdo
BEAT HIS *** OR TREAT HIM LIKE **** !#$$#$%#
post a link so we can see lol.
hahahahhaa that is sooo funny! I dunno I guess he just has fetishes that you aren't getting done for him babe
o dear
his a guy. give him a break
lol thats funny! maybe their is somethin missing from u guy's sex life
I am a proffesor of the neurological and developmental tissue in the ohysiological branch of Harvard Med. School. We have don emany studied on the effect of pornographic images on men and women. It seems to have a far higher affect on men than it does on woman because the woman are usually the ones making the images with either themselves, other women or other men. Men however, only make porn by themselves in extremely rare cases, known as Polynices. This is usually when you are uncomfortable about your sexuall relationships and are about to have a change in your sex your life. I'd be on the look out because there is an 82% chance that he will dump you and an 8% chance of abuse according to our experimental studies. Good luck!
All people masturbate and most find it embarrassing for others to know. The internet is so anonymous and therefore, offers a chance to jump outside ourselves and do things we would never do ';in real life.'; Showing, exposing himself to others is a concern though.


I find that porn, in general, leads to expectations that no one can fulfill and ultimately, hurts a personal relationship. If you realize that sex is showing your most personal and vulnerable side to someone you respect and cherish and that you feel the same about them, your sex life will always enhance your core relationship, not rule it.


He needs to realize that you are willing and ready to explore and try new things that excite yourselves without having to fantasize about what other people come up with. Ask him to stop and tell him your worries. Keep it simple, no nagging or lecturing. Listen to his responses and ask questions.


Take more time to decide if you want to marry. What is the rush? You have your whole life for time for that.


I plan to live to 100 so I figure that I have at least 52 years for anything I want for the future!


Luck to ya!

I need advice about men and getting married later in life ...?

I am 43 and about a month ago I met a man (44). We have been dating ever since that first meeting and we are both in love. Both of us have been married before, but that is long in the past. We have a tremendous amount in common - love spending time together - have the same goals in life - have grown children - and have the same values and morals. He tells me I'm the marrying kind and we have already talked about where and when we want to get married.





My problem is this: It all just seems too good to be true. I haven't had ';bad'; relationships in the past, but nothing even remotely compares to this one. I love him more than I ever though possible - and I feel more love from him than I have ever experienced. He treats me like a lady, is respectful, and is very good father. Why is this scaring me? Please give me any advice or help as I just want to enjoy this, not be scared by it!





Thank you!I need advice about men and getting married later in life ...?
I think you should just ENJOY! Don't think about getting married or breaking up - why should you? Continue enjoying your relationship, your love for each other, your respect for one another, your friendship, and your connection! Let these things control your future!I need advice about men and getting married later in life ...?
I think you should just go with wanting to enjoy it. I know that saying, 'if it's too good to be true it probably is', well that may very well be true 99% of the time, as long as you are suspicious or scared it's not going to be good. You'll never find out what it could be until you let it be, y'know what I mean? You should see where it all leads to and enjoy it while it lasts if you find out 2 years later he's a axe murderer or something, then hey you had a good run, but you'll never know for sure till you find out where it leads, have fun and see where it goes.
It's natural to be a little scared of something you've never experienced. Just take your time and enjoy it. It's not too good to be true, you've earned it!
most women arent used to a man being perfect..now days..with the 50% divorce rate..its hard to find a man that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated..but there is also a 50% chance that he could possibly be a wonderful husband to you..sounds to me like your just trying to find something wrong with him..and you cant..so stop looking..im sure thousands of women would love to be in the position you are in right now..take advantage of the fact that you have a man that will love you unconditionally and run with it..dont push away!
maybe you should slow down...you have only known him for a month! Isn't a little soon to be in love and thinking about marriage? Relationships are complicated, maybe you should take a step back and then you won't be so scared
Sounds fine to me but if you are worried then talk to your partner about it. It may seem silly or too embarassing but if he loves you he won't mock or anything, so just find a good time and tell him.





*Angel*
hi my name is dave well gal what dose your heart tell you what does your mind tell you about him and most of all what are your beliefs about god were do you come too get thier on that you both must click and be true and up frot with each other dave w
You've just met a month ago, don't you think its too early to get married??? Don't think about how old you are now but think what future you will have on this man after you get married. Just see how long can he endure the waiting period. Marrying type like he says do not say I do after 1 month. Since you are old enough to listen what the other people might say, if you really want to be with him. try to live-in with him to get to know him. You will only know a real him when you started to leave on the same roof. Just like you said, if he's too good to be true then he might be toooo goood to really be true. Trust your instinct.
Its Too difficult for anyone to answer you coz u have already made a selection... See ur last line... u only want people to Console u by telling reasons what so ever coz u only waana get rid of the fear.





do u ever asked urself as to why u fear... ??





as u said u fear coz of past.. its true and so is ur fear





coz dating and marrying are two different things.





i dont know how long u were alone but that lonelyness itself added to ur passion





there is no one here or anywhere who can give u the solution





its u who has to decide what needs to done





coz its u who knows herself better and its u who has the experience and heart to make a practical decision depending on future.
Marriage is always a bliss .. and when you know you have found that person worth marrying, grab it. You only live once and life is too short for anything to wait. Yes you can wait .. but how long is it good enough to wait ... 1 month? 1 year? 3 years? You have that much time to wait? Does he?





My advice is .. if you both love each other, go for it. My best wishes to you both ! :)
You need to run a background check. It is very much worth the money. It may be too good to be true. A little checking won't hurt, you don't need to tell him, be prudent. Before you spend money on any of them read the article at www.consumeradvice.org
when we want the best...we dont know until it arrives in our life....n when we realise it has hapend to us...doubts take over us...that whether this happiness is for life or for a short time....


get over ur doubts....enjoy ur life as it brings a new day 2 u....nuthn wud go wrong until ne 1 of u wants it to go wrong
Only a month? Girl, you need to wait this one out, yes its exciting to feel that you're in love, but you have to be patient! Who knows where your relationship could go and you should wait to find out, enjoy all the aspects of a relationship!





Just tell him you like him soo much but you dont want to rush anything like marriage because you've been there done that and it didnt work out. If he doesnt understand, you shouldnt want to marry him!
Please don't fight this, it's what most people spend their lives searching for. If this guy is so good, he's a keeper, don't let him go. Whats the absolute worst thing that could happen? It doesn't work out, so what. Whats the best thing that could happen? It works out and everyone lives happily ever after. This guy sounds like me, and I would be very hurt to know you were asking this question. Just go do it and be well.

I need advice on men pleas every one help?

i really like this guy. but the thing is i think hes a little shy around people he dose not know well. we really dont talk but iv been trying to get to know him and been trying to talk to him and we sit at the same table at lunch because its all of us guys and girls mixed together. and i try to sit by him so we can talk. but i have no idea what to talk about. and then a couple of times he was going to sit by me and then my other friends came and took his spot. hes really shy and i just want to talk to him and i want to know how you can tell if shy guys like you and also what are some topics can talk about? and what are some signs that he might like me. i really like this guy and hes so sweat. pleas help meI need advice on men pleas every one help?
Well i'm a shy guy myself. Constantly talk about the day, classes, homework, home things, any thing coomon. don't worry if he doesn't talk much. Just don't annoy him. dont let on that you like him. don't stare at him. act as a freind. he will feel confertable with you. good luck! :)I need advice on men pleas every one help?
offer him a snack
offer him sex
I love shy guys! They are just so cute.


What do you want to talk to him a bout? You obviously have something to tell him.





Tell me a little about him and I'll give you some ideas.


Are you at school?





Start by telling him a short story. Something irrelevant to anything. Tell him about your cat/dog.. pet, your neighbor's pet. Such as: ';I spent 15 minutes listening to my cat purring this morning';. And smile at him.





Then the next day you can say a little more. like: ';I like having lunch with everyone around, it means I can just stay quite if I don't fancy talking to anyone and therefore really enjoy my juice.';





So he may start talking back. But, don't expect him to.


Third day you can ask him a question. such as: ';do you ever watch American football? I wonder why they didn't call it a different name instead of stealing name of our football.. or just called it soccer.';


Something simple, just so you guys can get comfortable.


Don't walk away after you start talking to him. don't stare at him. Give him a smile.





