i saw this quote and i didnt really understand it..what does it mean?A good scare is worth more to a man than good advice?
Think of this example:
Advice: Drive carefully.
Action: Maybe he takes the advice and maybe he doesn't. He thinks he's a good driver, so he doesn't think much about it.
Scare: He's driving on the ice and he slides off the road right beside the icy river.
Action: He's going to drive more carefully.A good scare is worth more to a man than good advice?
i regret to inform you that i am even more clueless than you are.
People tend to ignore good advice. But when you experience or come close to experiencing the consequences of your actions you are more likely to change your ways. For example many people clean up their diet, start exercising and learn to manage stress after they have their first heart attack.
Scare him good and he'll remember it. Otherwise it's just words- in one ear and out the other.
Monday, August 23, 2010
Advice from MEN only please!!?
two days ago through a short work project I met this guy I have fallen head over heels for. He is everything I am looking for a man.
We had three times dinner with all the staff of the project and we seemed to talk to each other the whole time.We clicked completely. He lives in Paris, I live in Italy but that's not really a problem . The problem is that I don't know if he likes me as much as I like him. We are both reserved we talked about everything except as far as relationships are concerned. I mean: he did not say if he was involved .I asked him his email but he did not ask mine. When we said goodbye he said he might come to visit soon again.. I have written him a short email saying how happy I was to have met him and that I hoped we would have another oppotunity to meet again soon.
I really don't want to ruin my chances so I don't know what to do now? Make it clear I really really like him more than just a friend or just wait for him to make the next move? Please help! Thanks!Advice from MEN only please!!?
take a deep breath and slow down a little bit. If you sent an email that's enough for now, don't sound like yu want to get married next week. Wait for him to respond.Advice from MEN only please!!?
Play it kool, when he comes fo rthe next visit take him to bed and seal the deal. But before that, just show moderate interest.
talk to HIM...not us!
Hey. Why don't you just go up and ask him. You will never know the outcome if you don't ask. If a person liked me a lot, I would want them to tell me. You might not ever have this chance ever again.
Give it time and don't over do it.
We had three times dinner with all the staff of the project and we seemed to talk to each other the whole time.We clicked completely. He lives in Paris, I live in Italy but that's not really a problem . The problem is that I don't know if he likes me as much as I like him. We are both reserved we talked about everything except as far as relationships are concerned. I mean: he did not say if he was involved .I asked him his email but he did not ask mine. When we said goodbye he said he might come to visit soon again.. I have written him a short email saying how happy I was to have met him and that I hoped we would have another oppotunity to meet again soon.
I really don't want to ruin my chances so I don't know what to do now? Make it clear I really really like him more than just a friend or just wait for him to make the next move? Please help! Thanks!Advice from MEN only please!!?
take a deep breath and slow down a little bit. If you sent an email that's enough for now, don't sound like yu want to get married next week. Wait for him to respond.Advice from MEN only please!!?
Play it kool, when he comes fo rthe next visit take him to bed and seal the deal. But before that, just show moderate interest.
talk to HIM...not us!
Hey. Why don't you just go up and ask him. You will never know the outcome if you don't ask. If a person liked me a lot, I would want them to tell me. You might not ever have this chance ever again.
Give it time and don't over do it.
Advice bout men?
Hey everyone, thanks for reading. Just wondered.... im nearly into a 2 year relationship, and i worry sometimes about bein taken for granted. Hes guna expect me to call him tonight, as he has no credit to contact me, would it be best to not contact him, and keep him waiting, or just call him. I know it seems petty, but basically, i want him to start making more effort. xAdvice bout men?
Don't play games like a kid, communicate like an adult!!Advice bout men?
After 2 years any relationship is going to become taken a bit for granted by both parties. I bet there are times when you could have slipped round unexpectedly but decided to watch Jeremy Kyle instead? While after only a few weeks into the relationship you'd have been there like a shot for a quickie?
Don't not call him that's silly he wont know what's wrong and it will cause a problem.
Give him a bell and tell him you've had a fantastic idea.........
