Im 21 years old. I met a girl about 3 months after she got out of a 4 year relationship and her ex lives next door to her. We didnt kiss until the third date and she told me early on she gets scared of relationships. She did say she wanted something out of it with me. She said many times that she really liked me. I could tell she was holding back even tho we hung out nearly every day for a month and a half. We never did anything more than make out and sleep over with no sex. After 2 months she said she wanted to take everything slow. She was distant and stopped cuddling and kissing, etc. for the next 3 months until she said she was unsure of what she wanted or was ready for but wanted to keep hanging out. I dont think she was over her ex. She told her parents about me and I met her friends and we didn't have sex at all. Was I just a rebound? What should I do?LADIES or MEN!!! ANy advice is appreciated!?
You're just a rebound. Give it up and go find someone that DOESN'T live next door to her ex.
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
I need men's advice..?
So..this is kinda weird BUT.
When I'm having sex my orgasms are so strong that I collapse and I'll ask him to stop but he's so into it it's like he cant hear me. And he'll thust until he c u ms and its kindof not pleasant...so when he starts to groan I try pulling away but he just goes harder.
What should I do?I need men's advice..?
OK For a start. Kudos to you for reaching such pleasure. The obvious answer to the first part is to talk. Alot of women experience intense orgasms where it gets to the point they need a break lol. Talk to the guy.
On the ******* side of things. Tensing his prostate and relaxing 50 times on n off, relax, another 50 times, a day will gradually improve this. If you cannot wait. Have him masturbate in the day or a bit before you have sex.
Good LuckI need men's advice..?
You need to tell him before you start having sex with him that certain times you get uncomfortable and you need to stop . It prolly will get him annoyed but just tell him. Don't give the guy a BJ if he comes too early. Leave the condom thing up to him to find the right size for him.
1. maybe you should go on top
2.for the BJ theres something called a cock ring. it makes you last longer.
3. Trojans make like some huge condoms
the word orgasm is latin for ';little death';.... think about it.
condoms don't break becase of a large penis... your entire question is now on my :-p list... sorry....
1st. Many women can have mutliple orgasms but if thats not you, just tell him to pull out and either blow him off or give him a handjob til he blows. make your feelings known.
2nd.because he blows so fast, try to give him a handjob and when hes about to blow, stop and wait til he looses his erection, then start again. do this for a while. maybe after 3 or 4 times let him blow. if you practice this, it will train his penis to not always get so excited and may prolong his erections without c umm ing.
3rd.Trojan or magnum tends to be the brands best for the big men. but there are places where you can get even bigger ones.hot makeup
When I'm having sex my orgasms are so strong that I collapse and I'll ask him to stop but he's so into it it's like he cant hear me. And he'll thust until he c u ms and its kindof not pleasant...so when he starts to groan I try pulling away but he just goes harder.
What should I do?I need men's advice..?
OK For a start. Kudos to you for reaching such pleasure. The obvious answer to the first part is to talk. Alot of women experience intense orgasms where it gets to the point they need a break lol. Talk to the guy.
On the ******* side of things. Tensing his prostate and relaxing 50 times on n off, relax, another 50 times, a day will gradually improve this. If you cannot wait. Have him masturbate in the day or a bit before you have sex.
Good LuckI need men's advice..?
You need to tell him before you start having sex with him that certain times you get uncomfortable and you need to stop . It prolly will get him annoyed but just tell him. Don't give the guy a BJ if he comes too early. Leave the condom thing up to him to find the right size for him.
1. maybe you should go on top
2.for the BJ theres something called a cock ring. it makes you last longer.
3. Trojans make like some huge condoms
the word orgasm is latin for ';little death';.... think about it.
condoms don't break becase of a large penis... your entire question is now on my :-p list... sorry....
1st. Many women can have mutliple orgasms but if thats not you, just tell him to pull out and either blow him off or give him a handjob til he blows. make your feelings known.
2nd.because he blows so fast, try to give him a handjob and when hes about to blow, stop and wait til he looses his erection, then start again. do this for a while. maybe after 3 or 4 times let him blow. if you practice this, it will train his penis to not always get so excited and may prolong his erections without c umm ing.
3rd.Trojan or magnum tends to be the brands best for the big men. but there are places where you can get even bigger ones.
