I REALLY NEED SOME ADVICE PLEASE, SO SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY THX!!
Hi, im 19 n was with my ex for about just over 2 n 1/2 yrs, and we have a young baby, who is now 9months old, we split up quite recently about end of october last year, a month later i met someone else who was good to the baby and that, and i do like him alot, but just before christmas all i could think of was my ex after i was looking back at pictures of the baby n saw loads of us really happy.(the father of my child) and i dont know whether to carry on seein this boy n see if i get over my exe, or do i follow my heart and get bak with my exe?!
My family dont really get on with my exe, he took drugs ( he has stopped taking them now) and couple months before the baby was born he was always gettin stressy n losing his temper with me he wasnt like it much to start with, but it got more n more, but most of the time we were really happy, he never hit me but he hit my brother once, (the reason we split up) but everyone is saying how he has really changed, n he has said he hass changed, n he rote a really long letter to my family appologising for what he did, n i think he realised what he lost, but we've been txtin everyday for a while now (bout xmas time).
The boy im wit now doesnt know that i am tlkin to my exe still, n my exe has no idea about this new man.
if i was to get back with my exe, do i tell him i was seein someone when we split up? because i kno it may upset him, but i dont really think he has to know does he? as we wernt together at the time?
anyway should i stay with tht bloke atm or get bak with my exe/father of child, and what would i tell my family if i got bak with my exe because they probably hate him now.
THX. Hope u understand what im goin on bout lolWoman needin advice on men! Serious Answers Please!?
hello , you really need to listen to your heart , it will speak volumes for you , good luck to you and your babyWoman needin advice on men! Serious Answers Please!?
stay with new one - you started having feelings for your ex because you were looking at photos and it brought those memories/feelings back
You don't trust the ex, and you don't love the new one! Maybe NEITHER fit the bill!
stay with the new one!!!
if i were you i would go and have a serious talk with your ex.. talk about your options and how you feel about each other
from my point of view.. it seems like you dont like your new partener enough to have a full relationship. and i wouldnt worry about what your family thinks, i would just concentrate on your babys new family.. and making it as strong as possible :)
its a hard situation to be in.. and some things are easier said then done.. but to be honest i would follow heart over head
I think if you want to be with the father of your baby and he is willing to work things out u should. A young baby needs both of his or her parents. He may have been acting crazy due to the drugs that he was taking and then he stopped cold turkey. That has a lot to do with how someones attitude is. I think you need to have a long talk with both of the mean and let them know how you are feeling if neither understand than that is not who you should be with. Yeah he is going to be mad that you are with someone else but he messed up. U guys talking is a good sign that things can get back to the way they were. Be true to your feelings and yourself.
just close ur eyes and do what ur heart tells u to do..
What i say is stop seeing the boy and go bk to your ex because he is the father of your baby. Your family doesn't trust him right, but you do.
Just FOLLOW your HEART. Trust it never fails.
ok there are so many answers for you but the best one is do what makes you happy! not what makes your family happy... you are always no matter what going to have feelings for your ex because he is the father of your child. i would say to take your time, think things through, and be careful what you choose to do. you and your ex are separated so what you do and who you talk to is your business. if he asks you then say yes i made a new friend and that is all we were. JUST FRIENDS. if you do plan on getting back with your ex, you, him and your family should all sit down and talk and let him and your family know what is going on and how it is going to be! good luck!
i feel so sorry for you it must be hard to decide..
in a way i think if your ex has really genuinely changed then maybe it would be good for your baby to have the real dad around since it would make things easier in the future, but i think from the way ur ex treated you was not acceptable and you don't know for sure if he will ever go back to being the way he was or go on drugs again.. if he does do this the baby will need stability in his life and if you and ur ex break up again your baby might be confused who his/her father figure may be in the future ! if your family dont like him maybe they think you deserve better ! but maybe its a risk you might want to take and things might work out good this time..
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