And, be nice..





Have lots of fun!


I wish I meet someone I really want to talk to soon.


Love
osme signs r : when he stares at u and then quickly turns around, if he starts talking to u but his voice start getting lower that u can bearly hear him. Because u get assigned seat ..does that mean ur in middle or elmentary school? because some shy guys act lyk that at that age.


He's probably a really cool person thats not shy in the inside and people that he knows. Thinks that u could talk about: What classes does he take and does he lyk the teachers if he wants to hang out with u one day...and stuff lyk that.

Need womens advice. or Men if you have done this.?

Well here we go. I use to always shave my chest and what not b/c my ex thought it was sexy blah blah blah so a did how that we have been broken up I have let it grow but since i use to shave it I really got use to it being like that and miss the hairlessness haha I was just wondering about the waxing aspect of hair removal. What are you views on it is it worth the pain every 3 to 4 weeks or however often you have to get it done.





Thanks in advance.Need womens advice. or Men if you have done this.?
My boyfriend has a hairy chest... We have tried a few things...


1. Shaving- Ok thats such a wives tail about the hair growing back thicker and darker... it doesnt when u let it grow out after shaving it is the EXACT same as before... but it jjst takes forever to do and then he gets itchy when the stubble returns and it sometimes causes razor burn or breakouts... which isnt pretty.


2. Nair- You people who said this have you ever actually Naired a guys chest??? It seems to come off real good like halfway through the removing swipe and then... it seems it's only burned off half of the remaining hair... and when u put nair over what it didnt remove the 1st time it burns him really bad and layers of skin can burn off... not to mention the smell it leaves... shew.


3. Wax- Sugar Wax: Doesnt work it doesnt hold well enough to get the hair off and leaves a sticky residue that seems to take forever to get off.


Professional Waxing or Hot Wax: My boyfriend went to this Spa Type place and had this done and when they were pulling off the strips they said his pores were getting turned inside out (so its not for really sensitive areas.. such as the chest)





My recommendation is that stuff you see on TV it's called Nads... It's not a Hot wax because it doesnt need to be heated and it isnt a Sugaring Wax so it grabs the hair tightly.


Just one more little ounce of advice... if you do choose Nads don't try to cut the hair at all before you use it... it works best on longer hair....





You can get it Walgreens %26amp;%26amp; WalmartNeed womens advice. or Men if you have done this.?
I personally prefer a hairy chest so I say let it grow..





If you want to wax...I suggest every 4 weeks..
Well, it lasts longer than shaving. In your case, I wouldn't say that it's worth it. Just because chest hair isn't something that ';needs'; to be shaved, you know what I mean? I mean women are obviously going to shave their legs, and I could see waxing being easier there than it would be for a guy. I think that if you want to get rid of it, you should just shave. Or, you could always use Nair, or something else like that. It's going to hurt a lot. You'll find yourself getting sick of having to do it all the time. Especially if you do it yourself. It's harder to do something when you KNOW it's going to hurt. It can also irritate your skin. I'm not talking about the redness, but sometimes it will stay red and blotchy for a while,all depending on how white you are, haha. :)





Oh, and if you do use Nair, be careful. A lot of people are allergic to it, including me.
I use the Norelco Phillips Bodygroom shaver to shave my chest hair and ****. I hate having chest hair...a smooth chest is sexier.
the pain is worth it but it hurts a lot,first try with a painless zone like your forearm
My boyfriend shaved his chest before he met me. I put a stop to that nonsense. The most I would recommend is trimming it, if you're really self-conscious or the hair is truly bothering you. Remmington sells some good trimmers. Shaved chests are pretty gay and make guys look like little boys. Who wants to date a pre-pubescent hairless 12 year old? Men are supposed to be burly and hairy. Not to mention the painful (to both of us) stubble that inevitably appears when you shave/wax completely. If you are actually gay, there's nothing wrong with that, and you should continue to shave/wax. If not, trimming or leaving it as-is are your two best options.
no ryan.





chest hair is sexy.


leave it.
Waxing usually stays longer than shaving. You can also try hair removal cream which also works well in removing body.
aah a guy waxing is really hot....hurts like f*ck though!!





i said something along those lines to an (ex)boyfriend once...but eh....i think he got confused over what ';parts'; lol





he comes into school the next day - ONE of his LEGS waxed.....it hurt him....so he wouldnt do the second one lol, he just had this random smooth leg for like 3 weeks


it was hilarious though





xxxx
As a stylist I wax men and women on a reg basis, its one of those things that gets better as time goes on but it is very painful. I would have a spot that is in a hidden area done first to see if you can handle it (remember steve carell in 40 year old virgin) but yes it is totally worth it, it is so much smoother than shaving and lasts so much longer in some cases it can even start growing less over time... I see more and more men getting waxed and none complain (much) but please make sure the person you go to knows exactly what they are doing if done wrong it can be more painful and less effective..
Hmmm...do what you like, but I think hair is SEXXY.
i think that hair is fine, but i do prefer men without hairy chests


waxing would be best if you can handle the pain...nair, or other hair removal products like that can leave a burning feeling on more sensitive areas of skin, or if you just generally have sensitive skin...


shaving would also work, but it gets stubbly faster than waxing
why dont you just use nair?
if you get your hair waxed, from personal experience, it says off a little longer and doesn't grow back as thick/dark as it does after shaving a lot.


but is it worth it? it depends how much you despise shaving.
I wax everything. I think shaving is nasty because it grows back thicker. The first time you do it will suck, like in 40 Year Old Virgin. But after a few times the hair gets really thin and eventually the follicles will become so weak they cannot even hold/support the hair. I think guys should waxno 5 o'clock shadow all the time.
use nair for men.
wow. what kind of homo shaves his chest.. be a man, dude.
waxing is best
Hmm.


It's really up to you.





But personally, chest hair to me is the worst.


It's can get pretty gross, so you could get it waxed twice a month if you wanted. But you'd have to remember that it gets expensive after a while.





And also, there's a product called Nair. It's a hair removal kit. You do it yourself and it's pain-free.


My brother does it with his arms on a weekly basis.
it doesnt make you gay to shave your chest. dont chave your legs tho, that is a bit borderline. use nair. if you do wax, please scream kelly clarkson, just for the humor of it.
well yeah do it . in my case i think its kinda sexxy butt unless u look good with a little hair just leave it but its ur chose....and if it hurts..well i have never waxed my chest but I'm sure it would just hurt for a couple a seconds.. : ]

Need some advice from men!!?

OK, Gonna try to make this as short as possible...





I'm only 24. I've been married 6 years. Just got divorced not too long ago. Was married to the only guy I've ever had sex with. Naturally, when I first had sex, I had a great body. Since then, I've had 2 kids. So, I'm not as comfortable with my body now. I try to pretend I have high self esteem. But, really, I don't. I have stretch marks on my tummy %26amp; thighs, cellulite on my thighs %26amp; hips and don't even get me started on my boobs!!! I am still skinny and my greatest asset and pretty much the only thing I like about my body is my long legs. I also have good hair and a pretty face....Not to sound conceited...I do get told I'm hot, a lot...But, of course these guys haven't seen me naked....OK, so, my question is this....WHen I do have sex again...Do I just act like I have all the confidence in the world and my body is flawless?? Would it be a turn off if I actually pointed out my flaws to a guy?? One thing I do know...I'll definitely be doing it with the lights out. HAHA...OK, Thanks and PLEASE, serious answers only...this really is a sensitive subject for me.Need some advice from men!!?
OK, first and foremost all be it short and sweet, you've not specified what kind of sex you are actually wanting?





If the partner you want is literally going to be for that, a single encounter, then i can't imagine going into detail about your insecurities is going to be the biggest turn on (IF that's the kind of guy you WANT to attract) - as sad and as cruel as that sounds.





HOWEVER





If you're looking for a new permanent partner, then slowly try going out with friends more reguarlly, have the dating process, and IF you get comfortable with a guy and the subject comes up to do with insecurities or body anything, then be honest about it then. He'll appreciate it, and 9 times out of 10, won't care at all IF he's the guy thats taken the time to get to know you.





In the mean time, a bit of tough love. If you are so insecure, i appreciate having children for a woman really does effect the body, but there must be some types of exercise/traioning you can do to at least improve whatcha got.