Why do posters discount men's advice about babies / children simply because they are men?
I've seen several posters in the parenting boards who disregard answers that are given by men, or deride men who are trying to give their best advice. The impression that I get from this board is that a man's opinion - at least when it comes to childred - is worth less then a woman's, regardless of the man's experience.
Do women understand that some men want to be involved and do have good advice to give, but when they see women saying basically 'you are a man so you don't know', they are very discouraged? It seems like many of the women on this board only care about a man's opinion when he agrees with her and only want him to support the decision they already made.
This seems to be very strong with anything regarding mothers in law, emotions, or serious choices about how to raise a baby. Even men who may have had children and been in the exact situation are discounted simply by an edit that says 'Poster, are you a man?'.
Does anyone else even see this as a problem?Why do posters discount men's advice about babies / children simply because they are men?
It is a problem. We're coming out of a generation full of women caretakers though. This is truly the first time we've seen a LOT of involved dads, so I think some women still have a hard time accepting a man's opinion. I trust my husband's opinion on almost all of our child-rearing issues. It just goes person to person. My mother still puts my dad on a need-to-know-basis for almost everything.Why do posters discount men's advice about babies / children simply because they are men?
I could see it as a problem, but really havent seen the problem here, show me a link.
I personally don't do that. Some of the best advice I received as a new mother was from my older brother, who didn't even have children yet. His friend's all did. He helped me figure out several techniques to breastfeeding, because he had been around all of their wive's when they were breastfeeding their children.
I guess I just find it weird that a man would choose to hang out in the ';pregnancy/parenting'; section of Yahoo!Answers.
But if his answer is legit, then I treat it like any other poster.
personally, i love to hear a guys opinion on a subject... if it's a real answer. some guys seriously just put their two cents on a subject to piss people off. but i think some women need a reality check sometimes. a guy's outlook on parenting differs greatly from a woman's and it's not wrong, both views are needed most of the time. so thank you for trying to help when you choose to.
Any advertisement that is found offensive can be brought to the attention of the advertiser. Get the name of the organization and contact them directly. Voice your opinion!!!
I completely agree with you. I have noticed this myself.
in fact I answered a queston the other day and was shocked to see how many women don't even believe a man should have a say in whether their baby is aborted or not. As you can see from my response I believe men should have rights.
http://nz.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind…
I think it's ridiculous how some women complain about men not taking responsability for their kids and then when you get a man who does, they don't want to hear what you have to say. I can only imagine how frustrating it must be for you and other men like yourself.
to the second poster....why would it be weird for a man to be in the parenting section? Men are parents too you know? what a ridiculous statement.
I've never discounted a man's opinion. The only time I have ignored a man's comments, is when they make a rude comment that doesn't help. But I ignore comments made by women who are being rude also.
Do women understand that some men want to be involved and do have good advice to give, but when they see women saying basically 'you are a man so you don't know', they are very discouraged? It seems like many of the women on this board only care about a man's opinion when he agrees with her and only want him to support the decision they already made.
This seems to be very strong with anything regarding mothers in law, emotions, or serious choices about how to raise a baby. Even men who may have had children and been in the exact situation are discounted simply by an edit that says 'Poster, are you a man?'.
Does anyone else even see this as a problem?Why do posters discount men's advice about babies / children simply because they are men?
It is a problem. We're coming out of a generation full of women caretakers though. This is truly the first time we've seen a LOT of involved dads, so I think some women still have a hard time accepting a man's opinion. I trust my husband's opinion on almost all of our child-rearing issues. It just goes person to person. My mother still puts my dad on a need-to-know-basis for almost everything.Why do posters discount men's advice about babies / children simply because they are men?
I could see it as a problem, but really havent seen the problem here, show me a link.
I personally don't do that. Some of the best advice I received as a new mother was from my older brother, who didn't even have children yet. His friend's all did. He helped me figure out several techniques to breastfeeding, because he had been around all of their wive's when they were breastfeeding their children.
I guess I just find it weird that a man would choose to hang out in the ';pregnancy/parenting'; section of Yahoo!Answers.