Organise one of my fashion shows and get him to buy you something very sexy. You wont be able to get rid of him after that lol
You can do that as a sign, but some signs i think are best felt in person. Go to him tonight if you can or the next time you see him, and let him know that you dont appreciate him not putting in enough effort in the realationship. Make it clear to him. Hopefully hell be receptive and do his part to fix that part of the relationship.
i would not call send him a text and say you have not got much credit after 2 years and still no effort i would give up he should be putting you on a pedestal my fiancee always rings me and asks if I'm OK even if it's a quick call and he texts me all the time and says how much he loves me if you feel you are going nowhere with this man give up and move on life is to short to be used
as a man myself- i think that guys usualy wait for chicks to call because we dont no what to say lol. just call him coz i dont think he will call you, but if he really likes you he could put in the effort to call you even if its just on someone elses phone asking you to call him back.
hope it helps
If you've been with him that long then you should be able to speak to him about such matters. And don't play games in a relationship because games require there to be a winner and a loser, so something bad is always going to happen to one of you as a result.
OmG no call him but when you do tell him how you feel about the situation in the nicest way possible so it doesn't start a fight over something so small.If you don't call he will think you are lying to him or was somewhere else.
you can either talk to him and tell him you want him to be more active in your relationship, or you can not call him and make him want to call you, but dont sit by the phone all night waiting for it.
he is expecting you to call him. you don't have a problem 'yet'. tell him the way you feel and then if he doesn't call you first then he is not making an effort, then you have a problem.
well if he doesnt make any effort t needs to be known that he needs to start dont call him for 2 days and if he doesnt call you in those 2 days call him and then tell him he need to mak an effort because it takes 2 to tango
tell him that you need him to make more of an effort. i guess call him, because not calling might cause unnecessary problems that you probably don't need to deal with right now. but talk to him about it!
:)
your right
after 2 years it IS petty
just tell him openly you want MORE ATTENTION thats what i do
Best thing is communication. If you dont tell him how you feel he will never know. I know then when my GF tells me how she feels then i try to work on it to make it better. COMMUNICATE. This comes from a man.
Just call him and telll him how you feel.
definately start making him chase YOU hun...
remember... HE is the lucky one to be with YOU.
hope i helped%26lt;3
Don't play games like a kid, communicate like an adult!!Advice bout men?
After 2 years any relationship is going to become taken a bit for granted by both parties. I bet there are times when you could have slipped round unexpectedly but decided to watch Jeremy Kyle instead? While after only a few weeks into the relationship you'd have been there like a shot for a quickie?
Don't not call him that's silly he wont know what's wrong and it will cause a problem.
Give him a bell and tell him you've had a fantastic idea.........
Organise one of my fashion shows and get him to buy you something very sexy. You wont be able to get rid of him after that lol
You can do that as a sign, but some signs i think are best felt in person. Go to him tonight if you can or the next time you see him, and let him know that you dont appreciate him not putting in enough effort in the realationship. Make it clear to him. Hopefully hell be receptive and do his part to fix that part of the relationship.
i would not call send him a text and say you have not got much credit after 2 years and still no effort i would give up he should be putting you on a pedestal my fiancee always rings me and asks if I'm OK even if it's a quick call and he texts me all the time and says how much he loves me if you feel you are going nowhere with this man give up and move on life is to short to be used
as a man myself- i think that guys usualy wait for chicks to call because we dont no what to say lol. just call him coz i dont think he will call you, but if he really likes you he could put in the effort to call you even if its just on someone elses phone asking you to call him back.
hope it helps
If you've been with him that long then you should be able to speak to him about such matters. And don't play games in a relationship because games require there to be a winner and a loser, so something bad is always going to happen to one of you as a result.