I hope this really does help, and that you feel happy again soon.Need some advice from men!!?
I'm a guy and confidence is a must. When a girl says something about her flaws, not only is it mildly annoying (because all girls talk about how they are all flawed in so many ways), but its a killer turn off. They are there for a reason. The reason is not because you have stretch marks and cellulite.





Be confident my friend and it will be all set.
yes it will be a turn off if you started to point out your flaw, us men look at what we like first, and flaws second. what you think is a flaw to you, may just be the sexiest part of your body to him. be confident and let him judge you. you will be okay, if you get compliments now, you will continue to get them.
Hmm, most ladies your age wont have had 2 kids so your up against that. Your best looking for a guy whos already a dad i think. I wouldnt mention stretch marks during sexy time. Maybe you could joke about it sometime before when your just hanging out and guage his response.
I definitely wouldn't point out your flaws, that would be a turn off, you sound like a pretty girl, forget about what little flaws your body has, If a guy has a problem with stretch marks you have or whatever, then that is his problem and not yours.
When a guy will love you as you are because he's more worth it than any guy after your looks
Well there are two ways of looking at this question. 1 Are you talking about when you go out and have sex just because you're horny? Or 2 Do you mean sex in the course of a relationship? If you're talking about when you're horny, then don't pay much mind to what the guy is thinking. Just make sure you find a guy that knows how to please a woman and not one that wants to jump in and it's over.





If you're talking about a relationship, then you should be able to talk to the guy about your insecurities before having sex with him. If you're looking for someone who'll care about you then it shouldn't matter what little imperfections your body now has. A lot of men have seen stretch marks and cellulite before (by the way, I bet when you're lying on your back, your boobs look just fine). I know I'd take a sweet, kind, loving woman with your body any day of the week over a bitchy, self-indulgent Playboy Bunny type. I know because my first wife was the bunny type and I couldn't wait to divorce her. My second wife was 35 when I married her; so she was no stranger to cellulite and the effects of gravity on her boobs. But, she is a wonderful human being and I find her incredibly sexy.





Whatever the situation is with you, you're probably still a very beautiful woman and shouldn't worry so much about what others think of you. It's what you think of yourself that counts anyway.
ok good Q. First, just do it. Dont worry about anything, dont act like your all that, but also dont point out your flaws to him either. That will be a Major turn off, because he may not think there is anything wrong with you, and if you point out to him that there are stretch marks etc...he may start looking for them.. just be yourself, and be comfortable. Remember dont warn him about anything, and dont act like you are a model either without any flaws, he should realize that you a mother, and want to have sex with you for who you are and not what is underneath those clothes.
First give yourself time to heal from the divorce. If you go out and have sex right away it will feel like rebound sex and you will feel awkward about it. Don't do anything you may regret later. There is no need to point out your flaws(physically). Talk to the guy. If you tell him that you have 2 children most guys know what to expect and if they are anyone decent they will have no problem with your ';flaws';. I hope that helps.

I need advice, gay men please help a confused young one please?

So I need some advice


There is this gay student union in my school and I came to them but to my detriment they just fired back at me and said that I was ugly, fat and that no one wanted me. Ever since then they just attacked me and called me a disgrace to the gay community and told me that I should die now cuz no gay man would ever think of loving me...all of this has made me real sad and has really crushed me, I just need some advice on how I can get through this...


All of this is making me want to be cynical, angry and I really am starting to think gay man will ever love me.


I am 16 by the way, this hurts though and to have them remind me everyday is just cruel and unjust..


Am I really that ugly anyways?


http://s232.photobucket.com/albums/ee196/Admiralmac/?action=view%26amp;current=derek9.jpg


One of them even had the nerve to tell me that I am one of the few ugly gay men in the world that is not even worth saving..what do I need saving from anyways?


Maybe from them but...


HELP!I need advice, gay men please help a confused young one please?
There is nothing ugly about you! Very few of us hit a peak at sixteen. And those who do look like crap by the time they are thirty. You've just run afoul of some really superficial Twinks. Most gay men are not like that.I need advice, gay men please help a confused young one please?
You are NOT ugly. Anyone who tells you different is just trying to hurt you. I would suggest that if this harassment continues that you report it to your counselor or your schools administration. The stuff that they are doing gives the gay community a bad name.





Find a group of friends that makes you happy.
If they said this contact the principal immediately and tell them what happened to however (and IM not saying u r fat) if YOU think you are fat then exercise i was over weight then i began to run all SUMMER long when i got back to school the guys couldn't resist ( just kidding) but seriously i felt a lot better
I can understand how you would be confused. I look at your picture and see someone beautiful. It's hard to believe that fellow gay students could be so cruel. Find other support.
do you love either one of them?
Sure your overweight but you have great bone structure, broad shoulders, a nice smile and nice hair. (thats all superfical stuff but seeing as how I don't know you personaly thats all I can work with)





I get excluded to when I hang out with some gay guys not because am overweight but because I have long hair. I know I can just cut my hair but I am not going to cut it because they think it is to girly if I decide to cut it I will only because I want to change. I pretty much just told them ';why do you call me to girly for having long hair when you paint your nails pink and wear girl shirts';





You just have to shrug it off and in some cases even stand up for yourself. I know it can be hard (I cried at first because being excluded sucks) and say I am not like you I am myself.





also since I think it is a school club those often times have rules against that sort of discriminatory behavior try speaking with the priniciple or a teacher about what can be done.





The GLBT comunity needs to learn to get along with each other we all are considered outcasts amongst many groups world wide still so we need to take care of one another not hurt them.
You don't want to hear this, but don't take what they said so seriously. It might be that your ';attackers'; were just trying to get your goat because of some past grudge or because they don't like how you dress or something idiotic like that. Or if they are a little older than you, maybe they are just on a little power trip and think they can make you sweat by hazing you. So ignore their comments, which were certainly made carelessly and callously. My guess is there is some strange reason they were mean to you, a reason that has nothing to do with your particular physical appearance.

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Need some advice on men, serious answers only!?

there are 2 guys, the one i am currently dating and the one that i have currently have deleloped a thing for. yes i know that i am dating someone but i feel that i have sort of disconnected from him. yeah i should probably tell him, but it is not always an easy thing to do. anyway thou, i am extremely intrigued by this other guy and i think that we totally click. i know i should weigh my options and stuff, but feelings can make you go crazy!!! i really just want to be friends and maybe go out, but i don't want it to seem like i am cheating or sneaking around even though i like this guy a little and all. i dont want to take it to the next level just do some innocent flirting, yes flirting can be innocent. i know that we would never be a couple or anything, just want to have a little fun. do you think that having fun and going out with the other guy is okay?Need some advice on men, serious answers only!?
I don't see why you can't be friends. Let me ask you thugh - what kind of relationship do you have with this guy? Is it exclusive? Or are you just casually dating but are free to see other people? If it's exclusive, then you shouldn't see this other guy on a more than friends level, as that could jeopardize your current relationship.Need some advice on men, serious answers only!?
Honestly, no. You already know that you have feelings for this guy, so it is completely unfair to your current boyfriend for you to do this. Whether or not you ';take it to the next level'; or not, you would be having a form of a relationship with this guy, and therefore would be cheating on your current boyfriend. Imagine how you would feel if the situation were reversed. I don't think you would be happy with it either. Either leave this other guy alone, or break things off with your boyfriend first before trying anything. Don't just keep him hanging around in case things don't work out with the new one.
I think its ok just dont let the guy your seeing find out. Who knows you just might hid it off well with the other guy and there could be something in the future. Dont wait until its too late. Go for whatever makes you happy, you'll just never know until you try it.
Sure, it is ok if they both realise that you are single and officially unattached.





I presume you are in your late teens or early 20's.


This is a common way of thinking when a woman begins to date, and is most exciting.


You just enjoy yourself without hurting any ones feelings.


Some men will expect you to be dating them only.


Just make it clear that you would like to remain friends at this point and you are not in a hurry to settle down.


Having said this, it really isn't any of their business what you do in your own time or who you date.