But if his answer is legit, then I treat it like any other poster.
personally, i love to hear a guys opinion on a subject... if it's a real answer. some guys seriously just put their two cents on a subject to piss people off. but i think some women need a reality check sometimes. a guy's outlook on parenting differs greatly from a woman's and it's not wrong, both views are needed most of the time. so thank you for trying to help when you choose to.
Any advertisement that is found offensive can be brought to the attention of the advertiser. Get the name of the organization and contact them directly. Voice your opinion!!!
I completely agree with you. I have noticed this myself.
in fact I answered a queston the other day and was shocked to see how many women don't even believe a man should have a say in whether their baby is aborted or not. As you can see from my response I believe men should have rights.
http://nz.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind…
I think it's ridiculous how some women complain about men not taking responsability for their kids and then when you get a man who does, they don't want to hear what you have to say. I can only imagine how frustrating it must be for you and other men like yourself.
to the second poster....why would it be weird for a man to be in the parenting section? Men are parents too you know? what a ridiculous statement.
I've never discounted a man's opinion. The only time I have ignored a man's comments, is when they make a rude comment that doesn't help. But I ignore comments made by women who are being rude also.
Should men from other races take Black men's advice on love and dating?
Well a nice hispanic man likes me... and I like him so/so...
but then this Black man shows up... Oh no...
I had to go home and eat some food...
But I know that they will talk about me behind my back...
I feel that the Black man will tell the Hispanic man to do something deceitful.... giving him bad advice....
I know how Black men are... they don't treat their women right...
They are known to leave their women alone and pregnant.
I don't know... so I guess I won't date that Hispanic man... cause
I'm scare... I don't trust... I just can't trust.Should men from other races take Black men's advice on love and dating?
right....Should men from other races take Black men's advice on love and dating?
u have it all wrong all guys across the country do what u said. natives mexicans hispanics, white guys even do it. not just one nationality does it. and in the game of love it doesnt matter if ur black white red yellow love dont know the color of skins. it just knows love.
Race will not affect how someone will treat you. It's straight off stereotyping to assume that just because someone is Black, or Hispanic, that they'll hurt you.
The chances of a Caucasian man running off and cheating, lie, and/or be abusive, are exactly the same, as a male of any other nationality. Some of my closest friends are black, and are 100% loyal, and caring to their girlfriends.
If you're scared of a man running off and leaving you pregnant, plain and simple...Don't have sex, and you won't get pregnant, or at least use protection, whether it be a condom, or birth control.
If you really don't feel you can trust someone in a relationship though, don't date him, and be patient till you find someone you do trust, and wait till you know the person, before just diving into a relationship.
Wow.
Firstly - I think it's a bit ignorant and shallow of you to categorize black men by saying, ';I know how Black men are... they don't treat their women right...They are known to leave their women alone and pregnant.';
I can tell you that I'm of ';black'; descent, and with my father being ';black'; as well, he has been with my mother for 20 years, and they've lived together all that time to raise myself and my 3 siblings. So get that stereotype out of your mind, and realize that you're only limiting yourself by holding such thoughts about an entire race.
Second, if you even have the thought that this guy who likes you could be so EASILY influence by an outside source, why would you even continue to pursue that? Unless of course, you are interested in someone who cannot create his own judgment, and has to have approval or 'advice' from outside sources - then that's another topic. But if you feel that this guy could be swayed by what some black man has to say, you probably shouldn't even begin with the guy.
Also realize that you cannot get hurt unless you ALLOW yourself to hurt. Figure out what it is you're afraid of. You may find that you need to figure out how to love and not hurt yourself, FIRST - so that another person may have an example to follow.
you are being rather racist.
not all black men will leave their women pregnant.
you're generalizing
but then this Black man shows up... Oh no...
I had to go home and eat some food...
But I know that they will talk about me behind my back...
I feel that the Black man will tell the Hispanic man to do something deceitful.... giving him bad advice....
I know how Black men are... they don't treat their women right...
They are known to leave their women alone and pregnant.
I don't know... so I guess I won't date that Hispanic man... cause
I'm scare... I don't trust... I just can't trust.Should men from other races take Black men's advice on love and dating?
right....Should men from other races take Black men's advice on love and dating?
u have it all wrong all guys across the country do what u said. natives mexicans hispanics, white guys even do it. not just one nationality does it. and in the game of love it doesnt matter if ur black white red yellow love dont know the color of skins. it just knows love.
