Help Please!! need advice from both men & women. Advice on Ex, is it or isn't it?!?

My boyfriend recentely split with me suddenly sayin his head was a mess and he didn't know what he wanted anymore. He said he had never felt what he had with me, but felt there was always something holding him back in his head. He said he had to do it cause he didn't want to hurt me, cause he cared to much about me. MEN %26amp; WOMEN I NEED THIS DECODING IS THIS A BULLSHIT MAN EXCUSE??


He had only had one serious relationship before me and his girlfriend messed him around a lot, she asked him back while he was with me but said no %26amp; i know 4 sure he is not with her.


He has been there 4 me since, he texts me nearly everyday n we c each other regular still, we sometimes sleep together but not always.


It hard though cause we been mates nearly 12 years now so don't wanna loose that friendship, but don't know whether i am just lyin 2 myself and him?


Please help does this sound genuine or like he is just lookin 4 easy way out, also and havin his cake n eatin it!Help Please!! need advice from both men %26amp; women. Advice on Ex, is it or isn't it?!?
seriously if he doesn't want to hurt you then why the seeing each other and sleeping together, sounds to me like he wants all the benefits of having a relationship but without the complexities. It might be hard but you need to tell him that until he gets his head straight you'll be friends or nothing at all or he'll end up doing what he says he's trying to avoid.Help Please!! need advice from both men %26amp; women. Advice on Ex, is it or isn't it?!?
Song by Bonnie Riatt (...';I can't make you love me if you don't and you can't make your heart feel something it won't....';). Be his friend, don't be his friends with benefits (no sex). Find a guy who wants you for you (the whole package) and not just for sex. Good luck.
I really think that distance between you both is a good idea right now.


This guy has obviously got a lot of emotional issues to sort out, and in many ways the memory of his ex is haunting your relationship.





Your friendship is obviously precious to you both, and at least he's not given up on that, but from what he is saying, if he can't have 'space' right now, that friendship may be put in jeopody..





But this goes for you as well, as IF this is what he wants then there must be 'ground rules' for you both, and he cannot expect you to 'jump' at his requests to see you whenever.





Give yourselves a break from the relationship on a 'trial basis' , remain as friends, but physically and emotionally you both need time to 'work out' your needs and wants right now.





good luck with your decision





Caramac x
I have been in this situation before but mine wasn't that long it's not an excuse he basically saying he needed a break to clear his head. it does hurt but it usually works in the end. that is what i experience anyway I'm not entirely sure on your situation though. hope this helps a little.
he is having his cake and eating it. He is definitely using you.
I personally think he wants cake! (lol) but he might just have a hard time letting go. Id pray.


God Bless


Sammi
if he doesnt want to hurt you, why is he SLEEPING with you still while you arent together?? Sounds to me like that was a BS excuse....find someone better...it does sound like hes having his cake and eating it too.
he was just trying to let you down easy he proply slept with someone eslse
Having his cake and eating it too..! He wants to keep you on the hook. How do you know for sure he's not seeing someone else? Because you haven't caught him yet? He made it plain when he broke up with you, why are you still sleeping with him? Now he's free to date whomever he wants, but you are still tied to him. Cut the rope...!!!!
i sympathize with his head being a mess.


maybe if you give it time he will see what he had in you


and want you back, especially if it had been 12 years.


and if you still think he had some heart in it too.


ask yourself.


is he a good person?


is he usually honest with you?


was your relationship going anywhere?


were you good friends before dating and hooking up?


you have the answers, you just need to know how to find them.


wish i helped a little.


i don't see why he wouldn't be interested in still being friends.


just dont be too fast in taking him back if he asks you out again.


good luck!
He is looking for a way out and have his cake.
He may be just using you for your attention...get someone else who desires your attention. Plenty other fishes to catch! ever heard that phrase b4???

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