Enjoy !
Of course its ok, as long as you let him ';Flirt'; with another woman.
Break up with the first guy, it's not fair to him if your not into the relationship anymore. It will hurt him more later when he finds out what you've been up to. Whether you did anything or not with #2 guy,he will always wonder and not trust you.
absolutely not.


if you think you have really fallen for this new guy, then you should let your current boyfriend go, but if you think about it and realize that is just a fantasy thing then you should dump it and remember your boyfriend!
that depends if the 2 guys are Friends if they are than sure if they aren't try to get close to both and make them like each other if they hate each other your screwed





P.S. make sure the guy that you aren't dating KNOWS that there's no chance so he doesn't start hitting on you
You are dating, not married.





There is nothing wrong with being friends with the guy and spending a little time together, but at the point you find yourself wishing you were with the new guy instead of ';bf';, you should call it off with your boyfriend.





Basically, ask yourself what level you would be comfortable with if your boyfriend was in your shoes, spending time with someone else. When you've reached the point where you wouldn't like it if you were treated a certain way, end the relationship and move on.
no unless your into lying and cheating on your man then yeah its fine
If you're dating someone, then I don't feel that it's okay to go out with someone else that you're attracted to. Flip the coin and think about how you would feel. You need to figure out how you feel about your current guy. If it's really just not there anymore, than why stick around? You could be missing out on a great relationship elsewhere....ie beau number two...
It would most definately hurt your main guy, that is if he found out. If you think you can ';get away with it'; if you wanna call it that, then I guess go ahead. I'll just say that if my girlfriend did that... I would probably be really hurt.
Is your dating relationship with Guy A considered ';exclusive';? If so - then you need to be upfront with him. Or, maybe get a girlfriend to double date - you with Guy A and her with Guy B. That would give you a chance to check out Mr. B a little more closely. Regardless, sounds like you and Mr. A need to have a long talk...
if it's okay with your guy then it's not cheating. it's only as innocent as he thinks it is if you're serious about having a boyfriend.
A lot of girls have been in this situation. I think you should look at it from your boyfriend's perspective. Would you want him flirting with other girls? If you don't think you would mind, then I say maybe you could be friends with this other guy. Flirt, a little. See if anything develops.
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Need some advice from both men and women?

I have known a guy for almost 6 years and we were just friends because I was dating someone. He has been such a great friend to me. Recently, while drinking he called me and confessed he likes me as more than a friend. I admitted that I also like him. One problem, he has a girlfriend that he has been a year. He tells me things like sometimes he thinks she is a little sketchy towards him and that I have always been truthful. He says he can't just leave a relationship because i became single. Should I wait for him to become single or am I being put on hold as a backup?Need some advice from both men and women?
I would live my life and don't put it on hold. He's not done with his girlfriend yet, no matter how sketchy the relationship is. Don't waste your time unless he is completely done with her and willing to let her go to be with you.





Otherwise it would be drama and games. You don't need that hon.Need some advice from both men and women?
Move on with your life. You are just a back up. Be careful.
u are being put on hold ..... i wouldn't wait around
You're being put on hold. Tell him you're not going to wait and see what he does. That will tell you a lot.
Ur situation sounds like mine - and I'm waiting! My guy is really worth waiting for. Urs is too, I bet.
don't put your life on hold for him. keep living your life. meet new people, go on dates, keep your options open. if he is really serious then he would have stepped up and made the choice to be with you. i think he is just venting out his frustrations with his girlfriend to you but he most likely will stay with her. waiting for him or any guy for that matter will just make you meiserable and then resentful towards him later on. dont wait for him to make up his mind sweetie cause you will end up wasting all your time and energy thinking about him being with you and then in the end, your the one that is left out in the cold. if he wants you badly enough, he won't risk losing the opportunity of you being by his side. Besides, life is too short to wait around for someone that doesn't know what they want. hope this helps!





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wow tough......well depends do u want any1 else? if no then wait btu if youve meet some1 else then go for them but if u really like this guy then wait for him
you better tell him straight about his decision... he has to make a choice.. its either his present gf or you that he confessed that he loves...
I think your relationship is very deep-rooted and should never end. But it kind of seem as though you are being put on hold. Don't take that. Tell him it is now or never. This is probably where you'd find out if that is how he wants you. As a backup.





Hope you find what you're looking for!!!!!!

Need advice from men who are dating single moms...?

Please give me your age and how long you have been dating (exclusively) the single mom you are with...





Is she wants a positive male role model in her kids life... and not just in sporadic moments..I mean day to day... how or when do you know its time to move forward and actually be that guy...





Ive been dating a man exclusively for over a year - we are both 40... we recently have talked about the possibility of him moving in with me (I own, he rents and its easier, we considered all other ways - but with my kids ages and having kids home day to day and established here - he only gets his kids one night a week and 2 weekends a month)... and his lease is up at the end of next month... but now it seems he is looking up apartments locally to him (we live an hour apart)...





I do not want to be selfish with him or put pressure on him - I really do not... I just feel I am doing a disservice to my kids having a man who I mainly see when they are not around - he maybe is with us as a family a couple times a month... and I feel like if I bring up him moving in - though we talked about it briefly - that I am putting pressure on him... however I also feel like there is pressure on me... I want my kids to have a family life with two adults in the home - they DO have a dad who sees them weekly and alternating weekends as well - but when they are home, its just us three - which is fine mostly... but today major meltdown with my son made me realize he needs a male figure in the home.. really he does, I am not trying to sound old fashioned or like I 'need' a man for my needs...)... albeit I do love my bf very much... and we get along great - ok so a few arguments now and then - but very few... .. I hate to end the relationship -- but is this where I am headed?? I mean, I know he gets what I want out of life... I know he understands what I want... and he is not moving in that direction... if I go it will seem like and ultimatum... which I do not want to give him-- I feel torn because I feel like whats best for my kids here is having a man in my life ready for the same family life I want to give them day to day... yet I honestly feel the 40 yr old bf of over a year is not ready for it (I think he is still dealing with his own emotional aftermath of his divorce) -- but I do not want to wake up and look back and say wow kids are now teenagers and look I am still dating a man who lives and hour away... (and I am not talking marriage right now - if ever..) I am talking moving in a forward direction...





Advice from the other side?Need advice from men who are dating single moms...?
Always put your children first,

Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 6 months. I am very much in love with him, but he has said time and time again thatdoesn'ttt have the same intensity of feelings for me because of all the rocky times we have had in the beginning * he cheated on me, i found out and since ididn't trust him i began to nag which kinda made it hard for the first few months* now he is getting ready to move out of town and I really dont want him to go but he says he has to and not only that, he does not want me to go with him. SO here are the series of questions I have for you all





1. what are ways that I can make him want to stay or at least want me to go with him? And Is it dumb for me to try and make him stay





2. AND THIS QUESTION IS FOR MOSTLY MEN: Is it true that if you want a guy to come to know the error of his ways the best thing to do is ignore phonecalls and back off for awhile to see if they care?? and if they dont respond to that then they dont? My other issue is...what if by ignoring him it drives him away instead of pulls him in closer??








HELP! i love this person dearly but at the same time I dont want to be a fool!!





any advice would help! thanks!Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
sounds like he has made his feelings pretty clear


you are wonting to make him feel something he does not





as hard as it is move on


you need to be with someone that loves you as much as you love them





after all he cheated on you and then says he doesnt love you as much coz you nag him





move on love you can do so much better Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
If you love him let him go, if he loves you he will come back.


You sound young and this wont be your last love in life.


Don't be too serious with this guy. If he doesn't ';chase'; you find some one who will.


We all want to be loved but we don't all want to be used or made a fool of.


Only YOU give a person permission to treat you that way.



i think you are being dumb running after such a loser... there are people who like to stay with you until their deeds are hidden once those are known they feel like they are lower self... and feel kind of suffocated... so its better to leave him.. i know you love him.. but this is blindness friend.. i am sorry but this what i feel... leave him off if he really respects you he will come back... otherwise he'll indulge himself with someone else... so please try and get out of this love....
First of all, a cheater will never stop cheating, no matter how much he swears he will stop, no matter how much he says he still likes you.


Secondly, live-in situations are always bad. You are getting the house before getting married! If he's done nothing else right, this is the one good choice he's made. Don't go with him. It's as simple as that





You say you don't want to be a fool, and so this is what I say:





You'd be a fool to keep dating him. Find a better man who will NOT cheat. Select your boyfriends, don't settle, darling! God Bless!
honey, once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. besides, he's been honest with u from the start. as they say, as much as u would want to, u can never make someone stay if he doesnt want to. its a decision he has to make for himself. at least he admits to not feeling the same way u do. he's not the one. let him go. do it for him and do it for urself.
Personally, i would've said my goodbyes the minute i knew he was cheating. You shouldnt have to put up with that. No man is worth it if he cheats.





