I'm 19 and getting married in 7 weeks..Would you recommend I follow this advice? Men's opinions please?

A lady at church recommended the book ';Fascinating womanhood'; by Helen Andelin to me, I googled it, and an excerpt from the book came up, I think this is too funny, seriously though is this what men really want?





THE FASCINATING WOMANHOOD WAY TO WELCOME A MAN WHEN HE COMES HOME FROM WORK.





HAVE DINNER READY: Plan ahead, even the night before to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.





PREPARE YOURSELF: Take fifteen minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. This will also make you happy to see him, instead of too tired to care. Turn off the worry and be glad to be alive and grateful for the man who is going to walk in. While you are resting you can be thinking about your Fascinating Womanhood assignment and all you can do to make him happy to give his spirits a lift. When you arise, take care of your appearance. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in you hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.





PREPARE THE CHILDREN: Take just a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and if necessary change their clothes. They are his little treasures and he would like to see them look the part.





BE HAPPY TO SEE HIM: Greet him with a warm smile and act glad to see him. Tell him that it is good to have him home. This may make his day worthwhile. If there is any romance left in you, he needs it now.





MAKE HIM COMFORTABLE: Have him lean back into a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to massage his neck and shoulders and take off his shoes. Don't insist on this however. Turn on music if it is one of his pleasures. Speak in a soft, soothing, pleasant voice. Allow him to relax -- to unwind





MAKE THE EVENING HIS: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his to be home and relax. If he is cross or irritable, never fight back. Again, try to understand his world of strain.





THE GOAL: Try to make your home a place into a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. Then add to this the application of all the principles of ';Fascinating Womanhood'; and you husband WILL WANT TO COME HOME. He will rather be with you than with anyone else in the world and will spend whatever time he can possibly spare with you. Try living all of these rules for his homecoming and see what happens. THIS is the way to bring a man home to your side, NOT by pressure, persuasion or moral obligation. I'm 19 and getting married in 7 weeks..Would you recommend I follow this advice? Men's opinions please?
Well......no All of this can not be done...Greeting him will probably be the only thing that get accomplished. I'm 19 and getting married in 7 weeks..Would you recommend I follow this advice? Men's opinions please?
I hope you are joking. This book is from the dark ages. It turns out that the sixties happened and your husband doesn't own you anymore. Share chores and jobs equally.
Um that is way way way out of date. Marriage is about comprommise not sepratism.
Try the book ';101 Nights of Great Sex'; by Laura Corn.


Much better response.
Sounds like somethin from little house on the prairie lol! dont listen to anyone hun, just enjoy bein married ok? it will all be ok chill!
i reccomend : NOT GETTING MARRIED!!
Yeah sure. I make my wife read that book every night before I tie her up for sleep.
My advise wait 19 s too young to be getting married.
...Well I thought it sounded helpful =)
People buy that book as a joke. I have. You'd get better advice from ';Kama Sutra.';
Do you want be a slave?
This book must come from Stepford
With positive thinking and doing all can be fine. All the best!
i think i just puked in my mouth a little
Don't get married! U are too young!!!! Huge mistake!!! sometimes the heart gets people into a lot trouble.
Girl you better put that book back on the shelf, cuz if you follow the advice from this women Helen Andeling you going to become a slave for your husband. By the way, you couldnt possibly think that this is the way you ';should act'; toward your husband.
Its funny. Written by Doris Day and Sandra Dee. It sounds unrealistic in todays world but I like the ideas whether it goes for men or women who are earlier arrivals at home. Its true in many aspects that if theres calm and peace before your spouse arrives you can harbor a much nicer time together in the evenings when things get so crazy and fighting and nitpicking seem to ruin happiness and bonding as a family.
I would recommend that you not get married at the age of 19. You have way too much to experience. Of course, you will not take this advice but I had to say it anyway. You will never experience life if you marry young. Most likely you will wind up getting divorced. Good Luck! You'll need it.
Good one...this is actually part of an article that was published in ';Housekeeping Monthly'; on May 13th, 1955.


