Advice from men??? Help in Crisis!!?

Ok! I have this ex....we have been knowing each other for a year...we broke up last summer...but even after the break up we were still friends...just talked NO SEX....but anywho now he have a girlfriend...but when he told me he told me he think i would be the best girl for him...he told me that he care about me a lot...he even came to my birthday party...I just dont understand him...can somebody help me please? His actions speak louder than words....like he say this but he do that...like he takes me home and I dont even ask...he always offer! I dont get it!! Am I what he really wants...but he just dont wanna do what it takes to get me??? After our break up..he was in a relationship with two girls...but he still called and texted me??? I dont understand...and another thing is that he wanted to have sex with me....could he be with his new girlfriend cause shes willing to have sex??? HELP PLEASE





THANKS








I LIKE HIM! I CARE ABOUT HIM ALOT HE CARE ABOUT ME!!Advice from men??? Help in Crisis!!?
He just wants to eat his cake and have it too.Advice from men??? Help in Crisis!!?
Just because I ain't got no sausage don't mean I give bad advice. God, People are so sexiest! Why don't you go out with him then but now it's hard as he has a gf. I would wait until he or She dumps him or her. Then you can go back out with him and see if it is sex but don't get pressured into doing it if you don't want it.
You are what he wants, so are most girls. If you really want to see, have sex with him and my guess is you won't have to worry about seeing him much afterwords. He's a guy and we are not to complicated. Don't over think it, girls and sex are what we want the most.
get serious around some girl


and not serious like sexually serious


I mean get agressive and attack girls physically that have nothing to do with love
the thing is, you answered your question yourself - last lines
If this guy was as interested in you as you would like him to be then he would not be with these other girls.............and by him telling you all this behind his girlfriends back shows you that he can not be trusted and probably just wants to get things from you and then be on to someone else.............He is proving to you that he is a cheater and even if he were to break up with this girl for you , How can you ever trust that he is not talking to other girls the same way he is talking to you now.......................My opinion is that he is just a heart break just waiting ti happen and you should want better for yourself then that........................Their are better guys out their than that but you are going to have to be willing to give this guy up to go look for them.................Your ex will only hold you back........

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Men, I need your advice please...I like a guy in his mid 30s but I am an older woman?

Just wondering, say a guy is in his mid 30s, is single and has this idea that he would someday like his own kid and he meets an older woman. Say she is mid 40s but hot and clicks very well with you, intellectually and emotionally. Would you date her seriously or would the urge to have a child stop you from really falling for her seriously?Men, I need your advice please...I like a guy in his mid 30s but I am an older woman?
Lots of men don't want children, now or never. Don't let ';what if'; ruin a potentially good relationship!Men, I need your advice please...I like a guy in his mid 30s but I am an older woman?
At the age of 31, I became involved with a lady 13 years older than I.





She was a friend from work and we just ended up together. We were passionate to no end. We shared so many common interests... We just clicked.





We dated for about 11 years on and off. Part of the reason we didn't make it was that I did want one more child. She was fully prepared to (for lack of a better term) have her tubes untied but I couldn't ask her to do that for me, considering the complications and the risks...





Another part was that, it became increasingly clear that she and I were just in different places in our lives. She was preparing for her retirement, downsizing her social calender, becoming more of a home body... And I was still very socially and physically active. I too am preparing for my retirement, but it's a completely different mind set.





Not saying this is how you and he WILL be, but it's something to consider.





Oh, and that lady and I are still friends. She is and always will be the most sexy woman I have ever known.
At this stage of your lives, if you're both happy with each other, then you should go for it! I know a girl locally who is 29 and dating a 19 year old guy...we warned her he is a player, but she won't listen. Unlike her, you are older and wiser and know what you want.


If he wants to have a child too, go for it. You're in your mid 40's, so start by getting a full medical check up first and please also consider the next 20 years of your life with a child and how it effects things!


Best wishes to you!
It really doesn't matter what we think because each of us has different thoughts and belief on the impact of age on love.





However, in your case, the important question is which one is important to him: love or a child. If you want to know, then it's best to ask the guy.





If it is love, then age shouldn't be matter. Even the woman is mid 40, she can still have a child. If she doesn't want to have a baby conventionally, there is always surrogated mothers or adoption. But the issue here is what does the guy think of having a child like this?





If the guy wants his own kids, a woman at mid 40s may not be a good candidate for him.





So it's best that the woman should talk to the guy to see what he thinks.