I actually understand the way you feel, something similar happened to me , except he didnt cheat.





No matter what anyone says to you about just get over him, it will never happen that way.


But it has to happen, it is obvious that he doent feel the same so yeah .
Oh no...hmmm, your husband is waiting and it's NOT this guy. He is practice for the right one. Suck it up, and remember to keep your pride in tact. BELIEVE ME, i have knowledge of this. You don't know who you are yet. You will be amazed at how this will mean nothing to you really in the near future. Move on, if he is worth it, he will come back for a while..only to leave again! And thank God because your true love is about 3 years away, don't miss him.

Some advice on men please people!?

I have asked a similar question before, but here is some more detail.





I have been married for almost 4 years now. I was only 20 at the time, and he was 25. He has 2 children to 2 prior relationships.


We now have a child together. I believe our marriage won't last as he continues to believe I am the one with all the problems. And that there is nothing wrong with him. (We have a very rocky relationship and he is extremely verbally and emotionally abusive)


I am currently seeing a psychologist as he refuses to get counseling together. Even she says that there really isn't much future for us as he is not willing to change at all.


What do you think, should I keep trying?Some advice on men please people!?
Sorry you're in such a ';rut.'; At least you're seeking help, that's a good thing....there's nothing wrong with picking up advice that way, or even this way (through Yahoo answers, web articles, self-help books, etc). I once took marriage counseling with the belief that my ex wouldn't change, either... but the counsellor said, ';If I didn't think people could change, then I wouldn't be in this business.'; I never forgot that. So, yes.. your hubbie will change- the question is when, and how long are you willing to wait for it? Could be years and years, sweetie... then again, something drastic could suddenly happen to MAKE him change in an instant (like his tongue gets a disease or something)


Verbal and emotional abuse is the only way he knows how to solve problems or express his anger. Sad. It sucks when you're with someone who is ';dull'; in problem-solving because they'd have to be a willing student in order to learn new skills.... which it sounds like he doesn't have any desire. Guys don't like change, either... especially if they have to read or study crap. If you ever do end up solo, be sure to learn all the ';red flags'; in bad dudes prior to getting committed again!! But, nevertheless, ya'll have a kid, so it's worth trying for a little while longer: Here's my advice-


Anytime your relationship starts to turn sour or isn't ';fulfilling'; anymore, you will need to step back to the ';beginning block'; and that is YOU. Take your focus OFF of him and start investing it in YOU. The more you focus and pull on him, the more he will drift and fight- so forget it, it's a waste of energy. Go back to the girl you were when you first met him, better yet...before him. Start filling your whole schedule with fun and exciting things to do to and be so busy that you don't have the brain power to even worry about **** anymore. You have a kid, now... start doing stuff with the baby. Start a new project, ie; garden, salt-water fish tank, a new home based business, hell, even learn how to file your own taxes. Anything that will consume all of your thoughts!!! Be SO busy, that your hubbie would actually have to be ';penciled in'; to your adjenda! LOL! What will happen, is that he will notice that all of your thoughts, energy and worry on him has suddenly disappeared, yet, you're still happy and even enjoying life (which he isn't) and then his curiosity will start to focus on you and he will cut out the verbal bashing and it will change into ';so,what are you and junior doing again this weekend?'; and ';that sounds like fun, can I come along?'; And what happens is that you will end up with the control again, which gives you more bargaining power to try to ease him into actually LISTENING to you, and your concerns about him being verbally ';rough'; with you... and then he will want to begin trying to change. If not, in the meantime you are actually having a GREAT time and not sweating **** as much anymore! LOL! Trust me, ';ol stick in the mud'; will come around and become that Prince again, I promise. Just remember NOT to be rude, revengeful or untrustworthy as you're ';doing your thing,'; OK?


Good luck and have fun!! You deserve it and so does junior!! :DSome advice on men please people!?
No, I do not think you should keep trying. Not unless, you can accept unacceptable behavior. He can only change if he is willing to change. It sounds as if he is not so therefore you need to take care of yourself and your child. I know it is difficult because your lives have been somewhat melded together and you have also become a part of his other children's lives but it is possible. I'm really glad to hear that you are seeing a psychologist. You know, I think us women can come to accept many things from our husbands but any type of abuse and disrespect should never be accepted.





Good luck to you.
it sounds to me like he is the one with the problems. If he is unwilling to seek counseling with you I doubt if really cares all that much about you. Your still young, maybe you should consider getting a divorce. Although I know nothing about your relationship it seems to me that it is headed for big trouble. Are his children with you? Think of your child,please.It is always the children seem to have to suffer. By all means make sure your child's interest are looked after. He/she are your number one concern.
I don't think so, you say he his mentally and emotionally abusive, that cant be much fun for you or for your child. Why have his past relationships failed is this how he has always been and if so why is he likely to change now.


You do not want to stay with someone who is making you unhappy or could make your child think that his kind of behaviour is normal.


Good Luck





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well yes ... getting divorced is not so easy especially that you have a baby ... so yes i would recommend to keep trying for a while ... maybe tehre is things that you didnt try yet ... till the moments you feel that you 100% sure you cannot work things out together .. then you can divorce .. but at least you will know that you've done your best to safe your marriage ...
(NOT SHOUTIN) WHY SHOULD U KEEP TRYING WHEN HE IS NOT WILLING 2 MEET U HALFWAY. THERE IS ONLY SO MUCH U CAN DO. LET HIM KNOW THAT THE NEXT TIME HE IS VERBALLY/EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE 2 U THAT U AND YOUR BABY ARE OUT THE DOOR. U AND THE BABY DESERVE BETTER. BECAUSE YOUR CHILD WILL GROW UP THINKING THIS BEHAVIOR IS ACCEPTABLE BCUZ THIS IS WHAT HE/SHE HAS WITNESSED. IT SEEMS U HAVE DONE ALL U CAN DO, BUT IF HE'S NOT WILLING 2 TRY AND HELP HIMSELF THE BEST THING 4 U MAY BE 2 WALK AWAY
if he doesnt listen to you, then your marriage isnt really a marrigae....its dictatorship...marriages are based on equality and compromise...if he is unwilling to do so...then you better think hard if you can see yourself as his slave for the rest of your long life....because believe me you are going to have one if he doesnt change his attitude!
WELL YOU KNOW YOU REALLY CAN'T CHANGE A MAN WHO'S ALREADY SET IN HIS WAYS. I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM AND ALL AND THERE ARE KIDS INVOLVED BUT IF YOU'RE NOT HAPPY THEN YOU MIGHT HAVE TO LEAVE HIM A WOMAN CAN ONLY TAKE SO MUCH UNTIL SHE GETS FED UP ( AND YOU WILL KNOW) DID YOU KNOW THAT THERE ARE CERTAINT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE ONLY FOR A SEASON AND THERES CERTAIN PEOPLE FOR A LIFE TIME.





GOOD LUCK SWEETY!!!! AND IF YOU ARE GOD FEARING THEN PRAY O.K
Frankly, I think you chose the wrong guy. Also, anybody can notice the pattern using the given data; he marries, has a child, marriage ends, he gains custody. wash rinse repeat. I'm thinking this abuse started AFTER the child was born. He sounds like he is deliberaltely, yet cleanly trying to end the marriage, he isnt hitting you but emotional and verbal is enough to go for splitting, him refusing to see a counselor defines either his denial or a deliberate attempt to reconcile the marriage. Trust your instincts, not what he has let you believe about him and judge for yourself. Either way, I don't see much glimmer either, BUT i do see an insolent, jerk who should be .........never mind me.......hope it helps

Ladies advice please...men feel free to answer as well.?