Maybe you didn't see the most important last sentence of this article:





';A good wife always knows her place';.
I do that. 0_o %26lt;---was raised in the country. So things were done differently then they are in the city (where I am now). Thats the basis I was raised and you know what? I like it. Personal opinion. I do that for my hubby...and he liked it. :)
A - ignore the people saying you're too young. I got married at 19 and couldn't be happier 4 years later!





B - marriage is a partnership and remember that piece of paper doesn't change anythign except status. If you are having issues beforehand marriage won't change anything. However, if you feel there is a good balance between responsibilities or can obtain that then the best of luck with you!





Everyone has their own personal preferences, and expectations. I would love to be the stay at home wifey but social and financial obligations prohibit it. Make sure you two are on the level when it comes to expected give and take.
I have seen this before. I think it is from the 40's or 50's. It might be what we want in our fantasy but no, I want a partner, not a slave. I also want a wife to think about herself and what makes her happy.


That seems to me the fastest way to make a woman really miserable and I would not want a miserable wife.



Hey, I've heard this before. Men would love this no doubt, but this is the real world, not fairy tale land. I do agree that many men would love to come home to this though. This is not what my home is like, I can tell you that too. My main problem with all this is I have NEEDS too. It all sounds good, but it's not realistic. I do agree a man would love it though. My husband would think I was cheating on him if I started doing all this stuff... LOL.
LMAO sounds like it's all about the man and eventually this woman is going to resent him. Especially if she does everything for him and he doesn't do much to fulfill her needs. This is definitely some ancient stuff like when women didn't work outside the house. I say you don't listen to this at all. In today's world it's not all about the man it's about 50/50. Find a book about today's marriage not this old days stuff.
Being welcomed home from work is always nice, but all these things are not obligations. A wife is a partner and a friend, not someone to serve the man. Let him cook once in awhile :D
ha ha ha i agree with the first answerer. who reccomended this book to you? someone from the stone age???





just be happy, share your chores equally, share ideas and resolve problems as an adult, just have an understanding, loving and caring household.





good luck








P/S: THROW THAT BOOK AWAY OR BURN IT PLS!
Sounds like a book that was written before Leave It to Beaver came along!!





There isn't a mention of the woman and her needs, except a 15 minute rest? LOL





I think this woman that gave this insperation, is one who went without and feels it's what she needed to do to catch a man and didn't!!





Yes, men like the hot meal, but as for to just see the kids hair combed and them clean????????? Come on...........isn't that what led most men into being BAD fathers? No time for the kids except to just see their clean??
In church, both sides give service to one another - Love. It's not just one sided. The book may be nice, but I hope that your fiance is reading a similar version for himself.





In my opinion, this sounds a little too much like beaver cleaver. The woman is an object of the man's wishes. Little room for the woman to be honest and open. This doesn't seem like reality or that it's healthy. The woman will be stuck with her frustations. This however can swing both ways.





Balance is hard and hardly clear cut. I guess you can say that for marraige. Takes a lot of praying, seek advice from many wise people, read the Bible, and never leave out your heart.
OMG, LMAO!!! Okay this book must have been written in the 1800's. Let me tell you from personal experience. This is what I do. At the moment I am not working so I spend my morning cleaning the house. I try my best to have dinner on the table when he gets home, and if he calls and says that he has a bad day (he works in a messy power plant) I will have him a bath ran and push dinner back 15 minutes. I will have the kids done with their homework and out of his hair so he can take a breather for a few minutes. There are some great tips in that book, but adopt the tips for a more modern women.





When I am working we take turns cooking dinner and doing all the things above.
Sorry but you are CRAZY if this is how you will live. For one you should not have to have a book to tell you how to live/do for your husband. Let it come natural %26amp; be the best wife you can not always will you meet all of his needs are wants nor will he but WHO THE HELL does thas what a marriage is about WORKING as a team giving 100% on BOTH parts! If anything( Have him follow the book!) LOL
Ok, that is a little extreme, especially if you work full time too.





However making that little bit of effort is what makes a marriage but it is his responsibility to make an effort too!!