Race will not affect how someone will treat you. It's straight off stereotyping to assume that just because someone is Black, or Hispanic, that they'll hurt you.
The chances of a Caucasian man running off and cheating, lie, and/or be abusive, are exactly the same, as a male of any other nationality. Some of my closest friends are black, and are 100% loyal, and caring to their girlfriends.
If you're scared of a man running off and leaving you pregnant, plain and simple...Don't have sex, and you won't get pregnant, or at least use protection, whether it be a condom, or birth control.
If you really don't feel you can trust someone in a relationship though, don't date him, and be patient till you find someone you do trust, and wait till you know the person, before just diving into a relationship.
Wow.
Firstly - I think it's a bit ignorant and shallow of you to categorize black men by saying, ';I know how Black men are... they don't treat their women right...They are known to leave their women alone and pregnant.';
I can tell you that I'm of ';black'; descent, and with my father being ';black'; as well, he has been with my mother for 20 years, and they've lived together all that time to raise myself and my 3 siblings. So get that stereotype out of your mind, and realize that you're only limiting yourself by holding such thoughts about an entire race.
Second, if you even have the thought that this guy who likes you could be so EASILY influence by an outside source, why would you even continue to pursue that? Unless of course, you are interested in someone who cannot create his own judgment, and has to have approval or 'advice' from outside sources - then that's another topic. But if you feel that this guy could be swayed by what some black man has to say, you probably shouldn't even begin with the guy.
Also realize that you cannot get hurt unless you ALLOW yourself to hurt. Figure out what it is you're afraid of. You may find that you need to figure out how to love and not hurt yourself, FIRST - so that another person may have an example to follow.
you are being rather racist.
not all black men will leave their women pregnant.
you're generalizing
Help ~!!!!! Men some advice please...: What do i tell my guy friend.....?
I am really close with my boyfriends guy friends and they tell me everything.... I guess there really comfortable around me and think i'm ';one of the guys';... Well anyway, were all around the ages of 20-23.... one of my guy friends came up to me today and ask to talk to me privately..... he aid he has been having a problem with his ';man hood'; and was really scared of what would happen.... he says that everytime and only when he has sex with his girl friend and ';n*ts'; he gets pain in his testicles after wards... he says he doesn't want to tell his girl friend because he doesn't want her to be scared because he's scared.... he wants to know what he should do.... i told him to go to the doctor just to make sure everything is ok... but he has a man mentality and is nervous lol.... what could it be and what should he do? how can i convice him to go see a doctor... he's 20-21 and told me he never went for a physical before.....Help ~!!!!! Men some advice please...: What do i tell my guy friend.....?
going to the doctor is the only solution. It could be anything from an STD to Cancer. So... don't scare him with this news, just assure him he has to go to the doctor or it will get worse.Help ~!!!!! Men some advice please...: What do i tell my guy friend.....?
He doesn't need to tell you anything so personal...he needs to tell his doctor!
It's common for the penis head to be sore, but not the testicles. Your friend must be an idiot not to go to a doctor. Kick him in the balls and ask if that helps.
going to the doctor is the only solution. It could be anything from an STD to Cancer. So... don't scare him with this news, just assure him he has to go to the doctor or it will get worse.Help ~!!!!! Men some advice please...: What do i tell my guy friend.....?
He doesn't need to tell you anything so personal...he needs to tell his doctor!
It's common for the penis head to be sore, but not the testicles. Your friend must be an idiot not to go to a doctor. Kick him in the balls and ask if that helps.
Calling men for advice..would you prefer her to email or call you? Its long distance.?
Say you have woman friend that you met in college and you've kept in contact by chat even though you moved to different countries. Say you really like her and meet her one night..kiss (but not full sex) but don't discuss your feelings as both have to return home next day. Say you're not sure how she feels about you but you really like her and wish she would tell you how she feels. (you have told her before you were falling for her). Would you prefer she called you to tell you she feels for you or sends you an email saying she hopes you guys can meet again soon? Any tips welcome.Calling men for advice..would you prefer her to email or call you? Its long distance.?