OmG no call him but when you do tell him how you feel about the situation in the nicest way possible so it doesn't start a fight over something so small.If you don't call he will think you are lying to him or was somewhere else.
you can either talk to him and tell him you want him to be more active in your relationship, or you can not call him and make him want to call you, but dont sit by the phone all night waiting for it.
he is expecting you to call him. you don't have a problem 'yet'. tell him the way you feel and then if he doesn't call you first then he is not making an effort, then you have a problem.
well if he doesnt make any effort t needs to be known that he needs to start dont call him for 2 days and if he doesnt call you in those 2 days call him and then tell him he need to mak an effort because it takes 2 to tango
tell him that you need him to make more of an effort. i guess call him, because not calling might cause unnecessary problems that you probably don't need to deal with right now. but talk to him about it!
:)
your right
after 2 years it IS petty
just tell him openly you want MORE ATTENTION thats what i do
Best thing is communication. If you dont tell him how you feel he will never know. I know then when my GF tells me how she feels then i try to work on it to make it better. COMMUNICATE. This comes from a man.
Just call him and telll him how you feel.
definately start making him chase YOU hun...
remember... HE is the lucky one to be with YOU.
hope i helped%26lt;3
Men...give a woman some advice...What other ways does a man say he loves you....?
Other than saying the words. I've always read that men are creatures of action... and even though you may not tell a woman you love them you show it through things you do. I want to know what are those things? Thanks!?!?!?Men...give a woman some advice...What other ways does a man say he loves you....?
Speaking from personal experience, it's sometimes easier to show through action than saying the words. Not sure why, probably a nurture thing. You'll know what those are when a guy does something: out of his normal nature, something where he's thinking of you before him, something where he's spent a lot of time prepping/looking to do/get something for you. If you like these types of things, reinforce them and they will continue and probably grow. Ignore them or show a lack of appreciation for these things and they'll stop. A simple example: I was raised to open/hold doors open for ladies. I would probably do it regardless the response, but it is reinforce ten-fold when a lady says thank you and genuinely appreciates it. One's who treat it as ';matter of fact'; or indifferent, tend to extenguish the behavior over time if done often enough. Hope that helps.
Speaking from personal experience, it's sometimes easier to show through action than saying the words. Not sure why, probably a nurture thing. You'll know what those are when a guy does something: out of his normal nature, something where he's thinking of you before him, something where he's spent a lot of time prepping/looking to do/get something for you. If you like these types of things, reinforce them and they will continue and probably grow. Ignore them or show a lack of appreciation for these things and they'll stop. A simple example: I was raised to open/hold doors open for ladies. I would probably do it regardless the response, but it is reinforce ten-fold when a lady says thank you and genuinely appreciates it. One's who treat it as ';matter of fact'; or indifferent, tend to extenguish the behavior over time if done often enough. Hope that helps.
Does anyone have advice on men?
I have a guy problem that i need help with.... me and this guy have gotten pretty close, and i hate talking on the phone, so if i don't see him that day, i email him, or he emails me. We both go to the same college, but i commute, and he lives on campus. I have gotten one email from him in two days, and the last person to email was me, about this time, last night. It doesn't usually take this long for him to answer, but we have a differnent relationship, and it is really a feel as i go situation. Do i email him back, or should i ignore him like it feels like he is ignoring me, just to get back at him? that seems really shallow, but i can't think of anything else to do, and i don't want to be the one doing the chasing. I want him to make some moves! PLease help!!!Does anyone have advice on men?
Give him a day or two, maybe he's just busy, or he wants more space. I also tend to jump into conclusions that are often incorrect. Don't ask him for an explanation, you're not his mother, and if he ever tells you what happened, don't question it, because if you don't believe him right now there's no need to continue with this. I would also recommend the use of instant messaging.Does anyone have advice on men?
If you don't want to be the one making the moves then DON't. If he is interested he will come to you, but you will have to be patient and give him the opportunity to do so.
It sounds like you are wanting to be closer with him than he might want to be with you right now. Take that to heart. Perhaps offer him some expression of what you'd like, maybe an invitation to have lunch together, or whatever feels right, and then let it go. Know that you've done your best to reach out, and if he's not equally responsive, accept that he's different place.