I just made 6 months with my bf. I am having serious issues at home..which have been occuring for some time now. I am looking for someone to live with, and i have considered asking my bf to move in with him.(he knows that i want to move out) I dont think it would be a problem. I just would like your advice on if you think its alright for me to move in with him? the only thing i wonder is if he would prevent me from going to lounges/clubs like ive been doing as im living at home.(He doesnt like this bc he thinks i will hook up with someone else). He works with promoters so he is busy mainly at night. Do you think it would be alright to live with him?Ladies advice please...men feel free to answer as well.?
It all depends on the strength of your relationship, which I feel needs to be questioned by your sentence, ';he would prevent me from going to lounges/clubs like ive been doing as im living at home.(He doesnt like this bc he thinks i will hook up with someone else).'; Firstly this says there are trust issues - why does he think you will hook up with someone else? Whatever it is, he doesn't trust you. That is not a good basis for any relationship. All relationships - between lovers, friends, family, colleagues - rely on trust as their base. It sounds like this relationship is not strong enough yet for you to move in with him. It may put more pressure on you both. I say, move out, but get a place with other people, or friends, and enjoy your newfound independence, and see how your relationship goes for another year before thinking about moving in with him.Ladies advice please...men feel free to answer as well.?
in my opinion it not a good idea at all. even though he is a nice guy and he not going to do anything to u but other people might misunderstand u. so try to fix ur family problem first. if it not work out than ask one of ur gf to stay with for a while.
He sounds possesive. Sounds like you might be looking for security. I foresee big problems.

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Need advice about men what should i do?

Hiya, i just want a some advice really. Im 20 and ive never been in aserious long term relationship, ive dated guys for a month at a time, the only guy i ever actualy liked ended up screwin me over, and i didnt feel a spark with the other guys so i ended the others. Im quite attractive i would say, i get alota guys asking for my number and get alot of guys smiling at me etc but girls u know what its like you dont give a random guy of the street shouting 'oi can i talk to you whats ur number!' ya number do ya! lol Im also the kinda girl that takes awhile to get to know, not that im shy coz believe me im pretty blunt, but it takes a while to get to know my heart. Is it a case of being paitent and waiting for a nice guy to come my way, or should i get more pro-active? thanksNeed advice about men what should i do?
Well babes, you seem to be pretty proactive in getting the Guy department......maybe you should calm down a bit, what hobbies


do you have ? if none , get some,? I not know where you live but


enjoy yourself first.. figure out what you like..even Skating, 'Ballroom Dancing, Swimming,Bingo,Choir singing, Bell Ringing (I have just taken


this up ! great.we end up at the Pub !) anything to find yourself and


be content with you !! then let a guy in .... it worked for me good luck ! ..Need advice about men what should i do?
Nice guys are everywhere.

I wanna get advice about men from REAL men, so boys will you please help me out?

1) Any advice about how a woman should treat a man( in general)?





2)what would you do if a girl showed too much attention and intrest in you? (mention if you like her and if you don't like her)





3)What are the BIGGEST mistakes that girls do around boys?





4)What are the qualities that most girls lack?





5)what are the qualities that you appreciate the most in a woman?





6)would you rather like a feisty, energetic woman , or an over calm and timid woman?





7)Why do men like women so much?!!





8)what are the warnning signs for a girl to be able to distinguish a great man from a terrible one??





9)what do you think of women who hate kids or can't tolerate them?





10)what do you think of women who have a very hot temper?





11)is it that even good dudes think about sex all the time or not?





i know i have a lot of questions but thanks to all the dudes who will the time to answer them.I wanna get advice about men from REAL men, so boys will you please help me out?
1)A woman should treat a man, in general, the way she would want to be treated.





2)If she showed a lot of attention and I liked her, I would probably ask her out yo. :] If I didn't like her, I'd most likely avoid her in hopes that she'll get the message and the crush will die out.





3)I think the biggest mistake a girl could do around boys is to flirt with a guy right infront of another guy that she recently flirted with. Also, if he likes her, she should never talk about her exs or what she's done in the past, sexually.





4)Qualities that most girls lack are.. qualities. Most girls I meet are usually no different from the other when it comes to their hobbies and what they like to do. Personality, character, etc etc





5)I appreciate all the feminine qualities that make her a woman, as well as her having hobbies and interests. Cooking is one attractive skill, by the way. :]





6)Over calm and timid





7)Uhh what else is there? Sorry :(





8)No idea





9)Boo :( I might want kids someday, ya know..





10)My brother is a hot head and it is not pleasant to live with him sometimes. Chill or gtfo please (I mean that in the kindest way). :(





11)No idea





Hope I helpedI wanna get advice about men from REAL men, so boys will you please help me out?
the answer to most of your questions is just be yourself there is a guy that likes who you are so just be who you are if a guy don't like a lot of attention and you like to show a lot then he is not for you. Some guys are turned on by hot temper women so don't hide it be real. This advice is for when you get serious about wanting the guy for yourself.
i'm a chick so i can't really answer but i reckon you put up some good questions
1)Usually with some respect to a certain point. And treat them as you would like to be treated as well.


2)If I like her I would give her a chance to know her.


But if I didn't I would be less likely to attempt to know her as much. I'll probably move more into a friend-zone only or maybe just an acquitance.


3)Start of being really rude when a guy says hi, or trys to introduce themselves.


4)For some, a sense of stability at times.(Like when some make a choice and regretted it it takes them a long time to gte back on track). Self-Respect, determination.


5)When she is daring, benevolent(Kind hearted), independence,diligence(Hard-Working).


6)Personally I like either energetic or timid woman.


7)One of the reasons is that it's a part of human nature.


Another is to know the mystery of girls.


Then it could be we enjoy your company.


Etc...


8)The way a guy would treat many women.(Usually disrepectful,not showing much kindness, too agressive,unwilliness to help at all) are signs of a terrible man at times but you have to be able to find some other signs. A great man usually has respect,concern, helpful at times when it's necessary(Not like in a submissive way), and pretty much someone you can see that he wil have a good future.


9)That's their preference but I know that she won't be a good mother if she ever decides to have a family unless she changes her opinion.


10)Not really someone I would be around with because she may snap at the smallest things that will may a hard time to be with.(Possibly may need some anger management classes).


11)Regardless or not, some dudes will think about sex a few times but there is a limit. If the dude is extremely obessive about sex that he can't control his urges, then it may lead to some problems later on.





It was my pleasure to answer these. I hope this will help you.

Need advice from men please?

Hi





What does it mean if you are with your girlfriend of a year and you drive past your first love for whom you obviously have very high regard and fond memories of.





Me and my boyfriend drove past his first love the other day and he made a point of telling me that was her and what she did and that she had just been in the local paper for winning some award. They both waved and smiled at each other. I dont think there is anything going on, but could he still have feelings for her. They seperated nearly 15 years ago and he did pine for her a lot and still tried to get back with her for a long long time. They eventually lost touch when she moved away and only realised she was married a few years ago. She moved back and Im worried he might get all his old feelings back for her. What do you think?





Also why did he have to point her out to me. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. Please advice me. They are likely to bump into each other regularly cos it is a small town but she seems to work out of town a lot.Need advice from men please?
From a guy's point of view-don't worry about it. She was probably his first love. They are hard to forget. I still remember my first love, and it was over 30 years ago. He loves you, or he wouldn't be with you for a year. Make your own fond memories, and love him with all your heart, and he'll love you more. He just didn't use to well of good judgement by pointing her out to you the way he did. Be patient, and remember your first love. Everything will be okay. Good luck!!Need advice from men please?
first love is for keeps.though they have moved on in life,but cant say if they will meet in private.it all depends on how you handle this situation.





why dont you ask your husband to bring her around for lunch and find out more about her(if she is married/have a steady boy friend)so that you can make decisions.
People can never forget first love. It is reality. But you should not be so worried. If she have feeling for u then u should clearly talk her. It is better for u to take her in a park and say every think which are hidden in your mind. In this way you can satisfy.
must mean he feels comfortable telling it to you, don't worry about it at all, hes moved on so have you, he wont get 'old feelings back' if they bump into each other it will be a hello nothing more nothing less.
First loves last. People remember and cherish them. Don't panic. They have both moved on.
You don't have fond memories of your first love? its a memory and she's married
I wouldn't worry just yet. If you start seeing signs of him withdrawing from you emotionally, or spending more time than usual away from you, or you start finding text messages, emails, phone messages, things like that between them, then you should worry.





And if those things start to happen, you should contact her spouse and bring him what evidence you have (don't do this unless you have REAL evidence) and then both of you confront them together.





