I need advice about men and getting married later in life ...?

I am 43 and about a month ago I met a man (44). We have been dating ever since that first meeting and we are both in love. Both of us have been married before, but that is long in the past. We have a tremendous amount in common - love spending time together - have the same goals in life - have grown children - and have the same values and morals. He tells me I'm the marrying kind and we have already talked about where and when we want to get married.





My problem is this: It all just seems too good to be true. I haven't had ';bad'; relationships in the past, but nothing even remotely compares to this one. I love him more than I ever though possible - and I feel more love from him than I have ever experienced. He treats me like a lady, is respectful, and is very good father. Why is this scaring me? Please give me any advice or help as I just want to enjoy this, not be scared by it!





Thank you!I need advice about men and getting married later in life ...?
I think you should just ENJOY! Don't think about getting married or breaking up - why should you? Continue enjoying your relationship, your love for each other, your respect for one another, your friendship, and your connection! Let these things control your future!I need advice about men and getting married later in life ...?
I think you should just go with wanting to enjoy it. I know that saying, 'if it's too good to be true it probably is', well that may very well be true 99% of the time, as long as you are suspicious or scared it's not going to be good. You'll never find out what it could be until you let it be, y'know what I mean? You should see where it all leads to and enjoy it while it lasts if you find out 2 years later he's a axe murderer or something, then hey you had a good run, but you'll never know for sure till you find out where it leads, have fun and see where it goes.
It's natural to be a little scared of something you've never experienced. Just take your time and enjoy it. It's not too good to be true, you've earned it!
most women arent used to a man being perfect..now days..with the 50% divorce rate..its hard to find a man that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated..but there is also a 50% chance that he could possibly be a wonderful husband to you..sounds to me like your just trying to find something wrong with him..and you cant..so stop looking..im sure thousands of women would love to be in the position you are in right now..take advantage of the fact that you have a man that will love you unconditionally and run with it..dont push away!
maybe you should slow down...you have only known him for a month! Isn't a little soon to be in love and thinking about marriage? Relationships are complicated, maybe you should take a step back and then you won't be so scared
Sounds fine to me but if you are worried then talk to your partner about it. It may seem silly or too embarassing but if he loves you he won't mock or anything, so just find a good time and tell him.





*Angel*
hi my name is dave well gal what dose your heart tell you what does your mind tell you about him and most of all what are your beliefs about god were do you come too get thier on that you both must click and be true and up frot with each other dave w
You've just met a month ago, don't you think its too early to get married??? Don't think about how old you are now but think what future you will have on this man after you get married. Just see how long can he endure the waiting period. Marrying type like he says do not say I do after 1 month. Since you are old enough to listen what the other people might say, if you really want to be with him. try to live-in with him to get to know him. You will only know a real him when you started to leave on the same roof. Just like you said, if he's too good to be true then he might be toooo goood to really be true. Trust your instinct.
Its Too difficult for anyone to answer you coz u have already made a selection... See ur last line... u only want people to Console u by telling reasons what so ever coz u only waana get rid of the fear.





do u ever asked urself as to why u fear... ??





as u said u fear coz of past.. its true and so is ur fear





coz dating and marrying are two different things.





i dont know how long u were alone but that lonelyness itself added to ur passion





there is no one here or anywhere who can give u the solution





its u who has to decide what needs to done





coz its u who knows herself better and its u who has the experience and heart to make a practical decision depending on future.
Marriage is always a bliss .. and when you know you have found that person worth marrying, grab it. You only live once and life is too short for anything to wait. Yes you can wait .. but how long is it good enough to wait ... 1 month? 1 year? 3 years? You have that much time to wait? Does he?





My advice is .. if you both love each other, go for it. My best wishes to you both ! :)
You need to run a background check. It is very much worth the money. It may be too good to be true. A little checking won't hurt, you don't need to tell him, be prudent. Before you spend money on any of them read the article at www.consumeradvice.org
when we want the best...we dont know until it arrives in our life....n when we realise it has hapend to us...doubts take over us...that whether this happiness is for life or for a short time....


get over ur doubts....enjoy ur life as it brings a new day 2 u....nuthn wud go wrong until ne 1 of u wants it to go wrong
Only a month? Girl, you need to wait this one out, yes its exciting to feel that you're in love, but you have to be patient! Who knows where your relationship could go and you should wait to find out, enjoy all the aspects of a relationship!





Just tell him you like him soo much but you dont want to rush anything like marriage because you've been there done that and it didnt work out. If he doesnt understand, you shouldnt want to marry him!
Please don't fight this, it's what most people spend their lives searching for. If this guy is so good, he's a keeper, don't let him go. Whats the absolute worst thing that could happen? It doesn't work out, so what. Whats the best thing that could happen? It works out and everyone lives happily ever after. This guy sounds like me, and I would be very hurt to know you were asking this question. Just go do it and be well.