Wishes you the best luck,








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You really need to get your priorities right mate, What if? well if you are happy and in love, then so be it, if you father a child in the process, that's a bonus!


What I am trying to say is, You should not put a kid in your mind first. You might look around for a younger woman, but will she make you happy? Anyways, older women even at sixty can give birth to healthy babies.
If I really wanted kids, I would have a hard time getting very serious with someone who was in their mid-40's. I know that you can't always control love, but I have never allowed myself to fall for someone that I didn't believe would be a good match for the things I truly wanted. Not that I haven't made mistakes, but I never allowed it to happen intentionally.
If he really wants kids one day and you will not or can not have any you should not get involved. I am currently 44 with children from a previous relationship and I will not date a younger woman without kids if she would like to have them. I have been ';fixed'; and I don't want to have kids in high school up in my 60's.
First of all :





If a man dates a Women to be intellectually stimulated


having kids is the least of his problems.





Next :





If he was very serious about having kids , he would have already found a younger woman and did his thing .





Last :





Don't be concerned about it . If he is with you , then you are


his choice and it's cool !
I would have absolutely no problem with that whatsoever. In fact, every woman I've ever dated, including my wife was older than me. As it stands, she never wanted kids, but that never made a difference to me, the chemistry was always there, and the love was always strong. I say go for it.
You are both adult and life is short. Enjoy your life for now!





You are old enough to know exactly what you are getting into and should be prepared to face the consequence.





If it鈥檚 time to move on one day, so be it! You have got nothing to lose.





Nowadays no particular kind of relationship can be guaranteed to last and happily ever after!
I generally wouldn't date a woman that much older than me but there are definitely the exceptions out there. I would literally marry Denise Austin and she is 51! (But HOT!) LoL





Seriously, it all depends on the woman and how well she takes care of herself.
As long as both are over 18 it doesn't matter what you do.He has waited a long time to decide to have kids anyway! Just have fun and see what happens.They keep asking why older men are only dating younger women here is your answer! Most older women want to date younger men! Good luck
My thought is that a child is just a product of love. True love is what would come first in my book. Children must not be to CRITICAL if hes in his mid 30's and hasnt had any yet.
I had my daughter when I was one month off my 46th birthday, shock ! but its only nature so go for it.


Live life to the full, this is not a rehearsal and life is much too short.


Good luck.
I would date her seriously because it would appear that we both had the same wishes; it seems that age is the primary concern.
wow ho lucky that guy is , I wish I could be in his place, I like a older lady and I am in 30's.





He should be lucky to get you.





Let me know if no luck :)
I would say if it seemed like she was a good match i wouldnt worry to much about age
WHY NOT IF YOUR BOTH ADULTS KNOW WHAT YOU WANT GO FOR IT BE HAPPY
go for it age doesn't matter!

Advice from men and women?

So, back in March my husband found his ex girlfriend from about 10 years ago. They were sending messages back and fourth and he would not allow me to read them; he deleted them. Ultimatley, I intervened and ended the messaging through her. I found out that he gave her a number but I am not sure what number it was. Just a week ago I caught him looking for her on myspace again. What should I do? I d not have a job and we have two children 6 and 2 years old. I do not feel the connection with him that I used too. I still love him but not sure that I want to be with him. I do not trust him at all.


He has told me that he still has feelings for her and that she was his first true love.