It seems like you're a very long way from any of that though.





What you should do is sit down with him now and talk to him about all this. Tell him your concerns and listen to what he says.





And don't turn all jealous and suspicious unless he starts showing signs that something's going on. Just go on with life as usual, talk to him about this, and don't worry unless you have real reason to.
When you have a first love, they tend to stay in your memories forever and the memories themselves would have been very memorable. But she is married now and YOU are the one going out with him. Keep that in mind. To tell the truth I still have something for this lass in Yorkshire but I no it would be a long distance relationship and also that she now has a boyfriend. Sometimes you have to let it go like I have- it's hard but if you don't then what chance do you have with anyone else. If he truly felt something for her still then he would have gone to find her when she first left. He is probably just remembering his memories. :)

Relationship advice from men and women please.?

My partner has been spending many many hours online over the last few months until early hours of the morning.I have brought this up and tried to discuss it like adults and he carried on spending many hours online.He did improve, he started coming to bed between 12 and 2am instead of 3am-4am.However I know i shouldnt have done but I read his messages on the computer, I was hoping to put my mind at ease about him flirting with other women online which has been an issue in the past. I found messages between him and another women that were of a sexual nature.One message from this woman said that she was sorry she missed his call.I tackled him about this and he says that he has phoned her about 3 times.I was ready to leave and packed my things to go.I didnt go as we have 2 children aged 3 yrs and a 15 month old and wanted to plan things properly with the least upset to them, I wanted time to sort a house out for me and my two boys.My partner swears that he will not do this again and that it was just abit of fun.He also said that he did it because i have been miserable for two years.I have been very down for the last two years as i lost my mum aged 56yrs two years ago, and my dad aged 54 just one year ago.I aknowledged that i was down and saw a doctor and i am going to take up bereavement councilling.I am confused, should he have supported me for so long over two years or is it understandable that he has done what he has done.He said i never want to sleep with him but this is because i knew about all the online flirting he was doing.One message said i just changed my shirt and shoes so looked like i was fixing the car, i cant help but thing that he has slept with her after that mesage, but he swears that he has never slept with her and she also lives at the other side of the country.I am so confused hurt and angry, so much has happned over the last 2 years i dont know whats acceptable anymore, what to believe.I do know that if i do leave I will be just fine as long as i have my 2 boys and my famiy and friend.Any helpfull advice please.Can things be fixed, should they be fixed or shoul i just enjoy being on my own with my little boysRelationship advice from men and women please.?
For me, i believe it all depends on how apologetic he is for his actions,unfortunately it doesn't sound like he really is. There are no promises for improvement or anything of that nature..which makes me wary that he won't do it again. It can only be fixed if BOTH people make amends not just you. I would suggest couples' therapy since you do have young children together. Good luck and God blessRelationship advice from men and women please.?
He's done it before and he's done it again - personally my opinion is that once can be forgiven, but twice can't.
just enjoy being on your own.


why woul he continue doing this, if there has been trouble before? I don't think he cares.this cannot be good for the children either...


good luck.
he will do it again





trust me
give him a chance to become good hubby
he should have been there to support you after the passing of your parents. if he keeps on flirting with women on the internet, it's just a matter of time before he finds one close enough that an affair will start. since he has no intention of stopping, it would be wise to get your affairs in order and find a new place to live with your family. it sounds like you are a very responsible woman and i know your children will be fine growing up with a mother who really cares for them and loves them. i hope down the road you can find someone who loves you very much and will love your children as well. in the mean time, go out with friends and family. their support will be help full during this time.
This is tough. You need to look inside your heart and figure out what the answer is. You had every right to feel down about the deaths of your parents. He should be there for you rather than on the computer. If he hasn't slept with anyone else, then maybe you can make it work. Tell him that you would like to have sex but it's hard when he's on the computer in the other room. Maybe he will make more of an effort. The point is, an effort needs to be made on both your parts in order for this to work. If he's going to get off the computer, you need to try and be more upbeat and do something fun with him. I know it's hard but relationships take work and in this case you both haven't been giving it your all. If you love him and he loves you, it can work. Try getting a little sexy outfit and surprise him one night. Keeping a relationship's spark is important and you need to try and spice things up a little. Continue the counseling because I feel it will help you personally to deal with your loss. Good luck.
alright darling, you have to calm down


first things first, he totally disrespected you, maybe its tru that you were not acting as happy as you could of, but then that was no excuse to go behind ur back like that!


you say u can be happy as long as your with your boys and family, then go for it! true it will be had for your kids, but its better than them growing up in misery with you two arguing!


you can try to patch things up, thats your choice, but again, your not sure of the whole story, he hasnt come clean about much, since he has ruined your trust, it will be hard giving him that trust again, along with dredding what he might be up to


in my opinion, you should move on, considering you say you can manage it


love means alot, along with trust, and by doing what he did, he doesnt love you as much as he did if he's pissed cuz of no sexual action going on when your in your time of need!


i know it hurts, but be strong for your boys and give them the best! i hope you the best, and in the end its your decision, and i hope you make the right one. you have a question? email me honey, im all ears

General advice from men and women?

Ok ive made a choice that i want to join the britih infantry yeah but i promised my friend who happens to be a girl and i have strong feelings for her and i know she has them for me to we talked about it... well I promised her i wouldnt before a certain time but i feel like i ahve to go my friends going in and i promised id always watch hsi back if you get me?


And now she's all upset that we'll never talk again or I'll find someone else and forget her and shes really scared ill get shot or die.....





Can anyone please help we i have no idea what to tell her or say what needs to be said =( ?General advice from men and women?
It sounds like she thinks of you as more than just a friend.....





Perhaps you need to talk about your relationship together and sort of perhaps start to see each other whilst your doing your training if she is willing to wait for you if that makes sense





Just reassure her that you will be there for her all the time and basically nothing will change its just like working in another countryGeneral advice from men and women?
Reassure her, explain your reason for leaving, maybe get her a promise ring...that seems to be something I've seen done many times before. Best wishes, stay safe.

Advice please, men and women!am i being unreasonable?

im uncomfortable with my fiance speaking or having anything to do with one of his ex-girlfriends. it's not that she's an ex ( i understand if he wants to stay in contact with some of them just as friends) but this ex cheated on her husband with my fiance (before me and him ever got together) she hasn't told her husband and still calls my fiance from time to time. i think it's disgusting what she did. im just thinking from a women's perspective: if i cheated on my HUSBAND(which i never would, it's nasty) and continued contacting the guy i cheated on him with, i would have to have strong feelings for that guy still. what do you guys think?Advice please, men and women!am i being unreasonable?
well if she cheated once she'll do it again because it getts easyier and easier just tal about it with your husbund but dont confront him or start an argument tht will just make things worse








help me?? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ao6Ex6SFPWbRS12WRteTM1rsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090630092431AA0zta0Advice please, men and women!am i being unreasonable?
put off the wedding until your fiance chooses to end relations (friendly or otherwise) with this woman.





if he keeps choosing to continue to have communications with her from time to time regardless of how you feel about it, then i would be worried if i were you.





the fact that he thinks it's ok to cheat with married women worries me too. and then on top of that to stay in contact with that married woman. i'd wonder how seriously he takes the vows of marriage, others and his own. anyways, dont rush into marriage until you feel comfortable with what he does.
I think your gut is right on this one. If you are uncomfortable with it, then he should respect you enough to stop. If he continues, then you have a problem in your relationship and you should definetely not get married until that issue is fixed.





This is a respect issue, nothing more, he should respect you enough to stop.
first of all.. its a good thing that he's only your fiance.... good thing you guys are not married yet...





and if he is still talking to a married women.. ';which he shouldnt been';... then he is not loyal to you.....





amagin what if you guys got married.. would he still be talking to her..?? if he really loves you then she shouldnt be talking to any women out there...





a husband who is loyal and truely loves you you will not keep in touch with any ex and will never talk about his previous life...





dont marry him since he still has contact to his ex g which is a married women........... not good....
NOPEDOTCOM!!! My husband does not talk to ANY of his ex's, friends or not!!! The fact that he had an affair with her while she is married? Uhh hell NO!!!

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Advice from men please....?

