Men? need advice ...?

ok, if you have been with someone for 16 years and they come in out of the blue and say they dont love you anymore, is it safe to assume there is another involved?Men? need advice ...?
I don't want to say yes absolutely





But there is a good chance of it -





You are going to have to look further into it - There are a million things that could have or are going on-





I watched a friend of mine go through a period of hating his job - I mean his job put him through a literal torture every day








This took a toll on his marriage - He became unhappy with every aspect of his life including his wife -





Shortly after this he met someone else - not the point he became unhappy with his job this impcated his life and marriage anf that turned into being available for another woman





In the end they got back together - but how many women would take a husband back under those terms so he is a lucky guyMen? need advice ...?
Most likely but not necessarily. Feelings do change after a long time(not all the time). I would get to the bottom of this if i were you.


Sorry to hear that, have faith and good luck.
most definately.. but maybe ur exaggerating? need more parts of the story. was he like ';baby i love sooo much!!!'; 5 min ago then he says ';u know what? things arent working, cya!!';.... i'd love to help but i want to hear both sides of the story
usually but not always, love is really a choice, ask why they feel this way. sorry.
so sorry 2 hear ur situation dear,


i think he's having a mid-life crisis..


u know the stage where a man is all confused about everything.mayb u could give him time n support 2 go through the stage..
No, it is not safe to assume ';another'; is involved.





The only ';sure'; way to learn what has gone wrong is communicating with your marriage partner.





There could be numerous factors involved; better not to guess, but to know for sure.





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Putting the letters together spells assume.
Girlie, from your questions lately you have a deadbeat dad waiting to happen. I realize we've only been getting your side of the story, but from your words I've gathered that he has always been selfish and doesn't take responsibility. Perhaps he's tired of pretending to be an adult. I hate the whole idea of divorce terribly but from what you've been saying, he's either gonna take getting a therapist or a lawyer and i don't see him taking therapy.
I would tend to suspect that but it is possible they've just reflected on their life and decided their current partner just isn't what they want for the rest of their lives.
yep...for about 10-12 years now.
No but signs have to come it can't be out of the blue or he never really loved you
Yes That would be what you would think. And also and I swear


this is true. Maybe he is going there the mid-life crisis. Play it safe tell him you love him but if that is what he want ok but you think he has lost his mind. and go on about your business.If he cames back it was meant to be if not other fish in the sea
No, there is such thing as ';falling out of love'; just move on, life is too short. Love can take a short or long time...but falling out of love can happen fast. There is someone out there for you...So say see you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Not always. Sometimes a person just falls out of love with another. Not all relationships are gonna work. Just because they say that doesnt always mean they are cheating or want to. They just dont feel the click anymore.
Not necessarily, but definitely possible. Obviously dude has something going on if no specific incident brought this on. Give him some space and let him know that you are there for him if you still want to be with him. He'll either come around or he won't. If not, move on. But if it turns out he was cheating on you, it's up to you to forgive him or not. Good luck.
i;d say you hit the nail right on the head
Whoa! This just happened to my mom after 33 years! My dad told me he was leaving her. He ';loved'; her, but wasn't ';in love'; with her any more.(2 weeks b4 xmas) I instantly knew there must be another woman!! You just don't wake up one morning and fall out of love, SO SORRY!!! You don't deserve that after 16 years;) Love is a work in progress.


At the same time you should be with some one who will work for it with you.


5 KIDS! Girl, you best not take him back. You are in for a struggle, but you have to show those babies how strong you are. Don't let them think it's ok for a dad to walk all over women
Not always. I was in a relationship with a woman for 14 years, but we never got married because deep down I knew she wasn't the right one for me. We continued our relationship simply because we weren't willing to go out and find 'the right person'. There was no affair involved when we split, only an understanding that what we had together was need, and not love.
I would say most likely. But sometimes the flare just disappears as things become routine and mundane over that period of time and you can wake up one day and not love someone anymore.
Are you in your teens? If you are, shows that you are not ready. Move on, I think YES; another involved. Maybe....
Yes, but you should ask him yourself.
yeah, but you don't need him there'll be other better guys out there.