I tell him all the time how wonderful he is; trust me thereis not lack in appreciation or compliments and about the children he has four but only two with me and I am his third wife. His other two children are with his other two ex's. One with each.Advice from men and women?
My advice would be to start building yourself a financial nest egg without telling him you are (ask him for $10 here and there for milk or eggs or whatever crap you want to throw out there). Once you build enough money to give yourself the opportunity to leave, do it. Then go through the courts to finalize a divorce and try to get child support. Everyone always wants to keep the ';magic'; they had with their first love but once he gets the chance to meet back up with her and try to make things work, they will learn eventually all the reasons it didnt to begin with. Just keep your head up and do for yourself now. You know your marriage is over-prepare for it without letting your husband know so he cant take any steps that will harm you along the way. Good luck!Advice from men and women?
If their relationship is just online I wouldn't worry to much about it. However, if he still has feelings for her and they actually meet then you may need to consider giving him some time to think about what he wants on his own, if he wants a divorce or to be with you. Don't jump to conclusions based off a few internet conversations, he's your husband, you got to trust him until he proves to you he can't be trusted.
That doesn't sound good
That is a very difficult situation to be in. Honestly, I would leave him, but I see how it's difficult with the children. Will you be able to get a good child support payment from him and do you have marketable skills to go back to work? Personally, I am a single mom of twins and I take care of them almost entirely by myself, but I know what it feels like to be reliant on someone. If you really want to try to work it out, maybe stop giving him the compliments and play hard to get. Maybe even make him think you are looking at other guys. For example, you may talk to him about how a guy tried to pick up on you at the supermarket or something and see how he acts. I know it sounds like a big mind game, but I find these games work on guys and he's playing them anyway himself. You may even want to start talking about an ex you still have feelings for, or how great so and so was, etc. I find these things work to piss my bf off.
That is a pretty scary and challenging situation I'd say the best solution is for you to confront him and find out exactly where his loyalty lies , with his family or with some chick he was involved with years ago.
My sister u need professional counciling...however if your trust in is gone then in my humble the relationship could be over in seconds...your situation is abit complex.....why?..if is heart is no longer in that relationship then its done....or Maybe he wants to have both of u....or it could be a last fling...or something...let me not compound ur problem...see your councilor....
Oh Vay. Marriage counselling?
Talk to him. Tell him exactlyt what you told us. Share eachother feelings, if he REALLY DOES LOVE you he will understand and love you back. :-)





Good luck!
Divorce him, and find a better guy.
I think he is being disrespectful. If he had found her online and chatted a few times to catch up and moved on that would be one thing, but to tell you he still has feelings is a bit much. My advice to you is to try to talk to him about it. Do you want to stay w/ this man? That's a decision you have to make. Perhaps marriage counseling is a start. If your husband loves you and respects your marraige, he'll stop trying to contact her.
he sounds like a JERK... you need to end this relationship...if there is one anymore.
you are his 3rd wife? uuh oh..
My goodness. I believe marriage counseling is a definite good idea for you two.





If you believe the marriage is truly over, start developing a plan to leave. Invest in a good lawyer!





Good luck to you.

Advice needed!! Men are impossible to understand- guys any input?

Ok, so a little bit of background- a year ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years after he did something very unforgivable. By the time I broke up with him, I had no more positive feelings towards him.





Not too long after that I met up with an old classmate of mine, and things started going really well. He would tell me that I was the best girl he ever met, and in the 5 months we dated he even started mentioning marriage. Understandably, I did not want to rush things. I let him know that I cared, but just being out of something else, I didn't want to let things happen too fast.





And then we had an argument (we'd argued before, and this wasn't a particularly bad disagreement), and out of the blue he broke up with me. I am confused as to why, because he kept changing his reasons. Some of them very conflicting. So here is confusion number one.





It's been 2 weeks now, and whenever he texts me and I say that I've been out, he will start accusing me of finding other men/flirting/etc (untrue, but he was always on the jealous side). I don't play along, and don't dignify his accusations, but when I confront him about it he says that he is sticking by his decision, he doesn't want to be with me. So confusion number two, why does he get so jealous about my whereabouts?





Guess I just need some perspective. Thanks guys!Advice needed!! Men are impossible to understand- guys any input?
He loves you, and is insecure about you and at the same time he is confused that whether to keep the relationship going or not. So i suggest you to have a talk to him face to face and correct all your misunderstandings. I am sure you will work out good.Advice needed!! Men are impossible to understand- guys any input?
#1- watch out he may have someone on the side and he's triing to keep you around just in case that one is a flop. #2- jealousey=insecuraty neather of witch you need. eather take some time off from guys and get over the old breakup , or go fishing , there's plenty of good one's out there
because he cares he just does not know exactly how to express his self. you need to get in front of him and look him in the face and say what do you really want? this is your last chance and take whatever he tells you and run with it. tell him if he does not want to be with you then don't ask you where you have been, plain and simple
He is in limbo. He regrets breaking up with you but doesn't completely regret it. It's unfair of you to generalize from this that ';men are impossible to understand.'; Women's feelings end up in limbo all the time. Find a less jealous, less erratic man.
he just really liked you and then when you said you wanted to take it slow he gpt all mad and sad and hurt so he broke up with you he's jealous cuz he wants you back but is scared you won't take him back and he thinks that you didn't care about him and all other baby bull crap
Easy answer. HE'S CRAZY. Just tell him to piss off and don't talk to him anymore. I bet he's a stalker though... sorry he just sounds like a major crazy *** mother ******. And obviously he broke up with you because he's crazy. Just egnore him.
tell him if he doesn't want to be with you then your whereabouts ir what you're doing is none of his business. if I were you I'd stop replying to his texts or calls, he'll get the hint.
a hard one this,