It depends on your relationship. I think women like all kinds of communication. Talking on the phone, emails / writing. If you are capable of writing nicely then she would probably appreciate a nice long email to read.
But it really depends on the man and the woman specifically involved.
It depends on your relationship. I think women like all kinds of communication. Talking on the phone, emails / writing. If you are capable of writing nicely then she would probably appreciate a nice long email to read.
But it really depends on the man and the woman specifically involved.
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Need men's advice on ex boyfriend?
My ex and I broke up 5 months ago, after a long, passionate, and very public relationship. We were each others first loves. We broke up initially because we had both become really jealous and we barely let each other hang out with other people. The day after we broke up, he wanted to still kiss me and I told him no, then he got mad and started talking about other girls when I was around to make me jealous, but I knew what he was doing so I ignored it. A month went by and during that time he started skipping school(we are seniors in HS, juniors then) and trying to start fights with a few of my guy friends. I was worried about him so I went to his house one night and talked to him about why he had suddenly changed so much. He was stubborn but I could tell he was still hurt. After our talk, he almost totally stopped the skipping and fighting. We haven't talked since then, but over the summer he would get people to add me on myspace to ';check up on me'; and ask me questions, even though he had a new girlfriend. Also, he makes his girlfriend refer to him by his last name? which I find totally bizarre and impersonal, and he calls her all the nicknames that we made up for each other. And they only see each other on the weekends, nevertheless, they are still together. Now that we are back in school, I catch him staring at me from afar(when he's alone), but he won't say anything. Also, people tell me that in class, when someone says my name, he looks up and acts mad.
So, I think he still has feelings for me but I'm not sure if/how he will admit it because he's too proud.
And sadly, even though I dated a guy briefly and have been talking to lots of guys, I still have feelings for him as well.
How do I break the ice and get him to tell me the truth? Need men's advice on ex boyfriend?
Take the time and just talk to him openly if he wants to play games then he needs more time to grow up. love is a two way street you both have to have your own life an be able to share each others life together you cant just worship each other an that's it life don't work that way.You still need to hang out with the girls at times an him with the guys. That helps keep a healthy relationship. you both need to quite trying to make one another jealous an just start over fresh try to just talk because if you cant talk thing out no relationship will ever work . Been with the same person for 30 years an 7 kids later seen a lot of teen age love affairs some work some don't a lot of broken harts but they all heal in time.
So hang in their keep communications open at all time try not to have to many secrets between each other.
Good luck an keep an open mind never give up if its something you really want . Need men's advice on ex boyfriend?
Jeez, that's harsh.
I'm pretty sure he still likes you, but he might also be caught between you and his girlfriend not knowing what to do.
He'll eventually have to choose, and having no experience in the matter, I have no advice :(
Good Luck
Walk up to him and just tell him slowly and tell him your sorry but.. yeah. not much else i personally can say.
Agreed. Way too long. Stop it with your story already. The guy's got a girlfriend, so leave him alone.
you gatta just say it bluntly and come forward to him
ugh, TOO LONG!!
thnks for the 2 points!
Oh, he totally still has feelings for u big time. but he's not worth going back. to get him off ur mind, join a club or an activity and totally throw yourself into it, to forget him. After a while he'll be nothing but a memory. and once you've moved on chances are he will to.
well 2 things
1st, yes he has feelings for you and he is hurt but he's too egotistical to admit it, he seems to think that he has to tough it out when he doesn't
2nd, if u want to do it secretly make a myspace and add him and talk to him, but don't let him know it's u, make it seem like you are another girl that goes to your school, or say you are a long lost friend of his ex and were wondering if you were still together and what the deal was
This is a bit long, but I've got the time to answer.