Give him a day or two, maybe he's just busy, or he wants more space. I also tend to jump into conclusions that are often incorrect. Don't ask him for an explanation, you're not his mother, and if he ever tells you what happened, don't question it, because if you don't believe him right now there's no need to continue with this. I would also recommend the use of instant messaging.Does anyone have advice on men?
If you don't want to be the one making the moves then DON't. If he is interested he will come to you, but you will have to be patient and give him the opportunity to do so.
It sounds like you are wanting to be closer with him than he might want to be with you right now. Take that to heart. Perhaps offer him some expression of what you'd like, maybe an invitation to have lunch together, or whatever feels right, and then let it go. Know that you've done your best to reach out, and if he's not equally responsive, accept that he's different place.
Need ';postponed date'; advice from men (women welcome too)?
Last weekend, I got up the nerve to ask my crush out to lunch. He said that he'd like to, but was ';swamped with work'; and said maybe this coming weekend instead.
Neither of us has mentioned this all week, and now I'm wondering, should I say something? Part of the problem is that I'm not sure if he's interested, and so I'm inclined to wait and see if he remembers (which would indicate to me that I'm on his mind). I don't want to seem desperate. What should I do???Need ';postponed date'; advice from men (women welcome too)?
IF he doesn't bring it up again, don't say anything. Just be polite and go on about your business. Let him make the next move. If he does not, then he is not intereted.
Neither of us has mentioned this all week, and now I'm wondering, should I say something? Part of the problem is that I'm not sure if he's interested, and so I'm inclined to wait and see if he remembers (which would indicate to me that I'm on his mind). I don't want to seem desperate. What should I do???Need ';postponed date'; advice from men (women welcome too)?
IF he doesn't bring it up again, don't say anything. Just be polite and go on about your business. Let him make the next move. If he does not, then he is not intereted.
I need some advice from men...?
I recently split from my husband a week ago and he's seeing someone else and claims he doesn't want anything else to do with me. I've accepted it as I have filed for divorce...does anyone ever think i'll get over him and find someone else?I need some advice from men...?
Alot of men like to move on but it kills them when a woman they were with starts dating. Just let that go and dont be scared to try new people. You dont have to react just cause you know he's dating though, wait till your ready and make sure eerthivng is motivated by you and only you!I need some advice from men...?
Yes you will find someone else but you have to take care of you and your child first and foremost. Wounds will heal in time but only by forgiving will you be able to heal yourself. I had the same thing happen to me with a significant other 20 years ago. Now I have been married for 18.5 years and counting.
Why are you asking only for advice from the men? I would think that you would get better advice from women who have been through this. And yes, you can get through this. Don't start looking for someone else until you heal from all this.
If you've already filed for divorce and accepted it you're on the right road. There's plenty of men out there, just look for a better one this time.
Most women like to ride the drama train and drag stuff out. You need to think like a man and act like a lady and move on yourself.
that depends on you if you want to get over him. He is quit over you.
What would you tell your daughter if she asked you that question?????
Whenever you decide to, you will.
that 'someone else' you need to find first is you.
Alot of men like to move on but it kills them when a woman they were with starts dating. Just let that go and dont be scared to try new people. You dont have to react just cause you know he's dating though, wait till your ready and make sure eerthivng is motivated by you and only you!I need some advice from men...?
Yes you will find someone else but you have to take care of you and your child first and foremost. Wounds will heal in time but only by forgiving will you be able to heal yourself. I had the same thing happen to me with a significant other 20 years ago. Now I have been married for 18.5 years and counting.
Why are you asking only for advice from the men? I would think that you would get better advice from women who have been through this. And yes, you can get through this. Don't start looking for someone else until you heal from all this.
If you've already filed for divorce and accepted it you're on the right road. There's plenty of men out there, just look for a better one this time.
Most women like to ride the drama train and drag stuff out. You need to think like a man and act like a lady and move on yourself.
that depends on you if you want to get over him. He is quit over you.
What would you tell your daughter if she asked you that question?????
Whenever you decide to, you will.
that 'someone else' you need to find first is you.
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