He definitely has some feelings for you still however maybe he feels that he wasn't ready for a relationship but doesn't want to admit it.
hmm..it kinda sounds like he wants to own you, but yet wants to be on his own without you.


i think you should just start to move on..if he really cares and loves you, he'll come back. :)
tell him to piss off


you're not with him any more and your life is non of his business


and then tell him to shove it. ( I can't stand jealous guys)
Hi there


i see two perspective in this


case 1


he is afraid about your relationship with him he tried to guard himself from what he believes is breakup. and before you trying to breakup with him he creates a scenario that he really doesn't care about you anymore (this attitude is always with men to show the outside world that they are like a rock but within they feel really bad if what he had with you was a genuine relationship). he thinks you have changed a lot when you first met you and now and this change is due to some external relationship so he has broken up with you may one possible solution would be you trying be patient and make realize that you always care about him instead of reacting to whatever he said


case 2


he was seeing someone and because of that he staged aa breakup with you by false stuff about you.





if it is the first case i would still like you try and talk to him and make him realize your feelings because men always suffer from great deal of prejudice especially with girls
my best friend was in this problem too, confusion one, u said ';i have been out';, that's not a good answer, u should say exactly where u are.(Evan though its not his business) to guys saying ';i have been out';, it's like ur hiding something. confusion number 2, you might be the only girl hes dated in a while. so he might think that u want someone new but don't want to hurt him. i hope this helps.
ermm yea he crazy and insecure... i broke up with an ex and she does wot he is doing.. he likes u but is just insecure bout things maybe has some personal dought i still love my ex to pieces but there were somthings bout her that ment i had to break it off ..... phone him ... say ok i wana know whats up with you an me... he will start off by going what you mean getting all defensive.. then u say shh shh i wana talk be calm... then he will be calm after a few... then you say ok tell me whats up he will get all upty again while giving u a reason.. you say calmly .. he will say then .. you will say is tht the real reason i want honesty i admire honesty... maybe he will then change wot he says if he dosent... then try to explain the reason he gave you ...

Need some advice!from men and women....Online dating!?

To forgive or not to forgive?


I have a online chatmate,we like each other,we had our instant connection,


Then one day I didn鈥檛 know whats on her mind,she tricked me,her friend pretended that she was somebody,but she admitted it,she tested me how honest I am to her,


She got upset when I talked to her friend online,of course I am so mad too because its not fair to test somebody like that,I have decided to stay away from her for awhile,she keeps on calling me saying sorry, sending emails apologizing,but I don鈥檛 talk to her yet.


Should I forgive her give another chance?Or forget about her?Need some advice!from men and women....Online dating!?
If she tested you once she will do it again. She sounds sneaky and insecure. Is this what you want in a relationship?Need some advice!from men and women....Online dating!?
woman are jealus creatures. they think there the only one u talk to online wich is not true. and i know most of my friends talk to other people at the same time. so whats the big deal i dont know. now if u hit on her friend thats where u messed up. but yeah forgive her. and then remind her. if she takes u off the market then she wont have this worry anymore.
forgive this time and give her another chance, she may just be feeling insecurities and needed to know that she would be safe with you, she obvously cares or she wouldnt say sorry would she?
I've had this happen numerous times, best policy is to be upfront and honest in all communications with people period. This way you shouldn't have a problem at all when people sneak around testing you.
she was trying to 'feel' you out..


i have done it once before. not proud of it.. it was really immature. but i was trying to see how sincere the person was.. and you know what they passed the 'test' made me feel really good about my decision, to 'trick' him. wouldn't do it again though.





one of the best men that i know...... and am proud to call him my best guy friend...


u know who you are.. thank you for being mine.
unless you go see her for real and she has to be in the same town with-in a couple days...then your getting hooked on cyber sex and good luck!
Definitely forget about her! Obviously she is insecure and doesn't trust you......that was just wrong of her....
i think you can forgive her or forget her..its just a matter of your willingness..be confident..you can make the choice.Be happy.If its fate, you will be with her.Goodluck.
There many women out there! What for friend with someone like that..
Forget her.Believe me,the same thing happened to me except he was a man.