It's kind of ironic, but I found myself in that exact same situation at one point in my life, except, well, it was the other way around, seeing as how I was the guy in the relationship. Anyway, it does sound like he still has strong feelings for you. I can tell you from experience that when he's with his new girlfriend, you're the only one he's thinking of. If your relationship was truly as strong as you say it was, then you should do everything you can to win back his love, and his trust. Believe me, if this is true love, hold on, and never let go. Because no matter how hard you search; no matter how hard you try to believe you can find another; you only find true love once. I guess you should start by trying to make him feel more comfortable around you. Begin with some small, physical interactions, you know, brush up against him when you're walking with him, jokingly push him around, etc. Make him miss your touch, and want you back. I know it sounds like you're manipulating him, but it sounds like you really want him back. You really do have to tell him how you feel. Put it all on the line. Love is priceless. If you feel this is lust, or simply an infatuation, then I wouldn't recommend bothering with it. Just try to make things as comforting and not awkward as possible around him, and make him feel like you've put everything behind you, and that you want to start over. If he's smart, he'll take the hint and start flirting with you again. Hope this helps :)
you betta tell him yoo somehow .. lol this dude doesn't joke around ... haha ... thats kind of scary, idk, i wouldn't talk to him if i was you to be honest, he took that break up hard, you should wait a while to let him cool off then talk to him truthfully
So, I think he still has feelings for me but I'm not sure if/how he will admit it because he's too proud.
And sadly, even though I dated a guy briefly and have been talking to lots of guys, I still have feelings for him as well.
How do I break the ice and get him to tell me the truth? Need men's advice on ex boyfriend?
Take the time and just talk to him openly if he wants to play games then he needs more time to grow up. love is a two way street you both have to have your own life an be able to share each others life together you cant just worship each other an that's it life don't work that way.You still need to hang out with the girls at times an him with the guys. That helps keep a healthy relationship. you both need to quite trying to make one another jealous an just start over fresh try to just talk because if you cant talk thing out no relationship will ever work . Been with the same person for 30 years an 7 kids later seen a lot of teen age love affairs some work some don't a lot of broken harts but they all heal in time.
So hang in their keep communications open at all time try not to have to many secrets between each other.
Good luck an keep an open mind never give up if its something you really want . Need men's advice on ex boyfriend?
Jeez, that's harsh.
I'm pretty sure he still likes you, but he might also be caught between you and his girlfriend not knowing what to do.
He'll eventually have to choose, and having no experience in the matter, I have no advice :(
Good Luck
Walk up to him and just tell him slowly and tell him your sorry but.. yeah. not much else i personally can say.
Agreed. Way too long. Stop it with your story already. The guy's got a girlfriend, so leave him alone.
you gatta just say it bluntly and come forward to him
ugh, TOO LONG!!
thnks for the 2 points!
Oh, he totally still has feelings for u big time. but he's not worth going back. to get him off ur mind, join a club or an activity and totally throw yourself into it, to forget him. After a while he'll be nothing but a memory. and once you've moved on chances are he will to.
well 2 things
1st, yes he has feelings for you and he is hurt but he's too egotistical to admit it, he seems to think that he has to tough it out when he doesn't
2nd, if u want to do it secretly make a myspace and add him and talk to him, but don't let him know it's u, make it seem like you are another girl that goes to your school, or say you are a long lost friend of his ex and were wondering if you were still together and what the deal was
This is a bit long, but I've got the time to answer.
It's kind of ironic, but I found myself in that exact same situation at one point in my life, except, well, it was the other way around, seeing as how I was the guy in the relationship. Anyway, it does sound like he still has strong feelings for you. I can tell you from experience that when he's with his new girlfriend, you're the only one he's thinking of. If your relationship was truly as strong as you say it was, then you should do everything you can to win back his love, and his trust. Believe me, if this is true love, hold on, and never let go. Because no matter how hard you search; no matter how hard you try to believe you can find another; you only find true love once. I guess you should start by trying to make him feel more comfortable around you. Begin with some small, physical interactions, you know, brush up against him when you're walking with him, jokingly push him around, etc. Make him miss your touch, and want you back. I know it sounds like you're manipulating him, but it sounds like you really want him back. You really do have to tell him how you feel. Put it all on the line. Love is priceless. If you feel this is lust, or simply an infatuation, then I wouldn't recommend bothering with it. Just try to make things as comforting and not awkward as possible around him, and make him feel like you've put everything behind you, and that you want to start over. If he's smart, he'll take the hint and start flirting with you again. Hope this helps :)
you betta tell him yoo somehow .. lol this dude doesn't joke around ... haha ... thats kind of scary, idk, i wouldn't talk to him if i was you to be honest, he took that break up hard, you should wait a while to let him cool off then talk to him truthfully
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