I started dating this man a few months ago. Everything was great and moving along nicely. We share a lot of common interests, great physical chemistry, and always have a great time when we are together. The problem is he is going through a divorce and his child is having a difficult time with the situation. That I can understand, what I am confused about is that over the past month he continued to call me everyday; however, we only were able to see each other a couple of times. He says he still wants to see me but he needs to focus on his child right now. My gut is telling me to ride this out with him because I think he is worth it; however, I don't want to find out that this was just an excuse to not see me anymore. You hear things like ';if a guy is really into you, he will make the time';, or ';he will go out of his way to be with you'; but are there ever truly life experiences where a man does need to focus on only that issue before he can give a relationship 100%?Advice from men please....?
Yes. There are, in fact, situations where a budding relationship may not be as important as something else going on in a man's life... for example, helping his child deal with the fact that his/her parents are divorcing. My parents got divorced when I was younger, and that is a really tough thing for kids to deal with. He/she will need all the love and support from his/her parents that he/she can get, and that means that your new guy might not have as much time for you right now. He's not making excuses.... he has a legitimate problem, and a child isn't really something that a man can carve out time away from in a situation like this. Let him know you're here for him, and when he's ready to come back, he will.Advice from men please....?
If you need 100% get a dog. They have time to give 100%.

Advice, please? (men preferred)

Men, I have told my husband many a time that I would appreciate more affection, but he never sticks to his word. He interprets affection as sex saying that he ';isn't a sex machine';. Since when does once a week=sex machine status?





He was sexually and physically abused as a child and teen. He's been physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive to me. Less so now.





I am attractive and young. I could have very easily had 3 affairs during our marriage alone, but never have. I compliment him, cook for him, clean for him, etc, gladly.





I long for closeness, affection, attention, and respect. Advice?Advice, please? (men preferred)
If your husband has problems from his past he should get professional help. He should not live in the past and make his whole life about the bad stuff that happened to him.





Affection is hard for some guys. You might have picked a guy who does not give affection. If you wanted a lot of affection, you should have thought about this way before you got married.





You could try.....


1.Give him affection, attention and respect and hope that he returns it in kind. Most guys if they are happy, will make the people around them happy in return. And it's easy to make a guy happy.


2.Tell him exactly what you want him to do. Maybe write it down. Some guys need instructions. If he did not grow up with affection, he would not know what to do.Advice, please? (men preferred)
You knew who he was before you married him, and you took vows. You accept him as is. Have you tried to explain to him that by affection, you'd like more hugs and kisses? Have you explained to him that affection need not mean sex?





If you are not happy with once a week, and mocking him by putting him down as him not being a sex machine, I suggest you do your husband a big favor, divorce him and find someone else to suit your needs. For the fact you mention you could have had three affairs even suggests you are not true to your marriage vows now. Cooking and cleaning comes with marriage, on both sides, so what's your point about that?





Divorce him, and move on. Hopefully he'll meet the right woman for him that will understand him, and you'll meet someone who will give you affection and be your love machine.
there is something wrong with ur man


the best thing would be to send him for counselling


or u could talk to him, very calmly and supportively talk to him about his emotional needs and make him feel comfortable


find out why he is physically, emotionally and verbally abusing u? is it something form the past or is it because he simply hates u?


and often men think that affection and closeness is all about sex


u have to convince him otherwise


best of luck
Seriously. If you want it to work.





Best is stop asking or anticipating. Start to give. Lots of it. The right way, that no body uses now a day. He will find out you have stopped pressuring him and it will turn him.


Its the way you fundamentally change a person, even an enemy. That is if you want to. Otherwise, use women's magazines that are full of traps and allures to fish out things that do not exist.





Your choice.
dress in the most dead sexiest outfit you have or go buy one


or get one kinda less buy a movie dim the lights and just get close to each other
If you have not tried to talk to him, do it, be honest, tell him he needs help and if that doesn't work consider divorce!
I think men in general automatically equate sex with affection to some degree.


Since he was abused when he was younger, maybe he never really understood the meaning of affection. The best way I can think of to help your situation is to show affection yourself, not that you don't already. Show him what you mean by ';affection';. Assuming that you don't mean sex, don't make it seem like sex is what you want. Go ahead and cuddle, but if you start to slide your hand down there, then he'll equate your idea of affection with sex.


On a semi-related note, you could also tell him exactly what it is you want. Tell him that it's not sex that you want. Tell him that what you want is for him to be closer to you, more attentive, more appreciative of you, or whatever it is you want. Men, or at least I myself, have a looser grasp of concepts when they are presented to us vaguely. By merely saying that you want ';affection,'; you leave it up to him to determine what ';affection'; is. Like a yahoo/google search, the more specific you are, the better results you'll get. Of course if you're too specific, you may seem like our getting in his face about it, and no one likes it when you're in their face.
Firstly, you said that you have been phsyially abused. This is domestic abuse and you should not really be in an environment like this-just because he has demons in his past does not mean he should let it out on you. He also needs counselling to get him through the trauma he is obviously reliving and inflicting on you (although you don't sound bothered??). good on you for being faithful through bad times, and whilst you love this guy even you have said that you aren't getting a lost of respect closeness and affection which every relationship needs. I bet it feels like you are constantly giving but never taking, just taking abuse (whether it be physical, emotional or verbal.) Although he is less abusive-you didn't say that he has ceased to abuse you so i highly recommend booking him in for counselling and telling him that although you love him-he needs to work thorough his past and treat you the way you derserve to be treated, with love, attention and respect.





Tell someone about this, and get both of you some help.





:) (I know u said men preferred but i'm glad you have read this)





p.s Julie C who is going on about marriage vows and such has a point, vows are meant to be upheld-although i would like to know where in the vows and in law, does it state that an unhappy person of a marriage is obligated to stay and must not leave and must put up with abuse? it doesn't. So dont prattle on because this woman is well within her rights to complain and leave her marriage for her benefit. And don't even get me started on all that ';you wanted an affair..that means you've cheated blah blah blah'; crap because she said she didnt want an affair although the opptunities arose, CAN YOU READ??????????





Also, she isn't complaining about cooking and cleaning she says and i quote ';I compliment him, cook for him, clean for him, etc, GLADLY';

Advice from men needed 17-25! How can i get...?

how can i make my friend with benefits like me more than a friend with benefits?


i've had this friend for 3 years and whenever we see each other we make out for hours (no sex; were not dating) whenever we do make out there is so much passion.


he always picks me up and pays for my meals and is really a nice guy and so sweet with me i sometimes pay for him as well to show i care. when i was with my bf and when things werent going well towards the end he kissed me and held me so tight. when i began to date that bf he was concerned. soon later i broke up with my bf and now we see each other at least once a week and sometimes i make him lunch for work.


when i asked him if i was just his booty call he said no way and got very defensive and told me that he does so much for me and its true so if im not his booty call what am i?


when i asked him if he wanted a gf he said ';not now, i'm too busy and dont even have time for myself';.


which is true he's always busy.


i feel that he would be the perfect bf for me so im wondering how do i make him want me and like me a lot?


i dont want to tell him how i feel becuz im scared that it might ruin things.





im 19 hes 22





please help 10 pts.Advice from men needed 17-25! How can i get...?
I am not a guy but my experience with them has worked like this. You can't MAKE someone like you or want to be your BF, but this has worked for me.





I start becoming ';so busy'; like, I am either going out, or to my friends house or something (sometimes I lie but who cares, they don't know) They will call and want to hang out but I can't. When they see you are TOO busy for them they either sweeten the deal by taking you out and taking you more serious OR they just disappear.





Either way you are better off! You should not make-out and chill with a guy if he won't date you. That's not cool of him- its like he is saying you are not good enough to date but he will hit you up sometimes. Thats LAME. You are better than that. He can't have his cake and eat it too but you are letting him get away with it.





Boys who are in love DO NOT share they want you to be all theirs. I am glad you are not sleeping together. DON'T do it until he is serious about you! That will ruin everything. And stop paying for dates you are better than that too.Advice from men needed 17-25! How can i get...?
Give it time..talk to him to ';define the relationship';...if you feel he is worth it...talk to him about dating but dating casually to keep things going until he feels he is ready if he wants to go down that road.





Can you help me with mine?


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Just give it time. When he's not busy he would spent more time with you than anything else.
You can either go for it and have a chance at a happy life or not and look back ten a few years from now and be pissed you never said anything...