I need advice . gay men only?

i am worried about my first time. i am 20 and have had sex with a number of girls but now i have finally found the right man. i have done other things with him but im worried about him shagging me. i want to do it but i dont know what its going to be like.I need advice . gay men only?
Start stretching your ***. Wash your hands. Use your fingers, work up to dildo's.





Get an enema before hand. Use female douche products or a water bottle.





Have plenty of lube and condoms on hand. Eros Pur or Wet are pretty good.





Have him enter you slowly. Once he is in you have him stay there a minute or 2 and let your passage adjust to its size. While you wait tell him how much you want his d!ck and how sexy he is.





Then he can start thrusting - slow at first. Soon enough he will be pounding the hell out of you. Just be patient. First few times might be hard. Then you adjust. Trust me on this - it is worth it!





Absolutely no anal with out a condom unless you are monogamous, have been together for months and have aids test results.I need advice . gay men only?
yeah baby,go slow and have fun
Talk to him and let him know it's your first time and he needs to be patient and go easy on you. You may have troublethe first time, but once you are used to it, you will love it!
use lots of lube and have lots of condoms


go slowly, use condoms, start by fingering and then use condoms






































































































































did i mention use a condom??
Are You Sure That are you a gay. any way if you like him try to do that if only you sure he is not an freek
Slowly slowly, safely safely.
dont be worried...you will be fine hun :) XXX
First and foremost, I hope your sexual experiences with girls have been safe, with the use of a condom. Your first experience with a man, as all of your experiences at least until you are in a long-term monogamous relationship should be with the use of a condom and plenty of water-based lubricant. Then don't worry about what it will be like, just experience it. I assume this is a person you care very much about, and he cares about you.





One of the keys to making it pleasurable rather than painful is relaxation, and if you're all keyed up with expectations, you won't relax. Take it slow, don't do it unless you trust him...trust him to slow down or stop if you are uncomfortable, or need more lubrication. It will be fine. Good luck.
ya know i'm kind of HORNEY so u can *** (pardon the pun) on over


-Dave Koz
If you've already done it with girls, it's not that different. Just enjoy yourself.
just make sure to do it safe , and you shouldn't feel afraid , on the contrary, you should feel excited ! ... just try to imagine how good it is going to be and concentrate on the nice images or dreams you have about this thing ! ... of-cores ... showing allot of passion before having sex will comfort you allot , and you'll feel that its the right moment !
I've been gay all my life and have NEVER taken it up there.





It's just something I'm not in to at all....never have been and never will be. I don't judge others for their sexual conduct and I'm not ';against'; it. It's just not something I enjoy....whether giving or receiving.





If you want to do it, just be sure you're SAFE.
depending on how big he is also, what you got to remember is that you set the pace if you find it hurts stop take a breather and start again, don't let anyone else force you into something you not comfortable doing, and remember to use a water based lubricant and a condom.





You can always try it on your own by gently inserting finger into your anus again using lube, another tip is to use a douche to clear all the residue.
u need to hear very well urself about who r u
Well, if enough KY is used, squelchy is what it will be like.
ok i am an very very young expert uh it feels like a tube going up your but but it ant smothe is is rouch the faster you go the more it hurt ok bye
Take it easy, relax, use a condom and enjoy.


Use a silicone-based lubricant, way better than water based and is latex friendly.


Make sure, as others have said that he enters you 'very' slowly, your speed not his. Have him use his fingers to start with just to let you adjust to being entered.
What is ''shagging you''?

Advice on man troubles, men and women please?

well my boyfriend of three years broke up with me last week, things have been kinda rocky for awhile but I belive that we truely love each other, for the record i know there isnt another woman. It has been a terrible week, trying to not call and hoping that things will work themselves out. i still think about him constantly but have been trying to better myself and spend more time with the girls. i am 23 he is 31. he has been busy at work from what i know the times we have talked. tonight i called and wanted to see if he wanted to grab a beer and catch up. he said it wasnt a good idea which made me upset then he told me he found out today his dad has cancer. his dad and him and also I were very close we lived with him for awhile when we first got together. He wouldnt let me meet up with him even to talk as friends I know he is very upset. I want so badly for things to work. I keep telling myself not to call him everyday and let him miss me its so hard though i miss him


advice pleaseAdvice on man troubles, men and women please?
Things were rocky and then you broke up, now he doesn't want to meet you for drinks. Sounds like he is Done with you and your relationship.





Suck it up girl, keep doing what you are doing and move on with life. Time heals all wounds.

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